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Today I forgot the birthday of my best friend. In the afternoon I called him to wish him a Happy Birthday. Now, he is refusing my phone calls. I think he is angry at me. How can I convince him to forgive me?
Background
Today is my friend's birthday. We have been best friends since childhood and we share everything with each other. We used to talk on phone daily about almost every topic. We also meet once every 3 to 4 months because he lives 65 km away from my city. I remembered his Birthday before, but today I forgot to wish him a Happy Birthday. When he called me in the morning, I was talking with him about other stuff and did not remember. A few hours later, I opened my Facebook account and there I saw the notification about his birthday. I called him immediately, but he has refused my phone call. (Generally, he doesn't refuse my calls).
Clarifications
- I have wished him Happy Birthday by sending an SMS (of 'Happy Birthday') on his mobile.
- I can send another on Facebook messenger but he knows that I don't use it. Even if I use it then it will also not be enough for this special day.
- I can not travel to his place today.
- I cannot repeatedly call him on his mobile because he is a
doctor and he might be busy with his patients. It may be possible in the evening but I don't know whether he will pick up or not.
Issue
I want to say I am sorry about forgetting his birthday and want to wish him a Happy Birthday. How can I communicate with him so that he will forgive me?
Note - Answer would be appreciated from any cultural background.
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TL;DR
Today I forgot the birthday of my best friend. In the afternoon I called him to wish him a Happy Birthday. Now, he is refusing my phone calls. I think he is angry at me. How can I convince him to forgive me?
Background
Today is my friend's birthday. We have been best friends since childhood and we share everything with each other. We used to talk on phone daily about almost every topic. We also meet once every 3 to 4 months because he lives 65 km away from my city. I remembered his Birthday before, but today I forgot to wish him a Happy Birthday. When he called me in the morning, I was talking with him about other stuff and did not remember. A few hours later, I opened my Facebook account and there I saw the notification about his birthday. I called him immediately, but he has refused my phone call. (Generally, he doesn't refuse my calls).
Clarifications
- I have wished him Happy Birthday by sending an SMS (of 'Happy Birthday') on his mobile.
- I can send another on Facebook messenger but he knows that I don't use it. Even if I use it then it will also not be enough for this special day.
- I can not travel to his place today.
- I cannot repeatedly call him on his mobile because he is a
doctor and he might be busy with his patients. It may be possible in the evening but I don't know whether he will pick up or not.
Issue
I want to say I am sorry about forgetting his birthday and want to wish him a Happy Birthday. How can I communicate with him so that he will forgive me?
Note - Answer would be appreciated from any cultural background.
conversations friendship birthdays
asked 4 hours ago
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How old are you two?
– Matthew E Cornish
2 hours ago
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What makes you think he would be angry at all? He might have just cut your phone call because he was busy otherwise (with patients for example)
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TL;DR
Today I forgot the birthday of my best friend. In the afternoon I called him to wish him a Happy Birthday. Now, he is refusing my phone calls. I think he is angry at me. How can I convince him to forgive me?
Background
Today is my friend's birthday. We have been best friends since childhood and we share everything with each other. We used to talk on phone daily about almost every topic. We also meet once every 3 to 4 months because he lives 65 km away from my city. I remembered his Birthday before, but today I forgot to wish him a Happy Birthday. When he called me in the morning, I was talking with him about other stuff and did not remember. A few hours later, I opened my Facebook account and there I saw the notification about his birthday. I called him immediately, but he has refused my phone call. (Generally, he doesn't refuse my calls).
Clarifications
- I have wished him Happy Birthday by sending an SMS (of 'Happy Birthday') on his mobile.
- I can send another on Facebook messenger but he knows that I don't use it. Even if I use it then it will also not be enough for this special day.
- I can not travel to his place today.
- I cannot repeatedly call him on his mobile because he is a
doctor and he might be busy with his patients. It may be possible in the evening but I don't know whether he will pick up or not.
Issue
I want to say I am sorry about forgetting his birthday and want to wish him a Happy Birthday. How can I communicate with him so that he will forgive me?
Note - Answer would be appreciated from any cultural background.
conversations friendship birthdays
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TL;DR
Today I forgot the birthday of my best friend. In the afternoon I called him to wish him a Happy Birthday. Now, he is refusing my phone calls. I think he is angry at me. How can I convince him to forgive me?
Background
Today is my friend's birthday. We have been best friends since childhood and we share everything with each other. We used to talk on phone daily about almost every topic. We also meet once every 3 to 4 months because he lives 65 km away from my city. I remembered his Birthday before, but today I forgot to wish him a Happy Birthday. When he called me in the morning, I was talking with him about other stuff and did not remember. A few hours later, I opened my Facebook account and there I saw the notification about his birthday. I called him immediately, but he has refused my phone call. (Generally, he doesn't refuse my calls).
Clarifications
- I have wished him Happy Birthday by sending an SMS (of 'Happy Birthday') on his mobile.
- I can send another on Facebook messenger but he knows that I don't use it. Even if I use it then it will also not be enough for this special day.
- I can not travel to his place today.
- I cannot repeatedly call him on his mobile because he is a
doctor and he might be busy with his patients. It may be possible in the evening but I don't know whether he will pick up or not.
Issue
I want to say I am sorry about forgetting his birthday and want to wish him a Happy Birthday. How can I communicate with him so that he will forgive me?
Note - Answer would be appreciated from any cultural background.
conversations friendship birthdays
conversations friendship birthdays
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2
How old are you two?
– Matthew E Cornish
2 hours ago
2
What makes you think he would be angry at all? He might have just cut your phone call because he was busy otherwise (with patients for example)
– Marzipanherz
2 hours ago
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2
How old are you two?
– Matthew E Cornish
2 hours ago
2
What makes you think he would be angry at all? He might have just cut your phone call because he was busy otherwise (with patients for example)
– Marzipanherz
2 hours ago
2
2
How old are you two?
– Matthew E Cornish
2 hours ago
How old are you two?
– Matthew E Cornish
2 hours ago
2
2
What makes you think he would be angry at all? He might have just cut your phone call because he was busy otherwise (with patients for example)
– Marzipanherz
2 hours ago
What makes you think he would be angry at all? He might have just cut your phone call because he was busy otherwise (with patients for example)
– Marzipanherz
2 hours ago
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You don’t.
People forget. Usually as we get older (past our teens) we care less about the occasion of our birthday. If as a grown man he’s honestly that upset about it then all you can really do is tell him “I’m sorry†and surely as your best friend he’ll let it pass.
If he is angry or upset; it appears you’ve made that assumption.
answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
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If he is your best friend, I doubt he is going to break off his friendship with you over you failing one time to wish him a happy birthday or you sending a gift to him.
I suggest that the next time you two meet up and go out to dinner or some event like a football game, you pay for everything. If he still treats you coldly after that, then he is a pretty petty person and you should perhaps rethink your friendship with him.
answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
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DDD. Given the context of all 3 questions you've asked on StackExchange, I think there is a pattern here. I hope it's okay if I try to give you some advice beyond just the current question.
You seem to be someone who is overly afraid of what others think and has difficulty standing up for herself.
Cut yourself some slack. Apologize. If he is a very sensitive type, then apologize a little more. But if that's not good enough for him, you need to know that's HIS problem - not yours.
Re: all you wrote:
- The Friend who says you seduced her uncle - tell her to go to hell.
- The Uncle - stay away from him and tell him you'll call the police if he pursues you.
- The Friend who proposed to you - tell him you are flattered, that he's a great guy, but you are still looking for the one who is right for you. If he has a problem with that - tell him you are sorry and stay away from him.
- The Friend who won't take your calls because you forgot to wish him happy birthday, apologize, but know that a real friend will not continue to make you feel bad about it after you've sincerely apologized.
Your job as a friend is to be a friend, to be yourself, and to treat them as you would like them to treat you. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Good luck.
answered 20 mins ago
GroovyDotCom
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Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
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You don’t.
People forget. Usually as we get older (past our teens) we care less about the occasion of our birthday. If as a grown man he’s honestly that upset about it then all you can really do is tell him “I’m sorry†and surely as your best friend he’ll let it pass.
If he is angry or upset; it appears you’ve made that assumption.
answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
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up vote
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You don’t.
People forget. Usually as we get older (past our teens) we care less about the occasion of our birthday. If as a grown man he’s honestly that upset about it then all you can really do is tell him “I’m sorry†and surely as your best friend he’ll let it pass.
If he is angry or upset; it appears you’ve made that assumption.
answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
3806
add a comment |Â
up vote
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down vote
up vote
3
down vote
You don’t.
People forget. Usually as we get older (past our teens) we care less about the occasion of our birthday. If as a grown man he’s honestly that upset about it then all you can really do is tell him “I’m sorry†and surely as your best friend he’ll let it pass.
If he is angry or upset; it appears you’ve made that assumption.
answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
3806
You don’t.
People forget. Usually as we get older (past our teens) we care less about the occasion of our birthday. If as a grown man he’s honestly that upset about it then all you can really do is tell him “I’m sorry†and surely as your best friend he’ll let it pass.
If he is angry or upset; it appears you’ve made that assumption.
answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
3806
answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
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answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
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answered 2 hours ago
Matthew E Cornish
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If he is your best friend, I doubt he is going to break off his friendship with you over you failing one time to wish him a happy birthday or you sending a gift to him.
I suggest that the next time you two meet up and go out to dinner or some event like a football game, you pay for everything. If he still treats you coldly after that, then he is a pretty petty person and you should perhaps rethink your friendship with him.
answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
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up vote
1
down vote
If he is your best friend, I doubt he is going to break off his friendship with you over you failing one time to wish him a happy birthday or you sending a gift to him.
I suggest that the next time you two meet up and go out to dinner or some event like a football game, you pay for everything. If he still treats you coldly after that, then he is a pretty petty person and you should perhaps rethink your friendship with him.
answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
445
add a comment |Â
up vote
1
down vote
up vote
1
down vote
If he is your best friend, I doubt he is going to break off his friendship with you over you failing one time to wish him a happy birthday or you sending a gift to him.
I suggest that the next time you two meet up and go out to dinner or some event like a football game, you pay for everything. If he still treats you coldly after that, then he is a pretty petty person and you should perhaps rethink your friendship with him.
answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
445
If he is your best friend, I doubt he is going to break off his friendship with you over you failing one time to wish him a happy birthday or you sending a gift to him.
I suggest that the next time you two meet up and go out to dinner or some event like a football game, you pay for everything. If he still treats you coldly after that, then he is a pretty petty person and you should perhaps rethink your friendship with him.
answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
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answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
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answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
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answered 2 hours ago
FanofComets
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DDD. Given the context of all 3 questions you've asked on StackExchange, I think there is a pattern here. I hope it's okay if I try to give you some advice beyond just the current question.
You seem to be someone who is overly afraid of what others think and has difficulty standing up for herself.
Cut yourself some slack. Apologize. If he is a very sensitive type, then apologize a little more. But if that's not good enough for him, you need to know that's HIS problem - not yours.
Re: all you wrote:
- The Friend who says you seduced her uncle - tell her to go to hell.
- The Uncle - stay away from him and tell him you'll call the police if he pursues you.
- The Friend who proposed to you - tell him you are flattered, that he's a great guy, but you are still looking for the one who is right for you. If he has a problem with that - tell him you are sorry and stay away from him.
- The Friend who won't take your calls because you forgot to wish him happy birthday, apologize, but know that a real friend will not continue to make you feel bad about it after you've sincerely apologized.
Your job as a friend is to be a friend, to be yourself, and to treat them as you would like them to treat you. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Good luck.
answered 20 mins ago
GroovyDotCom
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Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
– avazula
2 mins ago
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up vote
-2
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DDD. Given the context of all 3 questions you've asked on StackExchange, I think there is a pattern here. I hope it's okay if I try to give you some advice beyond just the current question.
You seem to be someone who is overly afraid of what others think and has difficulty standing up for herself.
Cut yourself some slack. Apologize. If he is a very sensitive type, then apologize a little more. But if that's not good enough for him, you need to know that's HIS problem - not yours.
Re: all you wrote:
- The Friend who says you seduced her uncle - tell her to go to hell.
- The Uncle - stay away from him and tell him you'll call the police if he pursues you.
- The Friend who proposed to you - tell him you are flattered, that he's a great guy, but you are still looking for the one who is right for you. If he has a problem with that - tell him you are sorry and stay away from him.
- The Friend who won't take your calls because you forgot to wish him happy birthday, apologize, but know that a real friend will not continue to make you feel bad about it after you've sincerely apologized.
Your job as a friend is to be a friend, to be yourself, and to treat them as you would like them to treat you. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Good luck.
answered 20 mins ago
GroovyDotCom
56314
1
Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
– avazula
2 mins ago
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up vote
-2
down vote
DDD. Given the context of all 3 questions you've asked on StackExchange, I think there is a pattern here. I hope it's okay if I try to give you some advice beyond just the current question.
You seem to be someone who is overly afraid of what others think and has difficulty standing up for herself.
Cut yourself some slack. Apologize. If he is a very sensitive type, then apologize a little more. But if that's not good enough for him, you need to know that's HIS problem - not yours.
Re: all you wrote:
- The Friend who says you seduced her uncle - tell her to go to hell.
- The Uncle - stay away from him and tell him you'll call the police if he pursues you.
- The Friend who proposed to you - tell him you are flattered, that he's a great guy, but you are still looking for the one who is right for you. If he has a problem with that - tell him you are sorry and stay away from him.
- The Friend who won't take your calls because you forgot to wish him happy birthday, apologize, but know that a real friend will not continue to make you feel bad about it after you've sincerely apologized.
Your job as a friend is to be a friend, to be yourself, and to treat them as you would like them to treat you. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Good luck.
answered 20 mins ago
GroovyDotCom
56314
DDD. Given the context of all 3 questions you've asked on StackExchange, I think there is a pattern here. I hope it's okay if I try to give you some advice beyond just the current question.
You seem to be someone who is overly afraid of what others think and has difficulty standing up for herself.
Cut yourself some slack. Apologize. If he is a very sensitive type, then apologize a little more. But if that's not good enough for him, you need to know that's HIS problem - not yours.
Re: all you wrote:
- The Friend who says you seduced her uncle - tell her to go to hell.
- The Uncle - stay away from him and tell him you'll call the police if he pursues you.
- The Friend who proposed to you - tell him you are flattered, that he's a great guy, but you are still looking for the one who is right for you. If he has a problem with that - tell him you are sorry and stay away from him.
- The Friend who won't take your calls because you forgot to wish him happy birthday, apologize, but know that a real friend will not continue to make you feel bad about it after you've sincerely apologized.
Your job as a friend is to be a friend, to be yourself, and to treat them as you would like them to treat you. Nothing less. Nothing more.
Good luck.
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GroovyDotCom
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Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
– avazula
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Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
– avazula
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Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
– avazula
2 mins ago
Hi there. Unfortunately, this does not answer the question, namely how to ask for forgiveness after forgetting a friend's birthday. We expect answers to address OP's actual question and explain why they should do as suggested, which is why as is, your contribution is likely to get deleted. Would you mind editing accordingly?
– avazula
2 mins ago
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How old are you two?
– Matthew E Cornish
2 hours ago
2
What makes you think he would be angry at all? He might have just cut your phone call because he was busy otherwise (with patients for example)
– Marzipanherz
2 hours ago