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Is my managers career advice self-serving or in my best interests?
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I’ve reported to and known my manager for one year. He’s probably in his late 50s early 60s. I’m 25. In this year of working together and
as standard practice of company culture I’ve networked internally and job shadowed to discover the next role I would like to go after. For the second time now and in a lot more detail, today in our 1x1 my boss told me the following:
“I may just be old fashioned and I know you millennials like to move faster than I did in my career and move around more than I do but here’s some advice I want to give you that I’ve learned in my career. Be wary of jumping around to another role as soon as your company policy allows it. You don’t want a manager to toss your resume aside because they see you’ve jumped around so much as fast as possible. They’re looking for someone who’s going stay put for a while. Someone who’s serious. â€Â
I have applied to ONE internal job in the past year. My gut reaction to this was a pretty disappointed one and loss of respect for my boss. I’d like some second opinions on this. I have worked my ass off to get where I’m at. I got an IT job at a fortune 50 company when I was 18 and have been here for 7 years. I’ve had 5 roles in 7 years because of HARD ass work. I understand there can be negative intent in moving around to jobs to get out of a previous one. I do not do that, I am ambitious and want the best life possible for myself and would like a family one day. I grew up in a shitty town and my parents struggled. No education. Same jobs their whole lives. I want NOTHING like that for my family.
I just took offense to someone saying what I perceive is to slow down as if there’s something wrong with wanting to grow as quickly as possible because I want the best life possible for me and my family.
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I’ve reported to and known my manager for one year. He’s probably in his late 50s early 60s. I’m 25. In this year of working together and
as standard practice of company culture I’ve networked internally and job shadowed to discover the next role I would like to go after. For the second time now and in a lot more detail, today in our 1x1 my boss told me the following:
“I may just be old fashioned and I know you millennials like to move faster than I did in my career and move around more than I do but here’s some advice I want to give you that I’ve learned in my career. Be wary of jumping around to another role as soon as your company policy allows it. You don’t want a manager to toss your resume aside because they see you’ve jumped around so much as fast as possible. They’re looking for someone who’s going stay put for a while. Someone who’s serious. â€Â
I have applied to ONE internal job in the past year. My gut reaction to this was a pretty disappointed one and loss of respect for my boss. I’d like some second opinions on this. I have worked my ass off to get where I’m at. I got an IT job at a fortune 50 company when I was 18 and have been here for 7 years. I’ve had 5 roles in 7 years because of HARD ass work. I understand there can be negative intent in moving around to jobs to get out of a previous one. I do not do that, I am ambitious and want the best life possible for myself and would like a family one day. I grew up in a shitty town and my parents struggled. No education. Same jobs their whole lives. I want NOTHING like that for my family.
I just took offense to someone saying what I perceive is to slow down as if there’s something wrong with wanting to grow as quickly as possible because I want the best life possible for me and my family.
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How is his career advice self-serving? I don't see how he benefits from you listening to his advice. Perhaps clarify question?
– Halfway Dillitante
22 mins ago
that is a change of role almost every year, quite a feat for 25, I tend to agree with your manager unless there is more information I'm missing. But while your intentions are great it's not what counts, it's others perception of you that matters. To some it shows you won't commit for long if they give you a position.
– Kilisi
19 mins ago
Halfway Dillitante - Two of my team members have left in the past 6 months for other roles and backfilling has taken a while. I speculated he was saying it in an attempt to keep me around longer. Again this is strong speculation.
– Pete
2 mins ago
Kilisi - Really appreciate the feedback. From the perspective of perception that makes sense.
– Pete
37 secs ago
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I’ve reported to and known my manager for one year. He’s probably in his late 50s early 60s. I’m 25. In this year of working together and
as standard practice of company culture I’ve networked internally and job shadowed to discover the next role I would like to go after. For the second time now and in a lot more detail, today in our 1x1 my boss told me the following:
“I may just be old fashioned and I know you millennials like to move faster than I did in my career and move around more than I do but here’s some advice I want to give you that I’ve learned in my career. Be wary of jumping around to another role as soon as your company policy allows it. You don’t want a manager to toss your resume aside because they see you’ve jumped around so much as fast as possible. They’re looking for someone who’s going stay put for a while. Someone who’s serious. â€Â
I have applied to ONE internal job in the past year. My gut reaction to this was a pretty disappointed one and loss of respect for my boss. I’d like some second opinions on this. I have worked my ass off to get where I’m at. I got an IT job at a fortune 50 company when I was 18 and have been here for 7 years. I’ve had 5 roles in 7 years because of HARD ass work. I understand there can be negative intent in moving around to jobs to get out of a previous one. I do not do that, I am ambitious and want the best life possible for myself and would like a family one day. I grew up in a shitty town and my parents struggled. No education. Same jobs their whole lives. I want NOTHING like that for my family.
I just took offense to someone saying what I perceive is to slow down as if there’s something wrong with wanting to grow as quickly as possible because I want the best life possible for me and my family.
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I’ve reported to and known my manager for one year. He’s probably in his late 50s early 60s. I’m 25. In this year of working together and
as standard practice of company culture I’ve networked internally and job shadowed to discover the next role I would like to go after. For the second time now and in a lot more detail, today in our 1x1 my boss told me the following:
“I may just be old fashioned and I know you millennials like to move faster than I did in my career and move around more than I do but here’s some advice I want to give you that I’ve learned in my career. Be wary of jumping around to another role as soon as your company policy allows it. You don’t want a manager to toss your resume aside because they see you’ve jumped around so much as fast as possible. They’re looking for someone who’s going stay put for a while. Someone who’s serious. â€Â
I have applied to ONE internal job in the past year. My gut reaction to this was a pretty disappointed one and loss of respect for my boss. I’d like some second opinions on this. I have worked my ass off to get where I’m at. I got an IT job at a fortune 50 company when I was 18 and have been here for 7 years. I’ve had 5 roles in 7 years because of HARD ass work. I understand there can be negative intent in moving around to jobs to get out of a previous one. I do not do that, I am ambitious and want the best life possible for myself and would like a family one day. I grew up in a shitty town and my parents struggled. No education. Same jobs their whole lives. I want NOTHING like that for my family.
I just took offense to someone saying what I perceive is to slow down as if there’s something wrong with wanting to grow as quickly as possible because I want the best life possible for me and my family.
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How is his career advice self-serving? I don't see how he benefits from you listening to his advice. Perhaps clarify question?
– Halfway Dillitante
22 mins ago
that is a change of role almost every year, quite a feat for 25, I tend to agree with your manager unless there is more information I'm missing. But while your intentions are great it's not what counts, it's others perception of you that matters. To some it shows you won't commit for long if they give you a position.
– Kilisi
19 mins ago
Halfway Dillitante - Two of my team members have left in the past 6 months for other roles and backfilling has taken a while. I speculated he was saying it in an attempt to keep me around longer. Again this is strong speculation.
– Pete
2 mins ago
Kilisi - Really appreciate the feedback. From the perspective of perception that makes sense.
– Pete
37 secs ago
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How is his career advice self-serving? I don't see how he benefits from you listening to his advice. Perhaps clarify question?
– Halfway Dillitante
22 mins ago
that is a change of role almost every year, quite a feat for 25, I tend to agree with your manager unless there is more information I'm missing. But while your intentions are great it's not what counts, it's others perception of you that matters. To some it shows you won't commit for long if they give you a position.
– Kilisi
19 mins ago
Halfway Dillitante - Two of my team members have left in the past 6 months for other roles and backfilling has taken a while. I speculated he was saying it in an attempt to keep me around longer. Again this is strong speculation.
– Pete
2 mins ago
Kilisi - Really appreciate the feedback. From the perspective of perception that makes sense.
– Pete
37 secs ago
How is his career advice self-serving? I don't see how he benefits from you listening to his advice. Perhaps clarify question?
– Halfway Dillitante
22 mins ago
How is his career advice self-serving? I don't see how he benefits from you listening to his advice. Perhaps clarify question?
– Halfway Dillitante
22 mins ago
that is a change of role almost every year, quite a feat for 25, I tend to agree with your manager unless there is more information I'm missing. But while your intentions are great it's not what counts, it's others perception of you that matters. To some it shows you won't commit for long if they give you a position.
– Kilisi
19 mins ago
that is a change of role almost every year, quite a feat for 25, I tend to agree with your manager unless there is more information I'm missing. But while your intentions are great it's not what counts, it's others perception of you that matters. To some it shows you won't commit for long if they give you a position.
– Kilisi
19 mins ago
Halfway Dillitante - Two of my team members have left in the past 6 months for other roles and backfilling has taken a while. I speculated he was saying it in an attempt to keep me around longer. Again this is strong speculation.
– Pete
2 mins ago
Halfway Dillitante - Two of my team members have left in the past 6 months for other roles and backfilling has taken a while. I speculated he was saying it in an attempt to keep me around longer. Again this is strong speculation.
– Pete
2 mins ago
Kilisi - Really appreciate the feedback. From the perspective of perception that makes sense.
– Pete
37 secs ago
Kilisi - Really appreciate the feedback. From the perspective of perception that makes sense.
– Pete
37 secs ago
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How is his career advice self-serving? I don't see how he benefits from you listening to his advice. Perhaps clarify question?
– Halfway Dillitante
22 mins ago
that is a change of role almost every year, quite a feat for 25, I tend to agree with your manager unless there is more information I'm missing. But while your intentions are great it's not what counts, it's others perception of you that matters. To some it shows you won't commit for long if they give you a position.
– Kilisi
19 mins ago
Halfway Dillitante - Two of my team members have left in the past 6 months for other roles and backfilling has taken a while. I speculated he was saying it in an attempt to keep me around longer. Again this is strong speculation.
– Pete
2 mins ago
Kilisi - Really appreciate the feedback. From the perspective of perception that makes sense.
– Pete
37 secs ago