How to stop overthinking emails and messages

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I discover that a big chunk of my time goes to composing a small number of emails or direct messages.



I always overthink the message and try to balance it not to feel too bossy and cold, and also not too lenient or chatty.



It can take me 20-40 minutes to write up a small whatsapp with some simple request.



I don't know what to do, I am afraid to make an impression of a dick person who does not care for others, but also I can't care about others when I feel stressed and all I am interested in is getting things done, which is unfortunately most of the time, and I put great efforts in concealing it which also takes much of my time...






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  • It could be helpful if you include emails and messages are for/from whom? Co-workers, customers, managers.. etc
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  • practice usually fixes this over time.
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I discover that a big chunk of my time goes to composing a small number of emails or direct messages.



I always overthink the message and try to balance it not to feel too bossy and cold, and also not too lenient or chatty.



It can take me 20-40 minutes to write up a small whatsapp with some simple request.



I don't know what to do, I am afraid to make an impression of a dick person who does not care for others, but also I can't care about others when I feel stressed and all I am interested in is getting things done, which is unfortunately most of the time, and I put great efforts in concealing it which also takes much of my time...






communication







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  • It could be helpful if you include emails and messages are for/from whom? Co-workers, customers, managers.. etc
    – Sandra K
    7 hours ago










  • practice usually fixes this over time.
    – Kilisi
    7 hours ago












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I discover that a big chunk of my time goes to composing a small number of emails or direct messages.



I always overthink the message and try to balance it not to feel too bossy and cold, and also not too lenient or chatty.



It can take me 20-40 minutes to write up a small whatsapp with some simple request.



I don't know what to do, I am afraid to make an impression of a dick person who does not care for others, but also I can't care about others when I feel stressed and all I am interested in is getting things done, which is unfortunately most of the time, and I put great efforts in concealing it which also takes much of my time...






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I discover that a big chunk of my time goes to composing a small number of emails or direct messages.



I always overthink the message and try to balance it not to feel too bossy and cold, and also not too lenient or chatty.



It can take me 20-40 minutes to write up a small whatsapp with some simple request.



I don't know what to do, I am afraid to make an impression of a dick person who does not care for others, but also I can't care about others when I feel stressed and all I am interested in is getting things done, which is unfortunately most of the time, and I put great efforts in concealing it which also takes much of my time...






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  • It could be helpful if you include emails and messages are for/from whom? Co-workers, customers, managers.. etc
    – Sandra K
    7 hours ago










  • practice usually fixes this over time.
    – Kilisi
    7 hours ago
















  • It could be helpful if you include emails and messages are for/from whom? Co-workers, customers, managers.. etc
    – Sandra K
    7 hours ago










  • practice usually fixes this over time.
    – Kilisi
    7 hours ago















It could be helpful if you include emails and messages are for/from whom? Co-workers, customers, managers.. etc
– Sandra K
7 hours ago




It could be helpful if you include emails and messages are for/from whom? Co-workers, customers, managers.. etc
– Sandra K
7 hours ago












practice usually fixes this over time.
– Kilisi
7 hours ago




practice usually fixes this over time.
– Kilisi
7 hours ago










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I have this issue, a strategy that works for me is:



I type everything up quickly. Then go through it deleting or editing anything that is unimportant or overly verbose. With practice you can see the essentials and fix things pretty rapidly. With the end focus of making it clear and concise. Quite often I delete half or more of my original composition.



It may seem counter-intuitive, but for me at least this is a better strategy than starting small and adding. Because it makes you look from the start at the whole message rather than bits.






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  • Sounds like my approach to coding
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  • @solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
    – Kilisi
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I have this issue, a strategy that works for me is:



I type everything up quickly. Then go through it deleting or editing anything that is unimportant or overly verbose. With practice you can see the essentials and fix things pretty rapidly. With the end focus of making it clear and concise. Quite often I delete half or more of my original composition.



It may seem counter-intuitive, but for me at least this is a better strategy than starting small and adding. Because it makes you look from the start at the whole message rather than bits.






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  • Sounds like my approach to coding
    – solarflare
    6 hours ago










  • @solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
    – Kilisi
    21 mins ago














up vote
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down vote













I have this issue, a strategy that works for me is:



I type everything up quickly. Then go through it deleting or editing anything that is unimportant or overly verbose. With practice you can see the essentials and fix things pretty rapidly. With the end focus of making it clear and concise. Quite often I delete half or more of my original composition.



It may seem counter-intuitive, but for me at least this is a better strategy than starting small and adding. Because it makes you look from the start at the whole message rather than bits.






share|improve this answer




















  • Sounds like my approach to coding
    – solarflare
    6 hours ago










  • @solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
    – Kilisi
    21 mins ago












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up vote
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I have this issue, a strategy that works for me is:



I type everything up quickly. Then go through it deleting or editing anything that is unimportant or overly verbose. With practice you can see the essentials and fix things pretty rapidly. With the end focus of making it clear and concise. Quite often I delete half or more of my original composition.



It may seem counter-intuitive, but for me at least this is a better strategy than starting small and adding. Because it makes you look from the start at the whole message rather than bits.






share|improve this answer












I have this issue, a strategy that works for me is:



I type everything up quickly. Then go through it deleting or editing anything that is unimportant or overly verbose. With practice you can see the essentials and fix things pretty rapidly. With the end focus of making it clear and concise. Quite often I delete half or more of my original composition.



It may seem counter-intuitive, but for me at least this is a better strategy than starting small and adding. Because it makes you look from the start at the whole message rather than bits.







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  • Sounds like my approach to coding
    – solarflare
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  • @solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
    – Kilisi
    21 mins ago
















  • Sounds like my approach to coding
    – solarflare
    6 hours ago










  • @solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
    – Kilisi
    21 mins ago















Sounds like my approach to coding
– solarflare
6 hours ago




Sounds like my approach to coding
– solarflare
6 hours ago












@solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
– Kilisi
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@solarflare probably mine too if I was actually any good at coding
– Kilisi
21 mins ago

















 

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