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My friend has been at a company for just short of a year. Recently a senior job role came up for internal staff only so they applied.
When his colleagues found out he'd applied everyone was angry as they said it was Person A's turn to be promoted as they'd been in the company for 4+ Years. Come selection day he was the one chosen for promotion but everyone is saying that he should leave it to Person A when it's obvious that the better person got the job.
+2 days he accepted the job and now it's awkward that everyone thinks Person A should've got the job simply because of the fact that they have been there longer despite the fact my friend has much larger overall IT experience and more experience and skill in programming.
Now he feels bad as he feels like he was not entitled to the role even though he was selected by managers.
How can my friend get over the guilt and get his colleagues to get over it?
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My friend has been at a company for just short of a year. Recently a senior job role came up for internal staff only so they applied.
When his colleagues found out he'd applied everyone was angry as they said it was Person A's turn to be promoted as they'd been in the company for 4+ Years. Come selection day he was the one chosen for promotion but everyone is saying that he should leave it to Person A when it's obvious that the better person got the job.
+2 days he accepted the job and now it's awkward that everyone thinks Person A should've got the job simply because of the fact that they have been there longer despite the fact my friend has much larger overall IT experience and more experience and skill in programming.
Now he feels bad as he feels like he was not entitled to the role even though he was selected by managers.
How can my friend get over the guilt and get his colleagues to get over it?
colleagues promotion
asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
5,23652251
"Now he's being made to feel bad" - you can't be made to feel bad. Feelings are what you do to yourself. Other than "suck it up, ride it out, get over it" I'm not sure what else he can do. If he demonstrates how capable he is, maybe his colleagues will get over it too.
– Joe Strazzere
8 mins ago
It is unclear why your friend feels guilt.
– Roland
8 mins ago
@Roland He feels guilt as the other colleagues made him feel like it wasn't his role to take even though it was open to the entire office
– Twyxz
6 mins ago
Is his confidence so low that people can "make him" feel guilt over this? I'd just tell him that management has made the decision and there is no reason to feel bad about being considered more capable.
– Roland
2 mins ago
@Roland My friend suffers anxiety issues, so I don't know if this plays any part in his emotions towards this situation
– Twyxz
1 min ago
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My friend has been at a company for just short of a year. Recently a senior job role came up for internal staff only so they applied.
When his colleagues found out he'd applied everyone was angry as they said it was Person A's turn to be promoted as they'd been in the company for 4+ Years. Come selection day he was the one chosen for promotion but everyone is saying that he should leave it to Person A when it's obvious that the better person got the job.
+2 days he accepted the job and now it's awkward that everyone thinks Person A should've got the job simply because of the fact that they have been there longer despite the fact my friend has much larger overall IT experience and more experience and skill in programming.
Now he feels bad as he feels like he was not entitled to the role even though he was selected by managers.
How can my friend get over the guilt and get his colleagues to get over it?
colleagues promotion
asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
5,23652251
My friend has been at a company for just short of a year. Recently a senior job role came up for internal staff only so they applied.
When his colleagues found out he'd applied everyone was angry as they said it was Person A's turn to be promoted as they'd been in the company for 4+ Years. Come selection day he was the one chosen for promotion but everyone is saying that he should leave it to Person A when it's obvious that the better person got the job.
+2 days he accepted the job and now it's awkward that everyone thinks Person A should've got the job simply because of the fact that they have been there longer despite the fact my friend has much larger overall IT experience and more experience and skill in programming.
Now he feels bad as he feels like he was not entitled to the role even though he was selected by managers.
How can my friend get over the guilt and get his colleagues to get over it?
colleagues promotion
colleagues promotion
asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
5,23652251
asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
5,23652251
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asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
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asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
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asked 10 mins ago
Twyxz
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"Now he's being made to feel bad" - you can't be made to feel bad. Feelings are what you do to yourself. Other than "suck it up, ride it out, get over it" I'm not sure what else he can do. If he demonstrates how capable he is, maybe his colleagues will get over it too.
– Joe Strazzere
8 mins ago
It is unclear why your friend feels guilt.
– Roland
8 mins ago
@Roland He feels guilt as the other colleagues made him feel like it wasn't his role to take even though it was open to the entire office
– Twyxz
6 mins ago
Is his confidence so low that people can "make him" feel guilt over this? I'd just tell him that management has made the decision and there is no reason to feel bad about being considered more capable.
– Roland
2 mins ago
@Roland My friend suffers anxiety issues, so I don't know if this plays any part in his emotions towards this situation
– Twyxz
1 min ago
add a comment |Â
"Now he's being made to feel bad" - you can't be made to feel bad. Feelings are what you do to yourself. Other than "suck it up, ride it out, get over it" I'm not sure what else he can do. If he demonstrates how capable he is, maybe his colleagues will get over it too.
– Joe Strazzere
8 mins ago
It is unclear why your friend feels guilt.
– Roland
8 mins ago
@Roland He feels guilt as the other colleagues made him feel like it wasn't his role to take even though it was open to the entire office
– Twyxz
6 mins ago
Is his confidence so low that people can "make him" feel guilt over this? I'd just tell him that management has made the decision and there is no reason to feel bad about being considered more capable.
– Roland
2 mins ago
@Roland My friend suffers anxiety issues, so I don't know if this plays any part in his emotions towards this situation
– Twyxz
1 min ago
"Now he's being made to feel bad" - you can't be made to feel bad. Feelings are what you do to yourself. Other than "suck it up, ride it out, get over it" I'm not sure what else he can do. If he demonstrates how capable he is, maybe his colleagues will get over it too.
– Joe Strazzere
8 mins ago
"Now he's being made to feel bad" - you can't be made to feel bad. Feelings are what you do to yourself. Other than "suck it up, ride it out, get over it" I'm not sure what else he can do. If he demonstrates how capable he is, maybe his colleagues will get over it too.
– Joe Strazzere
8 mins ago
It is unclear why your friend feels guilt.
– Roland
8 mins ago
It is unclear why your friend feels guilt.
– Roland
8 mins ago
@Roland He feels guilt as the other colleagues made him feel like it wasn't his role to take even though it was open to the entire office
– Twyxz
6 mins ago
@Roland He feels guilt as the other colleagues made him feel like it wasn't his role to take even though it was open to the entire office
– Twyxz
6 mins ago
Is his confidence so low that people can "make him" feel guilt over this? I'd just tell him that management has made the decision and there is no reason to feel bad about being considered more capable.
– Roland
2 mins ago
Is his confidence so low that people can "make him" feel guilt over this? I'd just tell him that management has made the decision and there is no reason to feel bad about being considered more capable.
– Roland
2 mins ago
@Roland My friend suffers anxiety issues, so I don't know if this plays any part in his emotions towards this situation
– Twyxz
1 min ago
@Roland My friend suffers anxiety issues, so I don't know if this plays any part in his emotions towards this situation
– Twyxz
1 min ago
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"Now he's being made to feel bad" - you can't be made to feel bad. Feelings are what you do to yourself. Other than "suck it up, ride it out, get over it" I'm not sure what else he can do. If he demonstrates how capable he is, maybe his colleagues will get over it too.
– Joe Strazzere
8 mins ago
It is unclear why your friend feels guilt.
– Roland
8 mins ago
@Roland He feels guilt as the other colleagues made him feel like it wasn't his role to take even though it was open to the entire office
– Twyxz
6 mins ago
Is his confidence so low that people can "make him" feel guilt over this? I'd just tell him that management has made the decision and there is no reason to feel bad about being considered more capable.
– Roland
2 mins ago
@Roland My friend suffers anxiety issues, so I don't know if this plays any part in his emotions towards this situation
– Twyxz
1 min ago