How to handle a boss who constantly stares with an angry face in meetings?
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Background: I am a software developer with little over of a decade experience in my job, based on India, but now I am working in Toronto through my Indian employer for 3+ years. ( I am a full time employee to this employer in india).
As per the current employer(client bank) at Toronto, I am a contractor and they can end my contract anytime by giving 15 days notice which may force me to return to India which I don't want at this point.
Yes, within that notice period or within 1 month, I can find another client through my indian employer, but this requires to pass couple of interviews which I am not technically prepared of, as of now.
Due to personal reasons, I am planning to return to India after 6-7 months, So, I am thinking like - "why should find another client for this 6-7 months".
Problem: My manager ( full time employee of the client bank), is giving troubles. Please note, he is also based on India.
He is conducting daily status meetings for 40-45 mins, ( scheduled
for 30 mins), we are just 4-5 members team which contains developers
and QA. He usually keep speaking, keep repeating for the 5th time,
dig deeper into technical details etc. He is not a technical person,
but literally expects developers to explain, repeat the explanation
in various ways (4-5 times), so that he can understand.If I say , I am working on this jira item, there is no blocker issues, I can complete by EOD today. He is still asking 5 unnecessary
questions further.He even keep asking status of the item which closed a week before and
we will repeat - " we already completed and delivered this last
Wednesday".MAIN problem: he keeps his face looks very angry and literally
starring like - he is going to kill us. This disturbs my
voice/wordings while replying, I feel like a DOG in front of him
at that time :-).
Please note : I am working on the same project for 3+ years and always delivering quality code, on time. There is no complaints about my work in last 3 years, but this guy replaced our previous manager before 7-8 months.
I am getting very angry while treated this way and keep suppressing my anger.
Now-a-days I am avoiding eye-contact with him.
I knew avoiding eye contact is not good but I don't know any other solution ( than arguing / fighting with him ).
Because I am tolerating him and helpless , I feel like a dog :-(.
PS: I write whatever i feel right now.
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Background: I am a software developer with little over of a decade experience in my job, based on India, but now I am working in Toronto through my Indian employer for 3+ years. ( I am a full time employee to this employer in india).
As per the current employer(client bank) at Toronto, I am a contractor and they can end my contract anytime by giving 15 days notice which may force me to return to India which I don't want at this point.
Yes, within that notice period or within 1 month, I can find another client through my indian employer, but this requires to pass couple of interviews which I am not technically prepared of, as of now.
Due to personal reasons, I am planning to return to India after 6-7 months, So, I am thinking like - "why should find another client for this 6-7 months".
Problem: My manager ( full time employee of the client bank), is giving troubles. Please note, he is also based on India.
He is conducting daily status meetings for 40-45 mins, ( scheduled
for 30 mins), we are just 4-5 members team which contains developers
and QA. He usually keep speaking, keep repeating for the 5th time,
dig deeper into technical details etc. He is not a technical person,
but literally expects developers to explain, repeat the explanation
in various ways (4-5 times), so that he can understand.If I say , I am working on this jira item, there is no blocker issues, I can complete by EOD today. He is still asking 5 unnecessary
questions further.He even keep asking status of the item which closed a week before and
we will repeat - " we already completed and delivered this last
Wednesday".MAIN problem: he keeps his face looks very angry and literally
starring like - he is going to kill us. This disturbs my
voice/wordings while replying, I feel like a DOG in front of him
at that time :-).
Please note : I am working on the same project for 3+ years and always delivering quality code, on time. There is no complaints about my work in last 3 years, but this guy replaced our previous manager before 7-8 months.
I am getting very angry while treated this way and keep suppressing my anger.
Now-a-days I am avoiding eye-contact with him.
I knew avoiding eye contact is not good but I don't know any other solution ( than arguing / fighting with him ).
Because I am tolerating him and helpless , I feel like a dog :-(.
PS: I write whatever i feel right now.
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I doubt this is going to get better. I suggest you learn to bear it or look for another job.
– paparazzo
15 mins ago
@paparazzo, Yes, Trying-to-bear for next 6-7 months and back to India is my current approach, but by following that approach, I am losing respect from myself.
– Mr.NiceGuy
9 mins ago
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Background: I am a software developer with little over of a decade experience in my job, based on India, but now I am working in Toronto through my Indian employer for 3+ years. ( I am a full time employee to this employer in india).
As per the current employer(client bank) at Toronto, I am a contractor and they can end my contract anytime by giving 15 days notice which may force me to return to India which I don't want at this point.
Yes, within that notice period or within 1 month, I can find another client through my indian employer, but this requires to pass couple of interviews which I am not technically prepared of, as of now.
Due to personal reasons, I am planning to return to India after 6-7 months, So, I am thinking like - "why should find another client for this 6-7 months".
Problem: My manager ( full time employee of the client bank), is giving troubles. Please note, he is also based on India.
He is conducting daily status meetings for 40-45 mins, ( scheduled
for 30 mins), we are just 4-5 members team which contains developers
and QA. He usually keep speaking, keep repeating for the 5th time,
dig deeper into technical details etc. He is not a technical person,
but literally expects developers to explain, repeat the explanation
in various ways (4-5 times), so that he can understand.If I say , I am working on this jira item, there is no blocker issues, I can complete by EOD today. He is still asking 5 unnecessary
questions further.He even keep asking status of the item which closed a week before and
we will repeat - " we already completed and delivered this last
Wednesday".MAIN problem: he keeps his face looks very angry and literally
starring like - he is going to kill us. This disturbs my
voice/wordings while replying, I feel like a DOG in front of him
at that time :-).
Please note : I am working on the same project for 3+ years and always delivering quality code, on time. There is no complaints about my work in last 3 years, but this guy replaced our previous manager before 7-8 months.
I am getting very angry while treated this way and keep suppressing my anger.
Now-a-days I am avoiding eye-contact with him.
I knew avoiding eye contact is not good but I don't know any other solution ( than arguing / fighting with him ).
Because I am tolerating him and helpless , I feel like a dog :-(.
PS: I write whatever i feel right now.
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Background: I am a software developer with little over of a decade experience in my job, based on India, but now I am working in Toronto through my Indian employer for 3+ years. ( I am a full time employee to this employer in india).
As per the current employer(client bank) at Toronto, I am a contractor and they can end my contract anytime by giving 15 days notice which may force me to return to India which I don't want at this point.
Yes, within that notice period or within 1 month, I can find another client through my indian employer, but this requires to pass couple of interviews which I am not technically prepared of, as of now.
Due to personal reasons, I am planning to return to India after 6-7 months, So, I am thinking like - "why should find another client for this 6-7 months".
Problem: My manager ( full time employee of the client bank), is giving troubles. Please note, he is also based on India.
He is conducting daily status meetings for 40-45 mins, ( scheduled
for 30 mins), we are just 4-5 members team which contains developers
and QA. He usually keep speaking, keep repeating for the 5th time,
dig deeper into technical details etc. He is not a technical person,
but literally expects developers to explain, repeat the explanation
in various ways (4-5 times), so that he can understand.If I say , I am working on this jira item, there is no blocker issues, I can complete by EOD today. He is still asking 5 unnecessary
questions further.He even keep asking status of the item which closed a week before and
we will repeat - " we already completed and delivered this last
Wednesday".MAIN problem: he keeps his face looks very angry and literally
starring like - he is going to kill us. This disturbs my
voice/wordings while replying, I feel like a DOG in front of him
at that time :-).
Please note : I am working on the same project for 3+ years and always delivering quality code, on time. There is no complaints about my work in last 3 years, but this guy replaced our previous manager before 7-8 months.
I am getting very angry while treated this way and keep suppressing my anger.
Now-a-days I am avoiding eye-contact with him.
I knew avoiding eye contact is not good but I don't know any other solution ( than arguing / fighting with him ).
Because I am tolerating him and helpless , I feel like a dog :-(.
PS: I write whatever i feel right now.
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I doubt this is going to get better. I suggest you learn to bear it or look for another job.
– paparazzo
15 mins ago
@paparazzo, Yes, Trying-to-bear for next 6-7 months and back to India is my current approach, but by following that approach, I am losing respect from myself.
– Mr.NiceGuy
9 mins ago
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I doubt this is going to get better. I suggest you learn to bear it or look for another job.
– paparazzo
15 mins ago
@paparazzo, Yes, Trying-to-bear for next 6-7 months and back to India is my current approach, but by following that approach, I am losing respect from myself.
– Mr.NiceGuy
9 mins ago
I doubt this is going to get better. I suggest you learn to bear it or look for another job.
– paparazzo
15 mins ago
I doubt this is going to get better. I suggest you learn to bear it or look for another job.
– paparazzo
15 mins ago
@paparazzo, Yes, Trying-to-bear for next 6-7 months and back to India is my current approach, but by following that approach, I am losing respect from myself.
– Mr.NiceGuy
9 mins ago
@paparazzo, Yes, Trying-to-bear for next 6-7 months and back to India is my current approach, but by following that approach, I am losing respect from myself.
– Mr.NiceGuy
9 mins ago
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I doubt this is going to get better. I suggest you learn to bear it or look for another job.
– paparazzo
15 mins ago
@paparazzo, Yes, Trying-to-bear for next 6-7 months and back to India is my current approach, but by following that approach, I am losing respect from myself.
– Mr.NiceGuy
9 mins ago