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I have this female friend who likes hanging with me. She even comes at my place to spend some time. She's my good friend. Sometimes back, she had a heartbreak and she's been telling me she is not ready for relationships or roll with any guy. Some few days ago, I was at her place then she got a call and told me her man was coming so I should leave.
Afterwards, in the late night she sent me a message that she's not into relationships again. Then later in the morning she told me she sent the text because she was high and they'd been drinking.
I have no interest in her whatsoever. I just have her as a friend but I need to tell her to stop lying about her current state and embrace what she has without sounding rude.
What is the best way to politely tell a female friend to stop lying to me about her relationship?
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I have this female friend who likes hanging with me. She even comes at my place to spend some time. She's my good friend. Sometimes back, she had a heartbreak and she's been telling me she is not ready for relationships or roll with any guy. Some few days ago, I was at her place then she got a call and told me her man was coming so I should leave.
Afterwards, in the late night she sent me a message that she's not into relationships again. Then later in the morning she told me she sent the text because she was high and they'd been drinking.
I have no interest in her whatsoever. I just have her as a friend but I need to tell her to stop lying about her current state and embrace what she has without sounding rude.
What is the best way to politely tell a female friend to stop lying to me about her relationship?
politeness friendship
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I have this female friend who likes hanging with me. She even comes at my place to spend some time. She's my good friend. Sometimes back, she had a heartbreak and she's been telling me she is not ready for relationships or roll with any guy. Some few days ago, I was at her place then she got a call and told me her man was coming so I should leave.
Afterwards, in the late night she sent me a message that she's not into relationships again. Then later in the morning she told me she sent the text because she was high and they'd been drinking.
I have no interest in her whatsoever. I just have her as a friend but I need to tell her to stop lying about her current state and embrace what she has without sounding rude.
What is the best way to politely tell a female friend to stop lying to me about her relationship?
politeness friendship
edited 3 hours ago
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asked 6 hours ago
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I have this female friend who likes hanging with me. She even comes at my place to spend some time. She's my good friend. Sometimes back, she had a heartbreak and she's been telling me she is not ready for relationships or roll with any guy. Some few days ago, I was at her place then she got a call and told me her man was coming so I should leave.
Afterwards, in the late night she sent me a message that she's not into relationships again. Then later in the morning she told me she sent the text because she was high and they'd been drinking.
I have no interest in her whatsoever. I just have her as a friend but I need to tell her to stop lying about her current state and embrace what she has without sounding rude.
What is the best way to politely tell a female friend to stop lying to me about her relationship?
politeness friendship
politeness friendship
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asked 6 hours ago
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She is trying to justify herself
My guess is that she is lying because she tries to give you a picture of herself that, she imagines, will meet your expectations.
Try to make clear to her that she is your friend and that you are OK with whatever she wants to do with her personal life. She can start a relationship, have friends for the night or stay alone and you will be happy anyway to hang out with her and chat.
Next time you see her, try something like:
Hey, [Name], about the texts from the other night. You don't have to justify anything. I'm your friend and I'm happy as long as you're happy.
Maybe, if she feels that she doesn't have to explain what she is doing to you, and that you are not judging her, it will be easier for her to tell the truth.
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1 Answer
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1 Answer
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oldest
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active
oldest
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up vote
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down vote
accepted
She is trying to justify herself
My guess is that she is lying because she tries to give you a picture of herself that, she imagines, will meet your expectations.
Try to make clear to her that she is your friend and that you are OK with whatever she wants to do with her personal life. She can start a relationship, have friends for the night or stay alone and you will be happy anyway to hang out with her and chat.
Next time you see her, try something like:
Hey, [Name], about the texts from the other night. You don't have to justify anything. I'm your friend and I'm happy as long as you're happy.
Maybe, if she feels that she doesn't have to explain what she is doing to you, and that you are not judging her, it will be easier for her to tell the truth.
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
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up vote
4
down vote
accepted
She is trying to justify herself
My guess is that she is lying because she tries to give you a picture of herself that, she imagines, will meet your expectations.
Try to make clear to her that she is your friend and that you are OK with whatever she wants to do with her personal life. She can start a relationship, have friends for the night or stay alone and you will be happy anyway to hang out with her and chat.
Next time you see her, try something like:
Hey, [Name], about the texts from the other night. You don't have to justify anything. I'm your friend and I'm happy as long as you're happy.
Maybe, if she feels that she doesn't have to explain what she is doing to you, and that you are not judging her, it will be easier for her to tell the truth.
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
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up vote
4
down vote
accepted
up vote
4
down vote
accepted
She is trying to justify herself
My guess is that she is lying because she tries to give you a picture of herself that, she imagines, will meet your expectations.
Try to make clear to her that she is your friend and that you are OK with whatever she wants to do with her personal life. She can start a relationship, have friends for the night or stay alone and you will be happy anyway to hang out with her and chat.
Next time you see her, try something like:
Hey, [Name], about the texts from the other night. You don't have to justify anything. I'm your friend and I'm happy as long as you're happy.
Maybe, if she feels that she doesn't have to explain what she is doing to you, and that you are not judging her, it will be easier for her to tell the truth.
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
She is trying to justify herself
My guess is that she is lying because she tries to give you a picture of herself that, she imagines, will meet your expectations.
Try to make clear to her that she is your friend and that you are OK with whatever she wants to do with her personal life. She can start a relationship, have friends for the night or stay alone and you will be happy anyway to hang out with her and chat.
Next time you see her, try something like:
Hey, [Name], about the texts from the other night. You don't have to justify anything. I'm your friend and I'm happy as long as you're happy.
Maybe, if she feels that she doesn't have to explain what she is doing to you, and that you are not judging her, it will be easier for her to tell the truth.
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
edited 3 hours ago
avazula
7,43873551
7,43873551
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
answered 4 hours ago
Legisey
1,115136
1,115136
add a comment |Â
add a comment |Â
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