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How can I fix my relationship with my 7 month old cat after I've constantly abused her the past month?
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My kitten is 7 month old, and I critically abused her the last month (threw her hard on ladders, hit her had many times with almost no apparent reason), and now she won't move around me, being highly cautious to every move and every sound. I feel so bad for what I did to her. Is there any way to fix her and our relationship?
P. S. : whatever reasons I had, I had no excuse in the world to treat her the way I did, but I definitely want to change my behaviour and regain her trust. I've grown attached to her, and when she started to be distant, I've been abusing her even more. But again, I know now that whatever I'll tell myself is unfounded.
P. S. 2: I'm 17, just in case it matters.
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My kitten is 7 month old, and I critically abused her the last month (threw her hard on ladders, hit her had many times with almost no apparent reason), and now she won't move around me, being highly cautious to every move and every sound. I feel so bad for what I did to her. Is there any way to fix her and our relationship?
P. S. : whatever reasons I had, I had no excuse in the world to treat her the way I did, but I definitely want to change my behaviour and regain her trust. I've grown attached to her, and when she started to be distant, I've been abusing her even more. But again, I know now that whatever I'll tell myself is unfounded.
P. S. 2: I'm 17, just in case it matters.
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You cat needs out and you need help. This is not normal.
– paparazzo
2 hours ago
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Give the cat to a rescue and get help. You're aware that you have a serious problem, but that's not enough to fix it. You need professional psychological help to fix the underlying problems that caused you to abuse a kitten.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
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I echo the sentiments. Replace cat with girlfriend, as this type of behavior often repeats itself in other contexts. Ask yourself if this is a road you want to continue down.
– JohnP
1 hour ago
I understand where the sentiments come from, but I'd like to point out that, when we see somebody like Anonymous who is trying to atone for past mistakes and learn from them, piling up on them that the mistakes were bad is actually counterproductive. Welcome Anonymous, I for one am glad to see that you understand the problem and are actively trying to make things better!
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30 mins ago
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My kitten is 7 month old, and I critically abused her the last month (threw her hard on ladders, hit her had many times with almost no apparent reason), and now she won't move around me, being highly cautious to every move and every sound. I feel so bad for what I did to her. Is there any way to fix her and our relationship?
P. S. : whatever reasons I had, I had no excuse in the world to treat her the way I did, but I definitely want to change my behaviour and regain her trust. I've grown attached to her, and when she started to be distant, I've been abusing her even more. But again, I know now that whatever I'll tell myself is unfounded.
P. S. 2: I'm 17, just in case it matters.
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My kitten is 7 month old, and I critically abused her the last month (threw her hard on ladders, hit her had many times with almost no apparent reason), and now she won't move around me, being highly cautious to every move and every sound. I feel so bad for what I did to her. Is there any way to fix her and our relationship?
P. S. : whatever reasons I had, I had no excuse in the world to treat her the way I did, but I definitely want to change my behaviour and regain her trust. I've grown attached to her, and when she started to be distant, I've been abusing her even more. But again, I know now that whatever I'll tell myself is unfounded.
P. S. 2: I'm 17, just in case it matters.
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You cat needs out and you need help. This is not normal.
– paparazzo
2 hours ago
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Give the cat to a rescue and get help. You're aware that you have a serious problem, but that's not enough to fix it. You need professional psychological help to fix the underlying problems that caused you to abuse a kitten.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
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I echo the sentiments. Replace cat with girlfriend, as this type of behavior often repeats itself in other contexts. Ask yourself if this is a road you want to continue down.
– JohnP
1 hour ago
I understand where the sentiments come from, but I'd like to point out that, when we see somebody like Anonymous who is trying to atone for past mistakes and learn from them, piling up on them that the mistakes were bad is actually counterproductive. Welcome Anonymous, I for one am glad to see that you understand the problem and are actively trying to make things better!
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30 mins ago
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You cat needs out and you need help. This is not normal.
– paparazzo
2 hours ago
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Give the cat to a rescue and get help. You're aware that you have a serious problem, but that's not enough to fix it. You need professional psychological help to fix the underlying problems that caused you to abuse a kitten.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
2
I echo the sentiments. Replace cat with girlfriend, as this type of behavior often repeats itself in other contexts. Ask yourself if this is a road you want to continue down.
– JohnP
1 hour ago
I understand where the sentiments come from, but I'd like to point out that, when we see somebody like Anonymous who is trying to atone for past mistakes and learn from them, piling up on them that the mistakes were bad is actually counterproductive. Welcome Anonymous, I for one am glad to see that you understand the problem and are actively trying to make things better!
– rumtscho
30 mins ago
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You cat needs out and you need help. This is not normal.
– paparazzo
2 hours ago
You cat needs out and you need help. This is not normal.
– paparazzo
2 hours ago
5
5
Give the cat to a rescue and get help. You're aware that you have a serious problem, but that's not enough to fix it. You need professional psychological help to fix the underlying problems that caused you to abuse a kitten.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
Give the cat to a rescue and get help. You're aware that you have a serious problem, but that's not enough to fix it. You need professional psychological help to fix the underlying problems that caused you to abuse a kitten.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
2
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I echo the sentiments. Replace cat with girlfriend, as this type of behavior often repeats itself in other contexts. Ask yourself if this is a road you want to continue down.
– JohnP
1 hour ago
I echo the sentiments. Replace cat with girlfriend, as this type of behavior often repeats itself in other contexts. Ask yourself if this is a road you want to continue down.
– JohnP
1 hour ago
I understand where the sentiments come from, but I'd like to point out that, when we see somebody like Anonymous who is trying to atone for past mistakes and learn from them, piling up on them that the mistakes were bad is actually counterproductive. Welcome Anonymous, I for one am glad to see that you understand the problem and are actively trying to make things better!
– rumtscho
30 mins ago
I understand where the sentiments come from, but I'd like to point out that, when we see somebody like Anonymous who is trying to atone for past mistakes and learn from them, piling up on them that the mistakes were bad is actually counterproductive. Welcome Anonymous, I for one am glad to see that you understand the problem and are actively trying to make things better!
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30 mins ago
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As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely possible you've scarred her for life. Even if she can recover in general, she may never be able to respond to you without fear.
The second most essential thing is the need for accountability. You know now that you are a person capable of abusing a kitten. You don't have the luxury anymore of assuming you will just not do those things. You need to involve at least one person that can hold you to account.
I would honestly recommend that you give her to someone else who does not live with you. Give her a clean break and allow her to re-establish trust with an uninvolved human being. If this person reports to you that she's stabilized emotionally and acting like a normal cat towards them, then you can attempt a supervised visit with her. Do not push interaction on her - you should treat her like a feral cat, at maximum extend a hand and invite her towards you. Do not approach her or take any action that could conceivably be considered threatening. Accept that it could take numerous repeats of this before she is willing to approach.
If after several tries of this you see no improvement, or if the person caring for her reports that she backslides significantly after your visits, refer to point 1: it may be a hopeless case where you are concerned. Accept this and let her go. If she begins to warm back up to you, however, you could consider taking her back only if the following conditions are met:
- You allow your accountability partner(s) to continue checking in on you regularly and confirm the cat's wellbeing
- You have actively worked on the factors that led you to abuse her in the first place and have shown considerable improvement in the opinion of at least one relevant professional
Recovering from being an abuser is possible (especially as you're still young), but it is a very serious matter and you cannot treat any part of this lightly. It is vitally important that you address the original abuse and commit to changing anything and everything that contributed to your behaviour. Do not accept responsibility for any animal until point 2 has been satisfactorily achieved, and even then, tread with caution. People criminally charged with animal abuse can be legally barred from owning animals again in the future; in the end this may be the sentence you have to impose on yourself.
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Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it certainly doesn't help the animal that has been abused. From the incidents that you've described, the cat could have sustained substantial injuries and needs to be seen by a vet immediately especially as it is young.
What concerns me most is that after having this epiphany about your behaviour, you then continued to abuse the animal when it didn't do what you wanted. I can't help you with changing your own behaviour.
Whilst you may be able to change the cat's feelings towards you, it sounds as though your own behaviour is going to be the limiting factor. Training and imparting knowledge to any animal is a difficult, repetitive and frequently frustrating endeavour. If you cannot rely on yourself to provide this level of care and kindness, the best thing to do is to give the cat to a rescue centre where it will receive the treatment it requires.
Just for context – I don't know where you are located – if you were caught doing that to a cat in the UK, you would likely be prosecuted for animal abuse.
answered 4 hours ago
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It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
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2 hours ago
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Your attachment to this cat is irrelevant. It's what's in the best interest of the pet.
The best interest of this cat is to be away from you and in a caring and stable home. The cat will unlikely trust you anytime soon and maybe never. My biggest concern is that you are capable of repeating this behaviour.
You cannot own any pets until you have some intensive psychiatric help. The way you've treated this animal is not ok, never will be ok and there is no justification for it.
If you want the cat to recover and heal, please find a good, caring and loving home for it. With people who are stable and don't abuse sentient creatures when they lose control.
As you are under 18, you may be living with your parents, ask them to rehome the cat. I don't know what situation you have to be living like this, but I urge you to get help now.
The only commendable thing about this question is your willingness to be honest and desire to make a positive change. It's just too soon and too far gone at this stage to repair things between you and this cat.
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As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely possible you've scarred her for life. Even if she can recover in general, she may never be able to respond to you without fear.
The second most essential thing is the need for accountability. You know now that you are a person capable of abusing a kitten. You don't have the luxury anymore of assuming you will just not do those things. You need to involve at least one person that can hold you to account.
I would honestly recommend that you give her to someone else who does not live with you. Give her a clean break and allow her to re-establish trust with an uninvolved human being. If this person reports to you that she's stabilized emotionally and acting like a normal cat towards them, then you can attempt a supervised visit with her. Do not push interaction on her - you should treat her like a feral cat, at maximum extend a hand and invite her towards you. Do not approach her or take any action that could conceivably be considered threatening. Accept that it could take numerous repeats of this before she is willing to approach.
If after several tries of this you see no improvement, or if the person caring for her reports that she backslides significantly after your visits, refer to point 1: it may be a hopeless case where you are concerned. Accept this and let her go. If she begins to warm back up to you, however, you could consider taking her back only if the following conditions are met:
- You allow your accountability partner(s) to continue checking in on you regularly and confirm the cat's wellbeing
- You have actively worked on the factors that led you to abuse her in the first place and have shown considerable improvement in the opinion of at least one relevant professional
Recovering from being an abuser is possible (especially as you're still young), but it is a very serious matter and you cannot treat any part of this lightly. It is vitally important that you address the original abuse and commit to changing anything and everything that contributed to your behaviour. Do not accept responsibility for any animal until point 2 has been satisfactorily achieved, and even then, tread with caution. People criminally charged with animal abuse can be legally barred from owning animals again in the future; in the end this may be the sentence you have to impose on yourself.
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As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely possible you've scarred her for life. Even if she can recover in general, she may never be able to respond to you without fear.
The second most essential thing is the need for accountability. You know now that you are a person capable of abusing a kitten. You don't have the luxury anymore of assuming you will just not do those things. You need to involve at least one person that can hold you to account.
I would honestly recommend that you give her to someone else who does not live with you. Give her a clean break and allow her to re-establish trust with an uninvolved human being. If this person reports to you that she's stabilized emotionally and acting like a normal cat towards them, then you can attempt a supervised visit with her. Do not push interaction on her - you should treat her like a feral cat, at maximum extend a hand and invite her towards you. Do not approach her or take any action that could conceivably be considered threatening. Accept that it could take numerous repeats of this before she is willing to approach.
If after several tries of this you see no improvement, or if the person caring for her reports that she backslides significantly after your visits, refer to point 1: it may be a hopeless case where you are concerned. Accept this and let her go. If she begins to warm back up to you, however, you could consider taking her back only if the following conditions are met:
- You allow your accountability partner(s) to continue checking in on you regularly and confirm the cat's wellbeing
- You have actively worked on the factors that led you to abuse her in the first place and have shown considerable improvement in the opinion of at least one relevant professional
Recovering from being an abuser is possible (especially as you're still young), but it is a very serious matter and you cannot treat any part of this lightly. It is vitally important that you address the original abuse and commit to changing anything and everything that contributed to your behaviour. Do not accept responsibility for any animal until point 2 has been satisfactorily achieved, and even then, tread with caution. People criminally charged with animal abuse can be legally barred from owning animals again in the future; in the end this may be the sentence you have to impose on yourself.
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As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely possible you've scarred her for life. Even if she can recover in general, she may never be able to respond to you without fear.
The second most essential thing is the need for accountability. You know now that you are a person capable of abusing a kitten. You don't have the luxury anymore of assuming you will just not do those things. You need to involve at least one person that can hold you to account.
I would honestly recommend that you give her to someone else who does not live with you. Give her a clean break and allow her to re-establish trust with an uninvolved human being. If this person reports to you that she's stabilized emotionally and acting like a normal cat towards them, then you can attempt a supervised visit with her. Do not push interaction on her - you should treat her like a feral cat, at maximum extend a hand and invite her towards you. Do not approach her or take any action that could conceivably be considered threatening. Accept that it could take numerous repeats of this before she is willing to approach.
If after several tries of this you see no improvement, or if the person caring for her reports that she backslides significantly after your visits, refer to point 1: it may be a hopeless case where you are concerned. Accept this and let her go. If she begins to warm back up to you, however, you could consider taking her back only if the following conditions are met:
- You allow your accountability partner(s) to continue checking in on you regularly and confirm the cat's wellbeing
- You have actively worked on the factors that led you to abuse her in the first place and have shown considerable improvement in the opinion of at least one relevant professional
Recovering from being an abuser is possible (especially as you're still young), but it is a very serious matter and you cannot treat any part of this lightly. It is vitally important that you address the original abuse and commit to changing anything and everything that contributed to your behaviour. Do not accept responsibility for any animal until point 2 has been satisfactorily achieved, and even then, tread with caution. People criminally charged with animal abuse can be legally barred from owning animals again in the future; in the end this may be the sentence you have to impose on yourself.
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As in human cases of abuse, if you genuinely want to repair the relationship, the first and most essential thing to accept is you may not be able to. Especially with a young kitten, it's entirely possible you've scarred her for life. Even if she can recover in general, she may never be able to respond to you without fear.
The second most essential thing is the need for accountability. You know now that you are a person capable of abusing a kitten. You don't have the luxury anymore of assuming you will just not do those things. You need to involve at least one person that can hold you to account.
I would honestly recommend that you give her to someone else who does not live with you. Give her a clean break and allow her to re-establish trust with an uninvolved human being. If this person reports to you that she's stabilized emotionally and acting like a normal cat towards them, then you can attempt a supervised visit with her. Do not push interaction on her - you should treat her like a feral cat, at maximum extend a hand and invite her towards you. Do not approach her or take any action that could conceivably be considered threatening. Accept that it could take numerous repeats of this before she is willing to approach.
If after several tries of this you see no improvement, or if the person caring for her reports that she backslides significantly after your visits, refer to point 1: it may be a hopeless case where you are concerned. Accept this and let her go. If she begins to warm back up to you, however, you could consider taking her back only if the following conditions are met:
- You allow your accountability partner(s) to continue checking in on you regularly and confirm the cat's wellbeing
- You have actively worked on the factors that led you to abuse her in the first place and have shown considerable improvement in the opinion of at least one relevant professional
Recovering from being an abuser is possible (especially as you're still young), but it is a very serious matter and you cannot treat any part of this lightly. It is vitally important that you address the original abuse and commit to changing anything and everything that contributed to your behaviour. Do not accept responsibility for any animal until point 2 has been satisfactorily achieved, and even then, tread with caution. People criminally charged with animal abuse can be legally barred from owning animals again in the future; in the end this may be the sentence you have to impose on yourself.
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Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it certainly doesn't help the animal that has been abused. From the incidents that you've described, the cat could have sustained substantial injuries and needs to be seen by a vet immediately especially as it is young.
What concerns me most is that after having this epiphany about your behaviour, you then continued to abuse the animal when it didn't do what you wanted. I can't help you with changing your own behaviour.
Whilst you may be able to change the cat's feelings towards you, it sounds as though your own behaviour is going to be the limiting factor. Training and imparting knowledge to any animal is a difficult, repetitive and frequently frustrating endeavour. If you cannot rely on yourself to provide this level of care and kindness, the best thing to do is to give the cat to a rescue centre where it will receive the treatment it requires.
Just for context – I don't know where you are located – if you were caught doing that to a cat in the UK, you would likely be prosecuted for animal abuse.
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It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
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2 hours ago
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Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it certainly doesn't help the animal that has been abused. From the incidents that you've described, the cat could have sustained substantial injuries and needs to be seen by a vet immediately especially as it is young.
What concerns me most is that after having this epiphany about your behaviour, you then continued to abuse the animal when it didn't do what you wanted. I can't help you with changing your own behaviour.
Whilst you may be able to change the cat's feelings towards you, it sounds as though your own behaviour is going to be the limiting factor. Training and imparting knowledge to any animal is a difficult, repetitive and frequently frustrating endeavour. If you cannot rely on yourself to provide this level of care and kindness, the best thing to do is to give the cat to a rescue centre where it will receive the treatment it requires.
Just for context – I don't know where you are located – if you were caught doing that to a cat in the UK, you would likely be prosecuted for animal abuse.
answered 4 hours ago
Henders♦
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It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
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Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it certainly doesn't help the animal that has been abused. From the incidents that you've described, the cat could have sustained substantial injuries and needs to be seen by a vet immediately especially as it is young.
What concerns me most is that after having this epiphany about your behaviour, you then continued to abuse the animal when it didn't do what you wanted. I can't help you with changing your own behaviour.
Whilst you may be able to change the cat's feelings towards you, it sounds as though your own behaviour is going to be the limiting factor. Training and imparting knowledge to any animal is a difficult, repetitive and frequently frustrating endeavour. If you cannot rely on yourself to provide this level of care and kindness, the best thing to do is to give the cat to a rescue centre where it will receive the treatment it requires.
Just for context – I don't know where you are located – if you were caught doing that to a cat in the UK, you would likely be prosecuted for animal abuse.
answered 4 hours ago
Henders♦
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Honestly, it sounds as though you shouldn't have a cat right now. There is never any excuse to needlessly hurt an animal and, whilst your critical write-up of your own behaviour is a start, it certainly doesn't help the animal that has been abused. From the incidents that you've described, the cat could have sustained substantial injuries and needs to be seen by a vet immediately especially as it is young.
What concerns me most is that after having this epiphany about your behaviour, you then continued to abuse the animal when it didn't do what you wanted. I can't help you with changing your own behaviour.
Whilst you may be able to change the cat's feelings towards you, it sounds as though your own behaviour is going to be the limiting factor. Training and imparting knowledge to any animal is a difficult, repetitive and frequently frustrating endeavour. If you cannot rely on yourself to provide this level of care and kindness, the best thing to do is to give the cat to a rescue centre where it will receive the treatment it requires.
Just for context – I don't know where you are located – if you were caught doing that to a cat in the UK, you would likely be prosecuted for animal abuse.
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It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
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It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
3
3
It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
It's also illegal (and a felony) in most of the US. More importantly, though, Anonymous needs to both give the cat to a rescue that can rehab it, and get psychological help for themselves. Animal cruelty like this is a sign of a greater issue that may manifest as violence toward humans in the future, and will undoubtedly result in further violence toward animals.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
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Your attachment to this cat is irrelevant. It's what's in the best interest of the pet.
The best interest of this cat is to be away from you and in a caring and stable home. The cat will unlikely trust you anytime soon and maybe never. My biggest concern is that you are capable of repeating this behaviour.
You cannot own any pets until you have some intensive psychiatric help. The way you've treated this animal is not ok, never will be ok and there is no justification for it.
If you want the cat to recover and heal, please find a good, caring and loving home for it. With people who are stable and don't abuse sentient creatures when they lose control.
As you are under 18, you may be living with your parents, ask them to rehome the cat. I don't know what situation you have to be living like this, but I urge you to get help now.
The only commendable thing about this question is your willingness to be honest and desire to make a positive change. It's just too soon and too far gone at this stage to repair things between you and this cat.
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Your attachment to this cat is irrelevant. It's what's in the best interest of the pet.
The best interest of this cat is to be away from you and in a caring and stable home. The cat will unlikely trust you anytime soon and maybe never. My biggest concern is that you are capable of repeating this behaviour.
You cannot own any pets until you have some intensive psychiatric help. The way you've treated this animal is not ok, never will be ok and there is no justification for it.
If you want the cat to recover and heal, please find a good, caring and loving home for it. With people who are stable and don't abuse sentient creatures when they lose control.
As you are under 18, you may be living with your parents, ask them to rehome the cat. I don't know what situation you have to be living like this, but I urge you to get help now.
The only commendable thing about this question is your willingness to be honest and desire to make a positive change. It's just too soon and too far gone at this stage to repair things between you and this cat.
answered 1 hour ago
Yvette Colomb♦
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up vote
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up vote
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Your attachment to this cat is irrelevant. It's what's in the best interest of the pet.
The best interest of this cat is to be away from you and in a caring and stable home. The cat will unlikely trust you anytime soon and maybe never. My biggest concern is that you are capable of repeating this behaviour.
You cannot own any pets until you have some intensive psychiatric help. The way you've treated this animal is not ok, never will be ok and there is no justification for it.
If you want the cat to recover and heal, please find a good, caring and loving home for it. With people who are stable and don't abuse sentient creatures when they lose control.
As you are under 18, you may be living with your parents, ask them to rehome the cat. I don't know what situation you have to be living like this, but I urge you to get help now.
The only commendable thing about this question is your willingness to be honest and desire to make a positive change. It's just too soon and too far gone at this stage to repair things between you and this cat.
answered 1 hour ago
Yvette Colomb♦
12.4k840112
Your attachment to this cat is irrelevant. It's what's in the best interest of the pet.
The best interest of this cat is to be away from you and in a caring and stable home. The cat will unlikely trust you anytime soon and maybe never. My biggest concern is that you are capable of repeating this behaviour.
You cannot own any pets until you have some intensive psychiatric help. The way you've treated this animal is not ok, never will be ok and there is no justification for it.
If you want the cat to recover and heal, please find a good, caring and loving home for it. With people who are stable and don't abuse sentient creatures when they lose control.
As you are under 18, you may be living with your parents, ask them to rehome the cat. I don't know what situation you have to be living like this, but I urge you to get help now.
The only commendable thing about this question is your willingness to be honest and desire to make a positive change. It's just too soon and too far gone at this stage to repair things between you and this cat.
answered 1 hour ago
Yvette Colomb♦
12.4k840112
answered 1 hour ago
Yvette Colomb♦
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answered 1 hour ago
Yvette Colomb♦
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answered 1 hour ago
Yvette Colomb♦
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You cat needs out and you need help. This is not normal.
– paparazzo
2 hours ago
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Give the cat to a rescue and get help. You're aware that you have a serious problem, but that's not enough to fix it. You need professional psychological help to fix the underlying problems that caused you to abuse a kitten.
– Allison C
2 hours ago
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I echo the sentiments. Replace cat with girlfriend, as this type of behavior often repeats itself in other contexts. Ask yourself if this is a road you want to continue down.
– JohnP
1 hour ago
I understand where the sentiments come from, but I'd like to point out that, when we see somebody like Anonymous who is trying to atone for past mistakes and learn from them, piling up on them that the mistakes were bad is actually counterproductive. Welcome Anonymous, I for one am glad to see that you understand the problem and are actively trying to make things better!
– rumtscho
30 mins ago