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How to react professionally to sarcasm by manager
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My manager sometimes uses irony as remark. I do not know how to react to that.
An example from today:
him: Did you implement this all alone?
Me: No, I used a code found on internet as a model.
Him: What a genius..
At that moment, i just smiled awkwardly as i didn't know how to react.
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark ?
I am new to this company and it is my first job.
I do not want to confront him. Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of remark (i don't think it's constructive). I wish to have a good working relationship with him.
I have no evidence that he does it with the purpose to make me feel the way i do. Might be culture difference.
Location: Asia, I am not from the country where I work.
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My manager sometimes uses irony as remark. I do not know how to react to that.
An example from today:
him: Did you implement this all alone?
Me: No, I used a code found on internet as a model.
Him: What a genius..
At that moment, i just smiled awkwardly as i didn't know how to react.
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark ?
I am new to this company and it is my first job.
I do not want to confront him. Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of remark (i don't think it's constructive). I wish to have a good working relationship with him.
I have no evidence that he does it with the purpose to make me feel the way i do. Might be culture difference.
Location: Asia, I am not from the country where I work.
manager relationships
asked 2 hours ago
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Banter back. I'd have said something like "Yeah, gives more bang for the buck." You can understand what he said as a compliment (though obviously, it depends on tone).
– Roland
2 hours ago
Do you know if he speaks like this to your colleagues or if it's just you?
– Kozaky
1 hour ago
I don't know, this manager is on the opposite side of the office, and he didn't really join the company social events, so I don't really know if it's just me.
– Astariul
7 mins ago
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My manager sometimes uses irony as remark. I do not know how to react to that.
An example from today:
him: Did you implement this all alone?
Me: No, I used a code found on internet as a model.
Him: What a genius..
At that moment, i just smiled awkwardly as i didn't know how to react.
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark ?
I am new to this company and it is my first job.
I do not want to confront him. Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of remark (i don't think it's constructive). I wish to have a good working relationship with him.
I have no evidence that he does it with the purpose to make me feel the way i do. Might be culture difference.
Location: Asia, I am not from the country where I work.
manager relationships
asked 2 hours ago
Astariul
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My manager sometimes uses irony as remark. I do not know how to react to that.
An example from today:
him: Did you implement this all alone?
Me: No, I used a code found on internet as a model.
Him: What a genius..
At that moment, i just smiled awkwardly as i didn't know how to react.
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark ?
I am new to this company and it is my first job.
I do not want to confront him. Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of remark (i don't think it's constructive). I wish to have a good working relationship with him.
I have no evidence that he does it with the purpose to make me feel the way i do. Might be culture difference.
Location: Asia, I am not from the country where I work.
manager relationships
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Banter back. I'd have said something like "Yeah, gives more bang for the buck." You can understand what he said as a compliment (though obviously, it depends on tone).
– Roland
2 hours ago
Do you know if he speaks like this to your colleagues or if it's just you?
– Kozaky
1 hour ago
I don't know, this manager is on the opposite side of the office, and he didn't really join the company social events, so I don't really know if it's just me.
– Astariul
7 mins ago
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Banter back. I'd have said something like "Yeah, gives more bang for the buck." You can understand what he said as a compliment (though obviously, it depends on tone).
– Roland
2 hours ago
Do you know if he speaks like this to your colleagues or if it's just you?
– Kozaky
1 hour ago
I don't know, this manager is on the opposite side of the office, and he didn't really join the company social events, so I don't really know if it's just me.
– Astariul
7 mins ago
4
4
Banter back. I'd have said something like "Yeah, gives more bang for the buck." You can understand what he said as a compliment (though obviously, it depends on tone).
– Roland
2 hours ago
Banter back. I'd have said something like "Yeah, gives more bang for the buck." You can understand what he said as a compliment (though obviously, it depends on tone).
– Roland
2 hours ago
Do you know if he speaks like this to your colleagues or if it's just you?
– Kozaky
1 hour ago
Do you know if he speaks like this to your colleagues or if it's just you?
– Kozaky
1 hour ago
I don't know, this manager is on the opposite side of the office, and he didn't really join the company social events, so I don't really know if it's just me.
– Astariul
7 mins ago
I don't know, this manager is on the opposite side of the office, and he didn't really join the company social events, so I don't really know if it's just me.
– Astariul
7 mins ago
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How can i professionally handle that kind of remark?
Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of
remark
This is more snark than irony.
When someone tries to be snarky to me, I usually pause, look at them for about a minute, then turn around and walk away without comment.
Unless they are particularly dense, they understand that I don't like that kind of remark.
And I don't make a habit of working for stupid managers for very long.
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
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One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
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Sounds more like sarcasm than irony...
Ignore it and carry on with doing what you're doing.
You can sidetrack some of this by expanding on your comments to show any extra working that you've done on top of copy-pasting code or highlight how much time is saved you.
I found the code online and it saved a lot of time, I'll use the same technique in other things as well.
But don't read too much into comments like this, as long as you're being productive, you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
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2 Answers
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active
oldest
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2 Answers
2
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
up vote
3
down vote
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark?
Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of
remark
This is more snark than irony.
When someone tries to be snarky to me, I usually pause, look at them for about a minute, then turn around and walk away without comment.
Unless they are particularly dense, they understand that I don't like that kind of remark.
And I don't make a habit of working for stupid managers for very long.
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
4
One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
add a comment |Â
up vote
3
down vote
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark?
Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of
remark
This is more snark than irony.
When someone tries to be snarky to me, I usually pause, look at them for about a minute, then turn around and walk away without comment.
Unless they are particularly dense, they understand that I don't like that kind of remark.
And I don't make a habit of working for stupid managers for very long.
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
4
One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
add a comment |Â
up vote
3
down vote
up vote
3
down vote
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark?
Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of
remark
This is more snark than irony.
When someone tries to be snarky to me, I usually pause, look at them for about a minute, then turn around and walk away without comment.
Unless they are particularly dense, they understand that I don't like that kind of remark.
And I don't make a habit of working for stupid managers for very long.
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
How can i professionally handle that kind of remark?
Ideally, i want him to understand that i do not like that kind of
remark
This is more snark than irony.
When someone tries to be snarky to me, I usually pause, look at them for about a minute, then turn around and walk away without comment.
Unless they are particularly dense, they understand that I don't like that kind of remark.
And I don't make a habit of working for stupid managers for very long.
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
answered 1 hour ago
Joe Strazzere
234k114687975
234k114687975
4
One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
add a comment |Â
4
One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
4
4
One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
One other thing that works: take it entirely literally. Pretend not to notice the irony. At all. It can be quite confusing if one's well honed sword of sarcasm suddenly finds itself having an edge of rubber bouncing off the target.
– Captain Emacs
47 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
Thanks for your answer. I that moment it was a meeting in a private room, so I couldn't really walk away. Can I ask you a precision ? Can walking away be seen as rude ?
– Astariul
3 mins ago
add a comment |Â
up vote
2
down vote
Sounds more like sarcasm than irony...
Ignore it and carry on with doing what you're doing.
You can sidetrack some of this by expanding on your comments to show any extra working that you've done on top of copy-pasting code or highlight how much time is saved you.
I found the code online and it saved a lot of time, I'll use the same technique in other things as well.
But don't read too much into comments like this, as long as you're being productive, you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
add a comment |Â
up vote
2
down vote
Sounds more like sarcasm than irony...
Ignore it and carry on with doing what you're doing.
You can sidetrack some of this by expanding on your comments to show any extra working that you've done on top of copy-pasting code or highlight how much time is saved you.
I found the code online and it saved a lot of time, I'll use the same technique in other things as well.
But don't read too much into comments like this, as long as you're being productive, you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
add a comment |Â
up vote
2
down vote
up vote
2
down vote
Sounds more like sarcasm than irony...
Ignore it and carry on with doing what you're doing.
You can sidetrack some of this by expanding on your comments to show any extra working that you've done on top of copy-pasting code or highlight how much time is saved you.
I found the code online and it saved a lot of time, I'll use the same technique in other things as well.
But don't read too much into comments like this, as long as you're being productive, you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
Sounds more like sarcasm than irony...
Ignore it and carry on with doing what you're doing.
You can sidetrack some of this by expanding on your comments to show any extra working that you've done on top of copy-pasting code or highlight how much time is saved you.
I found the code online and it saved a lot of time, I'll use the same technique in other things as well.
But don't read too much into comments like this, as long as you're being productive, you should be fine.
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
answered 1 hour ago
Snow♦
54.5k47175223
54.5k47175223
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
add a comment |Â
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
I like this answer because it's the least confrontational, leaving the manager no room for 'fight back', but still force him to think again about what he said to me.
– Astariul
1 min ago
add a comment |Â
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Banter back. I'd have said something like "Yeah, gives more bang for the buck." You can understand what he said as a compliment (though obviously, it depends on tone).
– Roland
2 hours ago
Do you know if he speaks like this to your colleagues or if it's just you?
– Kozaky
1 hour ago
I don't know, this manager is on the opposite side of the office, and he didn't really join the company social events, so I don't really know if it's just me.
– Astariul
7 mins ago