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Should I tell my new employer I feel incompetent to do the job?
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I'm a software developer with 4+ years of experience. I'm moving out of my current company and get a better offer (both in pay and role) from another company. I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment.
Now I get a huge hike with my new job offer with a role of technical lead. I believe I'm not ready for it yet. But still I want to give it a try as it can be a game changer for me. I have even planned to fake it till I make it.
Again, I think it may not be fair not to inform about my incompetency to my future employer. So will that be considered dishonesty if they find out about my shortcomings in future? How can I inform them politely, I may not be a great fit for lead role but would be great addition to the team as I'm technically strong.
PS: I was already able to fake it in the interview. So it wouldn't be a problem for me.
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I'm a software developer with 4+ years of experience. I'm moving out of my current company and get a better offer (both in pay and role) from another company. I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment.
Now I get a huge hike with my new job offer with a role of technical lead. I believe I'm not ready for it yet. But still I want to give it a try as it can be a game changer for me. I have even planned to fake it till I make it.
Again, I think it may not be fair not to inform about my incompetency to my future employer. So will that be considered dishonesty if they find out about my shortcomings in future? How can I inform them politely, I may not be a great fit for lead role but would be great addition to the team as I'm technically strong.
PS: I was already able to fake it in the interview. So it wouldn't be a problem for me.
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Technical Leads are often expected to do a lot of communication with both your team members and other teams/customers that will be using services your team is developing. If that is something you are not prepared to do, I would reconsider what you want before continuing. Even if you could fake it on the job, it would grind you down in a year or two.
– Juha Untinen
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of Can I turn down a promotion and can doing so affect my career?
– gnat
1 hour ago
@gnat Not a duplicate. the role is still technical, but with added responsibilities. My concern is I may not be a correct fit for the role.
– Ms.Tamil
1 hour ago
Are you interviewing for a tech.lead role, or were you interviewing for something else and are they offering you the tech.lead position instead of the original one?
– Erik
57 mins ago
Did you discuss any of this in the interview ("I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment."). Probably you didn't say that exactly, but maybe it came up ("what are your thoughts on daily meetings?" etc.)
– Brandin
41 mins ago
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I'm a software developer with 4+ years of experience. I'm moving out of my current company and get a better offer (both in pay and role) from another company. I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment.
Now I get a huge hike with my new job offer with a role of technical lead. I believe I'm not ready for it yet. But still I want to give it a try as it can be a game changer for me. I have even planned to fake it till I make it.
Again, I think it may not be fair not to inform about my incompetency to my future employer. So will that be considered dishonesty if they find out about my shortcomings in future? How can I inform them politely, I may not be a great fit for lead role but would be great addition to the team as I'm technically strong.
PS: I was already able to fake it in the interview. So it wouldn't be a problem for me.
interviewing employer team-role
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I'm a software developer with 4+ years of experience. I'm moving out of my current company and get a better offer (both in pay and role) from another company. I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment.
Now I get a huge hike with my new job offer with a role of technical lead. I believe I'm not ready for it yet. But still I want to give it a try as it can be a game changer for me. I have even planned to fake it till I make it.
Again, I think it may not be fair not to inform about my incompetency to my future employer. So will that be considered dishonesty if they find out about my shortcomings in future? How can I inform them politely, I may not be a great fit for lead role but would be great addition to the team as I'm technically strong.
PS: I was already able to fake it in the interview. So it wouldn't be a problem for me.
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Technical Leads are often expected to do a lot of communication with both your team members and other teams/customers that will be using services your team is developing. If that is something you are not prepared to do, I would reconsider what you want before continuing. Even if you could fake it on the job, it would grind you down in a year or two.
– Juha Untinen
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of Can I turn down a promotion and can doing so affect my career?
– gnat
1 hour ago
@gnat Not a duplicate. the role is still technical, but with added responsibilities. My concern is I may not be a correct fit for the role.
– Ms.Tamil
1 hour ago
Are you interviewing for a tech.lead role, or were you interviewing for something else and are they offering you the tech.lead position instead of the original one?
– Erik
57 mins ago
Did you discuss any of this in the interview ("I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment."). Probably you didn't say that exactly, but maybe it came up ("what are your thoughts on daily meetings?" etc.)
– Brandin
41 mins ago
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Technical Leads are often expected to do a lot of communication with both your team members and other teams/customers that will be using services your team is developing. If that is something you are not prepared to do, I would reconsider what you want before continuing. Even if you could fake it on the job, it would grind you down in a year or two.
– Juha Untinen
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of Can I turn down a promotion and can doing so affect my career?
– gnat
1 hour ago
@gnat Not a duplicate. the role is still technical, but with added responsibilities. My concern is I may not be a correct fit for the role.
– Ms.Tamil
1 hour ago
Are you interviewing for a tech.lead role, or were you interviewing for something else and are they offering you the tech.lead position instead of the original one?
– Erik
57 mins ago
Did you discuss any of this in the interview ("I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment."). Probably you didn't say that exactly, but maybe it came up ("what are your thoughts on daily meetings?" etc.)
– Brandin
41 mins ago
Technical Leads are often expected to do a lot of communication with both your team members and other teams/customers that will be using services your team is developing. If that is something you are not prepared to do, I would reconsider what you want before continuing. Even if you could fake it on the job, it would grind you down in a year or two.
– Juha Untinen
1 hour ago
Technical Leads are often expected to do a lot of communication with both your team members and other teams/customers that will be using services your team is developing. If that is something you are not prepared to do, I would reconsider what you want before continuing. Even if you could fake it on the job, it would grind you down in a year or two.
– Juha Untinen
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of Can I turn down a promotion and can doing so affect my career?
– gnat
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of Can I turn down a promotion and can doing so affect my career?
– gnat
1 hour ago
@gnat Not a duplicate. the role is still technical, but with added responsibilities. My concern is I may not be a correct fit for the role.
– Ms.Tamil
1 hour ago
@gnat Not a duplicate. the role is still technical, but with added responsibilities. My concern is I may not be a correct fit for the role.
– Ms.Tamil
1 hour ago
Are you interviewing for a tech.lead role, or were you interviewing for something else and are they offering you the tech.lead position instead of the original one?
– Erik
57 mins ago
Are you interviewing for a tech.lead role, or were you interviewing for something else and are they offering you the tech.lead position instead of the original one?
– Erik
57 mins ago
Did you discuss any of this in the interview ("I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment."). Probably you didn't say that exactly, but maybe it came up ("what are your thoughts on daily meetings?" etc.)
– Brandin
41 mins ago
Did you discuss any of this in the interview ("I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment."). Probably you didn't say that exactly, but maybe it came up ("what are your thoughts on daily meetings?" etc.)
– Brandin
41 mins ago
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My own experiences might be relevent here, I too am a developer who dreads daily meetings (I'm a high-functioning autistic and calling me "socially awkward" would be like calling a hurricane a "slight breeze") and some years ago I moved into more technical lead/management roles, twice by accident and once by design.
My technical skills and general nous were more than sufficient for roles of such seniority but my social weaknesses and poor people skills were a major achillies heel.
Now there's no saying for sure whether you'll experience the same and with some work on your soft skills you may blossom into that side of the role. However if you're already taking steps to avoid daily stand ups then the omens aren't good.
Getting on to the question of whether you are being "dishonest" with the new company, well that sort of depends on exactly what you mean by "faking it" in the interview, if we're talking about acting more confident then you felt, well I wouldn't call that dishonesty, more standard operating procedure in interviews. If on the other hand you've claimed experience that you don't actually have that's quite serious and I'd expect any offer to be withdrawn once they find out about it (and the chances are quite good that sooner or later they are going to find out).
Assuming you have presented your technical skills and experience accurately to them (and given you've already gotten the offer on the table) then I'd suggest giving it a shot, just go in with your eyes open and be prepared to put a lot of effort into the soft-skills side. I'm not saying it will be easy but taking any substantial steps in your career is going to require you to step outside your comfort zone a bit.
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My own experiences might be relevent here, I too am a developer who dreads daily meetings (I'm a high-functioning autistic and calling me "socially awkward" would be like calling a hurricane a "slight breeze") and some years ago I moved into more technical lead/management roles, twice by accident and once by design.
My technical skills and general nous were more than sufficient for roles of such seniority but my social weaknesses and poor people skills were a major achillies heel.
Now there's no saying for sure whether you'll experience the same and with some work on your soft skills you may blossom into that side of the role. However if you're already taking steps to avoid daily stand ups then the omens aren't good.
Getting on to the question of whether you are being "dishonest" with the new company, well that sort of depends on exactly what you mean by "faking it" in the interview, if we're talking about acting more confident then you felt, well I wouldn't call that dishonesty, more standard operating procedure in interviews. If on the other hand you've claimed experience that you don't actually have that's quite serious and I'd expect any offer to be withdrawn once they find out about it (and the chances are quite good that sooner or later they are going to find out).
Assuming you have presented your technical skills and experience accurately to them (and given you've already gotten the offer on the table) then I'd suggest giving it a shot, just go in with your eyes open and be prepared to put a lot of effort into the soft-skills side. I'm not saying it will be easy but taking any substantial steps in your career is going to require you to step outside your comfort zone a bit.
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My own experiences might be relevent here, I too am a developer who dreads daily meetings (I'm a high-functioning autistic and calling me "socially awkward" would be like calling a hurricane a "slight breeze") and some years ago I moved into more technical lead/management roles, twice by accident and once by design.
My technical skills and general nous were more than sufficient for roles of such seniority but my social weaknesses and poor people skills were a major achillies heel.
Now there's no saying for sure whether you'll experience the same and with some work on your soft skills you may blossom into that side of the role. However if you're already taking steps to avoid daily stand ups then the omens aren't good.
Getting on to the question of whether you are being "dishonest" with the new company, well that sort of depends on exactly what you mean by "faking it" in the interview, if we're talking about acting more confident then you felt, well I wouldn't call that dishonesty, more standard operating procedure in interviews. If on the other hand you've claimed experience that you don't actually have that's quite serious and I'd expect any offer to be withdrawn once they find out about it (and the chances are quite good that sooner or later they are going to find out).
Assuming you have presented your technical skills and experience accurately to them (and given you've already gotten the offer on the table) then I'd suggest giving it a shot, just go in with your eyes open and be prepared to put a lot of effort into the soft-skills side. I'm not saying it will be easy but taking any substantial steps in your career is going to require you to step outside your comfort zone a bit.
answered 46 mins ago
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up vote
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My own experiences might be relevent here, I too am a developer who dreads daily meetings (I'm a high-functioning autistic and calling me "socially awkward" would be like calling a hurricane a "slight breeze") and some years ago I moved into more technical lead/management roles, twice by accident and once by design.
My technical skills and general nous were more than sufficient for roles of such seniority but my social weaknesses and poor people skills were a major achillies heel.
Now there's no saying for sure whether you'll experience the same and with some work on your soft skills you may blossom into that side of the role. However if you're already taking steps to avoid daily stand ups then the omens aren't good.
Getting on to the question of whether you are being "dishonest" with the new company, well that sort of depends on exactly what you mean by "faking it" in the interview, if we're talking about acting more confident then you felt, well I wouldn't call that dishonesty, more standard operating procedure in interviews. If on the other hand you've claimed experience that you don't actually have that's quite serious and I'd expect any offer to be withdrawn once they find out about it (and the chances are quite good that sooner or later they are going to find out).
Assuming you have presented your technical skills and experience accurately to them (and given you've already gotten the offer on the table) then I'd suggest giving it a shot, just go in with your eyes open and be prepared to put a lot of effort into the soft-skills side. I'm not saying it will be easy but taking any substantial steps in your career is going to require you to step outside your comfort zone a bit.
answered 46 mins ago
motosubatsu
32k1582128
My own experiences might be relevent here, I too am a developer who dreads daily meetings (I'm a high-functioning autistic and calling me "socially awkward" would be like calling a hurricane a "slight breeze") and some years ago I moved into more technical lead/management roles, twice by accident and once by design.
My technical skills and general nous were more than sufficient for roles of such seniority but my social weaknesses and poor people skills were a major achillies heel.
Now there's no saying for sure whether you'll experience the same and with some work on your soft skills you may blossom into that side of the role. However if you're already taking steps to avoid daily stand ups then the omens aren't good.
Getting on to the question of whether you are being "dishonest" with the new company, well that sort of depends on exactly what you mean by "faking it" in the interview, if we're talking about acting more confident then you felt, well I wouldn't call that dishonesty, more standard operating procedure in interviews. If on the other hand you've claimed experience that you don't actually have that's quite serious and I'd expect any offer to be withdrawn once they find out about it (and the chances are quite good that sooner or later they are going to find out).
Assuming you have presented your technical skills and experience accurately to them (and given you've already gotten the offer on the table) then I'd suggest giving it a shot, just go in with your eyes open and be prepared to put a lot of effort into the soft-skills side. I'm not saying it will be easy but taking any substantial steps in your career is going to require you to step outside your comfort zone a bit.
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Technical Leads are often expected to do a lot of communication with both your team members and other teams/customers that will be using services your team is developing. If that is something you are not prepared to do, I would reconsider what you want before continuing. Even if you could fake it on the job, it would grind you down in a year or two.
– Juha Untinen
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of Can I turn down a promotion and can doing so affect my career?
– gnat
1 hour ago
@gnat Not a duplicate. the role is still technical, but with added responsibilities. My concern is I may not be a correct fit for the role.
– Ms.Tamil
1 hour ago
Are you interviewing for a tech.lead role, or were you interviewing for something else and are they offering you the tech.lead position instead of the original one?
– Erik
57 mins ago
Did you discuss any of this in the interview ("I'm socially awkward and try to avoid daily meetings in my agile work environment."). Probably you didn't say that exactly, but maybe it came up ("what are your thoughts on daily meetings?" etc.)
– Brandin
41 mins ago