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I have this problem with a coworker. I do work with him for months now and the problem does not seem to go away. He is a close co-worker and also kind of my tutor since I recently started as a full employee and am still learning. (I had some internships beforehand in which I also worked closely with this person.)
The problem:
Since he is my tutor he often has to explain stuff to me. Whenever I talk with him, he is kind of downgrading me. Yes, I'm not that long in this company, but he evens explains stuff to me that I know and he should know that I know it. If I accidentally mis-click, he immediately corrects me. He always tries to be right.
Example of a situation:
Just today he explained github to me. When ever I had a typo, he said something like: "Thats wrong, do it this way." or "Maybe you should learn the stuff more."
Or:
I ask him something like:
Me: Is it ok to take out this lines of code?
Coworker: yes
So I do delete the lines. Some hours or days later he says:
Why is there code missing? It's important, you can't just delete code.
I respond:
If i remember right, you told me it is ok to delete it.
He turns quiet and some minutes later responds with something like:
You probably remember wrong, or you asked weirdly, so i did not know what you meant.
He seems to realize he did wrong, but searches for a way I did wrong. I also see this behavior of him against others. I often try to have their backs, but he just put me down too if I do so.
Why it bothers me so much / what I want:
I'm new in this company. The way he behaves turns a bad light on me and my skills in front of coworkers and my boss. I don't have that much of courage and I'm often scared of what people think about me. So some times, the whole work day i'm trying to fix what he said about me when others could hear it. I don't want others to think about me as an idiot for getting nothing done.
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I have this problem with a coworker. I do work with him for months now and the problem does not seem to go away. He is a close co-worker and also kind of my tutor since I recently started as a full employee and am still learning. (I had some internships beforehand in which I also worked closely with this person.)
The problem:
Since he is my tutor he often has to explain stuff to me. Whenever I talk with him, he is kind of downgrading me. Yes, I'm not that long in this company, but he evens explains stuff to me that I know and he should know that I know it. If I accidentally mis-click, he immediately corrects me. He always tries to be right.
Example of a situation:
Just today he explained github to me. When ever I had a typo, he said something like: "Thats wrong, do it this way." or "Maybe you should learn the stuff more."
Or:
I ask him something like:
Me: Is it ok to take out this lines of code?
Coworker: yes
So I do delete the lines. Some hours or days later he says:
Why is there code missing? It's important, you can't just delete code.
I respond:
If i remember right, you told me it is ok to delete it.
He turns quiet and some minutes later responds with something like:
You probably remember wrong, or you asked weirdly, so i did not know what you meant.
He seems to realize he did wrong, but searches for a way I did wrong. I also see this behavior of him against others. I often try to have their backs, but he just put me down too if I do so.
Why it bothers me so much / what I want:
I'm new in this company. The way he behaves turns a bad light on me and my skills in front of coworkers and my boss. I don't have that much of courage and I'm often scared of what people think about me. So some times, the whole work day i'm trying to fix what he said about me when others could hear it. I don't want others to think about me as an idiot for getting nothing done.
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This question would be a good fit on Workplace.SE for sure.
– spiral succulent
10 hours ago
Hi Marie, welcome to IPS. Your question does a great job outlining and detailing your issue without becoming too long. That's a great feat for your first question posted on Stack Exchange. Based on your question I think you would get better answers on the Workplace Stack Exchange site and have therefore made a request for a mod to migrate it over there.
– spiral succulent
8 hours ago
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I have this problem with a coworker. I do work with him for months now and the problem does not seem to go away. He is a close co-worker and also kind of my tutor since I recently started as a full employee and am still learning. (I had some internships beforehand in which I also worked closely with this person.)
The problem:
Since he is my tutor he often has to explain stuff to me. Whenever I talk with him, he is kind of downgrading me. Yes, I'm not that long in this company, but he evens explains stuff to me that I know and he should know that I know it. If I accidentally mis-click, he immediately corrects me. He always tries to be right.
Example of a situation:
Just today he explained github to me. When ever I had a typo, he said something like: "Thats wrong, do it this way." or "Maybe you should learn the stuff more."
Or:
I ask him something like:
Me: Is it ok to take out this lines of code?
Coworker: yes
So I do delete the lines. Some hours or days later he says:
Why is there code missing? It's important, you can't just delete code.
I respond:
If i remember right, you told me it is ok to delete it.
He turns quiet and some minutes later responds with something like:
You probably remember wrong, or you asked weirdly, so i did not know what you meant.
He seems to realize he did wrong, but searches for a way I did wrong. I also see this behavior of him against others. I often try to have their backs, but he just put me down too if I do so.
Why it bothers me so much / what I want:
I'm new in this company. The way he behaves turns a bad light on me and my skills in front of coworkers and my boss. I don't have that much of courage and I'm often scared of what people think about me. So some times, the whole work day i'm trying to fix what he said about me when others could hear it. I don't want others to think about me as an idiot for getting nothing done.
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I have this problem with a coworker. I do work with him for months now and the problem does not seem to go away. He is a close co-worker and also kind of my tutor since I recently started as a full employee and am still learning. (I had some internships beforehand in which I also worked closely with this person.)
The problem:
Since he is my tutor he often has to explain stuff to me. Whenever I talk with him, he is kind of downgrading me. Yes, I'm not that long in this company, but he evens explains stuff to me that I know and he should know that I know it. If I accidentally mis-click, he immediately corrects me. He always tries to be right.
Example of a situation:
Just today he explained github to me. When ever I had a typo, he said something like: "Thats wrong, do it this way." or "Maybe you should learn the stuff more."
Or:
I ask him something like:
Me: Is it ok to take out this lines of code?
Coworker: yes
So I do delete the lines. Some hours or days later he says:
Why is there code missing? It's important, you can't just delete code.
I respond:
If i remember right, you told me it is ok to delete it.
He turns quiet and some minutes later responds with something like:
You probably remember wrong, or you asked weirdly, so i did not know what you meant.
He seems to realize he did wrong, but searches for a way I did wrong. I also see this behavior of him against others. I often try to have their backs, but he just put me down too if I do so.
Why it bothers me so much / what I want:
I'm new in this company. The way he behaves turns a bad light on me and my skills in front of coworkers and my boss. I don't have that much of courage and I'm often scared of what people think about me. So some times, the whole work day i'm trying to fix what he said about me when others could hear it. I don't want others to think about me as an idiot for getting nothing done.
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This question would be a good fit on Workplace.SE for sure.
– spiral succulent
10 hours ago
Hi Marie, welcome to IPS. Your question does a great job outlining and detailing your issue without becoming too long. That's a great feat for your first question posted on Stack Exchange. Based on your question I think you would get better answers on the Workplace Stack Exchange site and have therefore made a request for a mod to migrate it over there.
– spiral succulent
8 hours ago
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This question would be a good fit on Workplace.SE for sure.
– spiral succulent
10 hours ago
Hi Marie, welcome to IPS. Your question does a great job outlining and detailing your issue without becoming too long. That's a great feat for your first question posted on Stack Exchange. Based on your question I think you would get better answers on the Workplace Stack Exchange site and have therefore made a request for a mod to migrate it over there.
– spiral succulent
8 hours ago
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This question would be a good fit on Workplace.SE for sure.
– spiral succulent
10 hours ago
This question would be a good fit on Workplace.SE for sure.
– spiral succulent
10 hours ago
Hi Marie, welcome to IPS. Your question does a great job outlining and detailing your issue without becoming too long. That's a great feat for your first question posted on Stack Exchange. Based on your question I think you would get better answers on the Workplace Stack Exchange site and have therefore made a request for a mod to migrate it over there.
– spiral succulent
8 hours ago
Hi Marie, welcome to IPS. Your question does a great job outlining and detailing your issue without becoming too long. That's a great feat for your first question posted on Stack Exchange. Based on your question I think you would get better answers on the Workplace Stack Exchange site and have therefore made a request for a mod to migrate it over there.
– spiral succulent
8 hours ago
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This question would be a good fit on Workplace.SE for sure.
– spiral succulent
10 hours ago
Hi Marie, welcome to IPS. Your question does a great job outlining and detailing your issue without becoming too long. That's a great feat for your first question posted on Stack Exchange. Based on your question I think you would get better answers on the Workplace Stack Exchange site and have therefore made a request for a mod to migrate it over there.
– spiral succulent
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