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I have a colleague, let's call him Gary, who sits a few rows down from me and had an emotional support dog. A lot of people in the office question whether this is truly a real "emotional support dog" because the dog is old. I've always defended Gary and the dog because I'm a strong believer in emotional support animals. (My cousin actually trains emotional support animals for a living).
Last week when driving home, the dog darted in front of my car. I slammed on the brakes, but unfortunately, the dog died.
I feel very bad for Gary's loss. However, my boss is now requesting I issue a public apology. I really don't feel I need to do this because:
This wasn't my fault at all
I ended up having to pay for my own car repair out of my own pocket
- My lawyer friend advised me that publicly apologizing could be inadvertently admitting fault
- This situation is already embarrassing enough
However, I also don't want to give people the impression that I'm heartless or that I'm one of the people in the office who have been questioning whether this is truly an emotional support animal.
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize? How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault? Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
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I have a colleague, let's call him Gary, who sits a few rows down from me and had an emotional support dog. A lot of people in the office question whether this is truly a real "emotional support dog" because the dog is old. I've always defended Gary and the dog because I'm a strong believer in emotional support animals. (My cousin actually trains emotional support animals for a living).
Last week when driving home, the dog darted in front of my car. I slammed on the brakes, but unfortunately, the dog died.
I feel very bad for Gary's loss. However, my boss is now requesting I issue a public apology. I really don't feel I need to do this because:
This wasn't my fault at all
I ended up having to pay for my own car repair out of my own pocket
- My lawyer friend advised me that publicly apologizing could be inadvertently admitting fault
- This situation is already embarrassing enough
However, I also don't want to give people the impression that I'm heartless or that I'm one of the people in the office who have been questioning whether this is truly an emotional support animal.
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize? How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault? Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
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I don't think saying something like "I am sorry for your loss" is an admission of guilt.
– Mister Positive
2 hours ago
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No I haven't talked about it with anyone today as I wanted to hear everyone else's thoughts on this.
– IHaveTheBestDog
2 hours ago
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You say outside of work, but was this outside of the company parking lot too?
– thursdaysgeek
2 hours ago
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If it did not happen at the workplace they cannot tell you what to do.
– paparazzo
1 hour ago
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Did you talk to your boss about the position this puts you in?
– Myles
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I have a colleague, let's call him Gary, who sits a few rows down from me and had an emotional support dog. A lot of people in the office question whether this is truly a real "emotional support dog" because the dog is old. I've always defended Gary and the dog because I'm a strong believer in emotional support animals. (My cousin actually trains emotional support animals for a living).
Last week when driving home, the dog darted in front of my car. I slammed on the brakes, but unfortunately, the dog died.
I feel very bad for Gary's loss. However, my boss is now requesting I issue a public apology. I really don't feel I need to do this because:
This wasn't my fault at all
I ended up having to pay for my own car repair out of my own pocket
- My lawyer friend advised me that publicly apologizing could be inadvertently admitting fault
- This situation is already embarrassing enough
However, I also don't want to give people the impression that I'm heartless or that I'm one of the people in the office who have been questioning whether this is truly an emotional support animal.
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize? How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault? Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
personal-problems
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I have a colleague, let's call him Gary, who sits a few rows down from me and had an emotional support dog. A lot of people in the office question whether this is truly a real "emotional support dog" because the dog is old. I've always defended Gary and the dog because I'm a strong believer in emotional support animals. (My cousin actually trains emotional support animals for a living).
Last week when driving home, the dog darted in front of my car. I slammed on the brakes, but unfortunately, the dog died.
I feel very bad for Gary's loss. However, my boss is now requesting I issue a public apology. I really don't feel I need to do this because:
This wasn't my fault at all
I ended up having to pay for my own car repair out of my own pocket
- My lawyer friend advised me that publicly apologizing could be inadvertently admitting fault
- This situation is already embarrassing enough
However, I also don't want to give people the impression that I'm heartless or that I'm one of the people in the office who have been questioning whether this is truly an emotional support animal.
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize? How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault? Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
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I don't think saying something like "I am sorry for your loss" is an admission of guilt.
– Mister Positive
2 hours ago
1
No I haven't talked about it with anyone today as I wanted to hear everyone else's thoughts on this.
– IHaveTheBestDog
2 hours ago
2
You say outside of work, but was this outside of the company parking lot too?
– thursdaysgeek
2 hours ago
1
If it did not happen at the workplace they cannot tell you what to do.
– paparazzo
1 hour ago
2
Did you talk to your boss about the position this puts you in?
– Myles
1 hour ago
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I don't think saying something like "I am sorry for your loss" is an admission of guilt.
– Mister Positive
2 hours ago
1
No I haven't talked about it with anyone today as I wanted to hear everyone else's thoughts on this.
– IHaveTheBestDog
2 hours ago
2
You say outside of work, but was this outside of the company parking lot too?
– thursdaysgeek
2 hours ago
1
If it did not happen at the workplace they cannot tell you what to do.
– paparazzo
1 hour ago
2
Did you talk to your boss about the position this puts you in?
– Myles
1 hour ago
3
3
I don't think saying something like "I am sorry for your loss" is an admission of guilt.
– Mister Positive
2 hours ago
I don't think saying something like "I am sorry for your loss" is an admission of guilt.
– Mister Positive
2 hours ago
1
1
No I haven't talked about it with anyone today as I wanted to hear everyone else's thoughts on this.
– IHaveTheBestDog
2 hours ago
No I haven't talked about it with anyone today as I wanted to hear everyone else's thoughts on this.
– IHaveTheBestDog
2 hours ago
2
2
You say outside of work, but was this outside of the company parking lot too?
– thursdaysgeek
2 hours ago
You say outside of work, but was this outside of the company parking lot too?
– thursdaysgeek
2 hours ago
1
1
If it did not happen at the workplace they cannot tell you what to do.
– paparazzo
1 hour ago
If it did not happen at the workplace they cannot tell you what to do.
– paparazzo
1 hour ago
2
2
Did you talk to your boss about the position this puts you in?
– Myles
1 hour ago
Did you talk to your boss about the position this puts you in?
– Myles
1 hour ago
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This isn't a work issue. You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog, but you're accepting part of the fault by taking the car damage on your own insurance (you might have had a claim against the negligent owner).
A private condolences to the owner is in order - but a public apology is not necessary; nobody else was hurt or impacted by the incident. If anyone complains about that, tell them that it's on attorney advice.
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Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
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Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize?
It sounds like you already apologized. It's unclear what you mean when you say your boss wants you to publicly apologize. Do you mean everyone is to gather in the office, and hear you apologize for the dog?
If it did not happen at the office I don't see why you should.
How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault?
I would just say Gary, I am sorry I could not stop in time when the dog ran in front of my car. I did not see him and it is a very unfortunate situation.
Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
Yes.
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This isn't a work issue. You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog, but you're accepting part of the fault by taking the car damage on your own insurance (you might have had a claim against the negligent owner).
A private condolences to the owner is in order - but a public apology is not necessary; nobody else was hurt or impacted by the incident. If anyone complains about that, tell them that it's on attorney advice.
answered 1 hour ago
PeteCon
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Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
– brhans
1 hour ago
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This isn't a work issue. You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog, but you're accepting part of the fault by taking the car damage on your own insurance (you might have had a claim against the negligent owner).
A private condolences to the owner is in order - but a public apology is not necessary; nobody else was hurt or impacted by the incident. If anyone complains about that, tell them that it's on attorney advice.
answered 1 hour ago
PeteCon
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Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
– brhans
1 hour ago
add a comment |Â
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up vote
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This isn't a work issue. You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog, but you're accepting part of the fault by taking the car damage on your own insurance (you might have had a claim against the negligent owner).
A private condolences to the owner is in order - but a public apology is not necessary; nobody else was hurt or impacted by the incident. If anyone complains about that, tell them that it's on attorney advice.
answered 1 hour ago
PeteCon
13.2k43654
This isn't a work issue. You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog, but you're accepting part of the fault by taking the car damage on your own insurance (you might have had a claim against the negligent owner).
A private condolences to the owner is in order - but a public apology is not necessary; nobody else was hurt or impacted by the incident. If anyone complains about that, tell them that it's on attorney advice.
answered 1 hour ago
PeteCon
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answered 1 hour ago
PeteCon
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answered 1 hour ago
PeteCon
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answered 1 hour ago
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Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
– brhans
1 hour ago
add a comment |Â
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Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
– brhans
1 hour ago
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Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
– brhans
1 hour ago
Is there a typo in "You should obviously apologize to the owner for him having an uncontrolled dog"?
– brhans
1 hour ago
add a comment |Â
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Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize?
It sounds like you already apologized. It's unclear what you mean when you say your boss wants you to publicly apologize. Do you mean everyone is to gather in the office, and hear you apologize for the dog?
If it did not happen at the office I don't see why you should.
How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault?
I would just say Gary, I am sorry I could not stop in time when the dog ran in front of my car. I did not see him and it is a very unfortunate situation.
Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
Yes.
answered 15 mins ago
Dan
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up vote
1
down vote
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize?
It sounds like you already apologized. It's unclear what you mean when you say your boss wants you to publicly apologize. Do you mean everyone is to gather in the office, and hear you apologize for the dog?
If it did not happen at the office I don't see why you should.
How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault?
I would just say Gary, I am sorry I could not stop in time when the dog ran in front of my car. I did not see him and it is a very unfortunate situation.
Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
Yes.
answered 15 mins ago
Dan
4,0471719
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up vote
1
down vote
up vote
1
down vote
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize?
It sounds like you already apologized. It's unclear what you mean when you say your boss wants you to publicly apologize. Do you mean everyone is to gather in the office, and hear you apologize for the dog?
If it did not happen at the office I don't see why you should.
How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault?
I would just say Gary, I am sorry I could not stop in time when the dog ran in front of my car. I did not see him and it is a very unfortunate situation.
Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
Yes.
answered 15 mins ago
Dan
4,0471719
Am I being too selfish in not wanting to apologize?
It sounds like you already apologized. It's unclear what you mean when you say your boss wants you to publicly apologize. Do you mean everyone is to gather in the office, and hear you apologize for the dog?
If it did not happen at the office I don't see why you should.
How can I express my remorse and support for emotional support animals, while not admitting fault?
I would just say Gary, I am sorry I could not stop in time when the dog ran in front of my car. I did not see him and it is a very unfortunate situation.
Or should I just be quiet and let things simmer?
Yes.
answered 15 mins ago
Dan
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answered 15 mins ago
Dan
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answered 15 mins ago
Dan
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answered 15 mins ago
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I don't think saying something like "I am sorry for your loss" is an admission of guilt.
– Mister Positive
2 hours ago
1
No I haven't talked about it with anyone today as I wanted to hear everyone else's thoughts on this.
– IHaveTheBestDog
2 hours ago
2
You say outside of work, but was this outside of the company parking lot too?
– thursdaysgeek
2 hours ago
1
If it did not happen at the workplace they cannot tell you what to do.
– paparazzo
1 hour ago
2
Did you talk to your boss about the position this puts you in?
– Myles
1 hour ago