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I was at the gym (non work affiliated if it makes a difference) last week and ran into a co worker in the changing rooms. This would have been fine except she had just walked out of the shower completely starkers and tried to have a conversation with me, first normal chatting like "here for a run?" but then work related stuff. I tried to be polite but honestly wanted to keep chatter to a minimum in the hope that she would stop getting distracted and put some clothes on. I changed quickly for my activity, and then left.
But now I'm wondering was I rude for not wanting to engage in conversation with a naked co worker. She is generally lovely by the way so no issues there. How would other people handle this?
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I was at the gym (non work affiliated if it makes a difference) last week and ran into a co worker in the changing rooms. This would have been fine except she had just walked out of the shower completely starkers and tried to have a conversation with me, first normal chatting like "here for a run?" but then work related stuff. I tried to be polite but honestly wanted to keep chatter to a minimum in the hope that she would stop getting distracted and put some clothes on. I changed quickly for my activity, and then left.
But now I'm wondering was I rude for not wanting to engage in conversation with a naked co worker. She is generally lovely by the way so no issues there. How would other people handle this?
communication socializing
edited May 13 '16 at 13:38
Elysian Fields♦
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"Let's continue this conversation after we're dressed".
– Dan Pichelman
May 13 '16 at 13:33
23
Well, one of two people thought the situation was absolutely normal, and one thought it wasn't. In many places / cultures it is absolutely normal. The thing to remember: In some situations "no clothes" = appropriately dressed, and there is nothing sexual about it.
– gnasher729
May 13 '16 at 14:02
11
Hmm, yeah; this.
– Alexandre Vaillancourt
May 13 '16 at 15:45
17
@Kilisi this is very much a cultural issue. Obviously, you or your culture consider nakedness a greater taboo than others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong any more than it makes you wrong and them right. It would never occur to me that someone would consider the sight of a naked body offensive to children. Apparently, it would never have occurred to you that someone might not consider it offensive. There's no call for referring to other people's take on the matter as "rubbish".
– terdon
May 13 '16 at 16:49
6
Your local culture and your gender make a difference to this. In my experience, in the UK, changing rooms are single-sex and in a male one, (my experience is limited to that) no-one is concerned about nakedness, though no-one flashes themselves around ostentatiously either. Conversations continue while people undress, shower, and dress. YMMV
– peterG
May 13 '16 at 17:00
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I was at the gym (non work affiliated if it makes a difference) last week and ran into a co worker in the changing rooms. This would have been fine except she had just walked out of the shower completely starkers and tried to have a conversation with me, first normal chatting like "here for a run?" but then work related stuff. I tried to be polite but honestly wanted to keep chatter to a minimum in the hope that she would stop getting distracted and put some clothes on. I changed quickly for my activity, and then left.
But now I'm wondering was I rude for not wanting to engage in conversation with a naked co worker. She is generally lovely by the way so no issues there. How would other people handle this?
communication socializing
edited May 13 '16 at 13:38
Elysian Fields♦
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asked May 13 '16 at 13:26
Rogue'n'Roll
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I was at the gym (non work affiliated if it makes a difference) last week and ran into a co worker in the changing rooms. This would have been fine except she had just walked out of the shower completely starkers and tried to have a conversation with me, first normal chatting like "here for a run?" but then work related stuff. I tried to be polite but honestly wanted to keep chatter to a minimum in the hope that she would stop getting distracted and put some clothes on. I changed quickly for my activity, and then left.
But now I'm wondering was I rude for not wanting to engage in conversation with a naked co worker. She is generally lovely by the way so no issues there. How would other people handle this?
communication socializing
edited May 13 '16 at 13:38
Elysian Fields♦
96.7k46292449
asked May 13 '16 at 13:26
Rogue'n'Roll
14226
edited May 13 '16 at 13:38
Elysian Fields♦
96.7k46292449
edited May 13 '16 at 13:38
Elysian Fields♦
96.7k46292449
edited May 13 '16 at 13:38
Elysian Fields♦
96.7k46292449
96.7k46292449
asked May 13 '16 at 13:26
Rogue'n'Roll
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asked May 13 '16 at 13:26
Rogue'n'Roll
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asked May 13 '16 at 13:26
Rogue'n'Roll
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14226
33
"Let's continue this conversation after we're dressed".
– Dan Pichelman
May 13 '16 at 13:33
23
Well, one of two people thought the situation was absolutely normal, and one thought it wasn't. In many places / cultures it is absolutely normal. The thing to remember: In some situations "no clothes" = appropriately dressed, and there is nothing sexual about it.
– gnasher729
May 13 '16 at 14:02
11
Hmm, yeah; this.
– Alexandre Vaillancourt
May 13 '16 at 15:45
17
@Kilisi this is very much a cultural issue. Obviously, you or your culture consider nakedness a greater taboo than others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong any more than it makes you wrong and them right. It would never occur to me that someone would consider the sight of a naked body offensive to children. Apparently, it would never have occurred to you that someone might not consider it offensive. There's no call for referring to other people's take on the matter as "rubbish".
– terdon
May 13 '16 at 16:49
6
Your local culture and your gender make a difference to this. In my experience, in the UK, changing rooms are single-sex and in a male one, (my experience is limited to that) no-one is concerned about nakedness, though no-one flashes themselves around ostentatiously either. Conversations continue while people undress, shower, and dress. YMMV
– peterG
May 13 '16 at 17:00
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33
"Let's continue this conversation after we're dressed".
– Dan Pichelman
May 13 '16 at 13:33
23
Well, one of two people thought the situation was absolutely normal, and one thought it wasn't. In many places / cultures it is absolutely normal. The thing to remember: In some situations "no clothes" = appropriately dressed, and there is nothing sexual about it.
– gnasher729
May 13 '16 at 14:02
11
Hmm, yeah; this.
– Alexandre Vaillancourt
May 13 '16 at 15:45
17
@Kilisi this is very much a cultural issue. Obviously, you or your culture consider nakedness a greater taboo than others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong any more than it makes you wrong and them right. It would never occur to me that someone would consider the sight of a naked body offensive to children. Apparently, it would never have occurred to you that someone might not consider it offensive. There's no call for referring to other people's take on the matter as "rubbish".
– terdon
May 13 '16 at 16:49
6
Your local culture and your gender make a difference to this. In my experience, in the UK, changing rooms are single-sex and in a male one, (my experience is limited to that) no-one is concerned about nakedness, though no-one flashes themselves around ostentatiously either. Conversations continue while people undress, shower, and dress. YMMV
– peterG
May 13 '16 at 17:00
33
33
"Let's continue this conversation after we're dressed".
– Dan Pichelman
May 13 '16 at 13:33
"Let's continue this conversation after we're dressed".
– Dan Pichelman
May 13 '16 at 13:33
23
23
Well, one of two people thought the situation was absolutely normal, and one thought it wasn't. In many places / cultures it is absolutely normal. The thing to remember: In some situations "no clothes" = appropriately dressed, and there is nothing sexual about it.
– gnasher729
May 13 '16 at 14:02
Well, one of two people thought the situation was absolutely normal, and one thought it wasn't. In many places / cultures it is absolutely normal. The thing to remember: In some situations "no clothes" = appropriately dressed, and there is nothing sexual about it.
– gnasher729
May 13 '16 at 14:02
11
11
Hmm, yeah; this.
– Alexandre Vaillancourt
May 13 '16 at 15:45
Hmm, yeah; this.
– Alexandre Vaillancourt
May 13 '16 at 15:45
17
17
@Kilisi this is very much a cultural issue. Obviously, you or your culture consider nakedness a greater taboo than others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong any more than it makes you wrong and them right. It would never occur to me that someone would consider the sight of a naked body offensive to children. Apparently, it would never have occurred to you that someone might not consider it offensive. There's no call for referring to other people's take on the matter as "rubbish".
– terdon
May 13 '16 at 16:49
@Kilisi this is very much a cultural issue. Obviously, you or your culture consider nakedness a greater taboo than others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong any more than it makes you wrong and them right. It would never occur to me that someone would consider the sight of a naked body offensive to children. Apparently, it would never have occurred to you that someone might not consider it offensive. There's no call for referring to other people's take on the matter as "rubbish".
– terdon
May 13 '16 at 16:49
6
6
Your local culture and your gender make a difference to this. In my experience, in the UK, changing rooms are single-sex and in a male one, (my experience is limited to that) no-one is concerned about nakedness, though no-one flashes themselves around ostentatiously either. Conversations continue while people undress, shower, and dress. YMMV
– peterG
May 13 '16 at 17:00
Your local culture and your gender make a difference to this. In my experience, in the UK, changing rooms are single-sex and in a male one, (my experience is limited to that) no-one is concerned about nakedness, though no-one flashes themselves around ostentatiously either. Conversations continue while people undress, shower, and dress. YMMV
– peterG
May 13 '16 at 17:00
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Just tell her to put some clothes on, I'm assuming you're both female. Or turn your back and talk. There's nothing wrong with not looking.
I've never had exactly the same situation, and I'm male anyway, but in a similar situation I just told the guy in a joking manner. "You going to put some pants on mate? Or are we going to have a sword fight?"
It's similar to those people who think it's fine to chat while you're on the toilet, it's best to just let them know you're not comfortable about it but trying not to be embarrassed. "Sorry dude, give me a bit of privacy for a minute, really pushing on this one, need to concentrate or I might injure myself."
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
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d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
9
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
12
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
35
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
15
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
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Just tell her you are on a schedule and need to get going.
If naked makes you uncomfortable then fine.
For many people showers or changing room is not a big deal. If you play sports a lot of banter takes place in the showers and changing (locker) room.
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
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Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
1
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
1
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
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you could just say
i generally don't talk to people while they are naked.
it is polite, simple, direct, and non-confrontational.
side note: i have a similar policy about bathroom chat. if someone is getting too chatty, i just say
i don't chat in the bathroom.
answered May 13 '16 at 20:16
james turner
1252
2
Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
1
telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
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up vote
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Just tell her to put some clothes on, I'm assuming you're both female. Or turn your back and talk. There's nothing wrong with not looking.
I've never had exactly the same situation, and I'm male anyway, but in a similar situation I just told the guy in a joking manner. "You going to put some pants on mate? Or are we going to have a sword fight?"
It's similar to those people who think it's fine to chat while you're on the toilet, it's best to just let them know you're not comfortable about it but trying not to be embarrassed. "Sorry dude, give me a bit of privacy for a minute, really pushing on this one, need to concentrate or I might injure myself."
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
5
d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
9
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
12
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
35
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
15
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
 |Â
show 5 more comments
up vote
52
down vote
Just tell her to put some clothes on, I'm assuming you're both female. Or turn your back and talk. There's nothing wrong with not looking.
I've never had exactly the same situation, and I'm male anyway, but in a similar situation I just told the guy in a joking manner. "You going to put some pants on mate? Or are we going to have a sword fight?"
It's similar to those people who think it's fine to chat while you're on the toilet, it's best to just let them know you're not comfortable about it but trying not to be embarrassed. "Sorry dude, give me a bit of privacy for a minute, really pushing on this one, need to concentrate or I might injure myself."
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
5
d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
9
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
12
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
35
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
15
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
 |Â
show 5 more comments
up vote
52
down vote
up vote
52
down vote
Just tell her to put some clothes on, I'm assuming you're both female. Or turn your back and talk. There's nothing wrong with not looking.
I've never had exactly the same situation, and I'm male anyway, but in a similar situation I just told the guy in a joking manner. "You going to put some pants on mate? Or are we going to have a sword fight?"
It's similar to those people who think it's fine to chat while you're on the toilet, it's best to just let them know you're not comfortable about it but trying not to be embarrassed. "Sorry dude, give me a bit of privacy for a minute, really pushing on this one, need to concentrate or I might injure myself."
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
Just tell her to put some clothes on, I'm assuming you're both female. Or turn your back and talk. There's nothing wrong with not looking.
I've never had exactly the same situation, and I'm male anyway, but in a similar situation I just told the guy in a joking manner. "You going to put some pants on mate? Or are we going to have a sword fight?"
It's similar to those people who think it's fine to chat while you're on the toilet, it's best to just let them know you're not comfortable about it but trying not to be embarrassed. "Sorry dude, give me a bit of privacy for a minute, really pushing on this one, need to concentrate or I might injure myself."
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
answered May 13 '16 at 14:05
Kilisi
94.5k50216376
94.5k50216376
5
d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
9
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
12
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
35
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
15
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
 |Â
show 5 more comments
5
d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
9
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
12
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
35
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
15
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
5
5
d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
d'at banter....
– hownowbrowncow
May 13 '16 at 14:37
9
9
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
Laughing far more than is appropriate for a Workplace:SE answer. Thank you :)
– Marv Mills
May 13 '16 at 14:45
12
12
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
@MarvMills humour serves the purpose of covering up the awkwardness while drawing attention to the fact that you don't want to get involved in their floorshow.
– Kilisi
May 13 '16 at 14:52
35
35
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
What if he does want a sword fight?
– Agent_L
May 13 '16 at 16:58
15
15
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
@Agent_L then you have sword fight, simple.
– MikeTheLiar
May 13 '16 at 18:51
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show 5 more comments
up vote
10
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Just tell her you are on a schedule and need to get going.
If naked makes you uncomfortable then fine.
For many people showers or changing room is not a big deal. If you play sports a lot of banter takes place in the showers and changing (locker) room.
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
7
Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
1
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
1
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
10
down vote
Just tell her you are on a schedule and need to get going.
If naked makes you uncomfortable then fine.
For many people showers or changing room is not a big deal. If you play sports a lot of banter takes place in the showers and changing (locker) room.
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
7
Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
1
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
1
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
10
down vote
up vote
10
down vote
Just tell her you are on a schedule and need to get going.
If naked makes you uncomfortable then fine.
For many people showers or changing room is not a big deal. If you play sports a lot of banter takes place in the showers and changing (locker) room.
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
Just tell her you are on a schedule and need to get going.
If naked makes you uncomfortable then fine.
For many people showers or changing room is not a big deal. If you play sports a lot of banter takes place in the showers and changing (locker) room.
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
answered May 13 '16 at 15:42
paparazzo
33.3k657106
33.3k657106
7
Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
1
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
1
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
suggest improvements |Â
7
Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
1
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
1
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
7
7
Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
Lies make me uncomfortable, and that schedule story is a lie.
– donjuedo
May 13 '16 at 20:03
1
1
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
White lie at worst, in the interest of politeness. Honesty can become a vice when overdone.
– keshlam
May 13 '16 at 20:15
1
1
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
@donjuedo Then say what ever truth you want
– paparazzo
May 13 '16 at 21:15
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
0
down vote
you could just say
i generally don't talk to people while they are naked.
it is polite, simple, direct, and non-confrontational.
side note: i have a similar policy about bathroom chat. if someone is getting too chatty, i just say
i don't chat in the bathroom.
answered May 13 '16 at 20:16
james turner
1252
2
Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
1
telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
0
down vote
you could just say
i generally don't talk to people while they are naked.
it is polite, simple, direct, and non-confrontational.
side note: i have a similar policy about bathroom chat. if someone is getting too chatty, i just say
i don't chat in the bathroom.
answered May 13 '16 at 20:16
james turner
1252
2
Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
1
telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
0
down vote
up vote
0
down vote
you could just say
i generally don't talk to people while they are naked.
it is polite, simple, direct, and non-confrontational.
side note: i have a similar policy about bathroom chat. if someone is getting too chatty, i just say
i don't chat in the bathroom.
answered May 13 '16 at 20:16
james turner
1252
you could just say
i generally don't talk to people while they are naked.
it is polite, simple, direct, and non-confrontational.
side note: i have a similar policy about bathroom chat. if someone is getting too chatty, i just say
i don't chat in the bathroom.
answered May 13 '16 at 20:16
james turner
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Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
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telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
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Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
1
telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
2
2
Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
Why so formal? Just tell the other person to continue talking after you're both dressed.
– Stephan Branczyk
May 13 '16 at 21:31
1
1
telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
telling other people what to do is confrontational, and arguably unethical. it is best to stick to statements about yourself and what you intend to do.
– james turner
May 16 '16 at 18:24
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
I corrected that downvote for you; this is a perfectly cromulent answer
– Mawg
Oct 24 '17 at 11:13
suggest improvements |Â
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"Let's continue this conversation after we're dressed".
– Dan Pichelman
May 13 '16 at 13:33
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Well, one of two people thought the situation was absolutely normal, and one thought it wasn't. In many places / cultures it is absolutely normal. The thing to remember: In some situations "no clothes" = appropriately dressed, and there is nothing sexual about it.
– gnasher729
May 13 '16 at 14:02
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Hmm, yeah; this.
– Alexandre Vaillancourt
May 13 '16 at 15:45
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@Kilisi this is very much a cultural issue. Obviously, you or your culture consider nakedness a greater taboo than others. That doesn't make you right and them wrong any more than it makes you wrong and them right. It would never occur to me that someone would consider the sight of a naked body offensive to children. Apparently, it would never have occurred to you that someone might not consider it offensive. There's no call for referring to other people's take on the matter as "rubbish".
– terdon
May 13 '16 at 16:49
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Your local culture and your gender make a difference to this. In my experience, in the UK, changing rooms are single-sex and in a male one, (my experience is limited to that) no-one is concerned about nakedness, though no-one flashes themselves around ostentatiously either. Conversations continue while people undress, shower, and dress. YMMV
– peterG
May 13 '16 at 17:00