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I recently accepted a job offer from a company that is allowing me to start after I graduate from university. During the interview, it was said that the start date was "negotiable to the successful candidate" however, the contract specified August 4th. I had asked if I could start on August 10th instead as I would be graduating on the 7th and then leaving for a wedding and family affair after that. Unfortunately, my family affair has been moved due to my grandpa being scheduled for an eye surgery, and therefore I would have to push my start date back to August 17th. With that being said, it's an important event that relies on my attendance, but I'm really uncomfortable about asking to postpone my start date yet again. Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still doable?
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I recently accepted a job offer from a company that is allowing me to start after I graduate from university. During the interview, it was said that the start date was "negotiable to the successful candidate" however, the contract specified August 4th. I had asked if I could start on August 10th instead as I would be graduating on the 7th and then leaving for a wedding and family affair after that. Unfortunately, my family affair has been moved due to my grandpa being scheduled for an eye surgery, and therefore I would have to push my start date back to August 17th. With that being said, it's an important event that relies on my attendance, but I'm really uncomfortable about asking to postpone my start date yet again. Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still doable?
professionalism job-offer
asked Jul 26 '15 at 4:33
Maya
712
closed as off-topic by Jane S♦, scaaahu, yochannah, gnat, Joel Etherton Jul 27 '15 at 17:14
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- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Jane S, scaaahu, yochannah, gnat, Joel Etherton
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Is the wedding yours or your relative's?
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 4:42
that relies on my attendance - If you're that critical to the event, and date of the family affair is flexible, can your family adjust the date so it's on a weekend?
– BSMP
Jul 26 '15 at 4:45
The wedding is my best friend's, and unfortunately the date is set. It works for everyone else in my family because it's during their holidays.
– Maya
Jul 26 '15 at 5:13
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A question for you. Suppose the wedding schedule is changed again, are you going to change your start date again? This question is my answer to your question.
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 5:17
Miss the wedding - if he or she is a good friend they will understand
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Jul 26 '15 at 7:25
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I recently accepted a job offer from a company that is allowing me to start after I graduate from university. During the interview, it was said that the start date was "negotiable to the successful candidate" however, the contract specified August 4th. I had asked if I could start on August 10th instead as I would be graduating on the 7th and then leaving for a wedding and family affair after that. Unfortunately, my family affair has been moved due to my grandpa being scheduled for an eye surgery, and therefore I would have to push my start date back to August 17th. With that being said, it's an important event that relies on my attendance, but I'm really uncomfortable about asking to postpone my start date yet again. Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still doable?
professionalism job-offer
asked Jul 26 '15 at 4:33
Maya
712
I recently accepted a job offer from a company that is allowing me to start after I graduate from university. During the interview, it was said that the start date was "negotiable to the successful candidate" however, the contract specified August 4th. I had asked if I could start on August 10th instead as I would be graduating on the 7th and then leaving for a wedding and family affair after that. Unfortunately, my family affair has been moved due to my grandpa being scheduled for an eye surgery, and therefore I would have to push my start date back to August 17th. With that being said, it's an important event that relies on my attendance, but I'm really uncomfortable about asking to postpone my start date yet again. Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still doable?
professionalism job-offer
asked Jul 26 '15 at 4:33
Maya
712
asked Jul 26 '15 at 4:33
Maya
712
asked Jul 26 '15 at 4:33
Maya
712
asked Jul 26 '15 at 4:33
Maya
712
712
closed as off-topic by Jane S♦, scaaahu, yochannah, gnat, Joel Etherton Jul 27 '15 at 17:14
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Jane S, scaaahu, yochannah, gnat, Joel Etherton
closed as off-topic by Jane S♦, scaaahu, yochannah, gnat, Joel Etherton Jul 27 '15 at 17:14
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Jane S, scaaahu, yochannah, gnat, Joel Etherton
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Is the wedding yours or your relative's?
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 4:42
that relies on my attendance - If you're that critical to the event, and date of the family affair is flexible, can your family adjust the date so it's on a weekend?
– BSMP
Jul 26 '15 at 4:45
The wedding is my best friend's, and unfortunately the date is set. It works for everyone else in my family because it's during their holidays.
– Maya
Jul 26 '15 at 5:13
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A question for you. Suppose the wedding schedule is changed again, are you going to change your start date again? This question is my answer to your question.
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 5:17
Miss the wedding - if he or she is a good friend they will understand
– Ed Heal
Jul 26 '15 at 7:25
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Is the wedding yours or your relative's?
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 4:42
that relies on my attendance - If you're that critical to the event, and date of the family affair is flexible, can your family adjust the date so it's on a weekend?
– BSMP
Jul 26 '15 at 4:45
The wedding is my best friend's, and unfortunately the date is set. It works for everyone else in my family because it's during their holidays.
– Maya
Jul 26 '15 at 5:13
2
A question for you. Suppose the wedding schedule is changed again, are you going to change your start date again? This question is my answer to your question.
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 5:17
Miss the wedding - if he or she is a good friend they will understand
– Ed Heal
Jul 26 '15 at 7:25
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Is the wedding yours or your relative's?
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 4:42
Is the wedding yours or your relative's?
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 4:42
that relies on my attendance - If you're that critical to the event, and date of the family affair is flexible, can your family adjust the date so it's on a weekend?
– BSMP
Jul 26 '15 at 4:45
that relies on my attendance - If you're that critical to the event, and date of the family affair is flexible, can your family adjust the date so it's on a weekend?
– BSMP
Jul 26 '15 at 4:45
The wedding is my best friend's, and unfortunately the date is set. It works for everyone else in my family because it's during their holidays.
– Maya
Jul 26 '15 at 5:13
The wedding is my best friend's, and unfortunately the date is set. It works for everyone else in my family because it's during their holidays.
– Maya
Jul 26 '15 at 5:13
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A question for you. Suppose the wedding schedule is changed again, are you going to change your start date again? This question is my answer to your question.
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 5:17
A question for you. Suppose the wedding schedule is changed again, are you going to change your start date again? This question is my answer to your question.
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 5:17
Miss the wedding - if he or she is a good friend they will understand
– Ed Heal
Jul 26 '15 at 7:25
Miss the wedding - if he or she is a good friend they will understand
– Ed Heal
Jul 26 '15 at 7:25
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Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain
the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still
doable?
You should explain the situation to your new employer, and ask if a change is still doable. If you had already been granted an extension to August 10, an additional 7 days is unlikely to matter much.
Reassure your employer that you still want and are excited about the job, but this is an important unexpected family situation.
If you sense much reluctance on the part of your boss, and it isn't critical that you change your schedule that you might decide to meet your work commitment. That's something you'll have to decide on the fly.
Talk with them as soon as possible, so both they and you can prepare accordingly.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
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NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
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Your family affair had to be postponed due to your grandpa's eye surgery. If your family felt they had no choice but to postpone their event by one week, then as part of the family, you don't have much of a choice but to postpone, too.
You were originally slated to start 10 Aug or about three weeks from today. That's probably far enough in the future that asking for a one-week postponement wouldn't be significantly disruptive to your employer. If your employer has to get their ducks lined up by 10 Aug to onboard you, you are giving them an extra week to line up their ducks.
The sooner you ask, the less you inconvenience your employer. Since you posted your question Sunday today, make your request to your employer first thing in the morning on Monday.
Take this episode as an opportunity to showcase yourself as as an excellent, reliable, responsible professional. Apologize for any convenience your request is causing, explain the obvious: your grandpa's eye surgery that caused the family event to be postponed by one week is an event that is beyond your control. And re-iterate your interest in working with your employer.
This is life, stuff happens.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:06
Vietnhi Phuvan
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2 Answers
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up vote
6
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Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain
the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still
doable?
You should explain the situation to your new employer, and ask if a change is still doable. If you had already been granted an extension to August 10, an additional 7 days is unlikely to matter much.
Reassure your employer that you still want and are excited about the job, but this is an important unexpected family situation.
If you sense much reluctance on the part of your boss, and it isn't critical that you change your schedule that you might decide to meet your work commitment. That's something you'll have to decide on the fly.
Talk with them as soon as possible, so both they and you can prepare accordingly.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
223k106656922
NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
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up vote
6
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Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain
the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still
doable?
You should explain the situation to your new employer, and ask if a change is still doable. If you had already been granted an extension to August 10, an additional 7 days is unlikely to matter much.
Reassure your employer that you still want and are excited about the job, but this is an important unexpected family situation.
If you sense much reluctance on the part of your boss, and it isn't critical that you change your schedule that you might decide to meet your work commitment. That's something you'll have to decide on the fly.
Talk with them as soon as possible, so both they and you can prepare accordingly.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
223k106656922
NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
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up vote
6
down vote
up vote
6
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Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain
the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still
doable?
You should explain the situation to your new employer, and ask if a change is still doable. If you had already been granted an extension to August 10, an additional 7 days is unlikely to matter much.
Reassure your employer that you still want and are excited about the job, but this is an important unexpected family situation.
If you sense much reluctance on the part of your boss, and it isn't critical that you change your schedule that you might decide to meet your work commitment. That's something you'll have to decide on the fly.
Talk with them as soon as possible, so both they and you can prepare accordingly.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
223k106656922
Should I commit to what I have already confirmed or should I explain
the situation to my new employer and ask if the change is still
doable?
You should explain the situation to your new employer, and ask if a change is still doable. If you had already been granted an extension to August 10, an additional 7 days is unlikely to matter much.
Reassure your employer that you still want and are excited about the job, but this is an important unexpected family situation.
If you sense much reluctance on the part of your boss, and it isn't critical that you change your schedule that you might decide to meet your work commitment. That's something you'll have to decide on the fly.
Talk with them as soon as possible, so both they and you can prepare accordingly.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
223k106656922
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
223k106656922
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
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answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:18
Joe Strazzere
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223k106656922
NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
suggest improvements |Â
NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
NO, don't do that. Even just asking will raise a red flag for them and make the OP seem flaky.
– Jack
Jul 27 '15 at 1:11
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
Given a full explanation of the circumstances, if the employer wants to make a red flag of the situation then this behaviour would be a red flag for me against that employer for not being compassionate or understanding. As Joe said - talk sooner, rather than later!
– HorusKol
Jul 27 '15 at 1:16
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
6
down vote
Your family affair had to be postponed due to your grandpa's eye surgery. If your family felt they had no choice but to postpone their event by one week, then as part of the family, you don't have much of a choice but to postpone, too.
You were originally slated to start 10 Aug or about three weeks from today. That's probably far enough in the future that asking for a one-week postponement wouldn't be significantly disruptive to your employer. If your employer has to get their ducks lined up by 10 Aug to onboard you, you are giving them an extra week to line up their ducks.
The sooner you ask, the less you inconvenience your employer. Since you posted your question Sunday today, make your request to your employer first thing in the morning on Monday.
Take this episode as an opportunity to showcase yourself as as an excellent, reliable, responsible professional. Apologize for any convenience your request is causing, explain the obvious: your grandpa's eye surgery that caused the family event to be postponed by one week is an event that is beyond your control. And re-iterate your interest in working with your employer.
This is life, stuff happens.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:06
Vietnhi Phuvan
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up vote
6
down vote
Your family affair had to be postponed due to your grandpa's eye surgery. If your family felt they had no choice but to postpone their event by one week, then as part of the family, you don't have much of a choice but to postpone, too.
You were originally slated to start 10 Aug or about three weeks from today. That's probably far enough in the future that asking for a one-week postponement wouldn't be significantly disruptive to your employer. If your employer has to get their ducks lined up by 10 Aug to onboard you, you are giving them an extra week to line up their ducks.
The sooner you ask, the less you inconvenience your employer. Since you posted your question Sunday today, make your request to your employer first thing in the morning on Monday.
Take this episode as an opportunity to showcase yourself as as an excellent, reliable, responsible professional. Apologize for any convenience your request is causing, explain the obvious: your grandpa's eye surgery that caused the family event to be postponed by one week is an event that is beyond your control. And re-iterate your interest in working with your employer.
This is life, stuff happens.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:06
Vietnhi Phuvan
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up vote
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Your family affair had to be postponed due to your grandpa's eye surgery. If your family felt they had no choice but to postpone their event by one week, then as part of the family, you don't have much of a choice but to postpone, too.
You were originally slated to start 10 Aug or about three weeks from today. That's probably far enough in the future that asking for a one-week postponement wouldn't be significantly disruptive to your employer. If your employer has to get their ducks lined up by 10 Aug to onboard you, you are giving them an extra week to line up their ducks.
The sooner you ask, the less you inconvenience your employer. Since you posted your question Sunday today, make your request to your employer first thing in the morning on Monday.
Take this episode as an opportunity to showcase yourself as as an excellent, reliable, responsible professional. Apologize for any convenience your request is causing, explain the obvious: your grandpa's eye surgery that caused the family event to be postponed by one week is an event that is beyond your control. And re-iterate your interest in working with your employer.
This is life, stuff happens.
answered Jul 26 '15 at 13:06
Vietnhi Phuvan
68.9k7118254
Your family affair had to be postponed due to your grandpa's eye surgery. If your family felt they had no choice but to postpone their event by one week, then as part of the family, you don't have much of a choice but to postpone, too.
You were originally slated to start 10 Aug or about three weeks from today. That's probably far enough in the future that asking for a one-week postponement wouldn't be significantly disruptive to your employer. If your employer has to get their ducks lined up by 10 Aug to onboard you, you are giving them an extra week to line up their ducks.
The sooner you ask, the less you inconvenience your employer. Since you posted your question Sunday today, make your request to your employer first thing in the morning on Monday.
Take this episode as an opportunity to showcase yourself as as an excellent, reliable, responsible professional. Apologize for any convenience your request is causing, explain the obvious: your grandpa's eye surgery that caused the family event to be postponed by one week is an event that is beyond your control. And re-iterate your interest in working with your employer.
This is life, stuff happens.
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Is the wedding yours or your relative's?
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 4:42
that relies on my attendance - If you're that critical to the event, and date of the family affair is flexible, can your family adjust the date so it's on a weekend?
– BSMP
Jul 26 '15 at 4:45
The wedding is my best friend's, and unfortunately the date is set. It works for everyone else in my family because it's during their holidays.
– Maya
Jul 26 '15 at 5:13
2
A question for you. Suppose the wedding schedule is changed again, are you going to change your start date again? This question is my answer to your question.
– scaaahu
Jul 26 '15 at 5:17
Miss the wedding - if he or she is a good friend they will understand
– Ed Heal
Jul 26 '15 at 7:25