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I've recently joined a new company and I want to make the best impression with my new colleagues. About a month ago a new member of staff joined our team.
Occasionally at lunchtimes I like to go running, to clear my head and get out of the office. The new member of staff has asked to join me on my runs. I prefer to spend this time alone as it gives me time to think uninterrupted thoughts (sometimes work related, sometimes not).
Am I being unreasonable by not taking him up on his offer? Are lunch breaks really work time, not personal time? If so, does that mean I should include him in my activity?
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asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
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I've recently joined a new company and I want to make the best impression with my new colleagues. About a month ago a new member of staff joined our team.
Occasionally at lunchtimes I like to go running, to clear my head and get out of the office. The new member of staff has asked to join me on my runs. I prefer to spend this time alone as it gives me time to think uninterrupted thoughts (sometimes work related, sometimes not).
Am I being unreasonable by not taking him up on his offer? Are lunch breaks really work time, not personal time? If so, does that mean I should include him in my activity?
colleagues lunch non-work-activities
asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
GordonX
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closed as off-topic by Joe Strazzere, Jim G., gnat, Jane S♦ Aug 5 '15 at 20:55
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Joe Strazzere, Jim G., gnat, Jane S
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While a different topic, this answer could also be applicable to you.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 15:59
@crh225 You think that he should let the coworker join, whereas I think he has every right to say no. The fact that we disagree shows that the answer is not trivial.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 16:57
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I've recently joined a new company and I want to make the best impression with my new colleagues. About a month ago a new member of staff joined our team.
Occasionally at lunchtimes I like to go running, to clear my head and get out of the office. The new member of staff has asked to join me on my runs. I prefer to spend this time alone as it gives me time to think uninterrupted thoughts (sometimes work related, sometimes not).
Am I being unreasonable by not taking him up on his offer? Are lunch breaks really work time, not personal time? If so, does that mean I should include him in my activity?
colleagues lunch non-work-activities
asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
GordonX
598
I've recently joined a new company and I want to make the best impression with my new colleagues. About a month ago a new member of staff joined our team.
Occasionally at lunchtimes I like to go running, to clear my head and get out of the office. The new member of staff has asked to join me on my runs. I prefer to spend this time alone as it gives me time to think uninterrupted thoughts (sometimes work related, sometimes not).
Am I being unreasonable by not taking him up on his offer? Are lunch breaks really work time, not personal time? If so, does that mean I should include him in my activity?
colleagues lunch non-work-activities
asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
GordonX
598
asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
GordonX
598
asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
GordonX
598
asked Aug 5 '15 at 15:49
GordonX
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closed as off-topic by Joe Strazzere, Jim G., gnat, Jane S♦ Aug 5 '15 at 20:55
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Joe Strazzere, Jim G., gnat, Jane S
closed as off-topic by Joe Strazzere, Jim G., gnat, Jane S♦ Aug 5 '15 at 20:55
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Joe Strazzere, Jim G., gnat, Jane S
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While a different topic, this answer could also be applicable to you.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 15:59
@crh225 You think that he should let the coworker join, whereas I think he has every right to say no. The fact that we disagree shows that the answer is not trivial.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 16:57
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While a different topic, this answer could also be applicable to you.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 15:59
@crh225 You think that he should let the coworker join, whereas I think he has every right to say no. The fact that we disagree shows that the answer is not trivial.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 16:57
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While a different topic, this answer could also be applicable to you.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 15:59
While a different topic, this answer could also be applicable to you.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 15:59
@crh225 You think that he should let the coworker join, whereas I think he has every right to say no. The fact that we disagree shows that the answer is not trivial.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 16:57
@crh225 You think that he should let the coworker join, whereas I think he has every right to say no. The fact that we disagree shows that the answer is not trivial.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 16:57
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It's not being unreasonable to want to run alone and there's nothing wrong with continuing the practice. Some people like to socialize while they exercise and others don't. A simple way to respond:
I appreciate your interest in joining me however I prefer to run alone because I like to think and work stuff out in my head while I run. It's private time for me.
If you felt inclined you could offer alternative methods of socializing with the individual, such as talking during a coffee break, a drink after work, having lunch together on those days you don't go running, etc. This strategy makes is clear that it's not that you don't want to socialize with the person, it's just this particular activity that you want to keep for yourself.
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
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It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
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It's not being unreasonable to want to run alone and there's nothing wrong with continuing the practice. Some people like to socialize while they exercise and others don't. A simple way to respond:
I appreciate your interest in joining me however I prefer to run alone because I like to think and work stuff out in my head while I run. It's private time for me.
If you felt inclined you could offer alternative methods of socializing with the individual, such as talking during a coffee break, a drink after work, having lunch together on those days you don't go running, etc. This strategy makes is clear that it's not that you don't want to socialize with the person, it's just this particular activity that you want to keep for yourself.
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
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It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
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up vote
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It's not being unreasonable to want to run alone and there's nothing wrong with continuing the practice. Some people like to socialize while they exercise and others don't. A simple way to respond:
I appreciate your interest in joining me however I prefer to run alone because I like to think and work stuff out in my head while I run. It's private time for me.
If you felt inclined you could offer alternative methods of socializing with the individual, such as talking during a coffee break, a drink after work, having lunch together on those days you don't go running, etc. This strategy makes is clear that it's not that you don't want to socialize with the person, it's just this particular activity that you want to keep for yourself.
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
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It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
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up vote
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up vote
8
down vote
It's not being unreasonable to want to run alone and there's nothing wrong with continuing the practice. Some people like to socialize while they exercise and others don't. A simple way to respond:
I appreciate your interest in joining me however I prefer to run alone because I like to think and work stuff out in my head while I run. It's private time for me.
If you felt inclined you could offer alternative methods of socializing with the individual, such as talking during a coffee break, a drink after work, having lunch together on those days you don't go running, etc. This strategy makes is clear that it's not that you don't want to socialize with the person, it's just this particular activity that you want to keep for yourself.
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
720510
It's not being unreasonable to want to run alone and there's nothing wrong with continuing the practice. Some people like to socialize while they exercise and others don't. A simple way to respond:
I appreciate your interest in joining me however I prefer to run alone because I like to think and work stuff out in my head while I run. It's private time for me.
If you felt inclined you could offer alternative methods of socializing with the individual, such as talking during a coffee break, a drink after work, having lunch together on those days you don't go running, etc. This strategy makes is clear that it's not that you don't want to socialize with the person, it's just this particular activity that you want to keep for yourself.
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
720510
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
720510
answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
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answered Aug 5 '15 at 17:26
KenB
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720510
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It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
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8
It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
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8
It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
It might also be kind to offer to run with the new colleague a couple of times to show them good running routes near the office.
– Patricia Shanahan
Aug 5 '15 at 17:39
suggest improvements |Â
2
While a different topic, this answer could also be applicable to you.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 15:59
@crh225 You think that he should let the coworker join, whereas I think he has every right to say no. The fact that we disagree shows that the answer is not trivial.
– David K
Aug 5 '15 at 16:57