Is it okay to ask how many women are on the team I'd be working with?

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Would asking this get me branded as someone likely to cause trouble (make frivolous complaints about discrimination, etc.)? Is there a better way to go about asking this? All I'd be looking for is that there's at least one other woman.

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  As a male who has previously felt isolated in school or college classes that were all or nearly-all female, I think this is a very good question. Although, as pointed out by bethlakshmi and Mr Fox, the individual traits of people are typically more important than their gender - one girl in that class was nice enough to talk and work with me and even walk to town or the bus stop with me, none of the others ever attempted to even talk to me. Personally I believe (and hope) that was because of their personalities, and not because they were female and I was male.
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  @Pharap, at that age, it may be assumed by their friends that they were going out with you if the spend any time with you.
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  @Ian Even if that were the case, (which I think is extremely unlikely for a multitude of reasons), that's still not really a reason to not talk to me at all. And when I say 'at all' I mean over half of them literally never spoke to me once, not even to say hello in passing.
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  @Ian Also this is British college so the age range varies from 17 to adult students, meaning I have no idea how old the other students were.
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Would asking this get me branded as someone likely to cause trouble (make frivolous complaints about discrimination, etc.)? Is there a better way to go about asking this? All I'd be looking for is that there's at least one other woman.

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  As a male who has previously felt isolated in school or college classes that were all or nearly-all female, I think this is a very good question. Although, as pointed out by bethlakshmi and Mr Fox, the individual traits of people are typically more important than their gender - one girl in that class was nice enough to talk and work with me and even walk to town or the bus stop with me, none of the others ever attempted to even talk to me. Personally I believe (and hope) that was because of their personalities, and not because they were female and I was male.
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  @Pharap, at that age, it may be assumed by their friends that they were going out with you if the spend any time with you.
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  @Ian Even if that were the case, (which I think is extremely unlikely for a multitude of reasons), that's still not really a reason to not talk to me at all. And when I say 'at all' I mean over half of them literally never spoke to me once, not even to say hello in passing.
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  @Ian Also this is British college so the age range varies from 17 to adult students, meaning I have no idea how old the other students were.
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Would asking this get me branded as someone likely to cause trouble (make frivolous complaints about discrimination, etc.)? Is there a better way to go about asking this? All I'd be looking for is that there's at least one other woman.

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Would asking this get me branded as someone likely to cause trouble (make frivolous complaints about discrimination, etc.)? Is there a better way to go about asking this? All I'd be looking for is that there's at least one other woman.

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  @Pharap, at that age, it may be assumed by their friends that they were going out with you if the spend any time with you.
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  @Ian Even if that were the case, (which I think is extremely unlikely for a multitude of reasons), that's still not really a reason to not talk to me at all. And when I say 'at all' I mean over half of them literally never spoke to me once, not even to say hello in passing.
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  @Ian Also this is British college so the age range varies from 17 to adult students, meaning I have no idea how old the other students were.
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  As a male who has previously felt isolated in school or college classes that were all or nearly-all female, I think this is a very good question. Although, as pointed out by bethlakshmi and Mr Fox, the individual traits of people are typically more important than their gender - one girl in that class was nice enough to talk and work with me and even walk to town or the bus stop with me, none of the others ever attempted to even talk to me. Personally I believe (and hope) that was because of their personalities, and not because they were female and I was male.
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  @Pharap, at that age, it may be assumed by their friends that they were going out with you if the spend any time with you.
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  @Ian Even if that were the case, (which I think is extremely unlikely for a multitude of reasons), that's still not really a reason to not talk to me at all. And when I say 'at all' I mean over half of them literally never spoke to me once, not even to say hello in passing.
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  @Ian Also this is British college so the age range varies from 17 to adult students, meaning I have no idea how old the other students were.
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As a male who has previously felt isolated in school or college classes that were all or nearly-all female, I think this is a very good question. Although, as pointed out by bethlakshmi and Mr Fox, the individual traits of people are typically more important than their gender - one girl in that class was nice enough to talk and work with me and even walk to town or the bus stop with me, none of the others ever attempted to even talk to me. Personally I believe (and hope) that was because of their personalities, and not because they were female and I was male.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 5:09

As a male who has previously felt isolated in school or college classes that were all or nearly-all female, I think this is a very good question. Although, as pointed out by bethlakshmi and Mr Fox, the individual traits of people are typically more important than their gender - one girl in that class was nice enough to talk and work with me and even walk to town or the bus stop with me, none of the others ever attempted to even talk to me. Personally I believe (and hope) that was because of their personalities, and not because they were female and I was male.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 5:09

@Pharap, at that age, it may be assumed by their friends that they were going out with you if the spend any time with you.
– Ian
May 27 '16 at 14:38

@Pharap, at that age, it may be assumed by their friends that they were going out with you if the spend any time with you.
– Ian
May 27 '16 at 14:38

@Ian Even if that were the case, (which I think is extremely unlikely for a multitude of reasons), that's still not really a reason to not talk to me at all. And when I say 'at all' I mean over half of them literally never spoke to me once, not even to say hello in passing.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 19:38

@Ian Even if that were the case, (which I think is extremely unlikely for a multitude of reasons), that's still not really a reason to not talk to me at all. And when I say 'at all' I mean over half of them literally never spoke to me once, not even to say hello in passing.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 19:38

@Ian Also this is British college so the age range varies from 17 to adult students, meaning I have no idea how old the other students were.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 20:32

@Ian Also this is British college so the age range varies from 17 to adult students, meaning I have no idea how old the other students were.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 20:32

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As a hiring manager, I address diversity head-on both in job postings and in conversations with candidates -- no matter if the candidates are men or women. I strive to build diverse teams in terms of gender, experience level, skills, etc, and point it out when we achieve it, and talk about deficiencies when we don't. That is not the case with every company.

If diversity is important to a candidate, it is completely reasonable for the candidate to ask about the diversity of the team you may be joining, especially if it is not apparent in the interview or your interactions with potential teammates.

If diversity in terms of gender is important to a woman, and all she sees are men in the interview (or vice versa), it is completely reasonable to ask if there are women on the team (or men, on the flip side).

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• If diversity in terms of experience level is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are super senior people and no juniors, asking if there are intermediate or junior people is a completely reasonable thing to ask.


• If diversity in terms of skillsets is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are front-end developers in the interview room for a back-end development position, asking if there are other back-end developers is a completely reasonable thing to ask.

I gave those other examples because getting a full picture of the team you're joining is important (obviously!) and if something is important to you and you can't figure out the answer based on what you see or hear in your interview, you have to find out somehow.

Asking clarifying questions, no matter if it's about gender diversity or technical stack or corporate finances, is always appropriate. Now, how you ask about this or any question in the discovery process is important.

For example:

• "So, what's with all the brogrammers? Don't you have any women?" is probably not the best way to ask this particular question.


• "Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?" would give you a way in to a conversation where you could figure out the company's approach toward achieving gender balance, or awareness of issues surrounding lack of gender diversity (or even issues surrounding diversity)

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  @JoeStrazzere Yes, I believe it is equally ok for the candidate to ask anything. While some locales prohibit what interviewers can ask, I don't believe the same is true for candidates doing the asking. The more personal the topic, the more likely it is the company won't have an answer, though. For example, if someone asked me the religious makeup of my team, I'd have no idea -- but I'd say that, and let the candidate know that people hold their religion (if any) close to the vest. If the candidate wants an environment where religion is prominent, they'd know it wasn't a good fit.
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  The last question is almost perfect: a leading question like that should be a conversation starter. If the discussion falters, that's a danger sign.
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  Should diversify be pursued for diversity's sake?
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  Good answer, but I would never phrase it as the (over-politically correct?) "talk [..] in terms of gender balance". What's wrong about just asking something like "How many men and women are on the team?"?
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  @JanDoggen “How many men and women are on the team?” Exactly. The problem I have with the “Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?” it really dances around the issue. In my experience hiring managers will never be 100% clear unless the issue is very clearly mention. I am also not too sure about avoiding the “brogrammers” mindset. As a male developer/admin I have to honestly say I cannot stand brogrammers nor can I stand the culture that encourages their B.S. It can be asked subtly & if the talk degrades to beer pong & B.S. then there is your answer.
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It is okay to ask this question.

That doesn't mean it won't get you branded.

Some people are jerks and view feminism as the root of all evil and brand you just for that. Others have (legitimately) had bad experiences with women actually causing trouble that also were vocal about, say, male to female ratio in teams.

It's hard to say what will get you branded in the heads of people but that doesn't mean you should anticipate or work around it.

Be open about your needs and worries. If you get branded or treated negatively for it, that employer or team is not the right one for you.

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  There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
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  I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
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  @user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
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  I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
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  @Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
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It's a question that may raise eyebrows.

What you can do though, which answers your question, is ask them for a tour of the office, during which you'll get a decent sense of the culture and whether you would be comfortable there.
That's always a good idea even if you were happy being the only woman, it answers a load of other questions about the company too.

I've had a tour of an office where a developer had a huge poster of a woman in a bikini on the wall, which was pretty off putting. (I took the job though as this was a small negative in a ton of positives!) I'm the only female, but I'm pretty used to it now, having been the same in previous roles.

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  I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
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  @Anon If they've brought you in for a face-to-face interview, it's not unreasonable to ask for a brief look at the general workspace to get a feel for the environment. More common in smaller companies, but there's no harm asking.
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  The tour also reveals a whole lot of other aspects, from the office layout ("open plan, huh. So productivity isn't something you care about") to developer equipment ("two monitors is good. But a desk big enough to fit two monitors would make that work better"). And so on.
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  @Ӎσᶎ Exactly, I can't imagine accepting a job offer without having a snoop round first!
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  Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
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Certainly you're welcome to make any decision you choose in terms of a workplace - as far as I'm concerned. But I'll offer a thought - that assuming that an all-male team won't be sensitive or communicative or a good fit for you personally is almost as prejudicial as an all male team assuming that a woman wouldn't fit - and I'd fight valiantly either way to have all people give it a shot personally before you say it's an absolute failure. Point of reference, I'm a woman and I have worked on all male teams, and enjoyed it a great deal. I've been the only woman as an individual contributor, I've been the only woman and a boss, I've been the only woman on a team of bosses where I was not the leader of the group. In all cases, I'd offer that the joys and challenges of being on the team came from the open mindedness and professionalism of all involved, and not from gender.

Take it as you will.

With that said - I think you're most positive ways of asking about team composition are to stay away from the specific question "is this team all male?" and focus on the team composition. Here's a few thoughts that might prompt a discussion:

• Tell me about the team - I'd love some thoughts on what perspectives you are looking for?




• What's your approach (to the boss) for diversity?




• How does this company view diversity and seek to develop it?




• Are there support structures for those who are in a minority group?

This will help form a picture of the company as a whole. I'd offer that even an all woman team probably isn't so great if you don't get promoted, don't get recognition of your work and don't get listened to when you interact with other teams - so the real goal here is to figure out how this company supports diversity, what do they do when there are interaction problems due to diversity, what do they do with the non-dominant demographic to make sure they aren't simply run over by the dominant majority?

Even as a woman, I'm not sure how I'd feel if a candidate asked me in an interview about the gender composition of the team. I always worry with any team that ideas and support are shared across the whole team. Certainly individuals will form closer ties with each other - some people are just easier to collaborate with, and sometimes like attracts like - but I want to know that the team is more likely to work as a single unit than for some subset of the team to split into a "them" vs. "us" dynamic. Granted, I don't think that every time someone asks a gender balance question that this is really what they are thinking, but in an interview, where everyone is fairly nervous and remote, it's very hard to get a read on what they do mean.

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  This is the answer. People should see people, not genders, or races, etc.
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  It's a funny call - part of who people are is their gender. Do I see the world a certain way because I'm a woman? Yes. I see the world the way I do because of all the things I am - including some of the protected characteristics, but also because of my personal experiences. I want any team I'm on or that I run to be willing and able to respect any and all of my opinions and choices regardless of what part of me they emanate from and regardless of the differences between us. Peace on Earth. Peace out. :)
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  @bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
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  I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with asking the question, but I would point out the following...

• The fact that you are being interviewed for the job suggests that the hiring manager has no issue with the gender of his/her candidates.


• Even if you were the first woman to (potentially) be hired to this particular department, that doesn't necessarily imply any gender bias. If it is a small department it could simply be luck of the draw that for past openings the best candidate available at the time happened to be male. If it is a large department, I would be somewhat more skeptical.


• Somebody has to be the first... if diversity is lacking maybe you can be part of breaking the cycle. Perhaps once you've established yourself you will be in a position to raise awareness.

As for how to bring it up, if you're concerned that a direct question might sound accusatory or otherwise negative you could break the ice with a more indirect question. Something like "So I'm trying to envision the team I'd be working on, what can you tell me about it... is it a large team, small team, etc." Sometimes just starting down this road will naturally lead the conversation where you want it to go.

Also, I don't know about the company you're dealing with but at my place of employment it seems like every manager has an org chart within reach. If you express an interest in how the department is organized you might actually get a look at one which would allow you to infer the number of women by the names.

I have no problem with direct questions but if you are looking for a tactful way to broach the subject this is how I would open.

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  Thanks. My concern would be about whether I'd enjoy working there, rather than fear of discrimination, though.
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  I actually disagree with the first bullet - companies interview for all sorts of reasons and sometimes being able to say you interviewed a certain demographic is desirable, whether or not you hire any of them. In other words - your hiring selection criteria can be discriminatory even if your interview selection criteria are not.
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  Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
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I don't think you need to "mark yourself out" in asking this. At the point of your questions just ask for a simple breakdown of the team/roles, you will likely get some specifics (even if just he/she when discussing members), if necessary you can drop in a quick question about male/female ratio.

The main thing is to casually drop it into the questions, people are likely to over-react if you make it a big point, just be subtle.

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Yes.

My sense is that if the interviewer is consciously seeking to address a gender imbalance, then he or she will bring the issue up first anyway. ("By the way, we have 10 developers, only two of which of are women: how would you feel about working in that type of environment?").

If the interviewer doesn't bring it up first, there's frequently a point towards the end where the good interviewer asks, "Do you have any questions or concerns about us?" That may be the time to address the topic, almost as if it were an afterthought, even though it may not be.

Job interviews have so much sensory overload and so many agendas--you are constantly sizing up each other, looking for the slightest clues to justify a large, important decision -- my advice is to keep things as light as possible, while being as up front as the situation allows with respect to your needs and expectations.

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First, clarifying the problem. After reading the many comments, discussion and answers it all seems to boil to the fact that this question could be taken one of two ways:

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  The real intent of the question: the asker wants a good working relationship with her colleagues and is concerned because this job might lack something she hasn't been without before.
  
  • So long as she doesn't come across as inflexible, it's a positive thing to be a sociable team player who cares about the quality of their working relationships.
  
  


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So it is definitely an acceptable question to ask, and potentially a positive question, but there's a risk it might give a negative impression.

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So the problem becomes: how to avoid that negative impression. I'm surprised that no-one has yet mentioned context and framing.

If she asks a simple "Would I be the only female?" in a discussion where the context is that she is a team player who is used to having strong working relationships and wants to be sure that she's moving to somewhere with a positive atmosphere where she will fit in and thrive, then that question is simply another example of her taking the move seriously and finding out what working here will be like. It fits in the context of the conversation, and that context is positive.

The risk comes in if she asks the same question out of the blue. The lack of context makes it sound like a rigid arbitrary demand.

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So the problem becomes: how to turn an interview around to that sort of context?

It depends on the person and the interview, but it could go something like:

• Interviewer asks: any other questions?


• Interviewee asks about the roles of the people she'd be working with directly and how her role fits with theirs.
  
  • Discussion of the team. Interviewee gets to show that she understands team dynamics
  
  
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• Interviewee then mentions (for example) things like social activities they were involved in at their previous job, and how great they were for team building, networking and strengthening relationships with colleagues. Is there anything like that here?
  
  • Conversation where interview is taking an active interest in what it's like to be part of this team
  
  
  • As part of this conversation: "So would I be the only female?".
  
  

It fits the context of the conversation and doesn't jut out. It's clear from context that this isn't some arbitrary condition or demand, but is one part of her (positive) interest in working somewhere with a great dynamic.

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Context is a massive influence on how things are perceived. Use it!

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If this is critical to you in making the decsion, then yes ask the question. However, be aware that in doing so, you may be severely limiting your employment options. You are in an industry that is very lopsided in terms of gender. By asking that question you frankly come across as less confident that someone who doesn't ask such questions. You also tend to weed yourself out of the running if there are currenlty no women even if they are fine working with women.

I think perhaps you are mistaking the reason for other women's bad experiences and thus are considering asking the wrong question. I have been the only woman many, many times and occasionally it has been bad and mostly it has been fine. And I've worked one place where the only person who was a problem to work with was the only other woman. It has come down to corporate culture in the end, not male/female ratio. So what you are interested in might really be how the people in the office treat each other.

It is hard to ask good culture questions. However, you can deduce alot from how you are treated in the interview and from a good walk around of the office spaces. Watch to see how people relate to each other as you walk through. Is there eveidence of a lot of inappropriate humor or sexual type pictures? Do all the men seem to be young and single? Do they play alot of games? Do they work 90 hours a week? Those tend to be the places where I found women are less comfortable. You may be looking for other things. But think about the kind of culture you want more than the male/female ratio.

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Just ask to meet/see the team you'll be working with. The entire team.

Say you're interviewing with 3 people and the time for "questions" comes. At that time say "I'd like to meet the team." What will probably happen is they'll take you over to the area where your to-be-teammates are. If you don't see any other women on the team, then simply don't join.

You, as the job hunter, are responsible for investigating the environment you are placing yourself in.

Sometimes, it is better to ask a question, or request to see something, which will indirectly get the response to a question in your mind, without asking that question explicitly, or having the recruiters ever even know that (working with a woman) was a concern of yours.

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I think you're entitled to asking about this and it's perfectly reasonable to do so, as it's not just them looking for a candidate, but also you looking for a job that attracts you.

However, please consider the actual relevance of this.

Consider for example a male looking for a job as a secretary or nurse, where according to this study most workers are female. Should he ask "How many males will I be working with"? It's the same situation.

Since matters of race and gender are frequently put together, this is similar to a white person going to Africa or a black person going to Russia and asking "How many white/black people will I be working with?". I don't see a problem with it, others might. If they do, that's not the company for you, simple :)

Edit: I believe one good way to ask this, instead, is to ask if the company embraces diversity of viewpoints as a core value. Chances are, an aversity to work with men would come to bite you sooner or later, so just expecting and providing respectfulness will make work better, no matter the genders.

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Yes, but not directly...

The 1st thing to consider is your intention which you have already informed about knowing whether there are other women in the team, its natural !

You can ask this sort of sensitive question through policy details. You can ask, "Hey, I would like to know if you have specific policies designed for women to empower, support, and encourage them to be a multi-tasker for a work-life balance."

Wait for an answer, smile to any reply they give and then display a thinking face asking "Will there be supporting opportunities like IJPs (Internal Job Postings); etc., for women to swap teams who have been long staying in the same team and look for a change ? For eg., in the team I am about to join which has a strength of 8 people, will that include any women too....?"

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As a hiring manager, I address diversity head-on both in job postings and in conversations with candidates -- no matter if the candidates are men or women. I strive to build diverse teams in terms of gender, experience level, skills, etc, and point it out when we achieve it, and talk about deficiencies when we don't. That is not the case with every company.

If diversity is important to a candidate, it is completely reasonable for the candidate to ask about the diversity of the team you may be joining, especially if it is not apparent in the interview or your interactions with potential teammates.

If diversity in terms of gender is important to a woman, and all she sees are men in the interview (or vice versa), it is completely reasonable to ask if there are women on the team (or men, on the flip side).

Similarly...

• If diversity in terms of experience level is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are super senior people and no juniors, asking if there are intermediate or junior people is a completely reasonable thing to ask.


• If diversity in terms of skillsets is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are front-end developers in the interview room for a back-end development position, asking if there are other back-end developers is a completely reasonable thing to ask.

I gave those other examples because getting a full picture of the team you're joining is important (obviously!) and if something is important to you and you can't figure out the answer based on what you see or hear in your interview, you have to find out somehow.

Asking clarifying questions, no matter if it's about gender diversity or technical stack or corporate finances, is always appropriate. Now, how you ask about this or any question in the discovery process is important.

For example:

• "So, what's with all the brogrammers? Don't you have any women?" is probably not the best way to ask this particular question.


• "Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?" would give you a way in to a conversation where you could figure out the company's approach toward achieving gender balance, or awareness of issues surrounding lack of gender diversity (or even issues surrounding diversity)

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  @JoeStrazzere Yes, I believe it is equally ok for the candidate to ask anything. While some locales prohibit what interviewers can ask, I don't believe the same is true for candidates doing the asking. The more personal the topic, the more likely it is the company won't have an answer, though. For example, if someone asked me the religious makeup of my team, I'd have no idea -- but I'd say that, and let the candidate know that people hold their religion (if any) close to the vest. If the candidate wants an environment where religion is prominent, they'd know it wasn't a good fit.
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As a hiring manager, I address diversity head-on both in job postings and in conversations with candidates -- no matter if the candidates are men or women. I strive to build diverse teams in terms of gender, experience level, skills, etc, and point it out when we achieve it, and talk about deficiencies when we don't. That is not the case with every company.

If diversity is important to a candidate, it is completely reasonable for the candidate to ask about the diversity of the team you may be joining, especially if it is not apparent in the interview or your interactions with potential teammates.

If diversity in terms of gender is important to a woman, and all she sees are men in the interview (or vice versa), it is completely reasonable to ask if there are women on the team (or men, on the flip side).

Similarly...

• If diversity in terms of experience level is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are super senior people and no juniors, asking if there are intermediate or junior people is a completely reasonable thing to ask.


• If diversity in terms of skillsets is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are front-end developers in the interview room for a back-end development position, asking if there are other back-end developers is a completely reasonable thing to ask.

I gave those other examples because getting a full picture of the team you're joining is important (obviously!) and if something is important to you and you can't figure out the answer based on what you see or hear in your interview, you have to find out somehow.

Asking clarifying questions, no matter if it's about gender diversity or technical stack or corporate finances, is always appropriate. Now, how you ask about this or any question in the discovery process is important.

For example:

• "So, what's with all the brogrammers? Don't you have any women?" is probably not the best way to ask this particular question.


• "Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?" would give you a way in to a conversation where you could figure out the company's approach toward achieving gender balance, or awareness of issues surrounding lack of gender diversity (or even issues surrounding diversity)

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As a hiring manager, I address diversity head-on both in job postings and in conversations with candidates -- no matter if the candidates are men or women. I strive to build diverse teams in terms of gender, experience level, skills, etc, and point it out when we achieve it, and talk about deficiencies when we don't. That is not the case with every company.

If diversity is important to a candidate, it is completely reasonable for the candidate to ask about the diversity of the team you may be joining, especially if it is not apparent in the interview or your interactions with potential teammates.

If diversity in terms of gender is important to a woman, and all she sees are men in the interview (or vice versa), it is completely reasonable to ask if there are women on the team (or men, on the flip side).

Similarly...

• If diversity in terms of experience level is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are super senior people and no juniors, asking if there are intermediate or junior people is a completely reasonable thing to ask.


• If diversity in terms of skillsets is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are front-end developers in the interview room for a back-end development position, asking if there are other back-end developers is a completely reasonable thing to ask.

I gave those other examples because getting a full picture of the team you're joining is important (obviously!) and if something is important to you and you can't figure out the answer based on what you see or hear in your interview, you have to find out somehow.

Asking clarifying questions, no matter if it's about gender diversity or technical stack or corporate finances, is always appropriate. Now, how you ask about this or any question in the discovery process is important.

For example:

• "So, what's with all the brogrammers? Don't you have any women?" is probably not the best way to ask this particular question.


• "Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?" would give you a way in to a conversation where you could figure out the company's approach toward achieving gender balance, or awareness of issues surrounding lack of gender diversity (or even issues surrounding diversity)

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As a hiring manager, I address diversity head-on both in job postings and in conversations with candidates -- no matter if the candidates are men or women. I strive to build diverse teams in terms of gender, experience level, skills, etc, and point it out when we achieve it, and talk about deficiencies when we don't. That is not the case with every company.

If diversity is important to a candidate, it is completely reasonable for the candidate to ask about the diversity of the team you may be joining, especially if it is not apparent in the interview or your interactions with potential teammates.

If diversity in terms of gender is important to a woman, and all she sees are men in the interview (or vice versa), it is completely reasonable to ask if there are women on the team (or men, on the flip side).

Similarly...

• If diversity in terms of experience level is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are super senior people and no juniors, asking if there are intermediate or junior people is a completely reasonable thing to ask.


• If diversity in terms of skillsets is important to a candidate, and all the candidate sees are front-end developers in the interview room for a back-end development position, asking if there are other back-end developers is a completely reasonable thing to ask.

I gave those other examples because getting a full picture of the team you're joining is important (obviously!) and if something is important to you and you can't figure out the answer based on what you see or hear in your interview, you have to find out somehow.

Asking clarifying questions, no matter if it's about gender diversity or technical stack or corporate finances, is always appropriate. Now, how you ask about this or any question in the discovery process is important.

For example:

• "So, what's with all the brogrammers? Don't you have any women?" is probably not the best way to ask this particular question.


• "Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?" would give you a way in to a conversation where you could figure out the company's approach toward achieving gender balance, or awareness of issues surrounding lack of gender diversity (or even issues surrounding diversity)

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answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:33

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  Good answer, but I would never phrase it as the (over-politically correct?) "talk [..] in terms of gender balance". What's wrong about just asking something like "How many men and women are on the team?"?
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@JoeStrazzere Yes, I believe it is equally ok for the candidate to ask anything. While some locales prohibit what interviewers can ask, I don't believe the same is true for candidates doing the asking. The more personal the topic, the more likely it is the company won't have an answer, though. For example, if someone asked me the religious makeup of my team, I'd have no idea -- but I'd say that, and let the candidate know that people hold their religion (if any) close to the vest. If the candidate wants an environment where religion is prominent, they'd know it wasn't a good fit.
– jcmeloni
Dec 19 '13 at 17:26

@JoeStrazzere Yes, I believe it is equally ok for the candidate to ask anything. While some locales prohibit what interviewers can ask, I don't believe the same is true for candidates doing the asking. The more personal the topic, the more likely it is the company won't have an answer, though. For example, if someone asked me the religious makeup of my team, I'd have no idea -- but I'd say that, and let the candidate know that people hold their religion (if any) close to the vest. If the candidate wants an environment where religion is prominent, they'd know it wasn't a good fit.
– jcmeloni
Dec 19 '13 at 17:26

The last question is almost perfect: a leading question like that should be a conversation starter. If the discussion falters, that's a danger sign.
– Bob Cross
Dec 19 '13 at 17:26

The last question is almost perfect: a leading question like that should be a conversation starter. If the discussion falters, that's a danger sign.
– Bob Cross
Dec 19 '13 at 17:26

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Should diversify be pursued for diversity's sake?
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Should diversify be pursued for diversity's sake?
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Good answer, but I would never phrase it as the (over-politically correct?) "talk [..] in terms of gender balance". What's wrong about just asking something like "How many men and women are on the team?"?
– Jan Doggen
Dec 20 '13 at 8:37

Good answer, but I would never phrase it as the (over-politically correct?) "talk [..] in terms of gender balance". What's wrong about just asking something like "How many men and women are on the team?"?
– Jan Doggen
Dec 20 '13 at 8:37

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@JanDoggen “How many men and women are on the team?” Exactly. The problem I have with the “Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?” it really dances around the issue. In my experience hiring managers will never be 100% clear unless the issue is very clearly mention. I am also not too sure about avoiding the “brogrammers” mindset. As a male developer/admin I have to honestly say I cannot stand brogrammers nor can I stand the culture that encourages their B.S. It can be asked subtly & if the talk degrades to beer pong & B.S. then there is your answer.
– JakeGould
May 30 '14 at 15:07

@JanDoggen “How many men and women are on the team?” Exactly. The problem I have with the “Could you talk about your development teams in terms of gender balance?” it really dances around the issue. In my experience hiring managers will never be 100% clear unless the issue is very clearly mention. I am also not too sure about avoiding the “brogrammers” mindset. As a male developer/admin I have to honestly say I cannot stand brogrammers nor can I stand the culture that encourages their B.S. It can be asked subtly & if the talk degrades to beer pong & B.S. then there is your answer.
– JakeGould
May 30 '14 at 15:07

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It is okay to ask this question.

That doesn't mean it won't get you branded.

Some people are jerks and view feminism as the root of all evil and brand you just for that. Others have (legitimately) had bad experiences with women actually causing trouble that also were vocal about, say, male to female ratio in teams.

It's hard to say what will get you branded in the heads of people but that doesn't mean you should anticipate or work around it.

Be open about your needs and worries. If you get branded or treated negatively for it, that employer or team is not the right one for you.

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  There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
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  I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
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  @user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
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  I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
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  @Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
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It is okay to ask this question.

That doesn't mean it won't get you branded.

Some people are jerks and view feminism as the root of all evil and brand you just for that. Others have (legitimately) had bad experiences with women actually causing trouble that also were vocal about, say, male to female ratio in teams.

It's hard to say what will get you branded in the heads of people but that doesn't mean you should anticipate or work around it.

Be open about your needs and worries. If you get branded or treated negatively for it, that employer or team is not the right one for you.

share|improve this answer

answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:26

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  There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
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  I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
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  @user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
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  I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
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  @Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
  – CMW
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up vote
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It is okay to ask this question.

That doesn't mean it won't get you branded.

Some people are jerks and view feminism as the root of all evil and brand you just for that. Others have (legitimately) had bad experiences with women actually causing trouble that also were vocal about, say, male to female ratio in teams.

It's hard to say what will get you branded in the heads of people but that doesn't mean you should anticipate or work around it.

Be open about your needs and worries. If you get branded or treated negatively for it, that employer or team is not the right one for you.

share|improve this answer

answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:26

CMW

5,79912849

It is okay to ask this question.

That doesn't mean it won't get you branded.

Some people are jerks and view feminism as the root of all evil and brand you just for that. Others have (legitimately) had bad experiences with women actually causing trouble that also were vocal about, say, male to female ratio in teams.

It's hard to say what will get you branded in the heads of people but that doesn't mean you should anticipate or work around it.

Be open about your needs and worries. If you get branded or treated negatively for it, that employer or team is not the right one for you.

share|improve this answer

answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:26

CMW

5,79912849

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share|improve this answer

answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:26

CMW

5,79912849

answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:26

CMW

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answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:26

CMW

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  There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
  – CMW
  Dec 19 '13 at 17:40
  

  
  
  
  


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  I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
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  Dec 20 '13 at 13:46
  

  
  
  
  


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  @user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
  – CMW
  Dec 20 '13 at 13:52
  

  
  
  
  


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  I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
  – Pharap
  May 27 '16 at 4:42
  

  
  
  
  


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  @Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
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  There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
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  Dec 19 '13 at 17:40
  

  
  
  
  


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  I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
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  @user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
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  I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
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  @Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
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There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
– CMW
Dec 19 '13 at 17:40

There are a lot of things you can get branded as and a lot of reasons people may brand you for, that don't necessarily have something to do with your question but just be triggered by it. That's what I tried to point out in my answer. Asking if you'd never be the only one of something on a team is a different question and not useful nor helpful in an interview.
– CMW
Dec 19 '13 at 17:40

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I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
– user568458
Dec 20 '13 at 13:46

I think context is important for how any questions like this are be perceived: e.g. if she first turns the conversation to get across that she's looking for a positive team dynamic (e.g. asking about office social activities like sports groups or similar), then asks "Would I be the only female?", she's asking in the context of being a sociable team player. Only a crazy grade A jerk would judge someone for wanting a good working relationship with their colleagues
– user568458
Dec 20 '13 at 13:46

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@user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
– CMW
Dec 20 '13 at 13:52

@user568458 That's true. Context can turn the meaning of a question completely on its head, especially if it's a controversial question in the first place. But like you said, real jerks can turn everything against you and if those see feminism as an 'extremist hate group' for example, they'd judge you big time, no matter the context.
– CMW
Dec 20 '13 at 13:52

I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 4:42

I don't think feminism really comes into the matter. The OP wouldn't be asking because of some feminist reason, she'd be asking because she wouldn't want to be the only female on the team, which is more of a personal matter. If she's just asking "would I be the only female?" then it would be very unlikely that her question got misconstrued as some kind of 'feminist agenda'.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 4:42

@Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
– CMW
May 31 '16 at 9:51

@Pharap In my opinion and backed by a few of those situations I encountered, when a woman asks questions like this one, some people that I group into the jerk variety, quickly jump to just that conclusion, and that's all I pointed out. I absolutely agree that this assessment is wrong based on the original post. My point is, there are unreasonable people out there, as well as people with bad experiences around people asking these types of questions. Feminism shouldn't come into the matter. Does not mean it won't.
– CMW
May 31 '16 at 9:51

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It's a question that may raise eyebrows.

What you can do though, which answers your question, is ask them for a tour of the office, during which you'll get a decent sense of the culture and whether you would be comfortable there.
That's always a good idea even if you were happy being the only woman, it answers a load of other questions about the company too.

I've had a tour of an office where a developer had a huge poster of a woman in a bikini on the wall, which was pretty off putting. (I took the job though as this was a small negative in a ton of positives!) I'm the only female, but I'm pretty used to it now, having been the same in previous roles.

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  I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
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  Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
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It's a question that may raise eyebrows.

What you can do though, which answers your question, is ask them for a tour of the office, during which you'll get a decent sense of the culture and whether you would be comfortable there.
That's always a good idea even if you were happy being the only woman, it answers a load of other questions about the company too.

I've had a tour of an office where a developer had a huge poster of a woman in a bikini on the wall, which was pretty off putting. (I took the job though as this was a small negative in a ton of positives!) I'm the only female, but I'm pretty used to it now, having been the same in previous roles.

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  I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
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  Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
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It's a question that may raise eyebrows.

What you can do though, which answers your question, is ask them for a tour of the office, during which you'll get a decent sense of the culture and whether you would be comfortable there.
That's always a good idea even if you were happy being the only woman, it answers a load of other questions about the company too.

I've had a tour of an office where a developer had a huge poster of a woman in a bikini on the wall, which was pretty off putting. (I took the job though as this was a small negative in a ton of positives!) I'm the only female, but I'm pretty used to it now, having been the same in previous roles.

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It's a question that may raise eyebrows.

What you can do though, which answers your question, is ask them for a tour of the office, during which you'll get a decent sense of the culture and whether you would be comfortable there.
That's always a good idea even if you were happy being the only woman, it answers a load of other questions about the company too.

I've had a tour of an office where a developer had a huge poster of a woman in a bikini on the wall, which was pretty off putting. (I took the job though as this was a small negative in a ton of positives!) I'm the only female, but I'm pretty used to it now, having been the same in previous roles.

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  I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
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  @Anon If they've brought you in for a face-to-face interview, it's not unreasonable to ask for a brief look at the general workspace to get a feel for the environment. More common in smaller companies, but there's no harm asking.
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  Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
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  I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
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  @Anon If they've brought you in for a face-to-face interview, it's not unreasonable to ask for a brief look at the general workspace to get a feel for the environment. More common in smaller companies, but there's no harm asking.
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  Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
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I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
– AlliterativeAlice
Dec 19 '13 at 16:28

I considered that, but thought it might be seen as presumptuous to ask for a tour of the office when you're just at the interview stage (i.e. you should wait until the offer stage.)
– AlliterativeAlice
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@Anon If they've brought you in for a face-to-face interview, it's not unreasonable to ask for a brief look at the general workspace to get a feel for the environment. More common in smaller companies, but there's no harm asking.
– jcmeloni
Dec 19 '13 at 16:43

@Anon If they've brought you in for a face-to-face interview, it's not unreasonable to ask for a brief look at the general workspace to get a feel for the environment. More common in smaller companies, but there's no harm asking.
– jcmeloni
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The tour also reveals a whole lot of other aspects, from the office layout ("open plan, huh. So productivity isn't something you care about") to developer equipment ("two monitors is good. But a desk big enough to fit two monitors would make that work better"). And so on.
– Móż
Dec 19 '13 at 20:35

The tour also reveals a whole lot of other aspects, from the office layout ("open plan, huh. So productivity isn't something you care about") to developer equipment ("two monitors is good. But a desk big enough to fit two monitors would make that work better"). And so on.
– Móż
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@Ӎσᶎ Exactly, I can't imagine accepting a job offer without having a snoop round first!
– Fiona - myaccessible.website
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@Ӎσᶎ Exactly, I can't imagine accepting a job offer without having a snoop round first!
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Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
– HLGEM
May 30 '14 at 15:02

Only once did I accept a job without a look at the office space first. Major mistake! Yes you can tell what the team looks like in terms of diversity but you can tell alot about how people relate to each other by observing the interactions that take place around you. Even just looking at the expressions on people's faces tells you if it is generally upbeat place or one where everyone appears unhappy. I would never wait until I get an offer to look at the work space. If they don't want to show me teh space in the interview that is a huge clue that they have something to hide.
– HLGEM
May 30 '14 at 15:02

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Certainly you're welcome to make any decision you choose in terms of a workplace - as far as I'm concerned. But I'll offer a thought - that assuming that an all-male team won't be sensitive or communicative or a good fit for you personally is almost as prejudicial as an all male team assuming that a woman wouldn't fit - and I'd fight valiantly either way to have all people give it a shot personally before you say it's an absolute failure. Point of reference, I'm a woman and I have worked on all male teams, and enjoyed it a great deal. I've been the only woman as an individual contributor, I've been the only woman and a boss, I've been the only woman on a team of bosses where I was not the leader of the group. In all cases, I'd offer that the joys and challenges of being on the team came from the open mindedness and professionalism of all involved, and not from gender.

Take it as you will.

With that said - I think you're most positive ways of asking about team composition are to stay away from the specific question "is this team all male?" and focus on the team composition. Here's a few thoughts that might prompt a discussion:

• Tell me about the team - I'd love some thoughts on what perspectives you are looking for?




• What's your approach (to the boss) for diversity?




• How does this company view diversity and seek to develop it?




• Are there support structures for those who are in a minority group?

This will help form a picture of the company as a whole. I'd offer that even an all woman team probably isn't so great if you don't get promoted, don't get recognition of your work and don't get listened to when you interact with other teams - so the real goal here is to figure out how this company supports diversity, what do they do when there are interaction problems due to diversity, what do they do with the non-dominant demographic to make sure they aren't simply run over by the dominant majority?

Even as a woman, I'm not sure how I'd feel if a candidate asked me in an interview about the gender composition of the team. I always worry with any team that ideas and support are shared across the whole team. Certainly individuals will form closer ties with each other - some people are just easier to collaborate with, and sometimes like attracts like - but I want to know that the team is more likely to work as a single unit than for some subset of the team to split into a "them" vs. "us" dynamic. Granted, I don't think that every time someone asks a gender balance question that this is really what they are thinking, but in an interview, where everyone is fairly nervous and remote, it's very hard to get a read on what they do mean.

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  It's a funny call - part of who people are is their gender. Do I see the world a certain way because I'm a woman? Yes. I see the world the way I do because of all the things I am - including some of the protected characteristics, but also because of my personal experiences. I want any team I'm on or that I run to be willing and able to respect any and all of my opinions and choices regardless of what part of me they emanate from and regardless of the differences between us. Peace on Earth. Peace out. :)
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  @bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
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  I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
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Certainly you're welcome to make any decision you choose in terms of a workplace - as far as I'm concerned. But I'll offer a thought - that assuming that an all-male team won't be sensitive or communicative or a good fit for you personally is almost as prejudicial as an all male team assuming that a woman wouldn't fit - and I'd fight valiantly either way to have all people give it a shot personally before you say it's an absolute failure. Point of reference, I'm a woman and I have worked on all male teams, and enjoyed it a great deal. I've been the only woman as an individual contributor, I've been the only woman and a boss, I've been the only woman on a team of bosses where I was not the leader of the group. In all cases, I'd offer that the joys and challenges of being on the team came from the open mindedness and professionalism of all involved, and not from gender.

Take it as you will.

With that said - I think you're most positive ways of asking about team composition are to stay away from the specific question "is this team all male?" and focus on the team composition. Here's a few thoughts that might prompt a discussion:

• Tell me about the team - I'd love some thoughts on what perspectives you are looking for?




• What's your approach (to the boss) for diversity?




• How does this company view diversity and seek to develop it?




• Are there support structures for those who are in a minority group?

This will help form a picture of the company as a whole. I'd offer that even an all woman team probably isn't so great if you don't get promoted, don't get recognition of your work and don't get listened to when you interact with other teams - so the real goal here is to figure out how this company supports diversity, what do they do when there are interaction problems due to diversity, what do they do with the non-dominant demographic to make sure they aren't simply run over by the dominant majority?

Even as a woman, I'm not sure how I'd feel if a candidate asked me in an interview about the gender composition of the team. I always worry with any team that ideas and support are shared across the whole team. Certainly individuals will form closer ties with each other - some people are just easier to collaborate with, and sometimes like attracts like - but I want to know that the team is more likely to work as a single unit than for some subset of the team to split into a "them" vs. "us" dynamic. Granted, I don't think that every time someone asks a gender balance question that this is really what they are thinking, but in an interview, where everyone is fairly nervous and remote, it's very hard to get a read on what they do mean.

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  @bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
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  I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
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up vote
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Certainly you're welcome to make any decision you choose in terms of a workplace - as far as I'm concerned. But I'll offer a thought - that assuming that an all-male team won't be sensitive or communicative or a good fit for you personally is almost as prejudicial as an all male team assuming that a woman wouldn't fit - and I'd fight valiantly either way to have all people give it a shot personally before you say it's an absolute failure. Point of reference, I'm a woman and I have worked on all male teams, and enjoyed it a great deal. I've been the only woman as an individual contributor, I've been the only woman and a boss, I've been the only woman on a team of bosses where I was not the leader of the group. In all cases, I'd offer that the joys and challenges of being on the team came from the open mindedness and professionalism of all involved, and not from gender.

Take it as you will.

With that said - I think you're most positive ways of asking about team composition are to stay away from the specific question "is this team all male?" and focus on the team composition. Here's a few thoughts that might prompt a discussion:

• Tell me about the team - I'd love some thoughts on what perspectives you are looking for?




• What's your approach (to the boss) for diversity?




• How does this company view diversity and seek to develop it?




• Are there support structures for those who are in a minority group?

This will help form a picture of the company as a whole. I'd offer that even an all woman team probably isn't so great if you don't get promoted, don't get recognition of your work and don't get listened to when you interact with other teams - so the real goal here is to figure out how this company supports diversity, what do they do when there are interaction problems due to diversity, what do they do with the non-dominant demographic to make sure they aren't simply run over by the dominant majority?

Even as a woman, I'm not sure how I'd feel if a candidate asked me in an interview about the gender composition of the team. I always worry with any team that ideas and support are shared across the whole team. Certainly individuals will form closer ties with each other - some people are just easier to collaborate with, and sometimes like attracts like - but I want to know that the team is more likely to work as a single unit than for some subset of the team to split into a "them" vs. "us" dynamic. Granted, I don't think that every time someone asks a gender balance question that this is really what they are thinking, but in an interview, where everyone is fairly nervous and remote, it's very hard to get a read on what they do mean.

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answered Dec 19 '13 at 22:55

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Certainly you're welcome to make any decision you choose in terms of a workplace - as far as I'm concerned. But I'll offer a thought - that assuming that an all-male team won't be sensitive or communicative or a good fit for you personally is almost as prejudicial as an all male team assuming that a woman wouldn't fit - and I'd fight valiantly either way to have all people give it a shot personally before you say it's an absolute failure. Point of reference, I'm a woman and I have worked on all male teams, and enjoyed it a great deal. I've been the only woman as an individual contributor, I've been the only woman and a boss, I've been the only woman on a team of bosses where I was not the leader of the group. In all cases, I'd offer that the joys and challenges of being on the team came from the open mindedness and professionalism of all involved, and not from gender.

Take it as you will.

With that said - I think you're most positive ways of asking about team composition are to stay away from the specific question "is this team all male?" and focus on the team composition. Here's a few thoughts that might prompt a discussion:

• Tell me about the team - I'd love some thoughts on what perspectives you are looking for?




• What's your approach (to the boss) for diversity?




• How does this company view diversity and seek to develop it?




• Are there support structures for those who are in a minority group?

This will help form a picture of the company as a whole. I'd offer that even an all woman team probably isn't so great if you don't get promoted, don't get recognition of your work and don't get listened to when you interact with other teams - so the real goal here is to figure out how this company supports diversity, what do they do when there are interaction problems due to diversity, what do they do with the non-dominant demographic to make sure they aren't simply run over by the dominant majority?

Even as a woman, I'm not sure how I'd feel if a candidate asked me in an interview about the gender composition of the team. I always worry with any team that ideas and support are shared across the whole team. Certainly individuals will form closer ties with each other - some people are just easier to collaborate with, and sometimes like attracts like - but I want to know that the team is more likely to work as a single unit than for some subset of the team to split into a "them" vs. "us" dynamic. Granted, I don't think that every time someone asks a gender balance question that this is really what they are thinking, but in an interview, where everyone is fairly nervous and remote, it's very hard to get a read on what they do mean.

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answered Dec 19 '13 at 22:55

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  It's a funny call - part of who people are is their gender. Do I see the world a certain way because I'm a woman? Yes. I see the world the way I do because of all the things I am - including some of the protected characteristics, but also because of my personal experiences. I want any team I'm on or that I run to be willing and able to respect any and all of my opinions and choices regardless of what part of me they emanate from and regardless of the differences between us. Peace on Earth. Peace out. :)
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  @bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
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  I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
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  It's a funny call - part of who people are is their gender. Do I see the world a certain way because I'm a woman? Yes. I see the world the way I do because of all the things I am - including some of the protected characteristics, but also because of my personal experiences. I want any team I'm on or that I run to be willing and able to respect any and all of my opinions and choices regardless of what part of me they emanate from and regardless of the differences between us. Peace on Earth. Peace out. :)
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  @bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
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  I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
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This is the answer. People should see people, not genders, or races, etc.
– MrFox
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This is the answer. People should see people, not genders, or races, etc.
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Dec 20 '13 at 16:10

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It's a funny call - part of who people are is their gender. Do I see the world a certain way because I'm a woman? Yes. I see the world the way I do because of all the things I am - including some of the protected characteristics, but also because of my personal experiences. I want any team I'm on or that I run to be willing and able to respect any and all of my opinions and choices regardless of what part of me they emanate from and regardless of the differences between us. Peace on Earth. Peace out. :)
– bethlakshmi
Dec 20 '13 at 23:05

It's a funny call - part of who people are is their gender. Do I see the world a certain way because I'm a woman? Yes. I see the world the way I do because of all the things I am - including some of the protected characteristics, but also because of my personal experiences. I want any team I'm on or that I run to be willing and able to respect any and all of my opinions and choices regardless of what part of me they emanate from and regardless of the differences between us. Peace on Earth. Peace out. :)
– bethlakshmi
Dec 20 '13 at 23:05

@bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 4:58

@bethlakshmi "part of who people are is their gender" Some more than others though. I agree wholeheartedly with your main answer though. In my last two years at college there was only one female in the group, but there were never any issues with her being included in the group, even though the majority of the group were gamers and she wasn't. In the other group she was with however, despite there being 2 other females, she never felt included, so she'd often ask to leave early to rejoin us, which just goes to show individual traits like kindness are more important than gender.
– Pharap
May 27 '16 at 4:58

I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
– bethlakshmi
Jun 2 '16 at 13:00

I don't really understand your quote -- "part of who people are is their gender"- but I think I agree with the following thoughts. Mileage varies hugely based on the individual. I somehow really enjoy being the odd one out - be that gender, height (I'm very tall), color or other characteristics. Others really feel uncomfortable when they feel alone. One factor is knowing yourself and how you'll perform best. Another factor is being open to trying new things. And another other factor is realizing that none of this is universal.
– bethlakshmi
Jun 2 '16 at 13:00

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I don't think there is anything wrong with asking the question, but I would point out the following...

• The fact that you are being interviewed for the job suggests that the hiring manager has no issue with the gender of his/her candidates.


• Even if you were the first woman to (potentially) be hired to this particular department, that doesn't necessarily imply any gender bias. If it is a small department it could simply be luck of the draw that for past openings the best candidate available at the time happened to be male. If it is a large department, I would be somewhat more skeptical.


• Somebody has to be the first... if diversity is lacking maybe you can be part of breaking the cycle. Perhaps once you've established yourself you will be in a position to raise awareness.

As for how to bring it up, if you're concerned that a direct question might sound accusatory or otherwise negative you could break the ice with a more indirect question. Something like "So I'm trying to envision the team I'd be working on, what can you tell me about it... is it a large team, small team, etc." Sometimes just starting down this road will naturally lead the conversation where you want it to go.

Also, I don't know about the company you're dealing with but at my place of employment it seems like every manager has an org chart within reach. If you express an interest in how the department is organized you might actually get a look at one which would allow you to infer the number of women by the names.

I have no problem with direct questions but if you are looking for a tactful way to broach the subject this is how I would open.

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  Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with asking the question, but I would point out the following...

• The fact that you are being interviewed for the job suggests that the hiring manager has no issue with the gender of his/her candidates.


• Even if you were the first woman to (potentially) be hired to this particular department, that doesn't necessarily imply any gender bias. If it is a small department it could simply be luck of the draw that for past openings the best candidate available at the time happened to be male. If it is a large department, I would be somewhat more skeptical.


• Somebody has to be the first... if diversity is lacking maybe you can be part of breaking the cycle. Perhaps once you've established yourself you will be in a position to raise awareness.

As for how to bring it up, if you're concerned that a direct question might sound accusatory or otherwise negative you could break the ice with a more indirect question. Something like "So I'm trying to envision the team I'd be working on, what can you tell me about it... is it a large team, small team, etc." Sometimes just starting down this road will naturally lead the conversation where you want it to go.

Also, I don't know about the company you're dealing with but at my place of employment it seems like every manager has an org chart within reach. If you express an interest in how the department is organized you might actually get a look at one which would allow you to infer the number of women by the names.

I have no problem with direct questions but if you are looking for a tactful way to broach the subject this is how I would open.

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  I actually disagree with the first bullet - companies interview for all sorts of reasons and sometimes being able to say you interviewed a certain demographic is desirable, whether or not you hire any of them. In other words - your hiring selection criteria can be discriminatory even if your interview selection criteria are not.
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  Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
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I don't think there is anything wrong with asking the question, but I would point out the following...

• The fact that you are being interviewed for the job suggests that the hiring manager has no issue with the gender of his/her candidates.


• Even if you were the first woman to (potentially) be hired to this particular department, that doesn't necessarily imply any gender bias. If it is a small department it could simply be luck of the draw that for past openings the best candidate available at the time happened to be male. If it is a large department, I would be somewhat more skeptical.


• Somebody has to be the first... if diversity is lacking maybe you can be part of breaking the cycle. Perhaps once you've established yourself you will be in a position to raise awareness.

As for how to bring it up, if you're concerned that a direct question might sound accusatory or otherwise negative you could break the ice with a more indirect question. Something like "So I'm trying to envision the team I'd be working on, what can you tell me about it... is it a large team, small team, etc." Sometimes just starting down this road will naturally lead the conversation where you want it to go.

Also, I don't know about the company you're dealing with but at my place of employment it seems like every manager has an org chart within reach. If you express an interest in how the department is organized you might actually get a look at one which would allow you to infer the number of women by the names.

I have no problem with direct questions but if you are looking for a tactful way to broach the subject this is how I would open.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with asking the question, but I would point out the following...

• The fact that you are being interviewed for the job suggests that the hiring manager has no issue with the gender of his/her candidates.


• Even if you were the first woman to (potentially) be hired to this particular department, that doesn't necessarily imply any gender bias. If it is a small department it could simply be luck of the draw that for past openings the best candidate available at the time happened to be male. If it is a large department, I would be somewhat more skeptical.


• Somebody has to be the first... if diversity is lacking maybe you can be part of breaking the cycle. Perhaps once you've established yourself you will be in a position to raise awareness.

As for how to bring it up, if you're concerned that a direct question might sound accusatory or otherwise negative you could break the ice with a more indirect question. Something like "So I'm trying to envision the team I'd be working on, what can you tell me about it... is it a large team, small team, etc." Sometimes just starting down this road will naturally lead the conversation where you want it to go.

Also, I don't know about the company you're dealing with but at my place of employment it seems like every manager has an org chart within reach. If you express an interest in how the department is organized you might actually get a look at one which would allow you to infer the number of women by the names.

I have no problem with direct questions but if you are looking for a tactful way to broach the subject this is how I would open.

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  Thanks. My concern would be about whether I'd enjoy working there, rather than fear of discrimination, though.
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  I actually disagree with the first bullet - companies interview for all sorts of reasons and sometimes being able to say you interviewed a certain demographic is desirable, whether or not you hire any of them. In other words - your hiring selection criteria can be discriminatory even if your interview selection criteria are not.
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  Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
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  Thanks. My concern would be about whether I'd enjoy working there, rather than fear of discrimination, though.
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  Dec 19 '13 at 19:58
  

  
  
  
  


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  I actually disagree with the first bullet - companies interview for all sorts of reasons and sometimes being able to say you interviewed a certain demographic is desirable, whether or not you hire any of them. In other words - your hiring selection criteria can be discriminatory even if your interview selection criteria are not.
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  Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
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Thanks. My concern would be about whether I'd enjoy working there, rather than fear of discrimination, though.
– AlliterativeAlice
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Thanks. My concern would be about whether I'd enjoy working there, rather than fear of discrimination, though.
– AlliterativeAlice
Dec 19 '13 at 19:58

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I actually disagree with the first bullet - companies interview for all sorts of reasons and sometimes being able to say you interviewed a certain demographic is desirable, whether or not you hire any of them. In other words - your hiring selection criteria can be discriminatory even if your interview selection criteria are not.
– bethlakshmi
Dec 19 '13 at 22:37

I actually disagree with the first bullet - companies interview for all sorts of reasons and sometimes being able to say you interviewed a certain demographic is desirable, whether or not you hire any of them. In other words - your hiring selection criteria can be discriminatory even if your interview selection criteria are not.
– bethlakshmi
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Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
– jmort253♦
Dec 20 '13 at 4:45

Hey dazed, any advice on how she might bring this up as a question in the interview? This is good stuff, but please don't forget to answer all parts of the question.
– jmort253♦
Dec 20 '13 at 4:45

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I don't think you need to "mark yourself out" in asking this. At the point of your questions just ask for a simple breakdown of the team/roles, you will likely get some specifics (even if just he/she when discussing members), if necessary you can drop in a quick question about male/female ratio.

The main thing is to casually drop it into the questions, people are likely to over-react if you make it a big point, just be subtle.

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I don't think you need to "mark yourself out" in asking this. At the point of your questions just ask for a simple breakdown of the team/roles, you will likely get some specifics (even if just he/she when discussing members), if necessary you can drop in a quick question about male/female ratio.

The main thing is to casually drop it into the questions, people are likely to over-react if you make it a big point, just be subtle.

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I don't think you need to "mark yourself out" in asking this. At the point of your questions just ask for a simple breakdown of the team/roles, you will likely get some specifics (even if just he/she when discussing members), if necessary you can drop in a quick question about male/female ratio.

The main thing is to casually drop it into the questions, people are likely to over-react if you make it a big point, just be subtle.

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answered Dec 19 '13 at 16:32

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I don't think you need to "mark yourself out" in asking this. At the point of your questions just ask for a simple breakdown of the team/roles, you will likely get some specifics (even if just he/she when discussing members), if necessary you can drop in a quick question about male/female ratio.

The main thing is to casually drop it into the questions, people are likely to over-react if you make it a big point, just be subtle.

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Yes.

My sense is that if the interviewer is consciously seeking to address a gender imbalance, then he or she will bring the issue up first anyway. ("By the way, we have 10 developers, only two of which of are women: how would you feel about working in that type of environment?").

If the interviewer doesn't bring it up first, there's frequently a point towards the end where the good interviewer asks, "Do you have any questions or concerns about us?" That may be the time to address the topic, almost as if it were an afterthought, even though it may not be.

Job interviews have so much sensory overload and so many agendas--you are constantly sizing up each other, looking for the slightest clues to justify a large, important decision -- my advice is to keep things as light as possible, while being as up front as the situation allows with respect to your needs and expectations.

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Yes.

My sense is that if the interviewer is consciously seeking to address a gender imbalance, then he or she will bring the issue up first anyway. ("By the way, we have 10 developers, only two of which of are women: how would you feel about working in that type of environment?").

If the interviewer doesn't bring it up first, there's frequently a point towards the end where the good interviewer asks, "Do you have any questions or concerns about us?" That may be the time to address the topic, almost as if it were an afterthought, even though it may not be.

Job interviews have so much sensory overload and so many agendas--you are constantly sizing up each other, looking for the slightest clues to justify a large, important decision -- my advice is to keep things as light as possible, while being as up front as the situation allows with respect to your needs and expectations.

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Yes.

My sense is that if the interviewer is consciously seeking to address a gender imbalance, then he or she will bring the issue up first anyway. ("By the way, we have 10 developers, only two of which of are women: how would you feel about working in that type of environment?").

If the interviewer doesn't bring it up first, there's frequently a point towards the end where the good interviewer asks, "Do you have any questions or concerns about us?" That may be the time to address the topic, almost as if it were an afterthought, even though it may not be.

Job interviews have so much sensory overload and so many agendas--you are constantly sizing up each other, looking for the slightest clues to justify a large, important decision -- my advice is to keep things as light as possible, while being as up front as the situation allows with respect to your needs and expectations.

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Yes.

My sense is that if the interviewer is consciously seeking to address a gender imbalance, then he or she will bring the issue up first anyway. ("By the way, we have 10 developers, only two of which of are women: how would you feel about working in that type of environment?").

If the interviewer doesn't bring it up first, there's frequently a point towards the end where the good interviewer asks, "Do you have any questions or concerns about us?" That may be the time to address the topic, almost as if it were an afterthought, even though it may not be.

Job interviews have so much sensory overload and so many agendas--you are constantly sizing up each other, looking for the slightest clues to justify a large, important decision -- my advice is to keep things as light as possible, while being as up front as the situation allows with respect to your needs and expectations.

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First, clarifying the problem. After reading the many comments, discussion and answers it all seems to boil to the fact that this question could be taken one of two ways:

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  The real intent of the question: the asker wants a good working relationship with her colleagues and is concerned because this job might lack something she hasn't been without before.
  
  • So long as she doesn't come across as inflexible, it's a positive thing to be a sociable team player who cares about the quality of their working relationships.
  
  


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  The worry: it could imply that the asker is unable to adapt, can only work in certain conditions, or, is difficult to work with and only able to work with certain types of people.
  
  • This is negative.
  
  

So it is definitely an acceptable question to ask, and potentially a positive question, but there's a risk it might give a negative impression.

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So the problem becomes: how to avoid that negative impression. I'm surprised that no-one has yet mentioned context and framing.

If she asks a simple "Would I be the only female?" in a discussion where the context is that she is a team player who is used to having strong working relationships and wants to be sure that she's moving to somewhere with a positive atmosphere where she will fit in and thrive, then that question is simply another example of her taking the move seriously and finding out what working here will be like. It fits in the context of the conversation, and that context is positive.

The risk comes in if she asks the same question out of the blue. The lack of context makes it sound like a rigid arbitrary demand.

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So the problem becomes: how to turn an interview around to that sort of context?

It depends on the person and the interview, but it could go something like:

• Interviewer asks: any other questions?


• Interviewee asks about the roles of the people she'd be working with directly and how her role fits with theirs.
  
  • Discussion of the team. Interviewee gets to show that she understands team dynamics
  
  
  • This might answer the question itself ("...and you'd also be working with Helen, who...")
  
  


• Interviewee then mentions (for example) things like social activities they were involved in at their previous job, and how great they were for team building, networking and strengthening relationships with colleagues. Is there anything like that here?
  
  • Conversation where interview is taking an active interest in what it's like to be part of this team
  
  
  • As part of this conversation: "So would I be the only female?".
  
  

It fits the context of the conversation and doesn't jut out. It's clear from context that this isn't some arbitrary condition or demand, but is one part of her (positive) interest in working somewhere with a great dynamic.

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Context is a massive influence on how things are perceived. Use it!

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First, clarifying the problem. After reading the many comments, discussion and answers it all seems to boil to the fact that this question could be taken one of two ways:

• 
  The real intent of the question: the asker wants a good working relationship with her colleagues and is concerned because this job might lack something she hasn't been without before.
  
  • So long as she doesn't come across as inflexible, it's a positive thing to be a sociable team player who cares about the quality of their working relationships.
  
  


• 
  The worry: it could imply that the asker is unable to adapt, can only work in certain conditions, or, is difficult to work with and only able to work with certain types of people.
  
  • This is negative.
  
  

So it is definitely an acceptable question to ask, and potentially a positive question, but there's a risk it might give a negative impression.

---

So the problem becomes: how to avoid that negative impression. I'm surprised that no-one has yet mentioned context and framing.

If she asks a simple "Would I be the only female?" in a discussion where the context is that she is a team player who is used to having strong working relationships and wants to be sure that she's moving to somewhere with a positive atmosphere where she will fit in and thrive, then that question is simply another example of her taking the move seriously and finding out what working here will be like. It fits in the context of the conversation, and that context is positive.

The risk comes in if she asks the same question out of the blue. The lack of context makes it sound like a rigid arbitrary demand.

---

So the problem becomes: how to turn an interview around to that sort of context?

It depends on the person and the interview, but it could go something like:

• Interviewer asks: any other questions?


• Interviewee asks about the roles of the people she'd be working with directly and how her role fits with theirs.
  
  • Discussion of the team. Interviewee gets to show that she understands team dynamics
  
  
  • This might answer the question itself ("...and you'd also be working with Helen, who...")
  
  


• Interviewee then mentions (for example) things like social activities they were involved in at their previous job, and how great they were for team building, networking and strengthening relationships with colleagues. Is there anything like that here?
  
  • Conversation where interview is taking an active interest in what it's like to be part of this team
  
  
  • As part of this conversation: "So would I be the only female?".
  
  

It fits the context of the conversation and doesn't jut out. It's clear from context that this isn't some arbitrary condition or demand, but is one part of her (positive) interest in working somewhere with a great dynamic.

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Context is a massive influence on how things are perceived. Use it!

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First, clarifying the problem. After reading the many comments, discussion and answers it all seems to boil to the fact that this question could be taken one of two ways:

• 
  The real intent of the question: the asker wants a good working relationship with her colleagues and is concerned because this job might lack something she hasn't been without before.
  
  • So long as she doesn't come across as inflexible, it's a positive thing to be a sociable team player who cares about the quality of their working relationships.
  
  


• 
  The worry: it could imply that the asker is unable to adapt, can only work in certain conditions, or, is difficult to work with and only able to work with certain types of people.
  
  • This is negative.
  
  

So it is definitely an acceptable question to ask, and potentially a positive question, but there's a risk it might give a negative impression.

---

So the problem becomes: how to avoid that negative impression. I'm surprised that no-one has yet mentioned context and framing.

If she asks a simple "Would I be the only female?" in a discussion where the context is that she is a team player who is used to having strong working relationships and wants to be sure that she's moving to somewhere with a positive atmosphere where she will fit in and thrive, then that question is simply another example of her taking the move seriously and finding out what working here will be like. It fits in the context of the conversation, and that context is positive.

The risk comes in if she asks the same question out of the blue. The lack of context makes it sound like a rigid arbitrary demand.

---

So the problem becomes: how to turn an interview around to that sort of context?

It depends on the person and the interview, but it could go something like:

• Interviewer asks: any other questions?


• Interviewee asks about the roles of the people she'd be working with directly and how her role fits with theirs.
  
  • Discussion of the team. Interviewee gets to show that she understands team dynamics
  
  
  • This might answer the question itself ("...and you'd also be working with Helen, who...")
  
  


• Interviewee then mentions (for example) things like social activities they were involved in at their previous job, and how great they were for team building, networking and strengthening relationships with colleagues. Is there anything like that here?
  
  • Conversation where interview is taking an active interest in what it's like to be part of this team
  
  
  • As part of this conversation: "So would I be the only female?".
  
  

It fits the context of the conversation and doesn't jut out. It's clear from context that this isn't some arbitrary condition or demand, but is one part of her (positive) interest in working somewhere with a great dynamic.

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First, clarifying the problem. After reading the many comments, discussion and answers it all seems to boil to the fact that this question could be taken one of two ways:

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  The real intent of the question: the asker wants a good working relationship with her colleagues and is concerned because this job might lack something she hasn't been without before.
  
  • So long as she doesn't come across as inflexible, it's a positive thing to be a sociable team player who cares about the quality of their working relationships.
  
  


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  The worry: it could imply that the asker is unable to adapt, can only work in certain conditions, or, is difficult to work with and only able to work with certain types of people.
  
  • This is negative.
  
  

So it is definitely an acceptable question to ask, and potentially a positive question, but there's a risk it might give a negative impression.

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So the problem becomes: how to avoid that negative impression. I'm surprised that no-one has yet mentioned context and framing.

If she asks a simple "Would I be the only female?" in a discussion where the context is that she is a team player who is used to having strong working relationships and wants to be sure that she's moving to somewhere with a positive atmosphere where she will fit in and thrive, then that question is simply another example of her taking the move seriously and finding out what working here will be like. It fits in the context of the conversation, and that context is positive.

The risk comes in if she asks the same question out of the blue. The lack of context makes it sound like a rigid arbitrary demand.

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So the problem becomes: how to turn an interview around to that sort of context?

It depends on the person and the interview, but it could go something like:

• Interviewer asks: any other questions?


• Interviewee asks about the roles of the people she'd be working with directly and how her role fits with theirs.
  
  • Discussion of the team. Interviewee gets to show that she understands team dynamics
  
  
  • This might answer the question itself ("...and you'd also be working with Helen, who...")
  
  


• Interviewee then mentions (for example) things like social activities they were involved in at their previous job, and how great they were for team building, networking and strengthening relationships with colleagues. Is there anything like that here?
  
  • Conversation where interview is taking an active interest in what it's like to be part of this team
  
  
  • As part of this conversation: "So would I be the only female?".
  
  

It fits the context of the conversation and doesn't jut out. It's clear from context that this isn't some arbitrary condition or demand, but is one part of her (positive) interest in working somewhere with a great dynamic.

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Context is a massive influence on how things are perceived. Use it!

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If this is critical to you in making the decsion, then yes ask the question. However, be aware that in doing so, you may be severely limiting your employment options. You are in an industry that is very lopsided in terms of gender. By asking that question you frankly come across as less confident that someone who doesn't ask such questions. You also tend to weed yourself out of the running if there are currenlty no women even if they are fine working with women.

I think perhaps you are mistaking the reason for other women's bad experiences and thus are considering asking the wrong question. I have been the only woman many, many times and occasionally it has been bad and mostly it has been fine. And I've worked one place where the only person who was a problem to work with was the only other woman. It has come down to corporate culture in the end, not male/female ratio. So what you are interested in might really be how the people in the office treat each other.

It is hard to ask good culture questions. However, you can deduce alot from how you are treated in the interview and from a good walk around of the office spaces. Watch to see how people relate to each other as you walk through. Is there eveidence of a lot of inappropriate humor or sexual type pictures? Do all the men seem to be young and single? Do they play alot of games? Do they work 90 hours a week? Those tend to be the places where I found women are less comfortable. You may be looking for other things. But think about the kind of culture you want more than the male/female ratio.

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If this is critical to you in making the decsion, then yes ask the question. However, be aware that in doing so, you may be severely limiting your employment options. You are in an industry that is very lopsided in terms of gender. By asking that question you frankly come across as less confident that someone who doesn't ask such questions. You also tend to weed yourself out of the running if there are currenlty no women even if they are fine working with women.

I think perhaps you are mistaking the reason for other women's bad experiences and thus are considering asking the wrong question. I have been the only woman many, many times and occasionally it has been bad and mostly it has been fine. And I've worked one place where the only person who was a problem to work with was the only other woman. It has come down to corporate culture in the end, not male/female ratio. So what you are interested in might really be how the people in the office treat each other.

It is hard to ask good culture questions. However, you can deduce alot from how you are treated in the interview and from a good walk around of the office spaces. Watch to see how people relate to each other as you walk through. Is there eveidence of a lot of inappropriate humor or sexual type pictures? Do all the men seem to be young and single? Do they play alot of games? Do they work 90 hours a week? Those tend to be the places where I found women are less comfortable. You may be looking for other things. But think about the kind of culture you want more than the male/female ratio.

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 15:04

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up vote
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up vote
3
down vote

If this is critical to you in making the decsion, then yes ask the question. However, be aware that in doing so, you may be severely limiting your employment options. You are in an industry that is very lopsided in terms of gender. By asking that question you frankly come across as less confident that someone who doesn't ask such questions. You also tend to weed yourself out of the running if there are currenlty no women even if they are fine working with women.

I think perhaps you are mistaking the reason for other women's bad experiences and thus are considering asking the wrong question. I have been the only woman many, many times and occasionally it has been bad and mostly it has been fine. And I've worked one place where the only person who was a problem to work with was the only other woman. It has come down to corporate culture in the end, not male/female ratio. So what you are interested in might really be how the people in the office treat each other.

It is hard to ask good culture questions. However, you can deduce alot from how you are treated in the interview and from a good walk around of the office spaces. Watch to see how people relate to each other as you walk through. Is there eveidence of a lot of inappropriate humor or sexual type pictures? Do all the men seem to be young and single? Do they play alot of games? Do they work 90 hours a week? Those tend to be the places where I found women are less comfortable. You may be looking for other things. But think about the kind of culture you want more than the male/female ratio.

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 15:04

HLGEM

133k25227489

If this is critical to you in making the decsion, then yes ask the question. However, be aware that in doing so, you may be severely limiting your employment options. You are in an industry that is very lopsided in terms of gender. By asking that question you frankly come across as less confident that someone who doesn't ask such questions. You also tend to weed yourself out of the running if there are currenlty no women even if they are fine working with women.

I think perhaps you are mistaking the reason for other women's bad experiences and thus are considering asking the wrong question. I have been the only woman many, many times and occasionally it has been bad and mostly it has been fine. And I've worked one place where the only person who was a problem to work with was the only other woman. It has come down to corporate culture in the end, not male/female ratio. So what you are interested in might really be how the people in the office treat each other.

It is hard to ask good culture questions. However, you can deduce alot from how you are treated in the interview and from a good walk around of the office spaces. Watch to see how people relate to each other as you walk through. Is there eveidence of a lot of inappropriate humor or sexual type pictures? Do all the men seem to be young and single? Do they play alot of games? Do they work 90 hours a week? Those tend to be the places where I found women are less comfortable. You may be looking for other things. But think about the kind of culture you want more than the male/female ratio.

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 15:04

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 15:04

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 15:04

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Just ask to meet/see the team you'll be working with. The entire team.

Say you're interviewing with 3 people and the time for "questions" comes. At that time say "I'd like to meet the team." What will probably happen is they'll take you over to the area where your to-be-teammates are. If you don't see any other women on the team, then simply don't join.

You, as the job hunter, are responsible for investigating the environment you are placing yourself in.

Sometimes, it is better to ask a question, or request to see something, which will indirectly get the response to a question in your mind, without asking that question explicitly, or having the recruiters ever even know that (working with a woman) was a concern of yours.

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  Well, no. I was recently in an interview and simply asked for a "tour". The lead took me to the main area where the workers are, and I saw their working conditions, the basics of how they interact/the culture there.
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  Could also ask for names; histories & backgrounds.. "who are the main people I would be working with?". Listen for female names.
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Just ask to meet/see the team you'll be working with. The entire team.

Say you're interviewing with 3 people and the time for "questions" comes. At that time say "I'd like to meet the team." What will probably happen is they'll take you over to the area where your to-be-teammates are. If you don't see any other women on the team, then simply don't join.

You, as the job hunter, are responsible for investigating the environment you are placing yourself in.

Sometimes, it is better to ask a question, or request to see something, which will indirectly get the response to a question in your mind, without asking that question explicitly, or having the recruiters ever even know that (working with a woman) was a concern of yours.

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edited Dec 20 '13 at 18:35

answered Dec 20 '13 at 17:34

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  Well, no. I was recently in an interview and simply asked for a "tour". The lead took me to the main area where the workers are, and I saw their working conditions, the basics of how they interact/the culture there.
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  Dec 20 '13 at 18:33
  

  
  
  
  


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  Could also ask for names; histories & backgrounds.. "who are the main people I would be working with?". Listen for female names.
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up vote
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up vote
3
down vote

Just ask to meet/see the team you'll be working with. The entire team.

Say you're interviewing with 3 people and the time for "questions" comes. At that time say "I'd like to meet the team." What will probably happen is they'll take you over to the area where your to-be-teammates are. If you don't see any other women on the team, then simply don't join.

You, as the job hunter, are responsible for investigating the environment you are placing yourself in.

Sometimes, it is better to ask a question, or request to see something, which will indirectly get the response to a question in your mind, without asking that question explicitly, or having the recruiters ever even know that (working with a woman) was a concern of yours.

share|improve this answer

edited Dec 20 '13 at 18:35

answered Dec 20 '13 at 17:34

bobobobo

559310

Just ask to meet/see the team you'll be working with. The entire team.

Say you're interviewing with 3 people and the time for "questions" comes. At that time say "I'd like to meet the team." What will probably happen is they'll take you over to the area where your to-be-teammates are. If you don't see any other women on the team, then simply don't join.

You, as the job hunter, are responsible for investigating the environment you are placing yourself in.

Sometimes, it is better to ask a question, or request to see something, which will indirectly get the response to a question in your mind, without asking that question explicitly, or having the recruiters ever even know that (working with a woman) was a concern of yours.

share|improve this answer

edited Dec 20 '13 at 18:35

answered Dec 20 '13 at 17:34

bobobobo

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edited Dec 20 '13 at 18:35

edited Dec 20 '13 at 18:35

edited Dec 20 '13 at 18:35

answered Dec 20 '13 at 17:34

bobobobo

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 17:34

bobobobo

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 17:34

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  Well, no. I was recently in an interview and simply asked for a "tour". The lead took me to the main area where the workers are, and I saw their working conditions, the basics of how they interact/the culture there.
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  Dec 20 '13 at 18:33
  

  
  
  
  


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  Could also ask for names; histories & backgrounds.. "who are the main people I would be working with?". Listen for female names.
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  Well, no. I was recently in an interview and simply asked for a "tour". The lead took me to the main area where the workers are, and I saw their working conditions, the basics of how they interact/the culture there.
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  Dec 20 '13 at 18:33
  

  
  
  
  


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  Could also ask for names; histories & backgrounds.. "who are the main people I would be working with?". Listen for female names.
  – bobobobo
  Dec 20 '13 at 21:41
  
  

  
  
  
  

Well, no. I was recently in an interview and simply asked for a "tour". The lead took me to the main area where the workers are, and I saw their working conditions, the basics of how they interact/the culture there.
– bobobobo
Dec 20 '13 at 18:33

Well, no. I was recently in an interview and simply asked for a "tour". The lead took me to the main area where the workers are, and I saw their working conditions, the basics of how they interact/the culture there.
– bobobobo
Dec 20 '13 at 18:33

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Could also ask for names; histories & backgrounds.. "who are the main people I would be working with?". Listen for female names.
– bobobobo
Dec 20 '13 at 21:41

Could also ask for names; histories & backgrounds.. "who are the main people I would be working with?". Listen for female names.
– bobobobo
Dec 20 '13 at 21:41

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I think you're entitled to asking about this and it's perfectly reasonable to do so, as it's not just them looking for a candidate, but also you looking for a job that attracts you.

However, please consider the actual relevance of this.

Consider for example a male looking for a job as a secretary or nurse, where according to this study most workers are female. Should he ask "How many males will I be working with"? It's the same situation.

Since matters of race and gender are frequently put together, this is similar to a white person going to Africa or a black person going to Russia and asking "How many white/black people will I be working with?". I don't see a problem with it, others might. If they do, that's not the company for you, simple :)

Edit: I believe one good way to ask this, instead, is to ask if the company embraces diversity of viewpoints as a core value. Chances are, an aversity to work with men would come to bite you sooner or later, so just expecting and providing respectfulness will make work better, no matter the genders.

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  Hi Camilo, are you suggesting the asker just plain come out and ask "How many women work here?" or should she try to bring this up in a more tactful way? The reason I ask is because the question asks how she should ask in the interview, among other things, and on our site we try to make sure answers fully address the questions. Hope this helps.
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  @jmort253 Well, of course like everything you say in a job interview it has to be phrased politely, but what I'm saying is that the question in itself is valid. If that matters to OP, she should ask about it, since in the event that the answer given is "no, you're our first female candidate", it seems to me that it would mean OP wouldn't want that job.
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  In the question body she does ask is there a better way to go about asking this. In general, on this site we look for complete answers to the full question. If you feel you have also addressed that part of the question, I'll leave this for the community to decide. Hope this helps clarify what I think might be missing from your post.
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  @jmort253 Good point, I'll edit it.
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up vote
1
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I think you're entitled to asking about this and it's perfectly reasonable to do so, as it's not just them looking for a candidate, but also you looking for a job that attracts you.

However, please consider the actual relevance of this.

Consider for example a male looking for a job as a secretary or nurse, where according to this study most workers are female. Should he ask "How many males will I be working with"? It's the same situation.

Since matters of race and gender are frequently put together, this is similar to a white person going to Africa or a black person going to Russia and asking "How many white/black people will I be working with?". I don't see a problem with it, others might. If they do, that's not the company for you, simple :)

Edit: I believe one good way to ask this, instead, is to ask if the company embraces diversity of viewpoints as a core value. Chances are, an aversity to work with men would come to bite you sooner or later, so just expecting and providing respectfulness will make work better, no matter the genders.

share|improve this answer

edited Dec 20 '13 at 22:28

answered Dec 20 '13 at 0:51

Camilo Martin

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  Hi Camilo, are you suggesting the asker just plain come out and ask "How many women work here?" or should she try to bring this up in a more tactful way? The reason I ask is because the question asks how she should ask in the interview, among other things, and on our site we try to make sure answers fully address the questions. Hope this helps.
  – jmort253♦
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  @jmort253 Well, of course like everything you say in a job interview it has to be phrased politely, but what I'm saying is that the question in itself is valid. If that matters to OP, she should ask about it, since in the event that the answer given is "no, you're our first female candidate", it seems to me that it would mean OP wouldn't want that job.
  – Camilo Martin
  Dec 20 '13 at 21:48
  

  
  
  
  


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  In the question body she does ask is there a better way to go about asking this. In general, on this site we look for complete answers to the full question. If you feel you have also addressed that part of the question, I'll leave this for the community to decide. Hope this helps clarify what I think might be missing from your post.
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  @jmort253 Good point, I'll edit it.
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up vote
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down vote

up vote
1
down vote

I think you're entitled to asking about this and it's perfectly reasonable to do so, as it's not just them looking for a candidate, but also you looking for a job that attracts you.

However, please consider the actual relevance of this.

Consider for example a male looking for a job as a secretary or nurse, where according to this study most workers are female. Should he ask "How many males will I be working with"? It's the same situation.

Since matters of race and gender are frequently put together, this is similar to a white person going to Africa or a black person going to Russia and asking "How many white/black people will I be working with?". I don't see a problem with it, others might. If they do, that's not the company for you, simple :)

Edit: I believe one good way to ask this, instead, is to ask if the company embraces diversity of viewpoints as a core value. Chances are, an aversity to work with men would come to bite you sooner or later, so just expecting and providing respectfulness will make work better, no matter the genders.

share|improve this answer

edited Dec 20 '13 at 22:28

answered Dec 20 '13 at 0:51

Camilo Martin

1193

I think you're entitled to asking about this and it's perfectly reasonable to do so, as it's not just them looking for a candidate, but also you looking for a job that attracts you.

However, please consider the actual relevance of this.

Consider for example a male looking for a job as a secretary or nurse, where according to this study most workers are female. Should he ask "How many males will I be working with"? It's the same situation.

Since matters of race and gender are frequently put together, this is similar to a white person going to Africa or a black person going to Russia and asking "How many white/black people will I be working with?". I don't see a problem with it, others might. If they do, that's not the company for you, simple :)

Edit: I believe one good way to ask this, instead, is to ask if the company embraces diversity of viewpoints as a core value. Chances are, an aversity to work with men would come to bite you sooner or later, so just expecting and providing respectfulness will make work better, no matter the genders.

share|improve this answer

edited Dec 20 '13 at 22:28

answered Dec 20 '13 at 0:51

Camilo Martin

1193

share|improve this answer

share|improve this answer

edited Dec 20 '13 at 22:28

edited Dec 20 '13 at 22:28

edited Dec 20 '13 at 22:28

answered Dec 20 '13 at 0:51

Camilo Martin

1193

answered Dec 20 '13 at 0:51

Camilo Martin

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answered Dec 20 '13 at 0:51

Camilo Martin

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  Hi Camilo, are you suggesting the asker just plain come out and ask "How many women work here?" or should she try to bring this up in a more tactful way? The reason I ask is because the question asks how she should ask in the interview, among other things, and on our site we try to make sure answers fully address the questions. Hope this helps.
  – jmort253♦
  Dec 20 '13 at 4:44
  
  

  
  
  
  


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  @jmort253 Well, of course like everything you say in a job interview it has to be phrased politely, but what I'm saying is that the question in itself is valid. If that matters to OP, she should ask about it, since in the event that the answer given is "no, you're our first female candidate", it seems to me that it would mean OP wouldn't want that job.
  – Camilo Martin
  Dec 20 '13 at 21:48
  

  
  
  
  


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  In the question body she does ask is there a better way to go about asking this. In general, on this site we look for complete answers to the full question. If you feel you have also addressed that part of the question, I'll leave this for the community to decide. Hope this helps clarify what I think might be missing from your post.
  – jmort253♦
  Dec 20 '13 at 22:02
  

  
  
  
  


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  @jmort253 Good point, I'll edit it.
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  Hi Camilo, are you suggesting the asker just plain come out and ask "How many women work here?" or should she try to bring this up in a more tactful way? The reason I ask is because the question asks how she should ask in the interview, among other things, and on our site we try to make sure answers fully address the questions. Hope this helps.
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  @jmort253 Well, of course like everything you say in a job interview it has to be phrased politely, but what I'm saying is that the question in itself is valid. If that matters to OP, she should ask about it, since in the event that the answer given is "no, you're our first female candidate", it seems to me that it would mean OP wouldn't want that job.
  – Camilo Martin
  Dec 20 '13 at 21:48
  

  
  
  
  


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  In the question body she does ask is there a better way to go about asking this. In general, on this site we look for complete answers to the full question. If you feel you have also addressed that part of the question, I'll leave this for the community to decide. Hope this helps clarify what I think might be missing from your post.
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  @jmort253 Good point, I'll edit it.
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Hi Camilo, are you suggesting the asker just plain come out and ask "How many women work here?" or should she try to bring this up in a more tactful way? The reason I ask is because the question asks how she should ask in the interview, among other things, and on our site we try to make sure answers fully address the questions. Hope this helps.
– jmort253♦
Dec 20 '13 at 4:44

Hi Camilo, are you suggesting the asker just plain come out and ask "How many women work here?" or should she try to bring this up in a more tactful way? The reason I ask is because the question asks how she should ask in the interview, among other things, and on our site we try to make sure answers fully address the questions. Hope this helps.
– jmort253♦
Dec 20 '13 at 4:44

@jmort253 Well, of course like everything you say in a job interview it has to be phrased politely, but what I'm saying is that the question in itself is valid. If that matters to OP, she should ask about it, since in the event that the answer given is "no, you're our first female candidate", it seems to me that it would mean OP wouldn't want that job.
– Camilo Martin
Dec 20 '13 at 21:48

@jmort253 Well, of course like everything you say in a job interview it has to be phrased politely, but what I'm saying is that the question in itself is valid. If that matters to OP, she should ask about it, since in the event that the answer given is "no, you're our first female candidate", it seems to me that it would mean OP wouldn't want that job.
– Camilo Martin
Dec 20 '13 at 21:48

In the question body she does ask is there a better way to go about asking this. In general, on this site we look for complete answers to the full question. If you feel you have also addressed that part of the question, I'll leave this for the community to decide. Hope this helps clarify what I think might be missing from your post.
– jmort253♦
Dec 20 '13 at 22:02

In the question body she does ask is there a better way to go about asking this. In general, on this site we look for complete answers to the full question. If you feel you have also addressed that part of the question, I'll leave this for the community to decide. Hope this helps clarify what I think might be missing from your post.
– jmort253♦
Dec 20 '13 at 22:02

@jmort253 Good point, I'll edit it.
– Camilo Martin
Dec 20 '13 at 22:30

@jmort253 Good point, I'll edit it.
– Camilo Martin
Dec 20 '13 at 22:30

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Yes, but not directly...

The 1st thing to consider is your intention which you have already informed about knowing whether there are other women in the team, its natural !

You can ask this sort of sensitive question through policy details. You can ask, "Hey, I would like to know if you have specific policies designed for women to empower, support, and encourage them to be a multi-tasker for a work-life balance."

Wait for an answer, smile to any reply they give and then display a thinking face asking "Will there be supporting opportunities like IJPs (Internal Job Postings); etc., for women to swap teams who have been long staying in the same team and look for a change ? For eg., in the team I am about to join which has a strength of 8 people, will that include any women too....?"

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Yes, but not directly...

The 1st thing to consider is your intention which you have already informed about knowing whether there are other women in the team, its natural !

You can ask this sort of sensitive question through policy details. You can ask, "Hey, I would like to know if you have specific policies designed for women to empower, support, and encourage them to be a multi-tasker for a work-life balance."

Wait for an answer, smile to any reply they give and then display a thinking face asking "Will there be supporting opportunities like IJPs (Internal Job Postings); etc., for women to swap teams who have been long staying in the same team and look for a change ? For eg., in the team I am about to join which has a strength of 8 people, will that include any women too....?"

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up vote
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Yes, but not directly...

The 1st thing to consider is your intention which you have already informed about knowing whether there are other women in the team, its natural !

You can ask this sort of sensitive question through policy details. You can ask, "Hey, I would like to know if you have specific policies designed for women to empower, support, and encourage them to be a multi-tasker for a work-life balance."

Wait for an answer, smile to any reply they give and then display a thinking face asking "Will there be supporting opportunities like IJPs (Internal Job Postings); etc., for women to swap teams who have been long staying in the same team and look for a change ? For eg., in the team I am about to join which has a strength of 8 people, will that include any women too....?"

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answered Dec 26 '13 at 2:54

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Yes, but not directly...

The 1st thing to consider is your intention which you have already informed about knowing whether there are other women in the team, its natural !

You can ask this sort of sensitive question through policy details. You can ask, "Hey, I would like to know if you have specific policies designed for women to empower, support, and encourage them to be a multi-tasker for a work-life balance."

Wait for an answer, smile to any reply they give and then display a thinking face asking "Will there be supporting opportunities like IJPs (Internal Job Postings); etc., for women to swap teams who have been long staying in the same team and look for a change ? For eg., in the team I am about to join which has a strength of 8 people, will that include any women too....?"

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answered Dec 26 '13 at 2:54

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answered Dec 26 '13 at 2:54

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