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Starting a new job and disclosing pregnancy
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My wife is starting a new job in a few weeks; it's a graduate role with a 2 year contract. She became pregnant after the job offer but there was a long delay in the recruitment process before she actually got a contract to sign. In this time, she felt like because she hadn't actually signed the contract, she didn't want to disclose her pregnancy and risk the offer being withdrawn. Maybe some might see this as unfair to the company, but she worked very hard to be offered this position and is eager to start it and continue it after her maternity leave.
When she starts, it will be obvious she's pregnant (7 months) and is likely to only be working a month before taking maternity leave. She plans to discuss this with her manager on day 1. How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss this with her manager? Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her pregnancy before hand?
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My wife is starting a new job in a few weeks; it's a graduate role with a 2 year contract. She became pregnant after the job offer but there was a long delay in the recruitment process before she actually got a contract to sign. In this time, she felt like because she hadn't actually signed the contract, she didn't want to disclose her pregnancy and risk the offer being withdrawn. Maybe some might see this as unfair to the company, but she worked very hard to be offered this position and is eager to start it and continue it after her maternity leave.
When she starts, it will be obvious she's pregnant (7 months) and is likely to only be working a month before taking maternity leave. She plans to discuss this with her manager on day 1. How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss this with her manager? Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her pregnancy before hand?
new-job ireland pregnancy
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Is she in contract or yet to start?
– Twyxz
Aug 24 at 13:56
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Why doesn't she want to let them know before day 1? Seems very unfair to the company, I'd sack her soon after she started.
– Kilisi
Aug 25 at 10:31
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Glad you're not her boss, then.
– Zeke
Aug 25 at 14:27
@JoeStrazzere I wouldn't stand on her, just sack her... not silly enough to say it's because she's pregnant.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 1:56
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@aem Obviously one would not say it's because of the pregnancy. One would say it's a breach of trust for withholding information that is very relevant for the company. Expect to be let go as soon as possible.
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My wife is starting a new job in a few weeks; it's a graduate role with a 2 year contract. She became pregnant after the job offer but there was a long delay in the recruitment process before she actually got a contract to sign. In this time, she felt like because she hadn't actually signed the contract, she didn't want to disclose her pregnancy and risk the offer being withdrawn. Maybe some might see this as unfair to the company, but she worked very hard to be offered this position and is eager to start it and continue it after her maternity leave.
When she starts, it will be obvious she's pregnant (7 months) and is likely to only be working a month before taking maternity leave. She plans to discuss this with her manager on day 1. How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss this with her manager? Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her pregnancy before hand?
new-job ireland pregnancy
asked Aug 24 at 13:40
Zeke
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My wife is starting a new job in a few weeks; it's a graduate role with a 2 year contract. She became pregnant after the job offer but there was a long delay in the recruitment process before she actually got a contract to sign. In this time, she felt like because she hadn't actually signed the contract, she didn't want to disclose her pregnancy and risk the offer being withdrawn. Maybe some might see this as unfair to the company, but she worked very hard to be offered this position and is eager to start it and continue it after her maternity leave.
When she starts, it will be obvious she's pregnant (7 months) and is likely to only be working a month before taking maternity leave. She plans to discuss this with her manager on day 1. How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss this with her manager? Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her pregnancy before hand?
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Is she in contract or yet to start?
– Twyxz
Aug 24 at 13:56
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Why doesn't she want to let them know before day 1? Seems very unfair to the company, I'd sack her soon after she started.
– Kilisi
Aug 25 at 10:31
3
Glad you're not her boss, then.
– Zeke
Aug 25 at 14:27
@JoeStrazzere I wouldn't stand on her, just sack her... not silly enough to say it's because she's pregnant.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 1:56
1
@aem Obviously one would not say it's because of the pregnancy. One would say it's a breach of trust for withholding information that is very relevant for the company. Expect to be let go as soon as possible.
– Caroline
Aug 30 at 8:48
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show 1 more comment
Is she in contract or yet to start?
– Twyxz
Aug 24 at 13:56
2
Why doesn't she want to let them know before day 1? Seems very unfair to the company, I'd sack her soon after she started.
– Kilisi
Aug 25 at 10:31
3
Glad you're not her boss, then.
– Zeke
Aug 25 at 14:27
@JoeStrazzere I wouldn't stand on her, just sack her... not silly enough to say it's because she's pregnant.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 1:56
1
@aem Obviously one would not say it's because of the pregnancy. One would say it's a breach of trust for withholding information that is very relevant for the company. Expect to be let go as soon as possible.
– Caroline
Aug 30 at 8:48
Is she in contract or yet to start?
– Twyxz
Aug 24 at 13:56
Is she in contract or yet to start?
– Twyxz
Aug 24 at 13:56
2
2
Why doesn't she want to let them know before day 1? Seems very unfair to the company, I'd sack her soon after she started.
– Kilisi
Aug 25 at 10:31
Why doesn't she want to let them know before day 1? Seems very unfair to the company, I'd sack her soon after she started.
– Kilisi
Aug 25 at 10:31
3
3
Glad you're not her boss, then.
– Zeke
Aug 25 at 14:27
Glad you're not her boss, then.
– Zeke
Aug 25 at 14:27
@JoeStrazzere I wouldn't stand on her, just sack her... not silly enough to say it's because she's pregnant.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 1:56
@JoeStrazzere I wouldn't stand on her, just sack her... not silly enough to say it's because she's pregnant.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 1:56
1
1
@aem Obviously one would not say it's because of the pregnancy. One would say it's a breach of trust for withholding information that is very relevant for the company. Expect to be let go as soon as possible.
– Caroline
Aug 30 at 8:48
@aem Obviously one would not say it's because of the pregnancy. One would say it's a breach of trust for withholding information that is very relevant for the company. Expect to be let go as soon as possible.
– Caroline
Aug 30 at 8:48
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How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss
this with her manager?
Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her
pregnancy before hand?
In general, she should conduct herself as if she were any other new employee.
During her first week, she should make a point of discussing her maternity plans with her boss and potentially HR. She should talk about when she intends to leave and when she expects to return. She should make sure to discuss how payments will be handled. In Ireland some folks get their maternity benefits paid through social insurance, but some employers pay the salary and collect the benefits instead. She should work with her employer to arrange that. Hopefully she has already paid into PRSI enough so that she is eligible.
Additionally, her maternity leave must be certified by her employer. That may require written documents from her doctors.
Since her departure will be coming up rather quickly, it's only fair to her, her coworkers, and everyone else that she be clear about this. For example, it wouldn't make sense for her to be assigned a lengthy project, only to be forced to drop it in the middle.
There could indeed be bad feelings for not disclosing her pregnancy beforehand. That's only human nature. They hired someone who they thought would be able to work. Now that worker shows up at the expected date with a rather big surprise and will quickly be away for a while. One would expect the same for any other major unannounced surprises from a new hire. She should try not to feel defensive about that, and she should try to do everything she can to mitigate the burden imposed on others.
answered Aug 24 at 14:38
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I had a similar experience. I wasn't pregnant when I interviewed for the job, but it took them about a year to offer me the position and I was 8 months pregnant when I started. I signed the contract and then after I received my start date, I informed them that I would like to know what their maternity policy was and the dates I would be out.
My advice would be for her to ensure she signs the contract BEFORE disclosing the fact that she's pregnant. You say shes only going to work one month? If you're in the states, that might be hard to pull off. I accepted my job, worked until I popped and only took 6 weeks maternity after that to recover. I didn't have enough time with the company to qualify for Short term disability so, in order to get the better job, I had to make some sacrifices. See if she really is ready to do that.
There should not be any backlash. I would still send out an email before hand so people are like whoaaaaa. Just give them a heads up. Also, if she gets any backlash, read up some on this.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_Discrimination_Act
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_discrimination#United_States
answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
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I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
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How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss
this with her manager?
Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her
pregnancy before hand?
In general, she should conduct herself as if she were any other new employee.
During her first week, she should make a point of discussing her maternity plans with her boss and potentially HR. She should talk about when she intends to leave and when she expects to return. She should make sure to discuss how payments will be handled. In Ireland some folks get their maternity benefits paid through social insurance, but some employers pay the salary and collect the benefits instead. She should work with her employer to arrange that. Hopefully she has already paid into PRSI enough so that she is eligible.
Additionally, her maternity leave must be certified by her employer. That may require written documents from her doctors.
Since her departure will be coming up rather quickly, it's only fair to her, her coworkers, and everyone else that she be clear about this. For example, it wouldn't make sense for her to be assigned a lengthy project, only to be forced to drop it in the middle.
There could indeed be bad feelings for not disclosing her pregnancy beforehand. That's only human nature. They hired someone who they thought would be able to work. Now that worker shows up at the expected date with a rather big surprise and will quickly be away for a while. One would expect the same for any other major unannounced surprises from a new hire. She should try not to feel defensive about that, and she should try to do everything she can to mitigate the burden imposed on others.
answered Aug 24 at 14:38
Joe Strazzere
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up vote
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down vote
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How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss
this with her manager?
Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her
pregnancy before hand?
In general, she should conduct herself as if she were any other new employee.
During her first week, she should make a point of discussing her maternity plans with her boss and potentially HR. She should talk about when she intends to leave and when she expects to return. She should make sure to discuss how payments will be handled. In Ireland some folks get their maternity benefits paid through social insurance, but some employers pay the salary and collect the benefits instead. She should work with her employer to arrange that. Hopefully she has already paid into PRSI enough so that she is eligible.
Additionally, her maternity leave must be certified by her employer. That may require written documents from her doctors.
Since her departure will be coming up rather quickly, it's only fair to her, her coworkers, and everyone else that she be clear about this. For example, it wouldn't make sense for her to be assigned a lengthy project, only to be forced to drop it in the middle.
There could indeed be bad feelings for not disclosing her pregnancy beforehand. That's only human nature. They hired someone who they thought would be able to work. Now that worker shows up at the expected date with a rather big surprise and will quickly be away for a while. One would expect the same for any other major unannounced surprises from a new hire. She should try not to feel defensive about that, and she should try to do everything she can to mitigate the burden imposed on others.
answered Aug 24 at 14:38
Joe Strazzere
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up vote
10
down vote
accepted
up vote
10
down vote
accepted
How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss
this with her manager?
Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her
pregnancy before hand?
In general, she should conduct herself as if she were any other new employee.
During her first week, she should make a point of discussing her maternity plans with her boss and potentially HR. She should talk about when she intends to leave and when she expects to return. She should make sure to discuss how payments will be handled. In Ireland some folks get their maternity benefits paid through social insurance, but some employers pay the salary and collect the benefits instead. She should work with her employer to arrange that. Hopefully she has already paid into PRSI enough so that she is eligible.
Additionally, her maternity leave must be certified by her employer. That may require written documents from her doctors.
Since her departure will be coming up rather quickly, it's only fair to her, her coworkers, and everyone else that she be clear about this. For example, it wouldn't make sense for her to be assigned a lengthy project, only to be forced to drop it in the middle.
There could indeed be bad feelings for not disclosing her pregnancy beforehand. That's only human nature. They hired someone who they thought would be able to work. Now that worker shows up at the expected date with a rather big surprise and will quickly be away for a while. One would expect the same for any other major unannounced surprises from a new hire. She should try not to feel defensive about that, and she should try to do everything she can to mitigate the burden imposed on others.
answered Aug 24 at 14:38
Joe Strazzere
225k107662932
How do you think she should conduct herself on day one and discuss
this with her manager?
Would you think there could be any backlash against not disclosing her
pregnancy before hand?
In general, she should conduct herself as if she were any other new employee.
During her first week, she should make a point of discussing her maternity plans with her boss and potentially HR. She should talk about when she intends to leave and when she expects to return. She should make sure to discuss how payments will be handled. In Ireland some folks get their maternity benefits paid through social insurance, but some employers pay the salary and collect the benefits instead. She should work with her employer to arrange that. Hopefully she has already paid into PRSI enough so that she is eligible.
Additionally, her maternity leave must be certified by her employer. That may require written documents from her doctors.
Since her departure will be coming up rather quickly, it's only fair to her, her coworkers, and everyone else that she be clear about this. For example, it wouldn't make sense for her to be assigned a lengthy project, only to be forced to drop it in the middle.
There could indeed be bad feelings for not disclosing her pregnancy beforehand. That's only human nature. They hired someone who they thought would be able to work. Now that worker shows up at the expected date with a rather big surprise and will quickly be away for a while. One would expect the same for any other major unannounced surprises from a new hire. She should try not to feel defensive about that, and she should try to do everything she can to mitigate the burden imposed on others.
answered Aug 24 at 14:38
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answered Aug 24 at 14:38
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answered Aug 24 at 14:38
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I had a similar experience. I wasn't pregnant when I interviewed for the job, but it took them about a year to offer me the position and I was 8 months pregnant when I started. I signed the contract and then after I received my start date, I informed them that I would like to know what their maternity policy was and the dates I would be out.
My advice would be for her to ensure she signs the contract BEFORE disclosing the fact that she's pregnant. You say shes only going to work one month? If you're in the states, that might be hard to pull off. I accepted my job, worked until I popped and only took 6 weeks maternity after that to recover. I didn't have enough time with the company to qualify for Short term disability so, in order to get the better job, I had to make some sacrifices. See if she really is ready to do that.
There should not be any backlash. I would still send out an email before hand so people are like whoaaaaa. Just give them a heads up. Also, if she gets any backlash, read up some on this.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_Discrimination_Act
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_discrimination#United_States
answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
9
I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
add a comment |Â
up vote
-2
down vote
I had a similar experience. I wasn't pregnant when I interviewed for the job, but it took them about a year to offer me the position and I was 8 months pregnant when I started. I signed the contract and then after I received my start date, I informed them that I would like to know what their maternity policy was and the dates I would be out.
My advice would be for her to ensure she signs the contract BEFORE disclosing the fact that she's pregnant. You say shes only going to work one month? If you're in the states, that might be hard to pull off. I accepted my job, worked until I popped and only took 6 weeks maternity after that to recover. I didn't have enough time with the company to qualify for Short term disability so, in order to get the better job, I had to make some sacrifices. See if she really is ready to do that.
There should not be any backlash. I would still send out an email before hand so people are like whoaaaaa. Just give them a heads up. Also, if she gets any backlash, read up some on this.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_Discrimination_Act
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_discrimination#United_States
answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
9
I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
add a comment |Â
up vote
-2
down vote
up vote
-2
down vote
I had a similar experience. I wasn't pregnant when I interviewed for the job, but it took them about a year to offer me the position and I was 8 months pregnant when I started. I signed the contract and then after I received my start date, I informed them that I would like to know what their maternity policy was and the dates I would be out.
My advice would be for her to ensure she signs the contract BEFORE disclosing the fact that she's pregnant. You say shes only going to work one month? If you're in the states, that might be hard to pull off. I accepted my job, worked until I popped and only took 6 weeks maternity after that to recover. I didn't have enough time with the company to qualify for Short term disability so, in order to get the better job, I had to make some sacrifices. See if she really is ready to do that.
There should not be any backlash. I would still send out an email before hand so people are like whoaaaaa. Just give them a heads up. Also, if she gets any backlash, read up some on this.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_Discrimination_Act
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_discrimination#United_States
answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
9
I had a similar experience. I wasn't pregnant when I interviewed for the job, but it took them about a year to offer me the position and I was 8 months pregnant when I started. I signed the contract and then after I received my start date, I informed them that I would like to know what their maternity policy was and the dates I would be out.
My advice would be for her to ensure she signs the contract BEFORE disclosing the fact that she's pregnant. You say shes only going to work one month? If you're in the states, that might be hard to pull off. I accepted my job, worked until I popped and only took 6 weeks maternity after that to recover. I didn't have enough time with the company to qualify for Short term disability so, in order to get the better job, I had to make some sacrifices. See if she really is ready to do that.
There should not be any backlash. I would still send out an email before hand so people are like whoaaaaa. Just give them a heads up. Also, if she gets any backlash, read up some on this.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_Discrimination_Act
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_discrimination#United_States
answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
9
answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
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answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
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answered Aug 29 at 19:30
Natalie
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I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
add a comment |Â
I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
I'm not sure about your maternity time (it's probably better than the US either way) but you at least still have some discrimination laws! So, she should be good to go :) eumom.ie/pregnancy/… I'd still say send an email before just showing up. Just as a courtesy since they'll have more things to discuss with her than the average new employee.
– Natalie
Aug 29 at 19:39
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Is she in contract or yet to start?
– Twyxz
Aug 24 at 13:56
2
Why doesn't she want to let them know before day 1? Seems very unfair to the company, I'd sack her soon after she started.
– Kilisi
Aug 25 at 10:31
3
Glad you're not her boss, then.
– Zeke
Aug 25 at 14:27
@JoeStrazzere I wouldn't stand on her, just sack her... not silly enough to say it's because she's pregnant.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 1:56
1
@aem Obviously one would not say it's because of the pregnancy. One would say it's a breach of trust for withholding information that is very relevant for the company. Expect to be let go as soon as possible.
– Caroline
Aug 30 at 8:48