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I switched teams recently. When I informed my manager about my decision to switch, he asked me a lot of questions. Aside the usual questions, he asked me about how long I had been thinking about this, when I had contact with the new manager or if it was the new manager who contacted me. how many managers i have spoken to so far?
Some pretty invasive questions. I tried my best to be politically correct. I am looking for guidance on how to answer them.
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asked Aug 25 at 19:19
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closed as too broad by gnat, Dukeling, Richard U, rath, DarkCygnus Aug 27 at 17:23
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I switched teams recently. When I informed my manager about my decision to switch, he asked me a lot of questions. Aside the usual questions, he asked me about how long I had been thinking about this, when I had contact with the new manager or if it was the new manager who contacted me. how many managers i have spoken to so far?
Some pretty invasive questions. I tried my best to be politically correct. I am looking for guidance on how to answer them.
manager
asked Aug 25 at 19:19
user2230487
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closed as too broad by gnat, Dukeling, Richard U, rath, DarkCygnus Aug 27 at 17:23
Please edit the question to limit it to a specific problem with enough detail to identify an adequate answer. Avoid asking multiple distinct questions at once. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question. If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.
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1) Why do you think these questions were invasive? 2) Have you tried asking your manager why he asked those questions? Figuring out his motivation will better aid you with how to respond
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I switched teams recently. When I informed my manager about my decision to switch, he asked me a lot of questions. Aside the usual questions, he asked me about how long I had been thinking about this, when I had contact with the new manager or if it was the new manager who contacted me. how many managers i have spoken to so far?
Some pretty invasive questions. I tried my best to be politically correct. I am looking for guidance on how to answer them.
manager
asked Aug 25 at 19:19
user2230487
1226
I switched teams recently. When I informed my manager about my decision to switch, he asked me a lot of questions. Aside the usual questions, he asked me about how long I had been thinking about this, when I had contact with the new manager or if it was the new manager who contacted me. how many managers i have spoken to so far?
Some pretty invasive questions. I tried my best to be politically correct. I am looking for guidance on how to answer them.
manager
asked Aug 25 at 19:19
user2230487
1226
edited Aug 26 at 18:24
asked Aug 25 at 19:19
user2230487
1226
asked Aug 25 at 19:19
user2230487
1226
asked Aug 25 at 19:19
user2230487
1226
1226
closed as too broad by gnat, Dukeling, Richard U, rath, DarkCygnus Aug 27 at 17:23
Please edit the question to limit it to a specific problem with enough detail to identify an adequate answer. Avoid asking multiple distinct questions at once. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question. If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.
closed as too broad by gnat, Dukeling, Richard U, rath, DarkCygnus Aug 27 at 17:23
Please edit the question to limit it to a specific problem with enough detail to identify an adequate answer. Avoid asking multiple distinct questions at once. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question. If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.
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1) Why do you think these questions were invasive? 2) Have you tried asking your manager why he asked those questions? Figuring out his motivation will better aid you with how to respond
– rath
Aug 27 at 0:46
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1) Why do you think these questions were invasive? 2) Have you tried asking your manager why he asked those questions? Figuring out his motivation will better aid you with how to respond
– rath
Aug 27 at 0:46
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1) Why do you think these questions were invasive? 2) Have you tried asking your manager why he asked those questions? Figuring out his motivation will better aid you with how to respond
– rath
Aug 27 at 0:46
1) Why do you think these questions were invasive? 2) Have you tried asking your manager why he asked those questions? Figuring out his motivation will better aid you with how to respond
– rath
Aug 27 at 0:46
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Look at it from his point of view. Someone from his empire is leaving, it's probably for reasons he controls since you're still around.
Did he screw up and somehow convince you to flee? Does he have a toxic employee who you're fleeing? Were you headhunted by a rival manager? Are you the last one? If he didn't see this coming, what else is he not seeing?
What could he have done differently, and should he have?
As for what to tell him, probably honesty is the best policy. It doesn't sound like he played a large role in your decision but everyone is the center of their own universe.
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
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answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
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it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
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IMHO, do not answer any questions that you feel are invasive.
If it is the same company, any inquiry your current manager have, he can send by internal mail to HR.
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
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Just be as honest as you feel comfortable to do so. It is quite unprofessional of your former manager to do this and ultimately it makes no difference to them.
Failing that you could air your concerns to your new manager if it continues to get worse.
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
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it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
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Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
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3 Answers
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Look at it from his point of view. Someone from his empire is leaving, it's probably for reasons he controls since you're still around.
Did he screw up and somehow convince you to flee? Does he have a toxic employee who you're fleeing? Were you headhunted by a rival manager? Are you the last one? If he didn't see this coming, what else is he not seeing?
What could he have done differently, and should he have?
As for what to tell him, probably honesty is the best policy. It doesn't sound like he played a large role in your decision but everyone is the center of their own universe.
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
add a comment |Â
up vote
1
down vote
Look at it from his point of view. Someone from his empire is leaving, it's probably for reasons he controls since you're still around.
Did he screw up and somehow convince you to flee? Does he have a toxic employee who you're fleeing? Were you headhunted by a rival manager? Are you the last one? If he didn't see this coming, what else is he not seeing?
What could he have done differently, and should he have?
As for what to tell him, probably honesty is the best policy. It doesn't sound like he played a large role in your decision but everyone is the center of their own universe.
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
add a comment |Â
up vote
1
down vote
up vote
1
down vote
Look at it from his point of view. Someone from his empire is leaving, it's probably for reasons he controls since you're still around.
Did he screw up and somehow convince you to flee? Does he have a toxic employee who you're fleeing? Were you headhunted by a rival manager? Are you the last one? If he didn't see this coming, what else is he not seeing?
What could he have done differently, and should he have?
As for what to tell him, probably honesty is the best policy. It doesn't sound like he played a large role in your decision but everyone is the center of their own universe.
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
Look at it from his point of view. Someone from his empire is leaving, it's probably for reasons he controls since you're still around.
Did he screw up and somehow convince you to flee? Does he have a toxic employee who you're fleeing? Were you headhunted by a rival manager? Are you the last one? If he didn't see this coming, what else is he not seeing?
What could he have done differently, and should he have?
As for what to tell him, probably honesty is the best policy. It doesn't sound like he played a large role in your decision but everyone is the center of their own universe.
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
edited Aug 27 at 15:16
JScarecrow
434
434
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
answered Aug 27 at 12:44
Dark Matter
1,07049
1,07049
it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
add a comment |Â
it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
it is not his business to ask all these questions, Manager its just it, manager. Any question he may have -> HR Bombarding leaving employee is not just unprofessional, but shows incorrect personal behavior
– Strader
Aug 27 at 16:18
add a comment |Â
up vote
0
down vote
IMHO, do not answer any questions that you feel are invasive.
If it is the same company, any inquiry your current manager have, he can send by internal mail to HR.
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
add a comment |Â
up vote
0
down vote
IMHO, do not answer any questions that you feel are invasive.
If it is the same company, any inquiry your current manager have, he can send by internal mail to HR.
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
add a comment |Â
up vote
0
down vote
up vote
0
down vote
IMHO, do not answer any questions that you feel are invasive.
If it is the same company, any inquiry your current manager have, he can send by internal mail to HR.
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
IMHO, do not answer any questions that you feel are invasive.
If it is the same company, any inquiry your current manager have, he can send by internal mail to HR.
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
answered Aug 27 at 14:34
Strader
1,725117
1,725117
add a comment |Â
add a comment |Â
up vote
-1
down vote
Just be as honest as you feel comfortable to do so. It is quite unprofessional of your former manager to do this and ultimately it makes no difference to them.
Failing that you could air your concerns to your new manager if it continues to get worse.
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
2
it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
3
Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
add a comment |Â
up vote
-1
down vote
Just be as honest as you feel comfortable to do so. It is quite unprofessional of your former manager to do this and ultimately it makes no difference to them.
Failing that you could air your concerns to your new manager if it continues to get worse.
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
2
it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
3
Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
add a comment |Â
up vote
-1
down vote
up vote
-1
down vote
Just be as honest as you feel comfortable to do so. It is quite unprofessional of your former manager to do this and ultimately it makes no difference to them.
Failing that you could air your concerns to your new manager if it continues to get worse.
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
Just be as honest as you feel comfortable to do so. It is quite unprofessional of your former manager to do this and ultimately it makes no difference to them.
Failing that you could air your concerns to your new manager if it continues to get worse.
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
answered Aug 25 at 20:07
andtodd
1,6534418
1,6534418
2
it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
3
Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
add a comment |Â
2
it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
3
Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
2
2
it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
it makes a difference if another manager is head hunting your team without you knowing.
– Kilisi
Aug 26 at 13:21
3
3
Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
Or he's a good manager hoping to find out whether the team has a problem no one is talking about other than with their feet.
– Juha Untinen
Aug 26 at 20:30
add a comment |Â
4
1) Why do you think these questions were invasive? 2) Have you tried asking your manager why he asked those questions? Figuring out his motivation will better aid you with how to respond
– rath
Aug 27 at 0:46