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I am new to management and have started settling in.
However, I still feel a little awkward in the company of only seniors, specially in office sponsored parties or events.
I am invited to a company sponsored 2 day "off-site" event and I am the junior-most person in the invitees (both in designation and experience), with some seniors almost double my age.
I am just trying to prepare myself so that I don't look too awkward and out-of-place there. Unfortunately, there is no agenda in the invite and whomever I've asked they just say "it's an off-site" with a smile.
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
Appreciate all your help.
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I am new to management and have started settling in.
However, I still feel a little awkward in the company of only seniors, specially in office sponsored parties or events.
I am invited to a company sponsored 2 day "off-site" event and I am the junior-most person in the invitees (both in designation and experience), with some seniors almost double my age.
I am just trying to prepare myself so that I don't look too awkward and out-of-place there. Unfortunately, there is no agenda in the invite and whomever I've asked they just say "it's an off-site" with a smile.
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
Appreciate all your help.
career-development off-site-events
asked May 1 '14 at 2:14
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I am new to management and have started settling in.
However, I still feel a little awkward in the company of only seniors, specially in office sponsored parties or events.
I am invited to a company sponsored 2 day "off-site" event and I am the junior-most person in the invitees (both in designation and experience), with some seniors almost double my age.
I am just trying to prepare myself so that I don't look too awkward and out-of-place there. Unfortunately, there is no agenda in the invite and whomever I've asked they just say "it's an off-site" with a smile.
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
Appreciate all your help.
career-development off-site-events
asked May 1 '14 at 2:14
user3481416
816
I am new to management and have started settling in.
However, I still feel a little awkward in the company of only seniors, specially in office sponsored parties or events.
I am invited to a company sponsored 2 day "off-site" event and I am the junior-most person in the invitees (both in designation and experience), with some seniors almost double my age.
I am just trying to prepare myself so that I don't look too awkward and out-of-place there. Unfortunately, there is no agenda in the invite and whomever I've asked they just say "it's an off-site" with a smile.
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
Appreciate all your help.
career-development off-site-events
asked May 1 '14 at 2:14
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edited May 1 '14 at 3:59
asked May 1 '14 at 2:14
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What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so
that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
First, consider what intentions you have about this event. If you're thinking, "I'm not going to look awkward. I'm not going to look stupid." and other similar thoughts with a "not" in them, I don't really see this going particularly well. If I ask you not to think of a lemon, did you just think of a lemon?
"I'm going to learn how seniors behave. I'm going to learn something about the company's strategic vision. I'm going to build relationships among upper management." These would be much better to my mind. Additionally, do you think anyone is really going to keep track of each time you are awkward like some kind of blooper counter against you?
This could be some form of initiation and thus I'd be aware that some things may happen as a way to "break you in" so that you have a story like the other senior managers may have. That would be my guess of what that smile is meant to send.
While not exactly the same, I have had opportunities in the past year to help run some courses where I can remember what happened to me in the course that if someone brings up that they are taking it, I can smile that smile to remind me of how I felt when I had the course.
answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
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You are not comfortable? Fake it. Fake being comfortable and fake it good - And eventually, the fake will become real :) To quote the comment from A_worker_bee: "fake it till you make it!" :)
They may be seniors but they are people and as a group of people, they are no better or worse than you :) If they are inviting you, part of the reason is that they want you to be comfortable with them, just as they want to be comfortable with you - it's a process of mutual adjustment that goes two ways, so enjoy the free food :)
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
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You are really overthinking it. Be prepared for some non-specific schmoozing but mostly boozing. There may be an actual agenda or presentation of some sort when you get there, but if you're not told in advance, then you're not expected to do anything.
Relax. Don't drink too much.
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
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Hello and welcome to The Workplace. This post seems very similar to Vietnhi's. Is there any way you can differentiate it further as per our "don't repeat others" guidelines in the help center? Good luck and thanks for participating.
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3 Answers
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3 Answers
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up vote
12
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accepted
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so
that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
First, consider what intentions you have about this event. If you're thinking, "I'm not going to look awkward. I'm not going to look stupid." and other similar thoughts with a "not" in them, I don't really see this going particularly well. If I ask you not to think of a lemon, did you just think of a lemon?
"I'm going to learn how seniors behave. I'm going to learn something about the company's strategic vision. I'm going to build relationships among upper management." These would be much better to my mind. Additionally, do you think anyone is really going to keep track of each time you are awkward like some kind of blooper counter against you?
This could be some form of initiation and thus I'd be aware that some things may happen as a way to "break you in" so that you have a story like the other senior managers may have. That would be my guess of what that smile is meant to send.
While not exactly the same, I have had opportunities in the past year to help run some courses where I can remember what happened to me in the course that if someone brings up that they are taking it, I can smile that smile to remind me of how I felt when I had the course.
answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
JB King
15.1k22957
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up vote
12
down vote
accepted
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so
that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
First, consider what intentions you have about this event. If you're thinking, "I'm not going to look awkward. I'm not going to look stupid." and other similar thoughts with a "not" in them, I don't really see this going particularly well. If I ask you not to think of a lemon, did you just think of a lemon?
"I'm going to learn how seniors behave. I'm going to learn something about the company's strategic vision. I'm going to build relationships among upper management." These would be much better to my mind. Additionally, do you think anyone is really going to keep track of each time you are awkward like some kind of blooper counter against you?
This could be some form of initiation and thus I'd be aware that some things may happen as a way to "break you in" so that you have a story like the other senior managers may have. That would be my guess of what that smile is meant to send.
While not exactly the same, I have had opportunities in the past year to help run some courses where I can remember what happened to me in the course that if someone brings up that they are taking it, I can smile that smile to remind me of how I felt when I had the course.
answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
JB King
15.1k22957
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up vote
12
down vote
accepted
up vote
12
down vote
accepted
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so
that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
First, consider what intentions you have about this event. If you're thinking, "I'm not going to look awkward. I'm not going to look stupid." and other similar thoughts with a "not" in them, I don't really see this going particularly well. If I ask you not to think of a lemon, did you just think of a lemon?
"I'm going to learn how seniors behave. I'm going to learn something about the company's strategic vision. I'm going to build relationships among upper management." These would be much better to my mind. Additionally, do you think anyone is really going to keep track of each time you are awkward like some kind of blooper counter against you?
This could be some form of initiation and thus I'd be aware that some things may happen as a way to "break you in" so that you have a story like the other senior managers may have. That would be my guess of what that smile is meant to send.
While not exactly the same, I have had opportunities in the past year to help run some courses where I can remember what happened to me in the course that if someone brings up that they are taking it, I can smile that smile to remind me of how I felt when I had the course.
answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
JB King
15.1k22957
What should I expect in the event and what preparations I must do so
that I don't have too many deer in headlights moments.
First, consider what intentions you have about this event. If you're thinking, "I'm not going to look awkward. I'm not going to look stupid." and other similar thoughts with a "not" in them, I don't really see this going particularly well. If I ask you not to think of a lemon, did you just think of a lemon?
"I'm going to learn how seniors behave. I'm going to learn something about the company's strategic vision. I'm going to build relationships among upper management." These would be much better to my mind. Additionally, do you think anyone is really going to keep track of each time you are awkward like some kind of blooper counter against you?
This could be some form of initiation and thus I'd be aware that some things may happen as a way to "break you in" so that you have a story like the other senior managers may have. That would be my guess of what that smile is meant to send.
While not exactly the same, I have had opportunities in the past year to help run some courses where I can remember what happened to me in the course that if someone brings up that they are taking it, I can smile that smile to remind me of how I felt when I had the course.
answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
JB King
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answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
JB King
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answered May 1 '14 at 4:08
JB King
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You are not comfortable? Fake it. Fake being comfortable and fake it good - And eventually, the fake will become real :) To quote the comment from A_worker_bee: "fake it till you make it!" :)
They may be seniors but they are people and as a group of people, they are no better or worse than you :) If they are inviting you, part of the reason is that they want you to be comfortable with them, just as they want to be comfortable with you - it's a process of mutual adjustment that goes two ways, so enjoy the free food :)
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
Vietnhi Phuvan
68.9k7118254
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up vote
6
down vote
You are not comfortable? Fake it. Fake being comfortable and fake it good - And eventually, the fake will become real :) To quote the comment from A_worker_bee: "fake it till you make it!" :)
They may be seniors but they are people and as a group of people, they are no better or worse than you :) If they are inviting you, part of the reason is that they want you to be comfortable with them, just as they want to be comfortable with you - it's a process of mutual adjustment that goes two ways, so enjoy the free food :)
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
Vietnhi Phuvan
68.9k7118254
add a comment |Â
up vote
6
down vote
up vote
6
down vote
You are not comfortable? Fake it. Fake being comfortable and fake it good - And eventually, the fake will become real :) To quote the comment from A_worker_bee: "fake it till you make it!" :)
They may be seniors but they are people and as a group of people, they are no better or worse than you :) If they are inviting you, part of the reason is that they want you to be comfortable with them, just as they want to be comfortable with you - it's a process of mutual adjustment that goes two ways, so enjoy the free food :)
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
Vietnhi Phuvan
68.9k7118254
You are not comfortable? Fake it. Fake being comfortable and fake it good - And eventually, the fake will become real :) To quote the comment from A_worker_bee: "fake it till you make it!" :)
They may be seniors but they are people and as a group of people, they are no better or worse than you :) If they are inviting you, part of the reason is that they want you to be comfortable with them, just as they want to be comfortable with you - it's a process of mutual adjustment that goes two ways, so enjoy the free food :)
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
Vietnhi Phuvan
68.9k7118254
edited May 1 '14 at 11:40
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
Vietnhi Phuvan
68.9k7118254
answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
Vietnhi Phuvan
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answered May 1 '14 at 5:56
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68.9k7118254
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You are really overthinking it. Be prepared for some non-specific schmoozing but mostly boozing. There may be an actual agenda or presentation of some sort when you get there, but if you're not told in advance, then you're not expected to do anything.
Relax. Don't drink too much.
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
101
1
Hello and welcome to The Workplace. This post seems very similar to Vietnhi's. Is there any way you can differentiate it further as per our "don't repeat others" guidelines in the help center? Good luck and thanks for participating.
– jmort253♦
May 18 '14 at 15:42
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up vote
-2
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You are really overthinking it. Be prepared for some non-specific schmoozing but mostly boozing. There may be an actual agenda or presentation of some sort when you get there, but if you're not told in advance, then you're not expected to do anything.
Relax. Don't drink too much.
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
101
1
Hello and welcome to The Workplace. This post seems very similar to Vietnhi's. Is there any way you can differentiate it further as per our "don't repeat others" guidelines in the help center? Good luck and thanks for participating.
– jmort253♦
May 18 '14 at 15:42
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up vote
-2
down vote
up vote
-2
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You are really overthinking it. Be prepared for some non-specific schmoozing but mostly boozing. There may be an actual agenda or presentation of some sort when you get there, but if you're not told in advance, then you're not expected to do anything.
Relax. Don't drink too much.
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
101
You are really overthinking it. Be prepared for some non-specific schmoozing but mostly boozing. There may be an actual agenda or presentation of some sort when you get there, but if you're not told in advance, then you're not expected to do anything.
Relax. Don't drink too much.
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
101
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
101
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
101
answered May 17 '14 at 20:49
mrj
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101
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Hello and welcome to The Workplace. This post seems very similar to Vietnhi's. Is there any way you can differentiate it further as per our "don't repeat others" guidelines in the help center? Good luck and thanks for participating.
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May 18 '14 at 15:42
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May 18 '14 at 15:42
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Hello and welcome to The Workplace. This post seems very similar to Vietnhi's. Is there any way you can differentiate it further as per our "don't repeat others" guidelines in the help center? Good luck and thanks for participating.
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May 18 '14 at 15:42
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