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I made a small joke which offended my manager. It wasn't racist, sexist or anything of the sort.
Here's what it was. My manager is the head of an extracurricular club at work. Since it's the start of the year, he asked his team (us) to sign up for the club and to help him out. We willingly supported him and signed up for it. After thanking us, he said he hoped to see us participate in the activities. I made a slight joke saying, "We didn't expect it to be a lifetime commitment!" And that's when he walked out of the room, saying that he felt we were forced into signing up.
I've already apologized via email. My co-workers said that I had to adjust to his personality type: being a "feeler." I'm a thinker first, a feeler second and a controller third.
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
professionalism relationships manager
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I made a small joke which offended my manager. It wasn't racist, sexist or anything of the sort.
Here's what it was. My manager is the head of an extracurricular club at work. Since it's the start of the year, he asked his team (us) to sign up for the club and to help him out. We willingly supported him and signed up for it. After thanking us, he said he hoped to see us participate in the activities. I made a slight joke saying, "We didn't expect it to be a lifetime commitment!" And that's when he walked out of the room, saying that he felt we were forced into signing up.
I've already apologized via email. My co-workers said that I had to adjust to his personality type: being a "feeler." I'm a thinker first, a feeler second and a controller third.
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
professionalism relationships manager
edited May 8 '14 at 15:49
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
asked Feb 25 '14 at 16:38
Ellesa
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Just my opinion, but one shouldn't judge a situation before hearing both parties. You never know what the other guy was thinking about.
– Long
Feb 25 '14 at 23:30
1
Sigh, I wish my boss did stuff like this
– Adel
Feb 26 '14 at 3:17
2
Were you forced into signing up?
– starsplusplus
May 8 '14 at 14:36
2
Your boss is a sensitive twat.
– Quora Feans
Apr 26 '17 at 11:44
1
I wouldn't apologize. Your joke was quite appropriate and seems like obviously a joke and not cynicism. If he got offended, he was thin skinned and we shouldn't encourage the tyranny of hypersensitivity by apologizing and giving legitimacy to such reactions.
– amphibient
May 2 '17 at 23:04
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I made a small joke which offended my manager. It wasn't racist, sexist or anything of the sort.
Here's what it was. My manager is the head of an extracurricular club at work. Since it's the start of the year, he asked his team (us) to sign up for the club and to help him out. We willingly supported him and signed up for it. After thanking us, he said he hoped to see us participate in the activities. I made a slight joke saying, "We didn't expect it to be a lifetime commitment!" And that's when he walked out of the room, saying that he felt we were forced into signing up.
I've already apologized via email. My co-workers said that I had to adjust to his personality type: being a "feeler." I'm a thinker first, a feeler second and a controller third.
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
professionalism relationships manager
edited May 8 '14 at 15:49
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
asked Feb 25 '14 at 16:38
Ellesa
22526
I made a small joke which offended my manager. It wasn't racist, sexist or anything of the sort.
Here's what it was. My manager is the head of an extracurricular club at work. Since it's the start of the year, he asked his team (us) to sign up for the club and to help him out. We willingly supported him and signed up for it. After thanking us, he said he hoped to see us participate in the activities. I made a slight joke saying, "We didn't expect it to be a lifetime commitment!" And that's when he walked out of the room, saying that he felt we were forced into signing up.
I've already apologized via email. My co-workers said that I had to adjust to his personality type: being a "feeler." I'm a thinker first, a feeler second and a controller third.
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
professionalism relationships manager
edited May 8 '14 at 15:49
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
asked Feb 25 '14 at 16:38
Ellesa
22526
edited May 8 '14 at 15:49
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
edited May 8 '14 at 15:49
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
edited May 8 '14 at 15:49
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
43.9k1398188
asked Feb 25 '14 at 16:38
Ellesa
22526
asked Feb 25 '14 at 16:38
Ellesa
22526
asked Feb 25 '14 at 16:38
Ellesa
22526
22526
1
Just my opinion, but one shouldn't judge a situation before hearing both parties. You never know what the other guy was thinking about.
– Long
Feb 25 '14 at 23:30
1
Sigh, I wish my boss did stuff like this
– Adel
Feb 26 '14 at 3:17
2
Were you forced into signing up?
– starsplusplus
May 8 '14 at 14:36
2
Your boss is a sensitive twat.
– Quora Feans
Apr 26 '17 at 11:44
1
I wouldn't apologize. Your joke was quite appropriate and seems like obviously a joke and not cynicism. If he got offended, he was thin skinned and we shouldn't encourage the tyranny of hypersensitivity by apologizing and giving legitimacy to such reactions.
– amphibient
May 2 '17 at 23:04
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1
Just my opinion, but one shouldn't judge a situation before hearing both parties. You never know what the other guy was thinking about.
– Long
Feb 25 '14 at 23:30
1
Sigh, I wish my boss did stuff like this
– Adel
Feb 26 '14 at 3:17
2
Were you forced into signing up?
– starsplusplus
May 8 '14 at 14:36
2
Your boss is a sensitive twat.
– Quora Feans
Apr 26 '17 at 11:44
1
I wouldn't apologize. Your joke was quite appropriate and seems like obviously a joke and not cynicism. If he got offended, he was thin skinned and we shouldn't encourage the tyranny of hypersensitivity by apologizing and giving legitimacy to such reactions.
– amphibient
May 2 '17 at 23:04
1
1
Just my opinion, but one shouldn't judge a situation before hearing both parties. You never know what the other guy was thinking about.
– Long
Feb 25 '14 at 23:30
Just my opinion, but one shouldn't judge a situation before hearing both parties. You never know what the other guy was thinking about.
– Long
Feb 25 '14 at 23:30
1
1
Sigh, I wish my boss did stuff like this
– Adel
Feb 26 '14 at 3:17
Sigh, I wish my boss did stuff like this
– Adel
Feb 26 '14 at 3:17
2
2
Were you forced into signing up?
– starsplusplus
May 8 '14 at 14:36
Were you forced into signing up?
– starsplusplus
May 8 '14 at 14:36
2
2
Your boss is a sensitive twat.
– Quora Feans
Apr 26 '17 at 11:44
Your boss is a sensitive twat.
– Quora Feans
Apr 26 '17 at 11:44
1
1
I wouldn't apologize. Your joke was quite appropriate and seems like obviously a joke and not cynicism. If he got offended, he was thin skinned and we shouldn't encourage the tyranny of hypersensitivity by apologizing and giving legitimacy to such reactions.
– amphibient
May 2 '17 at 23:04
I wouldn't apologize. Your joke was quite appropriate and seems like obviously a joke and not cynicism. If he got offended, he was thin skinned and we shouldn't encourage the tyranny of hypersensitivity by apologizing and giving legitimacy to such reactions.
– amphibient
May 2 '17 at 23:04
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But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time
he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
How about walking into his office and saying "Boss, do you have a minute to chat?"
Then, you sincerely apologize for offending him, and discuss the situation so you reach an understanding about why he was offended, and how you can avoid such a situation in the future.
Many times, just talking with the party involved is the first step to understanding. This is one of those times.
Additionally, apologies should almost always be delivered personally, rather than via email, whenever it's practical to do so. We convey a lot in our tone, attitude, body language, etc - all of that is lost when using emails. You may have delivered a written text, but not actually conveyed a real apology.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
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I think this is a problem with your manager who's taking things a bit too personally. I don't think you need to continue apologizing or trying to make amends - you apologized in an email and that is enough.
What I would do is note for future reference that he does not take this kind of humor as you do, and avoid these sorts of jokes in future.
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
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answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
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An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
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@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
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Not having the full context, it's hard to provide the best answer for your case. How many times has this happened before? How good is your professional relationship with your manager? But here's the way I'd approach this situation.
I'd personally send him an email mentioning that I'd like to have an opportunity to have a moment with him (lunch, coffee, etc.) to talk about this issue whenever he has time to spare for me. This way you let him know you'd like to clear the air, and he can spend the time he needs to cool down, then schedule some time to meet you when he is ready.
During the discussion, I'd make sure to let him know my comment was meant as a jest, not to be an insult to either himself or his help request to his team. I'd also be very honest about how I feel our different personalities might lead to similar uneasy situations, and try to talk about possible solution.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
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Pretend nothing has happened for now and business is as usual. However, find a suitable time, usually at an office party or any other occasion where the boss is relaxed (make sure he is alone too,) and apologize that you have been rude and would like a fresh start. Apologizing right away is not the right answer. Let him also ponder over, what has transpired. May be, you were right. However apology should come sooner than later.
I am advising this based upon personal experience. I was the boss and someone did exactly the same to me. If he would have pulled, "can I talk to you for a moment" on me, it would have made no effect on me. However, he finally apologized in the circumstances I described, I had my guards down, so did he. He was genuine (at least seemed that way.)
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But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time
he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
How about walking into his office and saying "Boss, do you have a minute to chat?"
Then, you sincerely apologize for offending him, and discuss the situation so you reach an understanding about why he was offended, and how you can avoid such a situation in the future.
Many times, just talking with the party involved is the first step to understanding. This is one of those times.
Additionally, apologies should almost always be delivered personally, rather than via email, whenever it's practical to do so. We convey a lot in our tone, attitude, body language, etc - all of that is lost when using emails. You may have delivered a written text, but not actually conveyed a real apology.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
Joe Strazzere
224k107661930
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up vote
59
down vote
accepted
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time
he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
How about walking into his office and saying "Boss, do you have a minute to chat?"
Then, you sincerely apologize for offending him, and discuss the situation so you reach an understanding about why he was offended, and how you can avoid such a situation in the future.
Many times, just talking with the party involved is the first step to understanding. This is one of those times.
Additionally, apologies should almost always be delivered personally, rather than via email, whenever it's practical to do so. We convey a lot in our tone, attitude, body language, etc - all of that is lost when using emails. You may have delivered a written text, but not actually conveyed a real apology.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
Joe Strazzere
224k107661930
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up vote
59
down vote
accepted
up vote
59
down vote
accepted
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time
he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
How about walking into his office and saying "Boss, do you have a minute to chat?"
Then, you sincerely apologize for offending him, and discuss the situation so you reach an understanding about why he was offended, and how you can avoid such a situation in the future.
Many times, just talking with the party involved is the first step to understanding. This is one of those times.
Additionally, apologies should almost always be delivered personally, rather than via email, whenever it's practical to do so. We convey a lot in our tone, attitude, body language, etc - all of that is lost when using emails. You may have delivered a written text, but not actually conveyed a real apology.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
Joe Strazzere
224k107661930
But I would also like to talk to him because this isn't the first time
he's reacted this way over a small thing. How do I approach him?
How about walking into his office and saying "Boss, do you have a minute to chat?"
Then, you sincerely apologize for offending him, and discuss the situation so you reach an understanding about why he was offended, and how you can avoid such a situation in the future.
Many times, just talking with the party involved is the first step to understanding. This is one of those times.
Additionally, apologies should almost always be delivered personally, rather than via email, whenever it's practical to do so. We convey a lot in our tone, attitude, body language, etc - all of that is lost when using emails. You may have delivered a written text, but not actually conveyed a real apology.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
Joe Strazzere
224k107661930
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
Joe Strazzere
224k107661930
answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
Joe Strazzere
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answered Feb 25 '14 at 17:25
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I think this is a problem with your manager who's taking things a bit too personally. I don't think you need to continue apologizing or trying to make amends - you apologized in an email and that is enough.
What I would do is note for future reference that he does not take this kind of humor as you do, and avoid these sorts of jokes in future.
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
7
An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
2
@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
add a comment |Â
up vote
9
down vote
I think this is a problem with your manager who's taking things a bit too personally. I don't think you need to continue apologizing or trying to make amends - you apologized in an email and that is enough.
What I would do is note for future reference that he does not take this kind of humor as you do, and avoid these sorts of jokes in future.
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
7
An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
2
@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
add a comment |Â
up vote
9
down vote
up vote
9
down vote
I think this is a problem with your manager who's taking things a bit too personally. I don't think you need to continue apologizing or trying to make amends - you apologized in an email and that is enough.
What I would do is note for future reference that he does not take this kind of humor as you do, and avoid these sorts of jokes in future.
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
I think this is a problem with your manager who's taking things a bit too personally. I don't think you need to continue apologizing or trying to make amends - you apologized in an email and that is enough.
What I would do is note for future reference that he does not take this kind of humor as you do, and avoid these sorts of jokes in future.
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
edited May 8 '14 at 14:46
starsplusplus
1,2741220
1,2741220
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:49
Sigal Shaharabani
1,480611
1,480611
7
An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
2
@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
add a comment |Â
7
An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
2
@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
7
7
An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
An apology by email is never good. If you think you need to apologise for something do it in person. Anything less will seem insincere. If you think something doesn't warrant a personal apology, then don't apologise at all. The 'offence' was face to face, so the apology should be too. Hence my -1 for this answer.
– vascowhite
Feb 26 '14 at 3:01
2
2
@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
@vascowhite never say never. Sometimes email may be an acceptable course, if it is sincere enough. It gives time to the other party to respond after thinking carefully.
– user13107
Feb 26 '14 at 12:11
add a comment |Â
up vote
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Not having the full context, it's hard to provide the best answer for your case. How many times has this happened before? How good is your professional relationship with your manager? But here's the way I'd approach this situation.
I'd personally send him an email mentioning that I'd like to have an opportunity to have a moment with him (lunch, coffee, etc.) to talk about this issue whenever he has time to spare for me. This way you let him know you'd like to clear the air, and he can spend the time he needs to cool down, then schedule some time to meet you when he is ready.
During the discussion, I'd make sure to let him know my comment was meant as a jest, not to be an insult to either himself or his help request to his team. I'd also be very honest about how I feel our different personalities might lead to similar uneasy situations, and try to talk about possible solution.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
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up vote
7
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Not having the full context, it's hard to provide the best answer for your case. How many times has this happened before? How good is your professional relationship with your manager? But here's the way I'd approach this situation.
I'd personally send him an email mentioning that I'd like to have an opportunity to have a moment with him (lunch, coffee, etc.) to talk about this issue whenever he has time to spare for me. This way you let him know you'd like to clear the air, and he can spend the time he needs to cool down, then schedule some time to meet you when he is ready.
During the discussion, I'd make sure to let him know my comment was meant as a jest, not to be an insult to either himself or his help request to his team. I'd also be very honest about how I feel our different personalities might lead to similar uneasy situations, and try to talk about possible solution.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
22239
add a comment |Â
up vote
7
down vote
up vote
7
down vote
Not having the full context, it's hard to provide the best answer for your case. How many times has this happened before? How good is your professional relationship with your manager? But here's the way I'd approach this situation.
I'd personally send him an email mentioning that I'd like to have an opportunity to have a moment with him (lunch, coffee, etc.) to talk about this issue whenever he has time to spare for me. This way you let him know you'd like to clear the air, and he can spend the time he needs to cool down, then schedule some time to meet you when he is ready.
During the discussion, I'd make sure to let him know my comment was meant as a jest, not to be an insult to either himself or his help request to his team. I'd also be very honest about how I feel our different personalities might lead to similar uneasy situations, and try to talk about possible solution.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
22239
Not having the full context, it's hard to provide the best answer for your case. How many times has this happened before? How good is your professional relationship with your manager? But here's the way I'd approach this situation.
I'd personally send him an email mentioning that I'd like to have an opportunity to have a moment with him (lunch, coffee, etc.) to talk about this issue whenever he has time to spare for me. This way you let him know you'd like to clear the air, and he can spend the time he needs to cool down, then schedule some time to meet you when he is ready.
During the discussion, I'd make sure to let him know my comment was meant as a jest, not to be an insult to either himself or his help request to his team. I'd also be very honest about how I feel our different personalities might lead to similar uneasy situations, and try to talk about possible solution.
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
22239
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
22239
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
22239
answered Feb 25 '14 at 16:54
Laf
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22239
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Pretend nothing has happened for now and business is as usual. However, find a suitable time, usually at an office party or any other occasion where the boss is relaxed (make sure he is alone too,) and apologize that you have been rude and would like a fresh start. Apologizing right away is not the right answer. Let him also ponder over, what has transpired. May be, you were right. However apology should come sooner than later.
I am advising this based upon personal experience. I was the boss and someone did exactly the same to me. If he would have pulled, "can I talk to you for a moment" on me, it would have made no effect on me. However, he finally apologized in the circumstances I described, I had my guards down, so did he. He was genuine (at least seemed that way.)
edited May 7 '14 at 23:31
jmac
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answered Feb 26 '14 at 2:01
Ash
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up vote
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Pretend nothing has happened for now and business is as usual. However, find a suitable time, usually at an office party or any other occasion where the boss is relaxed (make sure he is alone too,) and apologize that you have been rude and would like a fresh start. Apologizing right away is not the right answer. Let him also ponder over, what has transpired. May be, you were right. However apology should come sooner than later.
I am advising this based upon personal experience. I was the boss and someone did exactly the same to me. If he would have pulled, "can I talk to you for a moment" on me, it would have made no effect on me. However, he finally apologized in the circumstances I described, I had my guards down, so did he. He was genuine (at least seemed that way.)
edited May 7 '14 at 23:31
jmac
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answered Feb 26 '14 at 2:01
Ash
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up vote
-2
down vote
up vote
-2
down vote
Pretend nothing has happened for now and business is as usual. However, find a suitable time, usually at an office party or any other occasion where the boss is relaxed (make sure he is alone too,) and apologize that you have been rude and would like a fresh start. Apologizing right away is not the right answer. Let him also ponder over, what has transpired. May be, you were right. However apology should come sooner than later.
I am advising this based upon personal experience. I was the boss and someone did exactly the same to me. If he would have pulled, "can I talk to you for a moment" on me, it would have made no effect on me. However, he finally apologized in the circumstances I described, I had my guards down, so did he. He was genuine (at least seemed that way.)
edited May 7 '14 at 23:31
jmac
19.4k763137
answered Feb 26 '14 at 2:01
Ash
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Pretend nothing has happened for now and business is as usual. However, find a suitable time, usually at an office party or any other occasion where the boss is relaxed (make sure he is alone too,) and apologize that you have been rude and would like a fresh start. Apologizing right away is not the right answer. Let him also ponder over, what has transpired. May be, you were right. However apology should come sooner than later.
I am advising this based upon personal experience. I was the boss and someone did exactly the same to me. If he would have pulled, "can I talk to you for a moment" on me, it would have made no effect on me. However, he finally apologized in the circumstances I described, I had my guards down, so did he. He was genuine (at least seemed that way.)
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Just my opinion, but one shouldn't judge a situation before hearing both parties. You never know what the other guy was thinking about.
– Long
Feb 25 '14 at 23:30
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Sigh, I wish my boss did stuff like this
– Adel
Feb 26 '14 at 3:17
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Were you forced into signing up?
– starsplusplus
May 8 '14 at 14:36
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Your boss is a sensitive twat.
– Quora Feans
Apr 26 '17 at 11:44
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I wouldn't apologize. Your joke was quite appropriate and seems like obviously a joke and not cynicism. If he got offended, he was thin skinned and we shouldn't encourage the tyranny of hypersensitivity by apologizing and giving legitimacy to such reactions.
– amphibient
May 2 '17 at 23:04