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When I'm in a meeting with several people and I start to ask a question, my boss usually interrupts me when I'm about 70% done asking my question/providing context. When she interrupts, she typically dismisses what I'm saying and then responds to the part that I've spoken... not the actual question that I have at the end. She then continues talking for several minutes and then apologizes to everyone for her talking too much and then changes the course of the conversation leaving my question unanswered or leaving the impression that I meant what she responded to. She responds usually within ~30 seconds of me starting to talk. There are other small patterns that I've noticed such as she typically only does this when marketing/sales people are on the meeting.
I've read that this can be considered gaslighting. I've tried making the questions/providing context as short as possible, asked "excuse me, can I finish my question?", and tried also explaining that the "point" I was trying to make has been missed. I'm a (remote) VP in a technical role at this company, she's the CEO. From what I've seen, she doesn't do this to other people.
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When I'm in a meeting with several people and I start to ask a question, my boss usually interrupts me when I'm about 70% done asking my question/providing context. When she interrupts, she typically dismisses what I'm saying and then responds to the part that I've spoken... not the actual question that I have at the end. She then continues talking for several minutes and then apologizes to everyone for her talking too much and then changes the course of the conversation leaving my question unanswered or leaving the impression that I meant what she responded to. She responds usually within ~30 seconds of me starting to talk. There are other small patterns that I've noticed such as she typically only does this when marketing/sales people are on the meeting.
I've read that this can be considered gaslighting. I've tried making the questions/providing context as short as possible, asked "excuse me, can I finish my question?", and tried also explaining that the "point" I was trying to make has been missed. I'm a (remote) VP in a technical role at this company, she's the CEO. From what I've seen, she doesn't do this to other people.
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When I'm in a meeting with several people and I start to ask a question, my boss usually interrupts me when I'm about 70% done asking my question/providing context. When she interrupts, she typically dismisses what I'm saying and then responds to the part that I've spoken... not the actual question that I have at the end. She then continues talking for several minutes and then apologizes to everyone for her talking too much and then changes the course of the conversation leaving my question unanswered or leaving the impression that I meant what she responded to. She responds usually within ~30 seconds of me starting to talk. There are other small patterns that I've noticed such as she typically only does this when marketing/sales people are on the meeting.
I've read that this can be considered gaslighting. I've tried making the questions/providing context as short as possible, asked "excuse me, can I finish my question?", and tried also explaining that the "point" I was trying to make has been missed. I'm a (remote) VP in a technical role at this company, she's the CEO. From what I've seen, she doesn't do this to other people.
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When I'm in a meeting with several people and I start to ask a question, my boss usually interrupts me when I'm about 70% done asking my question/providing context. When she interrupts, she typically dismisses what I'm saying and then responds to the part that I've spoken... not the actual question that I have at the end. She then continues talking for several minutes and then apologizes to everyone for her talking too much and then changes the course of the conversation leaving my question unanswered or leaving the impression that I meant what she responded to. She responds usually within ~30 seconds of me starting to talk. There are other small patterns that I've noticed such as she typically only does this when marketing/sales people are on the meeting.
I've read that this can be considered gaslighting. I've tried making the questions/providing context as short as possible, asked "excuse me, can I finish my question?", and tried also explaining that the "point" I was trying to make has been missed. I'm a (remote) VP in a technical role at this company, she's the CEO. From what I've seen, she doesn't do this to other people.
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