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I am a site engineer. Once, my project manager called me and yelled at me because I was not around when a delivery arrived. I told my manager I was in the toilet at the time, which is a true. Afterwards, the assistant of the project manager came to my work place and started teasing me with my immediate boss. They said that my boss had not taught me manners, because I told a project manager I was in the toilet.
My question is, is it really wrong to say what I did in that situation? If I didn't say that he would have assumed that I was roaming somewhere avoiding work.
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I am a site engineer. Once, my project manager called me and yelled at me because I was not around when a delivery arrived. I told my manager I was in the toilet at the time, which is a true. Afterwards, the assistant of the project manager came to my work place and started teasing me with my immediate boss. They said that my boss had not taught me manners, because I told a project manager I was in the toilet.
My question is, is it really wrong to say what I did in that situation? If I didn't say that he would have assumed that I was roaming somewhere avoiding work.
communication india
edited Aug 28 at 16:28
Mister Positive
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asked Aug 28 at 14:47
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(I appreciate English may not be your first language, which is perfectly OK) But could you try to clarify the sentence "you have not taught manus to your assistant he tells he was pissing, in front of a project manager.", as it's not clear what you are trying to say.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:02
@Bilkokuya might it be "manners"?
– rath
Aug 28 at 15:04
i mean they were telling that infront of a person like project manager is wrong.since i told i was in toilet.
– vinaya kumar J
Aug 28 at 15:06
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@vinayakumarJ I've done my best to edit this into clearer English, however - it is my best interpretation, and so if this does not reflect your intended meaning, please reject/rollback.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:13
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I'm afraid this might be very localized. For example, in my country, saying "I took a piss" would be bad manners indeed (too much intimate detail), while "I was using the restroom" or even "I was using the toilet" is the polite way to put it. I have no idea about your region, culture and language of India, but it seems you might be the best person to answer your own question.
– nvoigt
Aug 28 at 18:58
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I am a site engineer. Once, my project manager called me and yelled at me because I was not around when a delivery arrived. I told my manager I was in the toilet at the time, which is a true. Afterwards, the assistant of the project manager came to my work place and started teasing me with my immediate boss. They said that my boss had not taught me manners, because I told a project manager I was in the toilet.
My question is, is it really wrong to say what I did in that situation? If I didn't say that he would have assumed that I was roaming somewhere avoiding work.
communication india
edited Aug 28 at 16:28
Mister Positive
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asked Aug 28 at 14:47
vinaya kumar J
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I am a site engineer. Once, my project manager called me and yelled at me because I was not around when a delivery arrived. I told my manager I was in the toilet at the time, which is a true. Afterwards, the assistant of the project manager came to my work place and started teasing me with my immediate boss. They said that my boss had not taught me manners, because I told a project manager I was in the toilet.
My question is, is it really wrong to say what I did in that situation? If I didn't say that he would have assumed that I was roaming somewhere avoiding work.
communication india
edited Aug 28 at 16:28
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
asked Aug 28 at 14:47
vinaya kumar J
305
edited Aug 28 at 16:28
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
edited Aug 28 at 16:28
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
edited Aug 28 at 16:28
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
54.5k27177224
asked Aug 28 at 14:47
vinaya kumar J
305
asked Aug 28 at 14:47
vinaya kumar J
305
asked Aug 28 at 14:47
vinaya kumar J
305
305
(I appreciate English may not be your first language, which is perfectly OK) But could you try to clarify the sentence "you have not taught manus to your assistant he tells he was pissing, in front of a project manager.", as it's not clear what you are trying to say.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:02
@Bilkokuya might it be "manners"?
– rath
Aug 28 at 15:04
i mean they were telling that infront of a person like project manager is wrong.since i told i was in toilet.
– vinaya kumar J
Aug 28 at 15:06
1
@vinayakumarJ I've done my best to edit this into clearer English, however - it is my best interpretation, and so if this does not reflect your intended meaning, please reject/rollback.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:13
1
I'm afraid this might be very localized. For example, in my country, saying "I took a piss" would be bad manners indeed (too much intimate detail), while "I was using the restroom" or even "I was using the toilet" is the polite way to put it. I have no idea about your region, culture and language of India, but it seems you might be the best person to answer your own question.
– nvoigt
Aug 28 at 18:58
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(I appreciate English may not be your first language, which is perfectly OK) But could you try to clarify the sentence "you have not taught manus to your assistant he tells he was pissing, in front of a project manager.", as it's not clear what you are trying to say.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:02
@Bilkokuya might it be "manners"?
– rath
Aug 28 at 15:04
i mean they were telling that infront of a person like project manager is wrong.since i told i was in toilet.
– vinaya kumar J
Aug 28 at 15:06
1
@vinayakumarJ I've done my best to edit this into clearer English, however - it is my best interpretation, and so if this does not reflect your intended meaning, please reject/rollback.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:13
1
I'm afraid this might be very localized. For example, in my country, saying "I took a piss" would be bad manners indeed (too much intimate detail), while "I was using the restroom" or even "I was using the toilet" is the polite way to put it. I have no idea about your region, culture and language of India, but it seems you might be the best person to answer your own question.
– nvoigt
Aug 28 at 18:58
(I appreciate English may not be your first language, which is perfectly OK) But could you try to clarify the sentence "you have not taught manus to your assistant he tells he was pissing, in front of a project manager.", as it's not clear what you are trying to say.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:02
(I appreciate English may not be your first language, which is perfectly OK) But could you try to clarify the sentence "you have not taught manus to your assistant he tells he was pissing, in front of a project manager.", as it's not clear what you are trying to say.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:02
@Bilkokuya might it be "manners"?
– rath
Aug 28 at 15:04
@Bilkokuya might it be "manners"?
– rath
Aug 28 at 15:04
i mean they were telling that infront of a person like project manager is wrong.since i told i was in toilet.
– vinaya kumar J
Aug 28 at 15:06
i mean they were telling that infront of a person like project manager is wrong.since i told i was in toilet.
– vinaya kumar J
Aug 28 at 15:06
1
1
@vinayakumarJ I've done my best to edit this into clearer English, however - it is my best interpretation, and so if this does not reflect your intended meaning, please reject/rollback.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:13
@vinayakumarJ I've done my best to edit this into clearer English, however - it is my best interpretation, and so if this does not reflect your intended meaning, please reject/rollback.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:13
1
1
I'm afraid this might be very localized. For example, in my country, saying "I took a piss" would be bad manners indeed (too much intimate detail), while "I was using the restroom" or even "I was using the toilet" is the polite way to put it. I have no idea about your region, culture and language of India, but it seems you might be the best person to answer your own question.
– nvoigt
Aug 28 at 18:58
I'm afraid this might be very localized. For example, in my country, saying "I took a piss" would be bad manners indeed (too much intimate detail), while "I was using the restroom" or even "I was using the toilet" is the polite way to put it. I have no idea about your region, culture and language of India, but it seems you might be the best person to answer your own question.
– nvoigt
Aug 28 at 18:58
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There are always more appropriate ways to say unappropriate things. In many cultures "I was in the toilet" may seem somewhat crude or manner-lacking, so you could use widely used synonyms and euphemisms.
Some euphemisms I know of are
I was heeding the call of nature
I was in a private meeting
I had to excuse myself
I went to the bathroom
I was washing my hands
The problem with these is that the other party has to know exactly what you mean in order to prevent trouble. Someone could misinterpret them deliberately and accuse you of lazing around. So saying "I was in the toilet" might be better than "I was washing my hands" in this particular situation.
As Mister Positive already stated, you should make sure someone is available if and when you expect a delivery, phone call, visitor or things like that. It's enough to tell them "Please stay here in case the delivery arrives. I have to be away for a few minutes." No need for more details.
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
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Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
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Telling the truth as you did was the right thing to do, lying serves no purpose. In this case, I would ignore the minor teasing and put it out of your mind.
The next time something is to be delivered, be sure someone is watching for it should you need to take a break of any kind. (Lunch, toilet, etc.)
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
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Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
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2 Answers
2
active
oldest
votes
2 Answers
2
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
up vote
3
down vote
accepted
There are always more appropriate ways to say unappropriate things. In many cultures "I was in the toilet" may seem somewhat crude or manner-lacking, so you could use widely used synonyms and euphemisms.
Some euphemisms I know of are
I was heeding the call of nature
I was in a private meeting
I had to excuse myself
I went to the bathroom
I was washing my hands
The problem with these is that the other party has to know exactly what you mean in order to prevent trouble. Someone could misinterpret them deliberately and accuse you of lazing around. So saying "I was in the toilet" might be better than "I was washing my hands" in this particular situation.
As Mister Positive already stated, you should make sure someone is available if and when you expect a delivery, phone call, visitor or things like that. It's enough to tell them "Please stay here in case the delivery arrives. I have to be away for a few minutes." No need for more details.
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
2
Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
add a comment |Â
up vote
3
down vote
accepted
There are always more appropriate ways to say unappropriate things. In many cultures "I was in the toilet" may seem somewhat crude or manner-lacking, so you could use widely used synonyms and euphemisms.
Some euphemisms I know of are
I was heeding the call of nature
I was in a private meeting
I had to excuse myself
I went to the bathroom
I was washing my hands
The problem with these is that the other party has to know exactly what you mean in order to prevent trouble. Someone could misinterpret them deliberately and accuse you of lazing around. So saying "I was in the toilet" might be better than "I was washing my hands" in this particular situation.
As Mister Positive already stated, you should make sure someone is available if and when you expect a delivery, phone call, visitor or things like that. It's enough to tell them "Please stay here in case the delivery arrives. I have to be away for a few minutes." No need for more details.
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
2
Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
add a comment |Â
up vote
3
down vote
accepted
up vote
3
down vote
accepted
There are always more appropriate ways to say unappropriate things. In many cultures "I was in the toilet" may seem somewhat crude or manner-lacking, so you could use widely used synonyms and euphemisms.
Some euphemisms I know of are
I was heeding the call of nature
I was in a private meeting
I had to excuse myself
I went to the bathroom
I was washing my hands
The problem with these is that the other party has to know exactly what you mean in order to prevent trouble. Someone could misinterpret them deliberately and accuse you of lazing around. So saying "I was in the toilet" might be better than "I was washing my hands" in this particular situation.
As Mister Positive already stated, you should make sure someone is available if and when you expect a delivery, phone call, visitor or things like that. It's enough to tell them "Please stay here in case the delivery arrives. I have to be away for a few minutes." No need for more details.
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
There are always more appropriate ways to say unappropriate things. In many cultures "I was in the toilet" may seem somewhat crude or manner-lacking, so you could use widely used synonyms and euphemisms.
Some euphemisms I know of are
I was heeding the call of nature
I was in a private meeting
I had to excuse myself
I went to the bathroom
I was washing my hands
The problem with these is that the other party has to know exactly what you mean in order to prevent trouble. Someone could misinterpret them deliberately and accuse you of lazing around. So saying "I was in the toilet" might be better than "I was washing my hands" in this particular situation.
As Mister Positive already stated, you should make sure someone is available if and when you expect a delivery, phone call, visitor or things like that. It's enough to tell them "Please stay here in case the delivery arrives. I have to be away for a few minutes." No need for more details.
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
edited Aug 28 at 18:13
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
answered Aug 28 at 16:37
YElm
4,95131025
4,95131025
2
Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
add a comment |Â
2
Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
2
2
Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
Those are euphemisms, not synonyms.
– mob
Aug 28 at 18:05
add a comment |Â
up vote
13
down vote
Telling the truth as you did was the right thing to do, lying serves no purpose. In this case, I would ignore the minor teasing and put it out of your mind.
The next time something is to be delivered, be sure someone is watching for it should you need to take a break of any kind. (Lunch, toilet, etc.)
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
3
Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
add a comment |Â
up vote
13
down vote
Telling the truth as you did was the right thing to do, lying serves no purpose. In this case, I would ignore the minor teasing and put it out of your mind.
The next time something is to be delivered, be sure someone is watching for it should you need to take a break of any kind. (Lunch, toilet, etc.)
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
3
Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
add a comment |Â
up vote
13
down vote
up vote
13
down vote
Telling the truth as you did was the right thing to do, lying serves no purpose. In this case, I would ignore the minor teasing and put it out of your mind.
The next time something is to be delivered, be sure someone is watching for it should you need to take a break of any kind. (Lunch, toilet, etc.)
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
Telling the truth as you did was the right thing to do, lying serves no purpose. In this case, I would ignore the minor teasing and put it out of your mind.
The next time something is to be delivered, be sure someone is watching for it should you need to take a break of any kind. (Lunch, toilet, etc.)
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
edited Aug 28 at 15:19
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
answered Aug 28 at 15:11
Mister Positive
54.5k27177224
54.5k27177224
3
Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
add a comment |Â
3
Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
3
3
Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Or, if there's no one else around, you can also put up a sign saying "Back in 5 minutes"
– David K
Aug 28 at 16:27
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
Euphemisms aren't lies, and it's often socially expected to use them (the same could be said about not oversharing). Although I don't see much of a problem with "in the toilet".
– Dukeling
Aug 28 at 17:09
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
@Dukeling The truth usually suffices in a case like this.
– Mister Positive
Aug 28 at 17:13
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
yep, just ignore it or joke back 'yeah really I'm Batman and had to go out save some lives for a minute'
– Kilisi
Aug 28 at 20:24
add a comment |Â
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(I appreciate English may not be your first language, which is perfectly OK) But could you try to clarify the sentence "you have not taught manus to your assistant he tells he was pissing, in front of a project manager.", as it's not clear what you are trying to say.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:02
@Bilkokuya might it be "manners"?
– rath
Aug 28 at 15:04
i mean they were telling that infront of a person like project manager is wrong.since i told i was in toilet.
– vinaya kumar J
Aug 28 at 15:06
1
@vinayakumarJ I've done my best to edit this into clearer English, however - it is my best interpretation, and so if this does not reflect your intended meaning, please reject/rollback.
– Bilkokuya
Aug 28 at 15:13
1
I'm afraid this might be very localized. For example, in my country, saying "I took a piss" would be bad manners indeed (too much intimate detail), while "I was using the restroom" or even "I was using the toilet" is the polite way to put it. I have no idea about your region, culture and language of India, but it seems you might be the best person to answer your own question.
– nvoigt
Aug 28 at 18:58