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Is it fine to inform an interviewer that I'm not married?
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I believe it is not permitted for American interviewers to ask the candidates martial status. I am interviewing from India for a position within my company in US, and my company does provide a generous relocation package - without a specific dollar value but has stuff like a whole shipment of items, 2 months of stay, visas for immediate family, some school admissions,etc included. Many teams hesitate to hire candidates at junior levels because of these expenses
Is it OK for me to inform the interviewer that I wouldn't need most of these items, just a visa for myself and am willing to waive the rest? Or will it be one of those things that if you speak about get you disqualified?
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I believe it is not permitted for American interviewers to ask the candidates martial status. I am interviewing from India for a position within my company in US, and my company does provide a generous relocation package - without a specific dollar value but has stuff like a whole shipment of items, 2 months of stay, visas for immediate family, some school admissions,etc included. Many teams hesitate to hire candidates at junior levels because of these expenses
Is it OK for me to inform the interviewer that I wouldn't need most of these items, just a visa for myself and am willing to waive the rest? Or will it be one of those things that if you speak about get you disqualified?
interviewing united-states relocation visa internal-transfer
edited Jun 15 '15 at 12:47
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I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because you are askig for legal advice
– Vietnhi Phuvan
Jun 13 '15 at 11:58
@VietnhiPhuvan rephrased, is it OK now?
– user87166
Jun 13 '15 at 12:05
my companydoes provide a generous relocation package..... the phrasing here suggests you already work for the company and are interviewing for a different position in the US rather than your current country?
– psubsee2003
Jun 13 '15 at 18:55
@psubsee2003 Thats correct
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I believe it is not permitted for American interviewers to ask the candidates martial status. I am interviewing from India for a position within my company in US, and my company does provide a generous relocation package - without a specific dollar value but has stuff like a whole shipment of items, 2 months of stay, visas for immediate family, some school admissions,etc included. Many teams hesitate to hire candidates at junior levels because of these expenses
Is it OK for me to inform the interviewer that I wouldn't need most of these items, just a visa for myself and am willing to waive the rest? Or will it be one of those things that if you speak about get you disqualified?
interviewing united-states relocation visa internal-transfer
edited Jun 15 '15 at 12:47
David K
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asked Jun 13 '15 at 11:51
user87166
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I believe it is not permitted for American interviewers to ask the candidates martial status. I am interviewing from India for a position within my company in US, and my company does provide a generous relocation package - without a specific dollar value but has stuff like a whole shipment of items, 2 months of stay, visas for immediate family, some school admissions,etc included. Many teams hesitate to hire candidates at junior levels because of these expenses
Is it OK for me to inform the interviewer that I wouldn't need most of these items, just a visa for myself and am willing to waive the rest? Or will it be one of those things that if you speak about get you disqualified?
interviewing united-states relocation visa internal-transfer
edited Jun 15 '15 at 12:47
David K
20.8k1075110
asked Jun 13 '15 at 11:51
user87166
766614
edited Jun 15 '15 at 12:47
David K
20.8k1075110
edited Jun 15 '15 at 12:47
David K
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edited Jun 15 '15 at 12:47
David K
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asked Jun 13 '15 at 11:51
user87166
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asked Jun 13 '15 at 11:51
user87166
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asked Jun 13 '15 at 11:51
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I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because you are askig for legal advice
– Vietnhi Phuvan
Jun 13 '15 at 11:58
@VietnhiPhuvan rephrased, is it OK now?
– user87166
Jun 13 '15 at 12:05
my companydoes provide a generous relocation package..... the phrasing here suggests you already work for the company and are interviewing for a different position in the US rather than your current country?
– psubsee2003
Jun 13 '15 at 18:55
@psubsee2003 Thats correct
– user87166
Jun 14 '15 at 6:48
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I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because you are askig for legal advice
– Vietnhi Phuvan
Jun 13 '15 at 11:58
@VietnhiPhuvan rephrased, is it OK now?
– user87166
Jun 13 '15 at 12:05
my companydoes provide a generous relocation package..... the phrasing here suggests you already work for the company and are interviewing for a different position in the US rather than your current country?
– psubsee2003
Jun 13 '15 at 18:55
@psubsee2003 Thats correct
– user87166
Jun 14 '15 at 6:48
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because you are askig for legal advice
– Vietnhi Phuvan
Jun 13 '15 at 11:58
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because you are askig for legal advice
– Vietnhi Phuvan
Jun 13 '15 at 11:58
@VietnhiPhuvan rephrased, is it OK now?
– user87166
Jun 13 '15 at 12:05
@VietnhiPhuvan rephrased, is it OK now?
– user87166
Jun 13 '15 at 12:05
my company
does provide a generous relocation package..... the phrasing here suggests you already work for the company and are interviewing for a different position in the US rather than your current country?– psubsee2003
Jun 13 '15 at 18:55
my company
does provide a generous relocation package..... the phrasing here suggests you already work for the company and are interviewing for a different position in the US rather than your current country?– psubsee2003
Jun 13 '15 at 18:55
@psubsee2003 Thats correct
– user87166
Jun 14 '15 at 6:48
@psubsee2003 Thats correct
– user87166
Jun 14 '15 at 6:48
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Saying what services you need and won't need for relocation does not directly reveal you marital status. When you say you don't require visa for family members, you could still have a spouse and kids, but they don't want to leave the country and are OK with you being abroad. Or maybe you don't need them because the rest of your family already has visa for the United States through some other channel. Your employer doesn't know and doesn't need to know to make the hiring decision.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
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They can't ask about certain topics but you aren't disqualified if you bring them up. If they ask you "tell me how many ping pong balls will fit inside Mt. Everest", and you put in your answer the phrase "I told my wife at breakfast that I always feel that I do poorly at these types questions" you have not been eliminated because they now know you are married.
Your situation is a topic you can bring up at the end when they ask: "Is there any thing you want to add or discuss"
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This is perfectly OK. I think there is significant misunderstanding about the realities of the interview process. There are certain questions that are illegal for an US interviewer to ask, but it's perfectly ok for you to volunteer the information. Most of the restrictions are outright stupid anyway. I'm not allowed to ask whether you are male or female, but, guess what, I typically can tell without asking. Same about age and race.
So while some questions are illegal to ask, the information is in may cases readily available anyway. No point in going out of your way to hide it.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
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If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
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Saying what services you need and won't need for relocation does not directly reveal you marital status. When you say you don't require visa for family members, you could still have a spouse and kids, but they don't want to leave the country and are OK with you being abroad. Or maybe you don't need them because the rest of your family already has visa for the United States through some other channel. Your employer doesn't know and doesn't need to know to make the hiring decision.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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up vote
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Saying what services you need and won't need for relocation does not directly reveal you marital status. When you say you don't require visa for family members, you could still have a spouse and kids, but they don't want to leave the country and are OK with you being abroad. Or maybe you don't need them because the rest of your family already has visa for the United States through some other channel. Your employer doesn't know and doesn't need to know to make the hiring decision.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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up vote
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up vote
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Saying what services you need and won't need for relocation does not directly reveal you marital status. When you say you don't require visa for family members, you could still have a spouse and kids, but they don't want to leave the country and are OK with you being abroad. Or maybe you don't need them because the rest of your family already has visa for the United States through some other channel. Your employer doesn't know and doesn't need to know to make the hiring decision.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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Saying what services you need and won't need for relocation does not directly reveal you marital status. When you say you don't require visa for family members, you could still have a spouse and kids, but they don't want to leave the country and are OK with you being abroad. Or maybe you don't need them because the rest of your family already has visa for the United States through some other channel. Your employer doesn't know and doesn't need to know to make the hiring decision.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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edited Jun 13 '15 at 12:27
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:19
Philipp
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They can't ask about certain topics but you aren't disqualified if you bring them up. If they ask you "tell me how many ping pong balls will fit inside Mt. Everest", and you put in your answer the phrase "I told my wife at breakfast that I always feel that I do poorly at these types questions" you have not been eliminated because they now know you are married.
Your situation is a topic you can bring up at the end when they ask: "Is there any thing you want to add or discuss"
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They can't ask about certain topics but you aren't disqualified if you bring them up. If they ask you "tell me how many ping pong balls will fit inside Mt. Everest", and you put in your answer the phrase "I told my wife at breakfast that I always feel that I do poorly at these types questions" you have not been eliminated because they now know you are married.
Your situation is a topic you can bring up at the end when they ask: "Is there any thing you want to add or discuss"
edited Jun 15 '15 at 18:01
Myles
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answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:21
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They can't ask about certain topics but you aren't disqualified if you bring them up. If they ask you "tell me how many ping pong balls will fit inside Mt. Everest", and you put in your answer the phrase "I told my wife at breakfast that I always feel that I do poorly at these types questions" you have not been eliminated because they now know you are married.
Your situation is a topic you can bring up at the end when they ask: "Is there any thing you want to add or discuss"
edited Jun 15 '15 at 18:01
Myles
25.4k658104
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:21
mhoran_psprep
40.3k462144
They can't ask about certain topics but you aren't disqualified if you bring them up. If they ask you "tell me how many ping pong balls will fit inside Mt. Everest", and you put in your answer the phrase "I told my wife at breakfast that I always feel that I do poorly at these types questions" you have not been eliminated because they now know you are married.
Your situation is a topic you can bring up at the end when they ask: "Is there any thing you want to add or discuss"
edited Jun 15 '15 at 18:01
Myles
25.4k658104
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:21
mhoran_psprep
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edited Jun 15 '15 at 18:01
Myles
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edited Jun 15 '15 at 18:01
Myles
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edited Jun 15 '15 at 18:01
Myles
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25.4k658104
answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:21
mhoran_psprep
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answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:21
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answered Jun 13 '15 at 12:21
mhoran_psprep
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This is perfectly OK. I think there is significant misunderstanding about the realities of the interview process. There are certain questions that are illegal for an US interviewer to ask, but it's perfectly ok for you to volunteer the information. Most of the restrictions are outright stupid anyway. I'm not allowed to ask whether you are male or female, but, guess what, I typically can tell without asking. Same about age and race.
So while some questions are illegal to ask, the information is in may cases readily available anyway. No point in going out of your way to hide it.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
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If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
– gnasher729
Jun 14 '15 at 6:04
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
2
down vote
This is perfectly OK. I think there is significant misunderstanding about the realities of the interview process. There are certain questions that are illegal for an US interviewer to ask, but it's perfectly ok for you to volunteer the information. Most of the restrictions are outright stupid anyway. I'm not allowed to ask whether you are male or female, but, guess what, I typically can tell without asking. Same about age and race.
So while some questions are illegal to ask, the information is in may cases readily available anyway. No point in going out of your way to hide it.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
23k65670
1
If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
– gnasher729
Jun 14 '15 at 6:04
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
2
down vote
up vote
2
down vote
This is perfectly OK. I think there is significant misunderstanding about the realities of the interview process. There are certain questions that are illegal for an US interviewer to ask, but it's perfectly ok for you to volunteer the information. Most of the restrictions are outright stupid anyway. I'm not allowed to ask whether you are male or female, but, guess what, I typically can tell without asking. Same about age and race.
So while some questions are illegal to ask, the information is in may cases readily available anyway. No point in going out of your way to hide it.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
23k65670
This is perfectly OK. I think there is significant misunderstanding about the realities of the interview process. There are certain questions that are illegal for an US interviewer to ask, but it's perfectly ok for you to volunteer the information. Most of the restrictions are outright stupid anyway. I'm not allowed to ask whether you are male or female, but, guess what, I typically can tell without asking. Same about age and race.
So while some questions are illegal to ask, the information is in may cases readily available anyway. No point in going out of your way to hide it.
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
23k65670
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
23k65670
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
23k65670
answered Jun 13 '15 at 14:27
Hilmar
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If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
– gnasher729
Jun 14 '15 at 6:04
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If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
– gnasher729
Jun 14 '15 at 6:04
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1
If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
– gnasher729
Jun 14 '15 at 6:04
If these restrictions make it possible for someone to get a job interview who otherwise would have been filtered out, that is one good thing.
– gnasher729
Jun 14 '15 at 6:04
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I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because you are askig for legal advice
– Vietnhi Phuvan
Jun 13 '15 at 11:58
@VietnhiPhuvan rephrased, is it OK now?
– user87166
Jun 13 '15 at 12:05
my company
does provide a generous relocation package..... the phrasing here suggests you already work for the company and are interviewing for a different position in the US rather than your current country?– psubsee2003
Jun 13 '15 at 18:55
@psubsee2003 Thats correct
– user87166
Jun 14 '15 at 6:48