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I've been told by many people (including my former boss) that I look unhappy or upset about something. This is almost always untrue when people point this out. I attribute this mostly to my anxiety. I'm afraid to show emotion or be outgoing around other people which makes it hard for me to socialize or connect with someone.
I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
When I interviewed with my former boss, she said that I seem shy and quiet, which is true. The interview that I was in was a group interview, where multiple candidates would sit around a table and would be interviewed one by one (as if that wasn't stressful enough for me). I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue). I fear that this is going to prevent me from getting another job. What can I do to prevent this from happening the next time?
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I've been told by many people (including my former boss) that I look unhappy or upset about something. This is almost always untrue when people point this out. I attribute this mostly to my anxiety. I'm afraid to show emotion or be outgoing around other people which makes it hard for me to socialize or connect with someone.
I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
When I interviewed with my former boss, she said that I seem shy and quiet, which is true. The interview that I was in was a group interview, where multiple candidates would sit around a table and would be interviewed one by one (as if that wasn't stressful enough for me). I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue). I fear that this is going to prevent me from getting another job. What can I do to prevent this from happening the next time?
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What is your field of interest?
– Kevin
May 28 '14 at 15:35
@Ajaxkevi Computer Science
– Me myself and I
May 28 '14 at 15:42
Have you been able to identify what you like about the new job or programming in general? If you're too caught-up in things being perfect, you may actually be uninterested.
– user8365
May 19 '15 at 14:27
Don't be scared of looking terrified =^). I used to fight the nervousness and uncertainty that I was sure was in my voice, until someone pointed out that it was causing me to come across as combative, angry, and caustic. People will respond much more positively to nervousness (we've all been there, even if some of us go there considerably more often than others) then they will to perceived negativity (regardless of whether that negativity is actually there or not.)
– LindaJeanne
May 19 '15 at 15:54
I don't understand how people these days are putting so many requirements on IT: they have people who are Jobs and Gates at same time. Thats really dumb.
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I've been told by many people (including my former boss) that I look unhappy or upset about something. This is almost always untrue when people point this out. I attribute this mostly to my anxiety. I'm afraid to show emotion or be outgoing around other people which makes it hard for me to socialize or connect with someone.
I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
When I interviewed with my former boss, she said that I seem shy and quiet, which is true. The interview that I was in was a group interview, where multiple candidates would sit around a table and would be interviewed one by one (as if that wasn't stressful enough for me). I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue). I fear that this is going to prevent me from getting another job. What can I do to prevent this from happening the next time?
professionalism interviewing socializing
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I've been told by many people (including my former boss) that I look unhappy or upset about something. This is almost always untrue when people point this out. I attribute this mostly to my anxiety. I'm afraid to show emotion or be outgoing around other people which makes it hard for me to socialize or connect with someone.
I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
When I interviewed with my former boss, she said that I seem shy and quiet, which is true. The interview that I was in was a group interview, where multiple candidates would sit around a table and would be interviewed one by one (as if that wasn't stressful enough for me). I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue). I fear that this is going to prevent me from getting another job. What can I do to prevent this from happening the next time?
professionalism interviewing socializing
edited Mar 8 '16 at 1:27
Jim G.
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asked May 28 '14 at 14:58
Me myself and I
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edited Mar 8 '16 at 1:27
Jim G.
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Jim G.
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Jim G.
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What is your field of interest?
– Kevin
May 28 '14 at 15:35
@Ajaxkevi Computer Science
– Me myself and I
May 28 '14 at 15:42
Have you been able to identify what you like about the new job or programming in general? If you're too caught-up in things being perfect, you may actually be uninterested.
– user8365
May 19 '15 at 14:27
Don't be scared of looking terrified =^). I used to fight the nervousness and uncertainty that I was sure was in my voice, until someone pointed out that it was causing me to come across as combative, angry, and caustic. People will respond much more positively to nervousness (we've all been there, even if some of us go there considerably more often than others) then they will to perceived negativity (regardless of whether that negativity is actually there or not.)
– LindaJeanne
May 19 '15 at 15:54
I don't understand how people these days are putting so many requirements on IT: they have people who are Jobs and Gates at same time. Thats really dumb.
– lambdapool
May 9 '16 at 12:13
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What is your field of interest?
– Kevin
May 28 '14 at 15:35
@Ajaxkevi Computer Science
– Me myself and I
May 28 '14 at 15:42
Have you been able to identify what you like about the new job or programming in general? If you're too caught-up in things being perfect, you may actually be uninterested.
– user8365
May 19 '15 at 14:27
Don't be scared of looking terrified =^). I used to fight the nervousness and uncertainty that I was sure was in my voice, until someone pointed out that it was causing me to come across as combative, angry, and caustic. People will respond much more positively to nervousness (we've all been there, even if some of us go there considerably more often than others) then they will to perceived negativity (regardless of whether that negativity is actually there or not.)
– LindaJeanne
May 19 '15 at 15:54
I don't understand how people these days are putting so many requirements on IT: they have people who are Jobs and Gates at same time. Thats really dumb.
– lambdapool
May 9 '16 at 12:13
What is your field of interest?
– Kevin
May 28 '14 at 15:35
What is your field of interest?
– Kevin
May 28 '14 at 15:35
@Ajaxkevi Computer Science
– Me myself and I
May 28 '14 at 15:42
@Ajaxkevi Computer Science
– Me myself and I
May 28 '14 at 15:42
Have you been able to identify what you like about the new job or programming in general? If you're too caught-up in things being perfect, you may actually be uninterested.
– user8365
May 19 '15 at 14:27
Have you been able to identify what you like about the new job or programming in general? If you're too caught-up in things being perfect, you may actually be uninterested.
– user8365
May 19 '15 at 14:27
Don't be scared of looking terrified =^). I used to fight the nervousness and uncertainty that I was sure was in my voice, until someone pointed out that it was causing me to come across as combative, angry, and caustic. People will respond much more positively to nervousness (we've all been there, even if some of us go there considerably more often than others) then they will to perceived negativity (regardless of whether that negativity is actually there or not.)
– LindaJeanne
May 19 '15 at 15:54
Don't be scared of looking terrified =^). I used to fight the nervousness and uncertainty that I was sure was in my voice, until someone pointed out that it was causing me to come across as combative, angry, and caustic. People will respond much more positively to nervousness (we've all been there, even if some of us go there considerably more often than others) then they will to perceived negativity (regardless of whether that negativity is actually there or not.)
– LindaJeanne
May 19 '15 at 15:54
I don't understand how people these days are putting so many requirements on IT: they have people who are Jobs and Gates at same time. Thats really dumb.
– lambdapool
May 9 '16 at 12:13
I don't understand how people these days are putting so many requirements on IT: they have people who are Jobs and Gates at same time. Thats really dumb.
– lambdapool
May 9 '16 at 12:13
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Practice
It's that simple. You do not really need an expert, just someone who has done a few interviews, who is willing to help you practice by asking you interview questions, and give you feedback on your body language. Ideally at the start you would have the person provide you with immediate feedback so that you can make corrections and get the feel for what is a good body attitude. Eventually move to giving you feedback after the interview on things to improve. Once you feel you have made progress get a few other people to ask you some interview questions and get their feedback.
Make a recording of the practice. Everyone has smart phones with cameras so it is a lot easier now. Just record a session and review it so that you get an idea of what works and what doesn't.
One of the easiest ways to convey interest is to maintain eye contact. The easiest way I know of to practice that is to ask yourself questions and answer into a mirror. Keep your eyes up and maintain eye contact with yourself. Ask yourself easy questions at first that you feel very comfortable answering, then move into technical questions, and eventually ask yourself personal questions that make you feel uneasy. These questions help you prepare for curve-ball questions in an interview so that you can maintain eye contact even when it gets tough. And the best part is, if you are uncomfortable with someone's appearance, having practiced in the mirror should help you to visualize yourself that you are interviewing with instead of the person who is making you uneasy.
If you truly want to improve your ability to interview with strangers, then go to a mall or other open area where strangers go but probably have some spare time and ask them to ask you a few questions from a list. An easy place to start is coffee shops where retired people spend time talking. Usually they are happy to interact and help out. Just explain you are trying to improve your interview skills and ask if they would be willing to ask you a few questions from a sheet. Another advantage here is that older people both have experience with the process, and also are often more willing to give you blunt feedback that you need to improve. This can be difficult for an introvert but the results are worth the pain.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:41
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If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
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It's difficult for extroverted people to understand why someone is introverted. What is shyness or just an enjoyment of being private (reading, writing, thinking, playing music) can be interpreted as uninterested, rude, snobbish, etc. They don't see how anyone could possibly prefer to stay home alone instead of going out and being with people. When no one is around, they call someone on the phone. That's their nature.
Don't be afraid to thank the person for the interview and mention how much you're interested in the company and/or the job. If there are requirements for the job that are usually done in private, mention that you are comfortable working alone.
You can practice acting interested, but that is going to take time and unfortunately, difficult to maintain throughout an interview. You'll get deep into some subject matter and forget to "act" interested.
Follow-up the interview by thanking the interviewer again and mention your interest in the position. People tend to remember the beginning and the end of things.
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I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I
don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want
to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it
going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
First, it sounds like one person is saying one thing about you & another is saying the opposite. So I would just take their opinion for what it is: Their opinion & not a reflection of who you are.
That said, the best way I found to deal with interviewing issues like this is to simply go on as many interviews as possible.
Might sound nuts, but here is the deal: While you might be waiting for the perfect position to come along, there are tons of positions out there that you can apply to & interview for. Just go ahead & apply for more than you are looking for, including positions you might refuse no matter what.
The goal is to be in practice & get used to the basic rhythms of how these things go. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Now I am not saying you should just carpet bomb your application all over the place. But find at least—let’s say—two other positions on top of something you want you can interview for. Anything to get you to be less “rusty†and more spry.
And the net result of that is your tension & awkwardness should start to fade away or at least be controllable. Or you might find you were never tense or awkward but simply have a few colleagues who just might read you wrong.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:36
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This is a tough one, because if you go to any job hunting advice site, they'll have a dozen different rehearsed ways to "be natural."
When I was a recruiter, I had a candidate who read that he should make sure to smile, so at the end of each question, there would be a pause, and then a huge, forced, fake smile that really creeped-out the interviewer.
Probably, you can make a point to try and briefly make eye contact with the different people (briefly, for each individual, changing the target of your focus as you talk so you're not staring down just one). Look at the people you are talking to, but don't stare, in other words. Then you are talking to them, not talking down at the table or avoiding them.
It's a mild form of interaction that wouldn't necessarily force you to run contrary to your normal personality, but would engage you directly with the interviewer(s). This will also force you to observe their reactions, which can be helpful.
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I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue).
I think that this is your core problem, and it is easily remedied.
If you want to fight the perception that you are uninterested in something or somebody, then you must:
- Act interested.
- Ask questions.
- Communicate understanding.
For maximal career success, I strongly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends & Influence People.
Here are two quotes from the book that are particularly applicable to your situation:
Be interested, not interesting, to people.
And
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
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Shy and quiet is often a sign of thyroid deficiency, after confirming tests at your doctors it's easily fixed by some thyroid hormones.
If nothing comes out from the tests, you might just be shy and quiet, easily fixedby pretending to be one of those loud and clumsy monsters wandering earth. :)
answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
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I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
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Practice
It's that simple. You do not really need an expert, just someone who has done a few interviews, who is willing to help you practice by asking you interview questions, and give you feedback on your body language. Ideally at the start you would have the person provide you with immediate feedback so that you can make corrections and get the feel for what is a good body attitude. Eventually move to giving you feedback after the interview on things to improve. Once you feel you have made progress get a few other people to ask you some interview questions and get their feedback.
Make a recording of the practice. Everyone has smart phones with cameras so it is a lot easier now. Just record a session and review it so that you get an idea of what works and what doesn't.
One of the easiest ways to convey interest is to maintain eye contact. The easiest way I know of to practice that is to ask yourself questions and answer into a mirror. Keep your eyes up and maintain eye contact with yourself. Ask yourself easy questions at first that you feel very comfortable answering, then move into technical questions, and eventually ask yourself personal questions that make you feel uneasy. These questions help you prepare for curve-ball questions in an interview so that you can maintain eye contact even when it gets tough. And the best part is, if you are uncomfortable with someone's appearance, having practiced in the mirror should help you to visualize yourself that you are interviewing with instead of the person who is making you uneasy.
If you truly want to improve your ability to interview with strangers, then go to a mall or other open area where strangers go but probably have some spare time and ask them to ask you a few questions from a list. An easy place to start is coffee shops where retired people spend time talking. Usually they are happy to interact and help out. Just explain you are trying to improve your interview skills and ask if they would be willing to ask you a few questions from a sheet. Another advantage here is that older people both have experience with the process, and also are often more willing to give you blunt feedback that you need to improve. This can be difficult for an introvert but the results are worth the pain.
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If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:24
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up vote
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Practice
It's that simple. You do not really need an expert, just someone who has done a few interviews, who is willing to help you practice by asking you interview questions, and give you feedback on your body language. Ideally at the start you would have the person provide you with immediate feedback so that you can make corrections and get the feel for what is a good body attitude. Eventually move to giving you feedback after the interview on things to improve. Once you feel you have made progress get a few other people to ask you some interview questions and get their feedback.
Make a recording of the practice. Everyone has smart phones with cameras so it is a lot easier now. Just record a session and review it so that you get an idea of what works and what doesn't.
One of the easiest ways to convey interest is to maintain eye contact. The easiest way I know of to practice that is to ask yourself questions and answer into a mirror. Keep your eyes up and maintain eye contact with yourself. Ask yourself easy questions at first that you feel very comfortable answering, then move into technical questions, and eventually ask yourself personal questions that make you feel uneasy. These questions help you prepare for curve-ball questions in an interview so that you can maintain eye contact even when it gets tough. And the best part is, if you are uncomfortable with someone's appearance, having practiced in the mirror should help you to visualize yourself that you are interviewing with instead of the person who is making you uneasy.
If you truly want to improve your ability to interview with strangers, then go to a mall or other open area where strangers go but probably have some spare time and ask them to ask you a few questions from a list. An easy place to start is coffee shops where retired people spend time talking. Usually they are happy to interact and help out. Just explain you are trying to improve your interview skills and ask if they would be willing to ask you a few questions from a sheet. Another advantage here is that older people both have experience with the process, and also are often more willing to give you blunt feedback that you need to improve. This can be difficult for an introvert but the results are worth the pain.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:41
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If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:24
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up vote
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up vote
28
down vote
accepted
Practice
It's that simple. You do not really need an expert, just someone who has done a few interviews, who is willing to help you practice by asking you interview questions, and give you feedback on your body language. Ideally at the start you would have the person provide you with immediate feedback so that you can make corrections and get the feel for what is a good body attitude. Eventually move to giving you feedback after the interview on things to improve. Once you feel you have made progress get a few other people to ask you some interview questions and get their feedback.
Make a recording of the practice. Everyone has smart phones with cameras so it is a lot easier now. Just record a session and review it so that you get an idea of what works and what doesn't.
One of the easiest ways to convey interest is to maintain eye contact. The easiest way I know of to practice that is to ask yourself questions and answer into a mirror. Keep your eyes up and maintain eye contact with yourself. Ask yourself easy questions at first that you feel very comfortable answering, then move into technical questions, and eventually ask yourself personal questions that make you feel uneasy. These questions help you prepare for curve-ball questions in an interview so that you can maintain eye contact even when it gets tough. And the best part is, if you are uncomfortable with someone's appearance, having practiced in the mirror should help you to visualize yourself that you are interviewing with instead of the person who is making you uneasy.
If you truly want to improve your ability to interview with strangers, then go to a mall or other open area where strangers go but probably have some spare time and ask them to ask you a few questions from a list. An easy place to start is coffee shops where retired people spend time talking. Usually they are happy to interact and help out. Just explain you are trying to improve your interview skills and ask if they would be willing to ask you a few questions from a sheet. Another advantage here is that older people both have experience with the process, and also are often more willing to give you blunt feedback that you need to improve. This can be difficult for an introvert but the results are worth the pain.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:41
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
Practice
It's that simple. You do not really need an expert, just someone who has done a few interviews, who is willing to help you practice by asking you interview questions, and give you feedback on your body language. Ideally at the start you would have the person provide you with immediate feedback so that you can make corrections and get the feel for what is a good body attitude. Eventually move to giving you feedback after the interview on things to improve. Once you feel you have made progress get a few other people to ask you some interview questions and get their feedback.
Make a recording of the practice. Everyone has smart phones with cameras so it is a lot easier now. Just record a session and review it so that you get an idea of what works and what doesn't.
One of the easiest ways to convey interest is to maintain eye contact. The easiest way I know of to practice that is to ask yourself questions and answer into a mirror. Keep your eyes up and maintain eye contact with yourself. Ask yourself easy questions at first that you feel very comfortable answering, then move into technical questions, and eventually ask yourself personal questions that make you feel uneasy. These questions help you prepare for curve-ball questions in an interview so that you can maintain eye contact even when it gets tough. And the best part is, if you are uncomfortable with someone's appearance, having practiced in the mirror should help you to visualize yourself that you are interviewing with instead of the person who is making you uneasy.
If you truly want to improve your ability to interview with strangers, then go to a mall or other open area where strangers go but probably have some spare time and ask them to ask you a few questions from a list. An easy place to start is coffee shops where retired people spend time talking. Usually they are happy to interact and help out. Just explain you are trying to improve your interview skills and ask if they would be willing to ask you a few questions from a sheet. Another advantage here is that older people both have experience with the process, and also are often more willing to give you blunt feedback that you need to improve. This can be difficult for an introvert but the results are worth the pain.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:41
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If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
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May 19 '15 at 18:24
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If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:24
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If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
If you are nervous to the point you can't bring yourself to talk to a stranger at a local coffee shop, a nice stepping stone might be to practice interviewing at a local users group (or whatever is the less formal networking place in your field) Typically these people are looking to network and will be accommodating. (and have knowledge of normal questions in your field) plus having the common interest there it tends to make people more approachable than a total stranger (though I would still recommend practicing with strangers when you're up to it)
– RualStorge
May 28 '14 at 16:48
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
Recording and watching yourself works if you use that information to make at least one change with every practice until you get it right. At first, try to way over correct. That will help you get to the right place where your behavior looks more natural much faster.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:19
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:24
@MemyseldandI, Really, don't give up. Follow this advice. It will be hard at first. But you can do this. I had to do it when I was young. it took me almost 40 hours of recording and practicing. It is possible to fix this, but not unless you believe that you can fix it and not if you give up too early.
– HLGEM
May 19 '15 at 18:24
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It's difficult for extroverted people to understand why someone is introverted. What is shyness or just an enjoyment of being private (reading, writing, thinking, playing music) can be interpreted as uninterested, rude, snobbish, etc. They don't see how anyone could possibly prefer to stay home alone instead of going out and being with people. When no one is around, they call someone on the phone. That's their nature.
Don't be afraid to thank the person for the interview and mention how much you're interested in the company and/or the job. If there are requirements for the job that are usually done in private, mention that you are comfortable working alone.
You can practice acting interested, but that is going to take time and unfortunately, difficult to maintain throughout an interview. You'll get deep into some subject matter and forget to "act" interested.
Follow-up the interview by thanking the interviewer again and mention your interest in the position. People tend to remember the beginning and the end of things.
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It's difficult for extroverted people to understand why someone is introverted. What is shyness or just an enjoyment of being private (reading, writing, thinking, playing music) can be interpreted as uninterested, rude, snobbish, etc. They don't see how anyone could possibly prefer to stay home alone instead of going out and being with people. When no one is around, they call someone on the phone. That's their nature.
Don't be afraid to thank the person for the interview and mention how much you're interested in the company and/or the job. If there are requirements for the job that are usually done in private, mention that you are comfortable working alone.
You can practice acting interested, but that is going to take time and unfortunately, difficult to maintain throughout an interview. You'll get deep into some subject matter and forget to "act" interested.
Follow-up the interview by thanking the interviewer again and mention your interest in the position. People tend to remember the beginning and the end of things.
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It's difficult for extroverted people to understand why someone is introverted. What is shyness or just an enjoyment of being private (reading, writing, thinking, playing music) can be interpreted as uninterested, rude, snobbish, etc. They don't see how anyone could possibly prefer to stay home alone instead of going out and being with people. When no one is around, they call someone on the phone. That's their nature.
Don't be afraid to thank the person for the interview and mention how much you're interested in the company and/or the job. If there are requirements for the job that are usually done in private, mention that you are comfortable working alone.
You can practice acting interested, but that is going to take time and unfortunately, difficult to maintain throughout an interview. You'll get deep into some subject matter and forget to "act" interested.
Follow-up the interview by thanking the interviewer again and mention your interest in the position. People tend to remember the beginning and the end of things.
It's difficult for extroverted people to understand why someone is introverted. What is shyness or just an enjoyment of being private (reading, writing, thinking, playing music) can be interpreted as uninterested, rude, snobbish, etc. They don't see how anyone could possibly prefer to stay home alone instead of going out and being with people. When no one is around, they call someone on the phone. That's their nature.
Don't be afraid to thank the person for the interview and mention how much you're interested in the company and/or the job. If there are requirements for the job that are usually done in private, mention that you are comfortable working alone.
You can practice acting interested, but that is going to take time and unfortunately, difficult to maintain throughout an interview. You'll get deep into some subject matter and forget to "act" interested.
Follow-up the interview by thanking the interviewer again and mention your interest in the position. People tend to remember the beginning and the end of things.
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I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I
don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want
to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it
going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
First, it sounds like one person is saying one thing about you & another is saying the opposite. So I would just take their opinion for what it is: Their opinion & not a reflection of who you are.
That said, the best way I found to deal with interviewing issues like this is to simply go on as many interviews as possible.
Might sound nuts, but here is the deal: While you might be waiting for the perfect position to come along, there are tons of positions out there that you can apply to & interview for. Just go ahead & apply for more than you are looking for, including positions you might refuse no matter what.
The goal is to be in practice & get used to the basic rhythms of how these things go. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Now I am not saying you should just carpet bomb your application all over the place. But find at least—let’s say—two other positions on top of something you want you can interview for. Anything to get you to be less “rusty†and more spry.
And the net result of that is your tension & awkwardness should start to fade away or at least be controllable. Or you might find you were never tense or awkward but simply have a few colleagues who just might read you wrong.
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I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I
don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want
to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it
going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
First, it sounds like one person is saying one thing about you & another is saying the opposite. So I would just take their opinion for what it is: Their opinion & not a reflection of who you are.
That said, the best way I found to deal with interviewing issues like this is to simply go on as many interviews as possible.
Might sound nuts, but here is the deal: While you might be waiting for the perfect position to come along, there are tons of positions out there that you can apply to & interview for. Just go ahead & apply for more than you are looking for, including positions you might refuse no matter what.
The goal is to be in practice & get used to the basic rhythms of how these things go. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Now I am not saying you should just carpet bomb your application all over the place. But find at least—let’s say—two other positions on top of something you want you can interview for. Anything to get you to be less “rusty†and more spry.
And the net result of that is your tension & awkwardness should start to fade away or at least be controllable. Or you might find you were never tense or awkward but simply have a few colleagues who just might read you wrong.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:36
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I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I
don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want
to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it
going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
First, it sounds like one person is saying one thing about you & another is saying the opposite. So I would just take their opinion for what it is: Their opinion & not a reflection of who you are.
That said, the best way I found to deal with interviewing issues like this is to simply go on as many interviews as possible.
Might sound nuts, but here is the deal: While you might be waiting for the perfect position to come along, there are tons of positions out there that you can apply to & interview for. Just go ahead & apply for more than you are looking for, including positions you might refuse no matter what.
The goal is to be in practice & get used to the basic rhythms of how these things go. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Now I am not saying you should just carpet bomb your application all over the place. But find at least—let’s say—two other positions on top of something you want you can interview for. Anything to get you to be less “rusty†and more spry.
And the net result of that is your tension & awkwardness should start to fade away or at least be controllable. Or you might find you were never tense or awkward but simply have a few colleagues who just might read you wrong.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:36
JakeGould
6,5821739
I'm afraid this is going to happen again during a job interview. I
don't want the interviewer to be afraid or intimidated by me. I want
to be outgoing and look like a happy person but I just don't see it
going that way, I'll be too anxious, and this always happens.
First, it sounds like one person is saying one thing about you & another is saying the opposite. So I would just take their opinion for what it is: Their opinion & not a reflection of who you are.
That said, the best way I found to deal with interviewing issues like this is to simply go on as many interviews as possible.
Might sound nuts, but here is the deal: While you might be waiting for the perfect position to come along, there are tons of positions out there that you can apply to & interview for. Just go ahead & apply for more than you are looking for, including positions you might refuse no matter what.
The goal is to be in practice & get used to the basic rhythms of how these things go. Nothing more. Nothing less.
Now I am not saying you should just carpet bomb your application all over the place. But find at least—let’s say—two other positions on top of something you want you can interview for. Anything to get you to be less “rusty†and more spry.
And the net result of that is your tension & awkwardness should start to fade away or at least be controllable. Or you might find you were never tense or awkward but simply have a few colleagues who just might read you wrong.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:36
JakeGould
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answered May 28 '14 at 15:36
JakeGould
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answered May 28 '14 at 15:36
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This is a tough one, because if you go to any job hunting advice site, they'll have a dozen different rehearsed ways to "be natural."
When I was a recruiter, I had a candidate who read that he should make sure to smile, so at the end of each question, there would be a pause, and then a huge, forced, fake smile that really creeped-out the interviewer.
Probably, you can make a point to try and briefly make eye contact with the different people (briefly, for each individual, changing the target of your focus as you talk so you're not staring down just one). Look at the people you are talking to, but don't stare, in other words. Then you are talking to them, not talking down at the table or avoiding them.
It's a mild form of interaction that wouldn't necessarily force you to run contrary to your normal personality, but would engage you directly with the interviewer(s). This will also force you to observe their reactions, which can be helpful.
answered Mar 30 '17 at 13:56
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This is a tough one, because if you go to any job hunting advice site, they'll have a dozen different rehearsed ways to "be natural."
When I was a recruiter, I had a candidate who read that he should make sure to smile, so at the end of each question, there would be a pause, and then a huge, forced, fake smile that really creeped-out the interviewer.
Probably, you can make a point to try and briefly make eye contact with the different people (briefly, for each individual, changing the target of your focus as you talk so you're not staring down just one). Look at the people you are talking to, but don't stare, in other words. Then you are talking to them, not talking down at the table or avoiding them.
It's a mild form of interaction that wouldn't necessarily force you to run contrary to your normal personality, but would engage you directly with the interviewer(s). This will also force you to observe their reactions, which can be helpful.
answered Mar 30 '17 at 13:56
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up vote
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This is a tough one, because if you go to any job hunting advice site, they'll have a dozen different rehearsed ways to "be natural."
When I was a recruiter, I had a candidate who read that he should make sure to smile, so at the end of each question, there would be a pause, and then a huge, forced, fake smile that really creeped-out the interviewer.
Probably, you can make a point to try and briefly make eye contact with the different people (briefly, for each individual, changing the target of your focus as you talk so you're not staring down just one). Look at the people you are talking to, but don't stare, in other words. Then you are talking to them, not talking down at the table or avoiding them.
It's a mild form of interaction that wouldn't necessarily force you to run contrary to your normal personality, but would engage you directly with the interviewer(s). This will also force you to observe their reactions, which can be helpful.
answered Mar 30 '17 at 13:56
PoloHoleSet
8,97651833
This is a tough one, because if you go to any job hunting advice site, they'll have a dozen different rehearsed ways to "be natural."
When I was a recruiter, I had a candidate who read that he should make sure to smile, so at the end of each question, there would be a pause, and then a huge, forced, fake smile that really creeped-out the interviewer.
Probably, you can make a point to try and briefly make eye contact with the different people (briefly, for each individual, changing the target of your focus as you talk so you're not staring down just one). Look at the people you are talking to, but don't stare, in other words. Then you are talking to them, not talking down at the table or avoiding them.
It's a mild form of interaction that wouldn't necessarily force you to run contrary to your normal personality, but would engage you directly with the interviewer(s). This will also force you to observe their reactions, which can be helpful.
answered Mar 30 '17 at 13:56
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answered Mar 30 '17 at 13:56
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answered Mar 30 '17 at 13:56
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I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue).
I think that this is your core problem, and it is easily remedied.
If you want to fight the perception that you are uninterested in something or somebody, then you must:
- Act interested.
- Ask questions.
- Communicate understanding.
For maximal career success, I strongly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends & Influence People.
Here are two quotes from the book that are particularly applicable to your situation:
Be interested, not interesting, to people.
And
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
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I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue).
I think that this is your core problem, and it is easily remedied.
If you want to fight the perception that you are uninterested in something or somebody, then you must:
- Act interested.
- Ask questions.
- Communicate understanding.
For maximal career success, I strongly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends & Influence People.
Here are two quotes from the book that are particularly applicable to your situation:
Be interested, not interesting, to people.
And
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
Jim G.
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I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue).
I think that this is your core problem, and it is easily remedied.
If you want to fight the perception that you are uninterested in something or somebody, then you must:
- Act interested.
- Ask questions.
- Communicate understanding.
For maximal career success, I strongly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends & Influence People.
Here are two quotes from the book that are particularly applicable to your situation:
Be interested, not interesting, to people.
And
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
Jim G.
11.8k105373
I think that if this was a private interview, she would have noticed that not only am I shy and quiet but I seem to lack interest in what is going on (which again is completely untrue).
I think that this is your core problem, and it is easily remedied.
If you want to fight the perception that you are uninterested in something or somebody, then you must:
- Act interested.
- Ask questions.
- Communicate understanding.
For maximal career success, I strongly recommend that you read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends & Influence People.
Here are two quotes from the book that are particularly applicable to your situation:
Be interested, not interesting, to people.
And
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
Jim G.
11.8k105373
edited May 28 '14 at 15:31
answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
Jim G.
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answered May 28 '14 at 15:18
Jim G.
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Shy and quiet is often a sign of thyroid deficiency, after confirming tests at your doctors it's easily fixed by some thyroid hormones.
If nothing comes out from the tests, you might just be shy and quiet, easily fixedby pretending to be one of those loud and clumsy monsters wandering earth. :)
answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
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I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
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Shy and quiet is often a sign of thyroid deficiency, after confirming tests at your doctors it's easily fixed by some thyroid hormones.
If nothing comes out from the tests, you might just be shy and quiet, easily fixedby pretending to be one of those loud and clumsy monsters wandering earth. :)
answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
5
3
I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
– Jeroen Vannevel
May 29 '14 at 2:31
1
Hello user, welcome to The Workplace. On our site, we're looking for answers with some depth that explain why and how. Our goal is to build a library of knowledge for navigating the professional workplace. Please consider an edit to expand, and be sure to answer the full question. See How to Answer for details.
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Shy and quiet is often a sign of thyroid deficiency, after confirming tests at your doctors it's easily fixed by some thyroid hormones.
If nothing comes out from the tests, you might just be shy and quiet, easily fixedby pretending to be one of those loud and clumsy monsters wandering earth. :)
answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
5
Shy and quiet is often a sign of thyroid deficiency, after confirming tests at your doctors it's easily fixed by some thyroid hormones.
If nothing comes out from the tests, you might just be shy and quiet, easily fixedby pretending to be one of those loud and clumsy monsters wandering earth. :)
answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
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answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
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answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
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answered May 29 '14 at 2:19
asmir
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5
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I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
– Jeroen Vannevel
May 29 '14 at 2:31
1
Hello user, welcome to The Workplace. On our site, we're looking for answers with some depth that explain why and how. Our goal is to build a library of knowledge for navigating the professional workplace. Please consider an edit to expand, and be sure to answer the full question. See How to Answer for details.
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I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
– Jeroen Vannevel
May 29 '14 at 2:31
1
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I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
– Jeroen Vannevel
May 29 '14 at 2:31
I think it's a lot more likely that people in the IT business are just more than average introverted.
– Jeroen Vannevel
May 29 '14 at 2:31
1
1
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What is your field of interest?
– Kevin
May 28 '14 at 15:35
@Ajaxkevi Computer Science
– Me myself and I
May 28 '14 at 15:42
Have you been able to identify what you like about the new job or programming in general? If you're too caught-up in things being perfect, you may actually be uninterested.
– user8365
May 19 '15 at 14:27
Don't be scared of looking terrified =^). I used to fight the nervousness and uncertainty that I was sure was in my voice, until someone pointed out that it was causing me to come across as combative, angry, and caustic. People will respond much more positively to nervousness (we've all been there, even if some of us go there considerably more often than others) then they will to perceived negativity (regardless of whether that negativity is actually there or not.)
– LindaJeanne
May 19 '15 at 15:54
I don't understand how people these days are putting so many requirements on IT: they have people who are Jobs and Gates at same time. Thats really dumb.
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May 9 '16 at 12:13