How best to relate to my boss, who appears betrayed following my resignation? [closed]

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I was tired of earning less than people who got before me, doing more work than other people, and being ignored every time I asked for a raise. So after working at my company for two years without a pay increase, I resigned with a standard 30 days notice.

I talked to my boss about my exit, and everything seemed fine at the time. Now, every time he sees me, he tries to run away without talking to me. I'm feeling like he's a little hurt. He's not giving me tasks, so I have to find my own work, such as helping people out, or fixing things that can be made better.

I like my boss, so I would like to know what my options might be for maintaining our relationship for my remaining time with the company.

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I was tired of earning less than people who got before me, doing more work than other people, and being ignored every time I asked for a raise. So after working at my company for two years without a pay increase, I resigned with a standard 30 days notice.

I talked to my boss about my exit, and everything seemed fine at the time. Now, every time he sees me, he tries to run away without talking to me. I'm feeling like he's a little hurt. He's not giving me tasks, so I have to find my own work, such as helping people out, or fixing things that can be made better.

I like my boss, so I would like to know what my options might be for maintaining our relationship for my remaining time with the company.

management quitting

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edited Mar 17 '16 at 21:05

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asked Mar 17 '16 at 20:34

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closed as off-topic by Thomas Owens, gnat, IDrinkandIKnowThings, Dawny33, paparazzo Mar 18 '16 at 3:14

This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:

• "Real questions have answers. Rather than explaining why your situation is terrible, or why your boss/coworker makes you unhappy, explain what you want to do to make it better. For more information, click here." – gnat, Dawny33

If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.

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  Possible duplicate of How do I maintain a good relationship with an employer after resigning?
  – IDrinkandIKnowThings
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:53
  

  
  
  
  

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I was tired of earning less than people who got before me, doing more work than other people, and being ignored every time I asked for a raise. So after working at my company for two years without a pay increase, I resigned with a standard 30 days notice.

I talked to my boss about my exit, and everything seemed fine at the time. Now, every time he sees me, he tries to run away without talking to me. I'm feeling like he's a little hurt. He's not giving me tasks, so I have to find my own work, such as helping people out, or fixing things that can be made better.

I like my boss, so I would like to know what my options might be for maintaining our relationship for my remaining time with the company.

management quitting

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edited Mar 17 '16 at 21:05

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I was tired of earning less than people who got before me, doing more work than other people, and being ignored every time I asked for a raise. So after working at my company for two years without a pay increase, I resigned with a standard 30 days notice.

I talked to my boss about my exit, and everything seemed fine at the time. Now, every time he sees me, he tries to run away without talking to me. I'm feeling like he's a little hurt. He's not giving me tasks, so I have to find my own work, such as helping people out, or fixing things that can be made better.

I like my boss, so I would like to know what my options might be for maintaining our relationship for my remaining time with the company.

management quitting

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edited Mar 17 '16 at 21:05

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asked Mar 17 '16 at 20:34

Kyle

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edited Mar 17 '16 at 21:05

mcknz

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edited Mar 17 '16 at 21:05

mcknz

15.6k55468

edited Mar 17 '16 at 21:05

mcknz

15.6k55468

15.6k55468

asked Mar 17 '16 at 20:34

Kyle

226111

asked Mar 17 '16 at 20:34

Kyle

226111

asked Mar 17 '16 at 20:34

Kyle

226111

226111

closed as off-topic by Thomas Owens, gnat, IDrinkandIKnowThings, Dawny33, paparazzo Mar 18 '16 at 3:14

This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:

• "Real questions have answers. Rather than explaining why your situation is terrible, or why your boss/coworker makes you unhappy, explain what you want to do to make it better. For more information, click here." – gnat, Dawny33

If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.

closed as off-topic by Thomas Owens, gnat, IDrinkandIKnowThings, Dawny33, paparazzo Mar 18 '16 at 3:14

This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:

• "Real questions have answers. Rather than explaining why your situation is terrible, or why your boss/coworker makes you unhappy, explain what you want to do to make it better. For more information, click here." – gnat, Dawny33

If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.

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  Possible duplicate of How do I maintain a good relationship with an employer after resigning?
  – IDrinkandIKnowThings
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:53
  

  
  
  
  

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  Possible duplicate of How do I maintain a good relationship with an employer after resigning?
  – IDrinkandIKnowThings
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:53
  

  
  
  
  

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Possible duplicate of How do I maintain a good relationship with an employer after resigning?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Mar 17 '16 at 21:53

Possible duplicate of How do I maintain a good relationship with an employer after resigning?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Mar 17 '16 at 21:53

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Don't try and psychoanalyse your boss, it's not constructive at this point. You have one foot out the door, focus on where your life and career are heading. Not where they have been.

Don't worry about your boss being a bit upset, it's understandable enough. Just remain friendly and professional until you're out the door with a good reference.

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answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

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  That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
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  Perfect, concise answer.
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Thirty days notice is nuts. You know how much notice you get if they fire you? Zero days notice.

If you want to stick out the whole month, and they do not appreciate that, I think that is pretty telling of the kind of people you are dealing with.

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answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

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  The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
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  The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
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  You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
  – Kyle
  Mar 18 '16 at 12:13
  

  
  
  
  


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  @Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
  – Mr Me
  May 25 '16 at 10:49
  

  
  
  
  

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2 Answers
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up vote
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accepted

Don't try and psychoanalyse your boss, it's not constructive at this point. You have one foot out the door, focus on where your life and career are heading. Not where they have been.

Don't worry about your boss being a bit upset, it's understandable enough. Just remain friendly and professional until you're out the door with a good reference.

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answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

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  That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
  – Kyle
  Mar 17 '16 at 20:46
  
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  Perfect, concise answer.
  – MealyPotatoes
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:14
  

  
  
  
  

suggest improvements | 

up vote
15
down vote



accepted

Don't try and psychoanalyse your boss, it's not constructive at this point. You have one foot out the door, focus on where your life and career are heading. Not where they have been.

Don't worry about your boss being a bit upset, it's understandable enough. Just remain friendly and professional until you're out the door with a good reference.

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answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

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  That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
  – Kyle
  Mar 17 '16 at 20:46
  
  

  
  
  
  


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  Perfect, concise answer.
  – MealyPotatoes
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:14
  

  
  
  
  

suggest improvements | 

up vote
15
down vote



accepted

up vote
15
down vote



accepted

Don't try and psychoanalyse your boss, it's not constructive at this point. You have one foot out the door, focus on where your life and career are heading. Not where they have been.

Don't worry about your boss being a bit upset, it's understandable enough. Just remain friendly and professional until you're out the door with a good reference.

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

94.6k50216376

Don't try and psychoanalyse your boss, it's not constructive at this point. You have one foot out the door, focus on where your life and career are heading. Not where they have been.

Don't worry about your boss being a bit upset, it's understandable enough. Just remain friendly and professional until you're out the door with a good reference.

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

94.6k50216376

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answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

94.6k50216376

answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

94.6k50216376

answered Mar 17 '16 at 20:45

Kilisi

94.6k50216376

94.6k50216376

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  3
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
  – Kyle
  Mar 17 '16 at 20:46
  
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  Perfect, concise answer.
  – MealyPotatoes
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:14
  

  
  
  
  

suggest improvements | 

• 
  
  
  

  
  3
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
  – Kyle
  Mar 17 '16 at 20:46
  
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  Perfect, concise answer.
  – MealyPotatoes
  Mar 17 '16 at 21:14
  

  
  
  
  

3

3

That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
– Kyle
Mar 17 '16 at 20:46

That's right, I don't know what made me think like I should care, thanks for the heads-up
– Kyle
Mar 17 '16 at 20:46

1

1

Perfect, concise answer.
– MealyPotatoes
Mar 17 '16 at 21:14

Perfect, concise answer.
– MealyPotatoes
Mar 17 '16 at 21:14

suggest improvements | 

up vote
-5
down vote

Thirty days notice is nuts. You know how much notice you get if they fire you? Zero days notice.

If you want to stick out the whole month, and they do not appreciate that, I think that is pretty telling of the kind of people you are dealing with.

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

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  The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
  – Simon B
  Mar 17 '16 at 22:51
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
  – Socrates
  Mar 18 '16 at 1:01
  

  
  
  
  


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  You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
  – Kyle
  Mar 18 '16 at 12:13
  

  
  
  
  


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  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  @Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
  – Mr Me
  May 25 '16 at 10:49
  

  
  
  
  

suggest improvements | 

up vote
-5
down vote

Thirty days notice is nuts. You know how much notice you get if they fire you? Zero days notice.

If you want to stick out the whole month, and they do not appreciate that, I think that is pretty telling of the kind of people you are dealing with.

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

5,3951717

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  6
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
  – Simon B
  Mar 17 '16 at 22:51
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
  – Socrates
  Mar 18 '16 at 1:01
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
  – Kyle
  Mar 18 '16 at 12:13
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  @Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
  – Mr Me
  May 25 '16 at 10:49
  

  
  
  
  

suggest improvements | 

up vote
-5
down vote

up vote
-5
down vote

Thirty days notice is nuts. You know how much notice you get if they fire you? Zero days notice.

If you want to stick out the whole month, and they do not appreciate that, I think that is pretty telling of the kind of people you are dealing with.

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

5,3951717

Thirty days notice is nuts. You know how much notice you get if they fire you? Zero days notice.

If you want to stick out the whole month, and they do not appreciate that, I think that is pretty telling of the kind of people you are dealing with.

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

5,3951717

share|improve this answer

share|improve this answer

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

5,3951717

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

5,3951717

answered Mar 17 '16 at 22:42

Socrates

5,3951717

5,3951717

• 
  
  
  

  
  6
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
  – Simon B
  Mar 17 '16 at 22:51
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
  – Socrates
  Mar 18 '16 at 1:01
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
  – Kyle
  Mar 18 '16 at 12:13
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  @Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
  – Mr Me
  May 25 '16 at 10:49
  

  
  
  
  

suggest improvements | 

• 
  
  
  

  
  6
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
  – Simon B
  Mar 17 '16 at 22:51
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
  – Socrates
  Mar 18 '16 at 1:01
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
  – Kyle
  Mar 18 '16 at 12:13
  

  
  
  
  


• 
  
  
  

  
  1
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

  
  @Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
  – Mr Me
  May 25 '16 at 10:49
  

  
  
  
  

6

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The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
– Simon B
Mar 17 '16 at 22:51

The notice period - on both sides - will be set out in the contract.
– Simon B
Mar 17 '16 at 22:51

1

1

The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
– Socrates
Mar 18 '16 at 1:01

The OP is from Connecticut, so I don't think Dutch employment law is relevant here.
– Socrates
Mar 18 '16 at 1:01

You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
– Kyle
Mar 18 '16 at 12:13

You're totally right, but the company I work for is not that dickish, but I don't get why people disliked your answer so much
– Kyle
Mar 18 '16 at 12:13

1

1

@Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
– Mr Me
May 25 '16 at 10:49

@Mr.Derpinthoughton Because it's not moral. Some companies might be evil, but not all of them are. If we start behaving like all of them are evil, we are not working towards a better future but a worst one. Try to be nice by default.
– Mr Me
May 25 '16 at 10:49

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