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One of my colleagues is helping me on a project, as he has prior experience with such a project, and the product is pretty new for all involved. I asked him about small doubts I had during the functionality stage. However I am able to code and make the project work. He is so annoying these days when he tries to poke into my system to check my code. He says that he just wants to make sure that he is not giving me bad advice. He comes to my workspace and starts conversations. During the conversation he will grab my mouse and switch between tabs to check how I have coded which I find very annoying. I am very thankful for his help but I don't like his actions. How can I politely express my concerns to him?
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One of my colleagues is helping me on a project, as he has prior experience with such a project, and the product is pretty new for all involved. I asked him about small doubts I had during the functionality stage. However I am able to code and make the project work. He is so annoying these days when he tries to poke into my system to check my code. He says that he just wants to make sure that he is not giving me bad advice. He comes to my workspace and starts conversations. During the conversation he will grab my mouse and switch between tabs to check how I have coded which I find very annoying. I am very thankful for his help but I don't like his actions. How can I politely express my concerns to him?
work-environment colleagues team helping
edited Feb 23 '16 at 22:15
Lilienthal♦
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asked Feb 23 '16 at 21:39
Akansha
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closed as off-topic by Masked Man♦, Dawny33, panoptical, gnat, The Wandering Dev Manager Feb 24 '16 at 10:47
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- "Real questions have answers. Rather than explaining why your situation is terrible, or why your boss/coworker makes you unhappy, explain what you want to do to make it better. For more information, click here." – Masked Man, Dawny33, panoptical, gnat, The Wandering Dev Manager
My guess is that he is not trying to be annoying or overbearing, but he is looking for clues on how to do his job.
– blankip
Feb 23 '16 at 21:51
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Politely ask him not to grab your mouse. But also don't be overprotective of the code, it is not your code but the company's. He is doing nothing at all wrong by wanting to look at the code.
– HLGEM
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
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Could you be clearer on what the problem is? Is it that he grabs your mouse and uses it without asking? Or that he reviews your code as part of his assistance?
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Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
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One of my colleagues is helping me on a project, as he has prior experience with such a project, and the product is pretty new for all involved. I asked him about small doubts I had during the functionality stage. However I am able to code and make the project work. He is so annoying these days when he tries to poke into my system to check my code. He says that he just wants to make sure that he is not giving me bad advice. He comes to my workspace and starts conversations. During the conversation he will grab my mouse and switch between tabs to check how I have coded which I find very annoying. I am very thankful for his help but I don't like his actions. How can I politely express my concerns to him?
work-environment colleagues team helping
edited Feb 23 '16 at 22:15
Lilienthal♦
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asked Feb 23 '16 at 21:39
Akansha
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One of my colleagues is helping me on a project, as he has prior experience with such a project, and the product is pretty new for all involved. I asked him about small doubts I had during the functionality stage. However I am able to code and make the project work. He is so annoying these days when he tries to poke into my system to check my code. He says that he just wants to make sure that he is not giving me bad advice. He comes to my workspace and starts conversations. During the conversation he will grab my mouse and switch between tabs to check how I have coded which I find very annoying. I am very thankful for his help but I don't like his actions. How can I politely express my concerns to him?
work-environment colleagues team helping
edited Feb 23 '16 at 22:15
Lilienthal♦
53.9k36183218
asked Feb 23 '16 at 21:39
Akansha
37638
edited Feb 23 '16 at 22:15
Lilienthal♦
53.9k36183218
edited Feb 23 '16 at 22:15
Lilienthal♦
53.9k36183218
edited Feb 23 '16 at 22:15
Lilienthal♦
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53.9k36183218
asked Feb 23 '16 at 21:39
Akansha
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asked Feb 23 '16 at 21:39
Akansha
37638
asked Feb 23 '16 at 21:39
Akansha
37638
37638
closed as off-topic by Masked Man♦, Dawny33, panoptical, gnat, The Wandering Dev Manager Feb 24 '16 at 10:47
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Real questions have answers. Rather than explaining why your situation is terrible, or why your boss/coworker makes you unhappy, explain what you want to do to make it better. For more information, click here." – Masked Man, Dawny33, panoptical, gnat, The Wandering Dev Manager
closed as off-topic by Masked Man♦, Dawny33, panoptical, gnat, The Wandering Dev Manager Feb 24 '16 at 10:47
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Real questions have answers. Rather than explaining why your situation is terrible, or why your boss/coworker makes you unhappy, explain what you want to do to make it better. For more information, click here." – Masked Man, Dawny33, panoptical, gnat, The Wandering Dev Manager
My guess is that he is not trying to be annoying or overbearing, but he is looking for clues on how to do his job.
– blankip
Feb 23 '16 at 21:51
2
Politely ask him not to grab your mouse. But also don't be overprotective of the code, it is not your code but the company's. He is doing nothing at all wrong by wanting to look at the code.
– HLGEM
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
3
Could you be clearer on what the problem is? Is it that he grabs your mouse and uses it without asking? Or that he reviews your code as part of his assistance?
– Chan-Ho Suh
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
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My guess is that he is not trying to be annoying or overbearing, but he is looking for clues on how to do his job.
– blankip
Feb 23 '16 at 21:51
2
Politely ask him not to grab your mouse. But also don't be overprotective of the code, it is not your code but the company's. He is doing nothing at all wrong by wanting to look at the code.
– HLGEM
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
3
Could you be clearer on what the problem is? Is it that he grabs your mouse and uses it without asking? Or that he reviews your code as part of his assistance?
– Chan-Ho Suh
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
My guess is that he is not trying to be annoying or overbearing, but he is looking for clues on how to do his job.
– blankip
Feb 23 '16 at 21:51
My guess is that he is not trying to be annoying or overbearing, but he is looking for clues on how to do his job.
– blankip
Feb 23 '16 at 21:51
2
2
Politely ask him not to grab your mouse. But also don't be overprotective of the code, it is not your code but the company's. He is doing nothing at all wrong by wanting to look at the code.
– HLGEM
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
Politely ask him not to grab your mouse. But also don't be overprotective of the code, it is not your code but the company's. He is doing nothing at all wrong by wanting to look at the code.
– HLGEM
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
3
3
Could you be clearer on what the problem is? Is it that he grabs your mouse and uses it without asking? Or that he reviews your code as part of his assistance?
– Chan-Ho Suh
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
Could you be clearer on what the problem is? Is it that he grabs your mouse and uses it without asking? Or that he reviews your code as part of his assistance?
– Chan-Ho Suh
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
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Implement a Concurrent Versioning System:
Does your company use a CVS system like Subversion, TFS, or Git? My co-workers and I commit our code often (usually several times a day, as we complete project tasks).
Formalize Code Review Processes:
We routine check each others code in the Code Vault to ensure it's readable and maintainable, since any one of us could be called to repair issues during the product lifecycle.
We also use tools within our environment to explicitly send code to one-another for private feedback and code reviews.
I love it when my co-workers all are familiar with a project. It's frustrating as you move on to the next project to have to jump back and fix something because you're the only guy who knows how to fix it (and it's irresponsible to do that to your employer).
Protect Your Employer's Investment:
I'd encourage you to help your company move towards more formal code management.
Although I agree his behavior is bit overbearing, rude, and a personal invasion, You don't own your source code created while at work, your company does.
Who knows, you may get some great visibility in your company for encouraging them to go down the path to development excellence.
And the obligatory office friendship:
I would encourage you to speak with him, and tell him that his behavior is invasive. I'd hope he'd understand, and start using the Vault to protect the corporate assets.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
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If he wants to check version control and see your code for himself, that's fine. However, coming over to your desk and invading your personal space by grabbing your mouse is completely unacceptable.
I have a couple of suggestions for you which may work:
Locking Your Workstation
The absolutely simplest way to deal with this behavior is to lock your workstations before you turn around to speak to him (WinKey + L).
This sends a pretty clear message that he interrupted you, and that what you're doing is private. The reason I mention this as being the simplest way of dealing with him is because it sends this message without your having to say anything at all.
Bring Up A Different Window
Another thing you could do is open a different window and cover the programming IDE up before turning around to speak to him. For example, as he walks up to chat open up a fresh copy of Chrome and full screen it.
The problem here is that he may still try to grab your mouse and look at your work, so you're not really preventing his behavior, just giving him a subtle hint.
Speak to Him
At the end of the day this person may not get it unless you throw it out there:
Excuse me, I was doing something before you walked up. It makes me feel very uncomfortable for other people to use my mouse, and to poke around my workstation.
At that point you can't be any more clear. If he tries to justify his behavior simply hold your ground:
I understand what you want to accomplish, but if you'd like to see the code maybe we should set up a review session, or you can look at it after I submit it to version control.
Set boundaries!
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
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I'd just keep my hand on my mouse, and if that didn't work I'd just tell him/her to stop with varying degrees of politeness depending on my relationship with them.
But if someone is continually annoying me, I just tell them that, they usually get the picture although they might cross me off their Christmas card list.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
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3 Answers
3
active
oldest
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3 Answers
3
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
up vote
7
down vote
accepted
Implement a Concurrent Versioning System:
Does your company use a CVS system like Subversion, TFS, or Git? My co-workers and I commit our code often (usually several times a day, as we complete project tasks).
Formalize Code Review Processes:
We routine check each others code in the Code Vault to ensure it's readable and maintainable, since any one of us could be called to repair issues during the product lifecycle.
We also use tools within our environment to explicitly send code to one-another for private feedback and code reviews.
I love it when my co-workers all are familiar with a project. It's frustrating as you move on to the next project to have to jump back and fix something because you're the only guy who knows how to fix it (and it's irresponsible to do that to your employer).
Protect Your Employer's Investment:
I'd encourage you to help your company move towards more formal code management.
Although I agree his behavior is bit overbearing, rude, and a personal invasion, You don't own your source code created while at work, your company does.
Who knows, you may get some great visibility in your company for encouraging them to go down the path to development excellence.
And the obligatory office friendship:
I would encourage you to speak with him, and tell him that his behavior is invasive. I'd hope he'd understand, and start using the Vault to protect the corporate assets.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
7
down vote
accepted
Implement a Concurrent Versioning System:
Does your company use a CVS system like Subversion, TFS, or Git? My co-workers and I commit our code often (usually several times a day, as we complete project tasks).
Formalize Code Review Processes:
We routine check each others code in the Code Vault to ensure it's readable and maintainable, since any one of us could be called to repair issues during the product lifecycle.
We also use tools within our environment to explicitly send code to one-another for private feedback and code reviews.
I love it when my co-workers all are familiar with a project. It's frustrating as you move on to the next project to have to jump back and fix something because you're the only guy who knows how to fix it (and it's irresponsible to do that to your employer).
Protect Your Employer's Investment:
I'd encourage you to help your company move towards more formal code management.
Although I agree his behavior is bit overbearing, rude, and a personal invasion, You don't own your source code created while at work, your company does.
Who knows, you may get some great visibility in your company for encouraging them to go down the path to development excellence.
And the obligatory office friendship:
I would encourage you to speak with him, and tell him that his behavior is invasive. I'd hope he'd understand, and start using the Vault to protect the corporate assets.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
7
down vote
accepted
up vote
7
down vote
accepted
Implement a Concurrent Versioning System:
Does your company use a CVS system like Subversion, TFS, or Git? My co-workers and I commit our code often (usually several times a day, as we complete project tasks).
Formalize Code Review Processes:
We routine check each others code in the Code Vault to ensure it's readable and maintainable, since any one of us could be called to repair issues during the product lifecycle.
We also use tools within our environment to explicitly send code to one-another for private feedback and code reviews.
I love it when my co-workers all are familiar with a project. It's frustrating as you move on to the next project to have to jump back and fix something because you're the only guy who knows how to fix it (and it's irresponsible to do that to your employer).
Protect Your Employer's Investment:
I'd encourage you to help your company move towards more formal code management.
Although I agree his behavior is bit overbearing, rude, and a personal invasion, You don't own your source code created while at work, your company does.
Who knows, you may get some great visibility in your company for encouraging them to go down the path to development excellence.
And the obligatory office friendship:
I would encourage you to speak with him, and tell him that his behavior is invasive. I'd hope he'd understand, and start using the Vault to protect the corporate assets.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
Implement a Concurrent Versioning System:
Does your company use a CVS system like Subversion, TFS, or Git? My co-workers and I commit our code often (usually several times a day, as we complete project tasks).
Formalize Code Review Processes:
We routine check each others code in the Code Vault to ensure it's readable and maintainable, since any one of us could be called to repair issues during the product lifecycle.
We also use tools within our environment to explicitly send code to one-another for private feedback and code reviews.
I love it when my co-workers all are familiar with a project. It's frustrating as you move on to the next project to have to jump back and fix something because you're the only guy who knows how to fix it (and it's irresponsible to do that to your employer).
Protect Your Employer's Investment:
I'd encourage you to help your company move towards more formal code management.
Although I agree his behavior is bit overbearing, rude, and a personal invasion, You don't own your source code created while at work, your company does.
Who knows, you may get some great visibility in your company for encouraging them to go down the path to development excellence.
And the obligatory office friendship:
I would encourage you to speak with him, and tell him that his behavior is invasive. I'd hope he'd understand, and start using the Vault to protect the corporate assets.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
answered Feb 24 '16 at 0:20
Baronz
458513
458513
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
suggest improvements |Â
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
Very nice answer.
– Chimera
Feb 24 '16 at 1:49
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
4
down vote
If he wants to check version control and see your code for himself, that's fine. However, coming over to your desk and invading your personal space by grabbing your mouse is completely unacceptable.
I have a couple of suggestions for you which may work:
Locking Your Workstation
The absolutely simplest way to deal with this behavior is to lock your workstations before you turn around to speak to him (WinKey + L).
This sends a pretty clear message that he interrupted you, and that what you're doing is private. The reason I mention this as being the simplest way of dealing with him is because it sends this message without your having to say anything at all.
Bring Up A Different Window
Another thing you could do is open a different window and cover the programming IDE up before turning around to speak to him. For example, as he walks up to chat open up a fresh copy of Chrome and full screen it.
The problem here is that he may still try to grab your mouse and look at your work, so you're not really preventing his behavior, just giving him a subtle hint.
Speak to Him
At the end of the day this person may not get it unless you throw it out there:
Excuse me, I was doing something before you walked up. It makes me feel very uncomfortable for other people to use my mouse, and to poke around my workstation.
At that point you can't be any more clear. If he tries to justify his behavior simply hold your ground:
I understand what you want to accomplish, but if you'd like to see the code maybe we should set up a review session, or you can look at it after I submit it to version control.
Set boundaries!
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
4
down vote
If he wants to check version control and see your code for himself, that's fine. However, coming over to your desk and invading your personal space by grabbing your mouse is completely unacceptable.
I have a couple of suggestions for you which may work:
Locking Your Workstation
The absolutely simplest way to deal with this behavior is to lock your workstations before you turn around to speak to him (WinKey + L).
This sends a pretty clear message that he interrupted you, and that what you're doing is private. The reason I mention this as being the simplest way of dealing with him is because it sends this message without your having to say anything at all.
Bring Up A Different Window
Another thing you could do is open a different window and cover the programming IDE up before turning around to speak to him. For example, as he walks up to chat open up a fresh copy of Chrome and full screen it.
The problem here is that he may still try to grab your mouse and look at your work, so you're not really preventing his behavior, just giving him a subtle hint.
Speak to Him
At the end of the day this person may not get it unless you throw it out there:
Excuse me, I was doing something before you walked up. It makes me feel very uncomfortable for other people to use my mouse, and to poke around my workstation.
At that point you can't be any more clear. If he tries to justify his behavior simply hold your ground:
I understand what you want to accomplish, but if you'd like to see the code maybe we should set up a review session, or you can look at it after I submit it to version control.
Set boundaries!
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
4
down vote
up vote
4
down vote
If he wants to check version control and see your code for himself, that's fine. However, coming over to your desk and invading your personal space by grabbing your mouse is completely unacceptable.
I have a couple of suggestions for you which may work:
Locking Your Workstation
The absolutely simplest way to deal with this behavior is to lock your workstations before you turn around to speak to him (WinKey + L).
This sends a pretty clear message that he interrupted you, and that what you're doing is private. The reason I mention this as being the simplest way of dealing with him is because it sends this message without your having to say anything at all.
Bring Up A Different Window
Another thing you could do is open a different window and cover the programming IDE up before turning around to speak to him. For example, as he walks up to chat open up a fresh copy of Chrome and full screen it.
The problem here is that he may still try to grab your mouse and look at your work, so you're not really preventing his behavior, just giving him a subtle hint.
Speak to Him
At the end of the day this person may not get it unless you throw it out there:
Excuse me, I was doing something before you walked up. It makes me feel very uncomfortable for other people to use my mouse, and to poke around my workstation.
At that point you can't be any more clear. If he tries to justify his behavior simply hold your ground:
I understand what you want to accomplish, but if you'd like to see the code maybe we should set up a review session, or you can look at it after I submit it to version control.
Set boundaries!
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
If he wants to check version control and see your code for himself, that's fine. However, coming over to your desk and invading your personal space by grabbing your mouse is completely unacceptable.
I have a couple of suggestions for you which may work:
Locking Your Workstation
The absolutely simplest way to deal with this behavior is to lock your workstations before you turn around to speak to him (WinKey + L).
This sends a pretty clear message that he interrupted you, and that what you're doing is private. The reason I mention this as being the simplest way of dealing with him is because it sends this message without your having to say anything at all.
Bring Up A Different Window
Another thing you could do is open a different window and cover the programming IDE up before turning around to speak to him. For example, as he walks up to chat open up a fresh copy of Chrome and full screen it.
The problem here is that he may still try to grab your mouse and look at your work, so you're not really preventing his behavior, just giving him a subtle hint.
Speak to Him
At the end of the day this person may not get it unless you throw it out there:
Excuse me, I was doing something before you walked up. It makes me feel very uncomfortable for other people to use my mouse, and to poke around my workstation.
At that point you can't be any more clear. If he tries to justify his behavior simply hold your ground:
I understand what you want to accomplish, but if you'd like to see the code maybe we should set up a review session, or you can look at it after I submit it to version control.
Set boundaries!
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
answered Feb 23 '16 at 22:22
AndreiROM
44.1k21101173
44.1k21101173
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
suggest improvements |Â
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
It's all about personal space. In a modern office, us cube-dwellers have little enough of that.
– Nolo Problemo
Feb 23 '16 at 23:17
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
0
down vote
I'd just keep my hand on my mouse, and if that didn't work I'd just tell him/her to stop with varying degrees of politeness depending on my relationship with them.
But if someone is continually annoying me, I just tell them that, they usually get the picture although they might cross me off their Christmas card list.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
94.6k50216376
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up vote
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I'd just keep my hand on my mouse, and if that didn't work I'd just tell him/her to stop with varying degrees of politeness depending on my relationship with them.
But if someone is continually annoying me, I just tell them that, they usually get the picture although they might cross me off their Christmas card list.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
94.6k50216376
suggest improvements |Â
up vote
0
down vote
up vote
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I'd just keep my hand on my mouse, and if that didn't work I'd just tell him/her to stop with varying degrees of politeness depending on my relationship with them.
But if someone is continually annoying me, I just tell them that, they usually get the picture although they might cross me off their Christmas card list.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
94.6k50216376
I'd just keep my hand on my mouse, and if that didn't work I'd just tell him/her to stop with varying degrees of politeness depending on my relationship with them.
But if someone is continually annoying me, I just tell them that, they usually get the picture although they might cross me off their Christmas card list.
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
94.6k50216376
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
94.6k50216376
answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
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answered Feb 24 '16 at 3:56
Kilisi
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94.6k50216376
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suggest improvements |Â
My guess is that he is not trying to be annoying or overbearing, but he is looking for clues on how to do his job.
– blankip
Feb 23 '16 at 21:51
2
Politely ask him not to grab your mouse. But also don't be overprotective of the code, it is not your code but the company's. He is doing nothing at all wrong by wanting to look at the code.
– HLGEM
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53
3
Could you be clearer on what the problem is? Is it that he grabs your mouse and uses it without asking? Or that he reviews your code as part of his assistance?
– Chan-Ho Suh
Feb 23 '16 at 21:53