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There is this guy in the office that constantly walks around whistling loudly all day long. He doesn't seem to realize that it's distracting and that others including myself find it to be incredibly irritating. However, no one has said anything to him so far. How would you deal with a situation like this?
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What can I do about a very loud coworker?
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There is this guy in the office that constantly walks around whistling loudly all day long. He doesn't seem to realize that it's distracting and that others including myself find it to be incredibly irritating. However, no one has said anything to him so far. How would you deal with a situation like this?
professionalism work-environment communication
edited Apr 12 '13 at 18:18
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
asked Apr 1 '13 at 17:26
THE DOCTOR
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marked as duplicate by Jim G., gnat, jcmeloni, bytebuster, CincinnatiProgrammer Apr 15 '13 at 11:11
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I know that when I join in with the whistling, it makes them aware of what they are doing. At the same time, their whistling is much less anoying and even becomes fun, estpecially when whistling "Whistle while you work".
– Chad Harrison
Apr 1 '13 at 17:43
12
Have you considered the cathartic effect of slapping?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Apr 1 '13 at 17:50
14
"However, no one has said anything to him so far". Well, about time someone did, dontchathink?
– Oded
Apr 1 '13 at 17:58
3
Normally it's hard to notice things which annoy other people unless they tell you.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:32
It's just terrible, that not only is the radio blaring through the roof - but he whistles on top of that .... that piercing whistle - makes you want to go deaf.
– 3kstc
Aug 24 '16 at 4:40
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up vote
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What can I do about a very loud coworker?
10 answers
There is this guy in the office that constantly walks around whistling loudly all day long. He doesn't seem to realize that it's distracting and that others including myself find it to be incredibly irritating. However, no one has said anything to him so far. How would you deal with a situation like this?
professionalism work-environment communication
edited Apr 12 '13 at 18:18
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
asked Apr 1 '13 at 17:26
THE DOCTOR
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This question already has an answer here:
What can I do about a very loud coworker?
10 answers
There is this guy in the office that constantly walks around whistling loudly all day long. He doesn't seem to realize that it's distracting and that others including myself find it to be incredibly irritating. However, no one has said anything to him so far. How would you deal with a situation like this?
This question already has an answer here:
What can I do about a very loud coworker?
10 answers
professionalism work-environment communication
edited Apr 12 '13 at 18:18
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
asked Apr 1 '13 at 17:26
THE DOCTOR
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edited Apr 12 '13 at 18:18
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
edited Apr 12 '13 at 18:18
IDrinkandIKnowThings
43.9k1398188
edited Apr 12 '13 at 18:18
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asked Apr 1 '13 at 17:26
THE DOCTOR
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asked Apr 1 '13 at 17:26
THE DOCTOR
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asked Apr 1 '13 at 17:26
THE DOCTOR
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marked as duplicate by Jim G., gnat, jcmeloni, bytebuster, CincinnatiProgrammer Apr 15 '13 at 11:11
This question has been asked before and already has an answer. If those answers do not fully address your question, please ask a new question.
marked as duplicate by Jim G., gnat, jcmeloni, bytebuster, CincinnatiProgrammer Apr 15 '13 at 11:11
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1
I know that when I join in with the whistling, it makes them aware of what they are doing. At the same time, their whistling is much less anoying and even becomes fun, estpecially when whistling "Whistle while you work".
– Chad Harrison
Apr 1 '13 at 17:43
12
Have you considered the cathartic effect of slapping?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Apr 1 '13 at 17:50
14
"However, no one has said anything to him so far". Well, about time someone did, dontchathink?
– Oded
Apr 1 '13 at 17:58
3
Normally it's hard to notice things which annoy other people unless they tell you.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:32
It's just terrible, that not only is the radio blaring through the roof - but he whistles on top of that .... that piercing whistle - makes you want to go deaf.
– 3kstc
Aug 24 '16 at 4:40
add a comment |Â
1
I know that when I join in with the whistling, it makes them aware of what they are doing. At the same time, their whistling is much less anoying and even becomes fun, estpecially when whistling "Whistle while you work".
– Chad Harrison
Apr 1 '13 at 17:43
12
Have you considered the cathartic effect of slapping?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Apr 1 '13 at 17:50
14
"However, no one has said anything to him so far". Well, about time someone did, dontchathink?
– Oded
Apr 1 '13 at 17:58
3
Normally it's hard to notice things which annoy other people unless they tell you.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:32
It's just terrible, that not only is the radio blaring through the roof - but he whistles on top of that .... that piercing whistle - makes you want to go deaf.
– 3kstc
Aug 24 '16 at 4:40
1
1
I know that when I join in with the whistling, it makes them aware of what they are doing. At the same time, their whistling is much less anoying and even becomes fun, estpecially when whistling "Whistle while you work".
– Chad Harrison
Apr 1 '13 at 17:43
I know that when I join in with the whistling, it makes them aware of what they are doing. At the same time, their whistling is much less anoying and even becomes fun, estpecially when whistling "Whistle while you work".
– Chad Harrison
Apr 1 '13 at 17:43
12
12
Have you considered the cathartic effect of slapping?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Apr 1 '13 at 17:50
Have you considered the cathartic effect of slapping?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Apr 1 '13 at 17:50
14
14
"However, no one has said anything to him so far". Well, about time someone did, dontchathink?
– Oded
Apr 1 '13 at 17:58
"However, no one has said anything to him so far". Well, about time someone did, dontchathink?
– Oded
Apr 1 '13 at 17:58
3
3
Normally it's hard to notice things which annoy other people unless they tell you.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:32
Normally it's hard to notice things which annoy other people unless they tell you.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:32
It's just terrible, that not only is the radio blaring through the roof - but he whistles on top of that .... that piercing whistle - makes you want to go deaf.
– 3kstc
Aug 24 '16 at 4:40
It's just terrible, that not only is the radio blaring through the roof - but he whistles on top of that .... that piercing whistle - makes you want to go deaf.
– 3kstc
Aug 24 '16 at 4:40
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I don't recommend coming to him and telling him that it's been bugging you for a long time or that anyone else doesn't like it. Instead, on one particular occasion, say something like:
Bill, I'm trying to [difficult task] and that whistling is going right through my head. Can I ask you not to?
He will probably comply, then absent mindedly whistle again later. When it bothers you, you can now say something like:
I'm having another can't-hear-whistling day, Bill
Eventually he will learn that you can't stand whistling at all, or what level of it you can stand, and he may hear similar things from others and stop whistling at work at all.
Some people whistle when they're relaxed and happy. It would be sad if he felt less happy at work because people were asking him not to whistle. But it would be sadder still if he came to realize that you had been seething about it or discussing it with others. Just react in the moment as many times as you need to, until it doesn't bother you any more.
Or wear headphones.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
1
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
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up vote
-1
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Drop him a quick email saying you find his whistling distracting and ask him politely to tone it down.
If that doesn't work you can escalate it to management but 99% of the time a polite email (so he doesn't lose face) will sort everything out.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
15
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
6
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
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2 Answers
2
active
oldest
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active
oldest
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active
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up vote
21
down vote
accepted
I don't recommend coming to him and telling him that it's been bugging you for a long time or that anyone else doesn't like it. Instead, on one particular occasion, say something like:
Bill, I'm trying to [difficult task] and that whistling is going right through my head. Can I ask you not to?
He will probably comply, then absent mindedly whistle again later. When it bothers you, you can now say something like:
I'm having another can't-hear-whistling day, Bill
Eventually he will learn that you can't stand whistling at all, or what level of it you can stand, and he may hear similar things from others and stop whistling at work at all.
Some people whistle when they're relaxed and happy. It would be sad if he felt less happy at work because people were asking him not to whistle. But it would be sadder still if he came to realize that you had been seething about it or discussing it with others. Just react in the moment as many times as you need to, until it doesn't bother you any more.
Or wear headphones.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
1
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
add a comment |Â
up vote
21
down vote
accepted
I don't recommend coming to him and telling him that it's been bugging you for a long time or that anyone else doesn't like it. Instead, on one particular occasion, say something like:
Bill, I'm trying to [difficult task] and that whistling is going right through my head. Can I ask you not to?
He will probably comply, then absent mindedly whistle again later. When it bothers you, you can now say something like:
I'm having another can't-hear-whistling day, Bill
Eventually he will learn that you can't stand whistling at all, or what level of it you can stand, and he may hear similar things from others and stop whistling at work at all.
Some people whistle when they're relaxed and happy. It would be sad if he felt less happy at work because people were asking him not to whistle. But it would be sadder still if he came to realize that you had been seething about it or discussing it with others. Just react in the moment as many times as you need to, until it doesn't bother you any more.
Or wear headphones.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
1
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
add a comment |Â
up vote
21
down vote
accepted
up vote
21
down vote
accepted
I don't recommend coming to him and telling him that it's been bugging you for a long time or that anyone else doesn't like it. Instead, on one particular occasion, say something like:
Bill, I'm trying to [difficult task] and that whistling is going right through my head. Can I ask you not to?
He will probably comply, then absent mindedly whistle again later. When it bothers you, you can now say something like:
I'm having another can't-hear-whistling day, Bill
Eventually he will learn that you can't stand whistling at all, or what level of it you can stand, and he may hear similar things from others and stop whistling at work at all.
Some people whistle when they're relaxed and happy. It would be sad if he felt less happy at work because people were asking him not to whistle. But it would be sadder still if he came to realize that you had been seething about it or discussing it with others. Just react in the moment as many times as you need to, until it doesn't bother you any more.
Or wear headphones.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
I don't recommend coming to him and telling him that it's been bugging you for a long time or that anyone else doesn't like it. Instead, on one particular occasion, say something like:
Bill, I'm trying to [difficult task] and that whistling is going right through my head. Can I ask you not to?
He will probably comply, then absent mindedly whistle again later. When it bothers you, you can now say something like:
I'm having another can't-hear-whistling day, Bill
Eventually he will learn that you can't stand whistling at all, or what level of it you can stand, and he may hear similar things from others and stop whistling at work at all.
Some people whistle when they're relaxed and happy. It would be sad if he felt less happy at work because people were asking him not to whistle. But it would be sadder still if he came to realize that you had been seething about it or discussing it with others. Just react in the moment as many times as you need to, until it doesn't bother you any more.
Or wear headphones.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
answered Apr 1 '13 at 20:57
Kate Gregory
105k40232334
105k40232334
1
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
add a comment |Â
1
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
1
1
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
Thanks Kate. I think I'll give your advice a shot. Its the matter of approaching the situation without being too confrontational that has made me hesitant. As you mention, as much as the whistling annoys me, I wouldn't want to make him feel uncomfortable either. I have been wearing headphones up until now, but would like not to have to stop what I'm working on to put them on every time I need to block out his whistling so that I can concentrate.
– THE DOCTOR
Apr 2 '13 at 19:33
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
@THEDOCTOR did this work? What did you end up doing? Do you have any other advise?
– 3kstc
May 31 '17 at 4:35
add a comment |Â
up vote
-1
down vote
Drop him a quick email saying you find his whistling distracting and ask him politely to tone it down.
If that doesn't work you can escalate it to management but 99% of the time a polite email (so he doesn't lose face) will sort everything out.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
15
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
6
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
add a comment |Â
up vote
-1
down vote
Drop him a quick email saying you find his whistling distracting and ask him politely to tone it down.
If that doesn't work you can escalate it to management but 99% of the time a polite email (so he doesn't lose face) will sort everything out.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
15
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
6
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
add a comment |Â
up vote
-1
down vote
up vote
-1
down vote
Drop him a quick email saying you find his whistling distracting and ask him politely to tone it down.
If that doesn't work you can escalate it to management but 99% of the time a polite email (so he doesn't lose face) will sort everything out.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
Drop him a quick email saying you find his whistling distracting and ask him politely to tone it down.
If that doesn't work you can escalate it to management but 99% of the time a polite email (so he doesn't lose face) will sort everything out.
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
answered Apr 1 '13 at 19:16
Tom Squires
1,842917
1,842917
15
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
6
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
add a comment |Â
15
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
6
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
15
15
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
... talk to him face to face on this. Email is incredibly passive aggressive.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:31
6
6
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
Depends on the culture. In my work place a polite "would you mind" email would be seen as less serious than taking someone aside or talking to the in public.
– Tom Squires
Apr 1 '13 at 22:38
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
@enderland I would say if someone doesn't approach you face-to-face, in private, about something, it will most likely end up with grief and senior/lead involved. Text carries/miscarries intent and emotions involved, that can turn sour over time if someone misinterprets. Been there, done that, got e-mail telling me to be quiet. Kinda felt that he would do something stupid further down. He was gone shortly after, decided it was best to e-mail the toppest of the top. After that he was asked to pack up and go. Quick chat with his team lead about concerns should have been first step in his case.
– Cthulhubutt
Sep 15 '16 at 13:23
add a comment |Â
1
I know that when I join in with the whistling, it makes them aware of what they are doing. At the same time, their whistling is much less anoying and even becomes fun, estpecially when whistling "Whistle while you work".
– Chad Harrison
Apr 1 '13 at 17:43
12
Have you considered the cathartic effect of slapping?
– IDrinkandIKnowThings
Apr 1 '13 at 17:50
14
"However, no one has said anything to him so far". Well, about time someone did, dontchathink?
– Oded
Apr 1 '13 at 17:58
3
Normally it's hard to notice things which annoy other people unless they tell you.
– Elysian Fields♦
Apr 1 '13 at 20:32
It's just terrible, that not only is the radio blaring through the roof - but he whistles on top of that .... that piercing whistle - makes you want to go deaf.
– 3kstc
Aug 24 '16 at 4:40