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A colleague owes me money. How do I / should I claim it back? [closed]
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- We're both young (<30 years) and university colleagues as well
- We bought something as a shared thing. It was my idea, but he agreed
I need the money back. How should I remind him, but without coming across as a poor person?
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asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
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closed as off-topic by Roger, yochannah, HLGEM, DJClayworth, IDrinkandIKnowThings Mar 9 '15 at 18:16
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Some details:
- We're both young (<30 years) and university colleagues as well
- We bought something as a shared thing. It was my idea, but he agreed
I need the money back. How should I remind him, but without coming across as a poor person?
colleagues relationships
asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
GiveItToMe
111
closed as off-topic by Roger, yochannah, HLGEM, DJClayworth, IDrinkandIKnowThings Mar 9 '15 at 18:16
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Roger, yochannah
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I'm not convinced this is a workplace question. It comes closer to being a personal finance question, but it's mostly an interpersonal problem. The way you start getting the money is to ask for it. Hopefully you had your agreement in writing; if not it's more difficult to collect if they aren't inclined to cooperate. "Hey, we agreed to share the cost of this; I advanced the funds, but I need that cash; when are you going to pay your share". Next time get the money up front, and remember that doing business with friends can be fatal to the friendship if you aren't VERY careful.
– keshlam
Mar 9 '15 at 2:51
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Are we talking 10 or 10000? That makes quite a difference. And include the denomination, this is an international site.
– Jan Doggen
Mar 9 '15 at 5:26
youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
– Mircea
Mar 9 '15 at 6:58
Why haven't you asked him already? That may give some insight otherwise, it's something you learned in grade school.
– user8365
Mar 9 '15 at 13:39
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I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is about interpersonal relationships and nothing to do with the workplace.
– HLGEM
Mar 9 '15 at 15:12
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up vote
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Some details:
- We're both young (<30 years) and university colleagues as well
- We bought something as a shared thing. It was my idea, but he agreed
I need the money back. How should I remind him, but without coming across as a poor person?
colleagues relationships
asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
GiveItToMe
111
Some details:
- We're both young (<30 years) and university colleagues as well
- We bought something as a shared thing. It was my idea, but he agreed
I need the money back. How should I remind him, but without coming across as a poor person?
colleagues relationships
asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
GiveItToMe
111
asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
GiveItToMe
111
asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
GiveItToMe
111
asked Mar 9 '15 at 2:35
GiveItToMe
111
111
closed as off-topic by Roger, yochannah, HLGEM, DJClayworth, IDrinkandIKnowThings Mar 9 '15 at 18:16
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Roger, yochannah
closed as off-topic by Roger, yochannah, HLGEM, DJClayworth, IDrinkandIKnowThings Mar 9 '15 at 18:16
This question appears to be off-topic. The users who voted to close gave this specific reason:
- "Questions asking for advice on what to do are not practical answerable questions (e.g. "what job should I take?", or "what skills should I learn?"). Questions should get answers explaining why and how to make a decision, not advice on what to do. For more information, click here." – Roger, yochannah
5
I'm not convinced this is a workplace question. It comes closer to being a personal finance question, but it's mostly an interpersonal problem. The way you start getting the money is to ask for it. Hopefully you had your agreement in writing; if not it's more difficult to collect if they aren't inclined to cooperate. "Hey, we agreed to share the cost of this; I advanced the funds, but I need that cash; when are you going to pay your share". Next time get the money up front, and remember that doing business with friends can be fatal to the friendship if you aren't VERY careful.
– keshlam
Mar 9 '15 at 2:51
4
Are we talking 10 or 10000? That makes quite a difference. And include the denomination, this is an international site.
– Jan Doggen
Mar 9 '15 at 5:26
youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
– Mircea
Mar 9 '15 at 6:58
Why haven't you asked him already? That may give some insight otherwise, it's something you learned in grade school.
– user8365
Mar 9 '15 at 13:39
2
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is about interpersonal relationships and nothing to do with the workplace.
– HLGEM
Mar 9 '15 at 15:12
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I'm not convinced this is a workplace question. It comes closer to being a personal finance question, but it's mostly an interpersonal problem. The way you start getting the money is to ask for it. Hopefully you had your agreement in writing; if not it's more difficult to collect if they aren't inclined to cooperate. "Hey, we agreed to share the cost of this; I advanced the funds, but I need that cash; when are you going to pay your share". Next time get the money up front, and remember that doing business with friends can be fatal to the friendship if you aren't VERY careful.
– keshlam
Mar 9 '15 at 2:51
4
Are we talking 10 or 10000? That makes quite a difference. And include the denomination, this is an international site.
– Jan Doggen
Mar 9 '15 at 5:26
youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
– Mircea
Mar 9 '15 at 6:58
Why haven't you asked him already? That may give some insight otherwise, it's something you learned in grade school.
– user8365
Mar 9 '15 at 13:39
2
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is about interpersonal relationships and nothing to do with the workplace.
– HLGEM
Mar 9 '15 at 15:12
5
5
I'm not convinced this is a workplace question. It comes closer to being a personal finance question, but it's mostly an interpersonal problem. The way you start getting the money is to ask for it. Hopefully you had your agreement in writing; if not it's more difficult to collect if they aren't inclined to cooperate. "Hey, we agreed to share the cost of this; I advanced the funds, but I need that cash; when are you going to pay your share". Next time get the money up front, and remember that doing business with friends can be fatal to the friendship if you aren't VERY careful.
– keshlam
Mar 9 '15 at 2:51
I'm not convinced this is a workplace question. It comes closer to being a personal finance question, but it's mostly an interpersonal problem. The way you start getting the money is to ask for it. Hopefully you had your agreement in writing; if not it's more difficult to collect if they aren't inclined to cooperate. "Hey, we agreed to share the cost of this; I advanced the funds, but I need that cash; when are you going to pay your share". Next time get the money up front, and remember that doing business with friends can be fatal to the friendship if you aren't VERY careful.
– keshlam
Mar 9 '15 at 2:51
4
4
Are we talking 10 or 10000? That makes quite a difference. And include the denomination, this is an international site.
– Jan Doggen
Mar 9 '15 at 5:26
Are we talking 10 or 10000? That makes quite a difference. And include the denomination, this is an international site.
– Jan Doggen
Mar 9 '15 at 5:26
youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
– Mircea
Mar 9 '15 at 6:58
youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
– Mircea
Mar 9 '15 at 6:58
Why haven't you asked him already? That may give some insight otherwise, it's something you learned in grade school.
– user8365
Mar 9 '15 at 13:39
Why haven't you asked him already? That may give some insight otherwise, it's something you learned in grade school.
– user8365
Mar 9 '15 at 13:39
2
2
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is about interpersonal relationships and nothing to do with the workplace.
– HLGEM
Mar 9 '15 at 15:12
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is about interpersonal relationships and nothing to do with the workplace.
– HLGEM
Mar 9 '15 at 15:12
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Politely, firmly, and in a face-saving way.
"Hey Colleague, remember that shared thing we bought a while back? Did I give you my bank account details yet, so you could me wire your share? Cash also works if that's easier for you."
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
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Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
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How you ask fairly depends on your relationship with your colleague.
Below are some of the fair strategies used in money sharing. Each of us would have separate preferences depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved.
You get one time, I get one time: For example it works good for coffee breaks. I pay this time, I expect(implicitly) you to pay the next time because I believe you are a fair person.
We share the expenses equally independent of the proportion bias: Happens in restaurant scenario's sometime.
We pay per use or share for what we eat: This happens typically in restaurant situations as each user have their own preference of food and the prices vary.
Depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved you could choose any of these strategies. It is OK to mention upfront to your colleague your preferred approach so that you could share amicable relationship with him.
If you both do not have a agreed strategy in place. You could either ask him to pay for your next buy with him or go ahead and say -
Hey Bob,
Could you give me your share of X$ for Y we bought the other day?
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
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2 Answers
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Politely, firmly, and in a face-saving way.
"Hey Colleague, remember that shared thing we bought a while back? Did I give you my bank account details yet, so you could me wire your share? Cash also works if that's easier for you."
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
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Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
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Politely, firmly, and in a face-saving way.
"Hey Colleague, remember that shared thing we bought a while back? Did I give you my bank account details yet, so you could me wire your share? Cash also works if that's easier for you."
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
6,58222233
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Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
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up vote
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Politely, firmly, and in a face-saving way.
"Hey Colleague, remember that shared thing we bought a while back? Did I give you my bank account details yet, so you could me wire your share? Cash also works if that's easier for you."
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
6,58222233
Politely, firmly, and in a face-saving way.
"Hey Colleague, remember that shared thing we bought a while back? Did I give you my bank account details yet, so you could me wire your share? Cash also works if that's easier for you."
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
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answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
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answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
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answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:52
jpatokal
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6,58222233
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Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
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Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
2
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Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
Simple and easy. No need to complicate things.
– Lasse
Mar 9 '15 at 8:41
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How you ask fairly depends on your relationship with your colleague.
Below are some of the fair strategies used in money sharing. Each of us would have separate preferences depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved.
You get one time, I get one time: For example it works good for coffee breaks. I pay this time, I expect(implicitly) you to pay the next time because I believe you are a fair person.
We share the expenses equally independent of the proportion bias: Happens in restaurant scenario's sometime.
We pay per use or share for what we eat: This happens typically in restaurant situations as each user have their own preference of food and the prices vary.
Depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved you could choose any of these strategies. It is OK to mention upfront to your colleague your preferred approach so that you could share amicable relationship with him.
If you both do not have a agreed strategy in place. You could either ask him to pay for your next buy with him or go ahead and say -
Hey Bob,
Could you give me your share of X$ for Y we bought the other day?
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
watercooler
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How you ask fairly depends on your relationship with your colleague.
Below are some of the fair strategies used in money sharing. Each of us would have separate preferences depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved.
You get one time, I get one time: For example it works good for coffee breaks. I pay this time, I expect(implicitly) you to pay the next time because I believe you are a fair person.
We share the expenses equally independent of the proportion bias: Happens in restaurant scenario's sometime.
We pay per use or share for what we eat: This happens typically in restaurant situations as each user have their own preference of food and the prices vary.
Depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved you could choose any of these strategies. It is OK to mention upfront to your colleague your preferred approach so that you could share amicable relationship with him.
If you both do not have a agreed strategy in place. You could either ask him to pay for your next buy with him or go ahead and say -
Hey Bob,
Could you give me your share of X$ for Y we bought the other day?
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
watercooler
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up vote
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How you ask fairly depends on your relationship with your colleague.
Below are some of the fair strategies used in money sharing. Each of us would have separate preferences depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved.
You get one time, I get one time: For example it works good for coffee breaks. I pay this time, I expect(implicitly) you to pay the next time because I believe you are a fair person.
We share the expenses equally independent of the proportion bias: Happens in restaurant scenario's sometime.
We pay per use or share for what we eat: This happens typically in restaurant situations as each user have their own preference of food and the prices vary.
Depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved you could choose any of these strategies. It is OK to mention upfront to your colleague your preferred approach so that you could share amicable relationship with him.
If you both do not have a agreed strategy in place. You could either ask him to pay for your next buy with him or go ahead and say -
Hey Bob,
Could you give me your share of X$ for Y we bought the other day?
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
watercooler
2,34911022
How you ask fairly depends on your relationship with your colleague.
Below are some of the fair strategies used in money sharing. Each of us would have separate preferences depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved.
You get one time, I get one time: For example it works good for coffee breaks. I pay this time, I expect(implicitly) you to pay the next time because I believe you are a fair person.
We share the expenses equally independent of the proportion bias: Happens in restaurant scenario's sometime.
We pay per use or share for what we eat: This happens typically in restaurant situations as each user have their own preference of food and the prices vary.
Depending on the relationship and the amount of money involved you could choose any of these strategies. It is OK to mention upfront to your colleague your preferred approach so that you could share amicable relationship with him.
If you both do not have a agreed strategy in place. You could either ask him to pay for your next buy with him or go ahead and say -
Hey Bob,
Could you give me your share of X$ for Y we bought the other day?
answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
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answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
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answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
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answered Mar 9 '15 at 2:58
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I'm not convinced this is a workplace question. It comes closer to being a personal finance question, but it's mostly an interpersonal problem. The way you start getting the money is to ask for it. Hopefully you had your agreement in writing; if not it's more difficult to collect if they aren't inclined to cooperate. "Hey, we agreed to share the cost of this; I advanced the funds, but I need that cash; when are you going to pay your share". Next time get the money up front, and remember that doing business with friends can be fatal to the friendship if you aren't VERY careful.
– keshlam
Mar 9 '15 at 2:51
4
Are we talking 10 or 10000? That makes quite a difference. And include the denomination, this is an international site.
– Jan Doggen
Mar 9 '15 at 5:26
youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
– Mircea
Mar 9 '15 at 6:58
Why haven't you asked him already? That may give some insight otherwise, it's something you learned in grade school.
– user8365
Mar 9 '15 at 13:39
2
I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it is about interpersonal relationships and nothing to do with the workplace.
– HLGEM
Mar 9 '15 at 15:12