reneging on a signed job offer after getting competing offer from current employer [duplicate]

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I'm in a confusing gray area where I accepted an offer at a new company and then gave my notice at my current company, but now my current employer is fighting hard to keep me. They've agreed to solve almost all the reasons I wanted to leave in the first place, and I trust their commitment and the time scale they say they can have the problems fixed in. I also have a lot of positive feelings for my current company, whereas the new company is (like any new company would be) more of an unknown. Basically, I wish I had known that my problems were solvable before I started my job search so that I could have pushed for solutions more aggressively without applying to a bunch of new jobs. (Lesson learned: it always pays to ask for what you want.)



If I want to renege on the offer I've signed, what's the best way to tell the employer without burning that bridge completely in case I ever want to work for them in the future?







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    Beware employers who promise changes just to keep you around. Now that they know you have been looking for jobs, it's possible they are telling you what you want to hear, until they can find someone to replace you.
    – mcknz
    May 27 '15 at 22:35










  • @gerty3000: It would be helpful if you could list at least serious problems that make you to leave your current employer here so that you could get better help.
    – samarasa
    May 27 '15 at 22:36










  • @samarasa Actually it doesn't really help solve the question. The OP is simply asking how to withdraw from a contract, not how to resolve the issues in their current job as that has been resolved to their satisfaction already.
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    May 27 '15 at 22:38

















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I'm in a confusing gray area where I accepted an offer at a new company and then gave my notice at my current company, but now my current employer is fighting hard to keep me. They've agreed to solve almost all the reasons I wanted to leave in the first place, and I trust their commitment and the time scale they say they can have the problems fixed in. I also have a lot of positive feelings for my current company, whereas the new company is (like any new company would be) more of an unknown. Basically, I wish I had known that my problems were solvable before I started my job search so that I could have pushed for solutions more aggressively without applying to a bunch of new jobs. (Lesson learned: it always pays to ask for what you want.)



If I want to renege on the offer I've signed, what's the best way to tell the employer without burning that bridge completely in case I ever want to work for them in the future?







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marked as duplicate by Joe Strazzere, Jane S♦, scaaahu, gnat, DJClayworth May 28 '15 at 20:33


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    Beware employers who promise changes just to keep you around. Now that they know you have been looking for jobs, it's possible they are telling you what you want to hear, until they can find someone to replace you.
    – mcknz
    May 27 '15 at 22:35










  • @gerty3000: It would be helpful if you could list at least serious problems that make you to leave your current employer here so that you could get better help.
    – samarasa
    May 27 '15 at 22:36










  • @samarasa Actually it doesn't really help solve the question. The OP is simply asking how to withdraw from a contract, not how to resolve the issues in their current job as that has been resolved to their satisfaction already.
    – Jane S♦
    May 27 '15 at 22:38













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I'm in a confusing gray area where I accepted an offer at a new company and then gave my notice at my current company, but now my current employer is fighting hard to keep me. They've agreed to solve almost all the reasons I wanted to leave in the first place, and I trust their commitment and the time scale they say they can have the problems fixed in. I also have a lot of positive feelings for my current company, whereas the new company is (like any new company would be) more of an unknown. Basically, I wish I had known that my problems were solvable before I started my job search so that I could have pushed for solutions more aggressively without applying to a bunch of new jobs. (Lesson learned: it always pays to ask for what you want.)



If I want to renege on the offer I've signed, what's the best way to tell the employer without burning that bridge completely in case I ever want to work for them in the future?







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  • Retracting acceptance of a Job Offer without burning bridges

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I'm in a confusing gray area where I accepted an offer at a new company and then gave my notice at my current company, but now my current employer is fighting hard to keep me. They've agreed to solve almost all the reasons I wanted to leave in the first place, and I trust their commitment and the time scale they say they can have the problems fixed in. I also have a lot of positive feelings for my current company, whereas the new company is (like any new company would be) more of an unknown. Basically, I wish I had known that my problems were solvable before I started my job search so that I could have pushed for solutions more aggressively without applying to a bunch of new jobs. (Lesson learned: it always pays to ask for what you want.)



If I want to renege on the offer I've signed, what's the best way to tell the employer without burning that bridge completely in case I ever want to work for them in the future?





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marked as duplicate by Joe Strazzere, Jane S♦, scaaahu, gnat, DJClayworth May 28 '15 at 20:33


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marked as duplicate by Joe Strazzere, Jane S♦, scaaahu, gnat, DJClayworth May 28 '15 at 20:33


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  • 3




    Beware employers who promise changes just to keep you around. Now that they know you have been looking for jobs, it's possible they are telling you what you want to hear, until they can find someone to replace you.
    – mcknz
    May 27 '15 at 22:35










  • @gerty3000: It would be helpful if you could list at least serious problems that make you to leave your current employer here so that you could get better help.
    – samarasa
    May 27 '15 at 22:36










  • @samarasa Actually it doesn't really help solve the question. The OP is simply asking how to withdraw from a contract, not how to resolve the issues in their current job as that has been resolved to their satisfaction already.
    – Jane S♦
    May 27 '15 at 22:38













  • 3




    Beware employers who promise changes just to keep you around. Now that they know you have been looking for jobs, it's possible they are telling you what you want to hear, until they can find someone to replace you.
    – mcknz
    May 27 '15 at 22:35










  • @gerty3000: It would be helpful if you could list at least serious problems that make you to leave your current employer here so that you could get better help.
    – samarasa
    May 27 '15 at 22:36










  • @samarasa Actually it doesn't really help solve the question. The OP is simply asking how to withdraw from a contract, not how to resolve the issues in their current job as that has been resolved to their satisfaction already.
    – Jane S♦
    May 27 '15 at 22:38








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Beware employers who promise changes just to keep you around. Now that they know you have been looking for jobs, it's possible they are telling you what you want to hear, until they can find someone to replace you.
– mcknz
May 27 '15 at 22:35




Beware employers who promise changes just to keep you around. Now that they know you have been looking for jobs, it's possible they are telling you what you want to hear, until they can find someone to replace you.
– mcknz
May 27 '15 at 22:35












@gerty3000: It would be helpful if you could list at least serious problems that make you to leave your current employer here so that you could get better help.
– samarasa
May 27 '15 at 22:36




@gerty3000: It would be helpful if you could list at least serious problems that make you to leave your current employer here so that you could get better help.
– samarasa
May 27 '15 at 22:36












@samarasa Actually it doesn't really help solve the question. The OP is simply asking how to withdraw from a contract, not how to resolve the issues in their current job as that has been resolved to their satisfaction already.
– Jane S♦
May 27 '15 at 22:38





@samarasa Actually it doesn't really help solve the question. The OP is simply asking how to withdraw from a contract, not how to resolve the issues in their current job as that has been resolved to their satisfaction already.
– Jane S♦
May 27 '15 at 22:38











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There is no sure fire way to do it that won't burn bridges (and quite probably will), but what you can do is to simply say that your personal circumstances have changed and you will be unable to commence in your new role.



Nowhere in the book does it say you have to tell them where you are going, or staying in your current job. The simple statement about your personal circumstances is truthful and doesn't give away anything you don't want to.



Be aware that regardless, you have quite probably damaged your likelihood of getting an interview or a job with them again, but depending on the size of the organisation it may or may not have an effect.






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    One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
    – Carson63000
    May 28 '15 at 2:03










  • Excellent point, I completely agree!
    – Jane S♦
    May 28 '15 at 2:05

















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up vote
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There is no sure fire way to do it that won't burn bridges (and quite probably will), but what you can do is to simply say that your personal circumstances have changed and you will be unable to commence in your new role.



Nowhere in the book does it say you have to tell them where you are going, or staying in your current job. The simple statement about your personal circumstances is truthful and doesn't give away anything you don't want to.



Be aware that regardless, you have quite probably damaged your likelihood of getting an interview or a job with them again, but depending on the size of the organisation it may or may not have an effect.






share|improve this answer
















  • 3




    One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
    – Carson63000
    May 28 '15 at 2:03










  • Excellent point, I completely agree!
    – Jane S♦
    May 28 '15 at 2:05














up vote
2
down vote













There is no sure fire way to do it that won't burn bridges (and quite probably will), but what you can do is to simply say that your personal circumstances have changed and you will be unable to commence in your new role.



Nowhere in the book does it say you have to tell them where you are going, or staying in your current job. The simple statement about your personal circumstances is truthful and doesn't give away anything you don't want to.



Be aware that regardless, you have quite probably damaged your likelihood of getting an interview or a job with them again, but depending on the size of the organisation it may or may not have an effect.






share|improve this answer
















  • 3




    One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
    – Carson63000
    May 28 '15 at 2:03










  • Excellent point, I completely agree!
    – Jane S♦
    May 28 '15 at 2:05












up vote
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up vote
2
down vote









There is no sure fire way to do it that won't burn bridges (and quite probably will), but what you can do is to simply say that your personal circumstances have changed and you will be unable to commence in your new role.



Nowhere in the book does it say you have to tell them where you are going, or staying in your current job. The simple statement about your personal circumstances is truthful and doesn't give away anything you don't want to.



Be aware that regardless, you have quite probably damaged your likelihood of getting an interview or a job with them again, but depending on the size of the organisation it may or may not have an effect.






share|improve this answer












There is no sure fire way to do it that won't burn bridges (and quite probably will), but what you can do is to simply say that your personal circumstances have changed and you will be unable to commence in your new role.



Nowhere in the book does it say you have to tell them where you are going, or staying in your current job. The simple statement about your personal circumstances is truthful and doesn't give away anything you don't want to.



Be aware that regardless, you have quite probably damaged your likelihood of getting an interview or a job with them again, but depending on the size of the organisation it may or may not have an effect.







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    One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
    – Carson63000
    May 28 '15 at 2:03










  • Excellent point, I completely agree!
    – Jane S♦
    May 28 '15 at 2:05












  • 3




    One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
    – Carson63000
    May 28 '15 at 2:03










  • Excellent point, I completely agree!
    – Jane S♦
    May 28 '15 at 2:05







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3




One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
– Carson63000
May 28 '15 at 2:03




One thing I would add is that if you're going to back out on the offer you accepted, do it as soon as possible. The closer it gets to your start date before you break the news, the more inconvenience you will cause, and therefore the more completely you will burn those bridges.
– Carson63000
May 28 '15 at 2:03












Excellent point, I completely agree!
– Jane S♦
May 28 '15 at 2:05




Excellent point, I completely agree!
– Jane S♦
May 28 '15 at 2:05


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